Lovecode89:
No. The business is down already due to excessive bills

Nlanalyst:

Sxx is the only language poor men understand. A man turned his struggling wife to the head of the family and here is another man stating that the sexual needs of the useless figurehead should be prioritized.
What a shame on y'all.
Y'all disgust me.

Magicalsineros:
One step at a time. The way you handle today determine what you have tomorrow. How can any sane husband and father stay lazy hoping for a better tomorrow? I have seen plenty poor people, who were broke and lazy since I was a child and till today, they're still poor.
So, stop caging women with that '' better Tommorow'' nonse.nse

Magicalsineros:
Now, I know where the bitterness is coming from.
You're actually transferring the sentiment you have for your wife on the @op. Too bad.

Why don't you divorce your wife? What's the point of holding on when you're still hurting?

Magicalsineros:
Your point of view is awesome, but the bolded. No. That should be based on her feelings and consent. No woman wants to have se.x with a husband who abused her emotionally.
You have to treat a woman right before she can willingly open up herself to you. Be yee her husband or her boyfriend.

Magicalsineros:
Bitter truth. Many of you don't want to hear.
That was how one jobless man left his pregnant wife in an operation room. All because he couldn't afford the bills leaving the woman there to source herself out. Thank God for the medical team that came to her rescue. So many women have lost their life all because they keep giving their body to men who can not save them in critical condition. Shame

Magicalsineros:
The normal word used on women. It doesn't remove anything from us.
Including your mom, sisters, girlfriend and your wife or future wife. Olosho is not a hurtful name

Lovecode89:
I'm thinking in this direction too. Maybe when he's left alone for now,. He can start learning a fresh how to provide for himself and not put all that load on me

Lovecode89:
Three years into marriage with a son. he resigned from his job immediately after the wedding, stop making effort to get another job. No business pursuit, no skill.
Left all the bills on the struggling wife. The marriage became so dry, no romance, the wife is always sad and over burden. Yet he wants intimacy from the wife. The wife deprived him for months.

How can she handle such marriage?

Beverlyjean:


If u separate from him and he gets back on his feet... he will neve forgive u... cheating on his own part excessively will enter the frame , he will treat u like trash ... u will know he has money , but u will never smell it cos he will always have it in mind that u gave up on him when he was down ... afterall if u separate from him...wudnt u still be providing for urself and kids ...Will ur financial burden change ?? Don't make a mistake that u will regret all ur life ...this same thing happened to someone I know...the woman regrets it till date... she's in her early 60s now ... something that happened in the 90s .. she took the wrong advice from bad people...today , she's on her own...those bad advisers are still the ones gossiping her

Magicalsineros:
Stop defending inresponsibilty.
There's a great difference between someone who loss his job and making effort to do any little thing to support his family.
The next guy wouldn't be that way. Because he will put on effort to keep her. If that's what you're trying to hear.

Sapasenator:


People like that never get back to their feet, success is an attitude and not a destination, like a weighted anchor, the buffoon will drag the wife down. I separate from lazy friends self before they become a burden.

Pecoleee345:


And If things turn around good tomorrow for him??

The way women paint their husband in scenarios like this you just wish you can hear the man side of the story.

Lovecode89:
Three years into marriage with a son. he resigned from his job immediately after the wedding, stop making effort to get another job. No business pursuit, no skill.
Left all the bills on the struggling wife. The marriage became so dry, no romance, the wife is always sad and over burden. Yet he wants intimacy from the wife. The wife deprived him for months.

How can she handle such marriage?

cococandy:
. How will things turn around if he’s not making efforts? This is not the same situation as someone who’s trying but it’s not working out.
This is someone who has refused to try.

Unless he’s going to defraud someone or miraculously win the lotto, things are not going to turn around for him.

I need y’all to be realistic. Real Life is not Nollywood magic

Beverlyjean:


afterall if u separate from him...wudnt u still be providing for urself and kids ...Will ur financial burden change ??

Pecoleee345:


Most women lie alot in this scenario

advanceDNA:


Lol ....hey y'all look at this... This person is trying to make a woman reason logically?? Hahahahaha...this is funny ....

cococandy:


That’s your assumption

Lovecode89:
Three years into marriage with a son. he resigned from his job immediately after the wedding, stop making effort to get another job. No business pursuit, no skill.
Left all the bills on the struggling wife. The marriage became so dry, no romance, the wife is always sad and over burden. Yet he wants intimacy from the wife. The wife deprived him for months.

How can she handle such marriage?

Beverlyjean:


U are calling someone else bitter. While u are a bitter misandrist

FutureFocus:


Sometimes those type of men only wake up from their slumber when they see people around them picking up new skills and paying off, I won’t really blame you for not allowing intimacy because adding more kids without support from hubby can make you see shege pro max , but let him know why, I can imagine how you will have to struggle to survive and carter for the family during pregnancy , post delivery and nursing stage , if you are pregnant again.
You can make effort to add a skill that will challenge him not to stay behind ,

For instance , I have been so slow working on my YouTube channel because much attention is giving to my gadget sales business , and when my partner noticed I was using using the limitation in my laptop as excuse, she suggested I use my phone for video editing but I refused , to my amazement she asked me to open a channel for her which and did and she started practicing, editing and posting videos with her phone , This her action has not only challenged me but also motivates me to work harder because her YouTube channel is not doing bad at all for someone who started less than a month ago, has already posted 10 videos with viewers mostly from US .

Menh !! We must succeed together , I won’t be left behind , though we sometimes argue like crazy whenever I criticize her content , she gets angry and this has made her improve very fast

In fact, she will need to starting paying me for criticizing her videos , I can not just be criticizing and be directing videos content for free , do know how much video director earn ?

In a nutshell , challenge him by developing yourself more, by the time he starts seeing himself far behind, no one will tell him to work hard.

Sapasenator:


Ask him no get a job or find a way to divorce is lazy ass. I despise lazy and entitled people more than Ebola Virus. Why the HELL did he marry and even bring a poor child into the world to suffer?

Stevenbright:


You need to cool off a bit. I wanted to say you would have taken a more drastic step like separating for some time earlier than you are considering now but I guess you were doing your best to make things work out.

[b]Maybe you should go spend some time with your family, cool off and re-strategize while giving him the needed space to rethink [/b]and reorganize his life and finances.

advanceDNA:


He just resigned after marriage for no reason and decided not to do anything....?? Lol....this ur story seff dey one kind....

if Person no sabi wash plate, but he sabi sweep ground... But u dey vex say e no sabi wash plate, so prevent him from also sweeping..na u dey lose ooo from two sides.

My own is ..if u are lucky to catch a Dangote or otedola or Elon musk for marriage....good for you.... But if ur husband is struggling....just navigate the union to happiness as much as u can or divorce him....no frustrate ur self...no be u go be first woman bread winner


Madam..u go dey alright jarè...

Lovecode89:
I have severally. I even helped him to submit his CVS with some family members, but each time his CV is out, he constantly put off his phone

Lovecode89:
I'm just worried and tired. He don't want to take up small job either. So many private school around us, I have encouraged him severally to pick up a teaching job, but he kept on complaining on the small salary.
He prefer to be relaxing at home than trying little thing. Is this a character of a man that loves his wife and child?

condensedmilk:


You sha just want her to leave her husband and kid and start jumping from di.ck to di.ck in search of a comfortable life.

You go tire!

Pecoleee345:


Bro I was a victim of this situation myself in 2022.....my business went bad and I was on a low.

My wife was carrying the house and that experience made me realize we men are just useless without money to be people we labor for.

Pecoleee345:


Like they make it look like the man is just a log of wood during those period doing nothing and not dropping a single kobo.

That 2022 I paid the house rent and was still dropping whatever I see but due to the fact she was the one dropping the lion share.....I was lazy and not ready to work.

She started telling people she was tired and complaining like this.......Men I went through depression.

This was a woman i married jobless and can't even boost of 100k in her account then.
The business she runs i set it up for her.

Things change last year and table has turned......now that same woman now expects me to give her money freely and help her family members....lol

She herself no the love I have for her is now 20% and she always blaming the devil for her behaviors but for me I can only labor on my kids.

UjuJoan2:


This is what every man claims, but they never say the true story. You men are the ones that make yourselves into Gods just because you provide money. You treat your wives as slaves and act with no accountability. So a woman is trained to accept such behavior from a man as long as he provides for her.


And then, God will decide to punish you small by taking away your advantage . . . 🤣

UjuJoan2:


So you think she’s lying? Well that is a possibility, it don’t think things like that is not possible.

Maybe he hated his job and married her because he knew she could support him.