I'm not sure what advise you seek for, but it's clear (from your story), why you're experiencing what you're experiencing in your marriage.
Your wife told you that her parents didn't want her to have a a boyfriend in uni, but they wanted her to just bring a husband.

Let us do a bit of arithmetic.

Your wife is presently 33 & you're 32.

And your marriage is 6 years this September.

Meaning you married her when she was 27 and you were 26.

At almost 27, she traveled to come see you on your birthday.

And she knacked you.

Meaning, you didn't meet her as a virgin.

This is someone that said her parents frowned at her having any relationships.

Did it not occur to you, that she wasn't a novice?

And then because of what she did, you fell on love with her & married her in 6 months without cohabiting or proper vetting.

It's true you said that her parents are good.

It's also possible that she was raised well too.

But what you didn't factor is that her upbringing & parents behavior is not a guarantee that it will automatically transcend to her being a good wife to you.

This is why courtship is very important.

And age is also important.

Your wife accepted to marry you to please her parents.

And she also needed to have kids in a proper family setting.

Remember what I have been saying about women marrying men that they're bigger than in age, money, exposure or experience?

They'll accept to marry you, get what they've always wanted, & begin to frustrate you so that you can ask for a divorce or separation.

Otherwise, tell me...

Why would a married woman move out of her room and starve her husband of sex for almost 2 years?

Is that not enough to frustrate you to seek for separation or divorce?

She even boldly told you that you can go out to satisfy yourself sexually.

Who does that & what does that tell you?

Meaning she doesn't care.

As far as she's concerned, you have given her what she wants (kids).

And you know that it's a shameful thing to voice out as a man, that your wife is starving you of sex correct?

Question:

In these 2 years, has your wife not been having sex?

Has it ever occurred to you?

What excuses can she possibly give that has made her refuse to have sex with you?

Is she incapacitated?

Can it be PPD?

Even if it's any of these, will a wife who feels for her husband not at least try to initiate sex so as to please her husband?

You also said that she's always arguing with you.

And that she wants to always have the say & decide for you.

Your wife sees you as her junior & like you said, the only thing that is still keeping your marriage is because you're the provider.

That's your shield.

But as for your ego, your wife has crushed it.

I don't want you young men to see this case as an exception.

It's not.

If men who are in his shoes come out to speak, 9/10 will echo this man's experience.

You as a man, must be ahead of your wife in almost all things.

And age, is top of the list.

A woman of you agemate sees you as her junior.

Then imagine the one that is older than you are?

Also, no matter how "nice" a lady treats you, make sure you go through the tenets of relationship before you conclude on marrying her.

Because men rarely get treated nicely by women, doesn't mean that they should sell their commitment so cheap because they met a lady that did the "uncommon".

When my wife gave me about 2k to go visit my father, I was elated because it was rare.

And immediately, I told myself that this lady will be my wife.

[b][/b]But that didn't stop me from being convinced through proper dating, cohabiting & several tests & quarrels.

You just have to pass through it.

Like I said yesterday, take the harder right, than the easier wrong.

Otherwise, when all the "love" fades, reality will dawn on you in marriage.

End.

Sunnyrado:
Am In interested in older women too

AgbaJohnDoe:
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