I encouraged her to join the army after graduation from the University.

Ever since we got married i have never cheated on my wife, bt we constantly move around a lot due to her transfers. It seems she doesn't like staying in ona place for up to four years. Sometimes we don't see each other up to a month except on video calls and our am the one taking care of our child and taking him to my office.

I have talked to her about it. Let's just settle down in one location first. We have our own house, but i cant remember the last time we went there to stay. It always matter of assignment and transfer.

I trust her, but is it always like this with men that marry military officers ?

How do you cope ?

Yes sir

Encouraging your wife or GF to join the Military is like serving up your pet dog to a RAVENOUS Lion. Just consider them LOST to you.

The Military, even a shambolic one like the Nigerian Military, is a HIGHLY structured and regulated institution.

Superiors are PLENTIFUL and NEVER to be questioned. Testosterone fly everywhere like knockouts on New Year's Eve.

Your wife is exposed to these ALL the time.

Plus, women CANNOT control themselves around authoritative men. Especially if it's clear that he's above them. The Military is filled with them.

Imagine her being deployed for 3 months where EVERYDAY she's surrounded by a certain commander barking orders at HUNDREDS of men. And they obey him. Then she gets back home to you and you're asking her things like "what should we eat this night?".



Your wife is the wife of an Army man now. Spare yourself the needless heartache, show a little backbone and get a DIVORCE.

Her attraction to you is DEAD!

Every Military person thinks he/she is ABOVE every civilian person. That includes your wife. And women can NEVER be attracted to a man they consider beneath them.

I bet even when she's around, you RARELY get to Bleep her.

Mr man go and take 2nd wife. If your wife is a medical practitioner or military personnel, you don't need any soothsayer to tell you before you get another wife.

paramilitary/military is not a wife's job

Hmmm… you get mind o.

It's the same thing with the wife, they hardly see there husband's . I guess it's the nature of the job

Wisdomclass1:
I encouraged her to join the army after graduation from the University.

Ever since we got married i have never cheated on my wife, bt we constantly move around a lot due to her transfers. It seems she doesn't like staying in ona place for up to four years. Sometimes we don't see each other up to a month except on video calls and our am the one taking care of our child and taking him to my office.

I have talked to her about it. Let's just settle down in one location first. We have our own house, but i cant remember the last time we went there to stay. It always matter of assignment and transfer.

I trust her, but is it always like this with men that marry military officers ?

How do you cope ?

Millitary considers their married personel n help to keep them close to their husbands.its ur wife that wants to move around like her male counterpart as shes overly ambitious.

bdon123:

Millitary considers their married personel n help to keep them close to their husbands.its ur wife that wants to move around like her male counterpart as shes overly ambitious.

Seconded

Why did you marry a soldier. Try to ask around next time. Imagine yourself married to a sailor. What do you expect?

Wisdomclass1:
I encouraged her to join the army after graduation from the University.

Ever since we got married i have never cheated on my wife, bt we constantly move around a lot due to her transfers. It seems she doesn't like staying in ona place for up to four years. Sometimes we don't see each other up to a month except on video calls and our am the one taking care of our child and taking him to my office.

I have talked to her about it. Let's just settle down in one location first. We have our own house, but i cant remember the last time we went there to stay. It always matter of assignment and transfer.

I trust her, but is it always like this with men that marry military officers ?

How do you cope ?

Namaster:
Encouraging your wife or GF to join the Military is like serving up your pet dog to a RAVENOUS Lion. Just consider them LOST to you.

The Military, even a shambolic one like the Nigerian Military, is a HIGHLY structured and regulated institution.

Superiors are PLENTIFUL and NEVER to be questioned. Testosterone fly everywhere like knockouts on New Year's Eve.

Your wife is exposed to these ALL the time.

Plus, women CANNOT control themselves around authoritative men. Especially if it's clear that he's above them. The Military is filled with them.

Imagine her being deployed for 3 months where EVERYDAY she's surrounded by a certain commander barking orders at HUNDREDS of men. And they obey him. Then she gets back home to you and you're asking her things like "what should we eat this night?".



Your wife is the wife of an Army man now. Spare yourself the needless heartache, show a little backbone and get a DIVORCE.

Her attraction to you is DEAD!

Every Military person thinks he/she is ABOVE every civilian person. That includes your wife. And women can NEVER be attracted to a man they consider beneath them.

I bet even when she's around, you RARELY get to Bleep her.

This is the pure undiluted truth. Powerful, Famous and Rich men are irresistible to women. Knowing that the men she is around daily are trained killers who have likely killed in the past and have power to kill anyone without remorse or real consequence is downright attractive to her on a primal level. Aside work commitments, she prefers being around such men compared to the husband.

To her you just be " fuyetu ". That is you are less of a man compared to them even if you are rich...unless you are now are civilian with enough political authority to command the men she works with.

That is why Class Captains, Class Reps ,Lecturers, Pastors,Prophets, Bosses at work and whoever is the big fish in any setting will always be attractive to many females.

As a man you can't afford to be ordinary...you must become bigger than normal in whatever way that is legally and morally possible.

Check out many famous sports men once they retire, problem go start with their wife. Na the fame and money she marry...unless the man can quickly become powerful politically or spiritually and look for ways to continually earn really big wahala go start.

Na level by level.

madridguy:
Mr man go and take 2nd wife. If your wife is a medical practitioner or military personnel, you don't need any soothsayer to tell you before you get another wife.

I have not fully grasped that of the medical practitioner. What is the pshycological basis of their behaviour.


I recently told someone that " once you return to your bed side nursing job again, you will start to carry shoulders again"

So I am aware of this behaviour...but the underlying psychology behind it I've not had the time to reflect on. I'm curious

You have to cope with that... Other security agencies are even 2 years. So it's now her fault but the demand of her profession...the more they move the more they progress.

So try and cope, remember you encouraged her to join so live happily with it and don't cheat on her if you love your life. A word is enough for the wise.

Just be patient with her because you will live to enjoy the fruits of it.

Wisdomclass1:
I encouraged her to join the army after graduation from the University.

Ever since we got married i have never cheated on my wife, bt we constantly move around a lot due to her transfers. It seems she doesn't like staying in ona place for up to four years. Sometimes we don't see each other up to a month except on video calls and our am the one taking care of our child and taking him to my office.

I have talked to her about it. Let's just settle down in one location first. We have our own house, but i cant remember the last time we went there to stay. It always matter of assignment and transfer.

I trust her, but is it always like this with men that marry military officers ?

How do you cope ?

gratefulheart:
You have to cope with that... Other security agencies are even 2 years. So it's now her fault but the demand of her profession...the more they move the more they progress.

So try and cope, remember you encouraged her to join so live happily with it and don't cheat on her if you love your life. A word is enough for the wise.

Just be patient with her because you will live to enjoy the fruits of it.

80% of Nigerians are negative, unfortunately sometimes,even Family members

Thanks for giving a positive view of things.

If you trust your wife , continue taking care of your Kids with joy, it's something you'll never regret.

Have your own personal purpose and ambition too, Don't let her see you as just a sit-at-home , You may loose your value as a Man.

Wisdomclass1:
I encouraged her to join the army after graduation from the University.

Ever since we got married i have never cheated on my wife, bt we constantly move around a lot due to her transfers. It seems she doesn't like staying in ona place for up to four years. Sometimes we don't see each other up to a month except on video calls and our am the one taking care of our child and taking him to my office.

I have talked to her about it. Let's just settle down in one location first. We have our own house, but i cant remember the last time we went there to stay. It always matter of assignment and transfer.

I trust her, but is it always like this with men that marry military officers ?

How do you cope ?

Na una say una wan marry working class woman wey go bring come table wey una no build, so enjoy oga no dey disturb this platform

Instead of encouraging her, why didn't you join yourself? Well, that's that..

Go and conduct a DNA test for the boy, then we can continue from there...

Namaster:
Encouraging your wife or GF to join the Military is like serving up your pet dog to a RAVENOUS Lion. Just consider them LOST to you.

The Military, even a shambolic one like the Nigerian Military, is a HIGHLY structured and regulated institution.

Superiors are PLENTIFUL and NEVER to be questioned. Testosterone fly everywhere like knockouts on New Year's Eve.

Your wife is exposed to these ALL the time.

Plus, women CANNOT control themselves around authoritative men. Especially if it's clear that he's above them. The Military is filled with them.

Imagine her being deployed for 3 months where EVERYDAY she's surrounded by a certain commander barking orders at HUNDREDS of men. And they obey him. Then she gets back home to you and you're asking her things like "what should we eat this night?".



Your wife is the wife of an Army man now. Spare yourself the needless heartache, show a little backbone and get a DIVORCE.

Her attraction to you is DEAD!

Every Military person thinks he/she is ABOVE every civilian person. That includes your wife. And women can NEVER be attracted to a man they consider beneath them.

I bet even when she's around, you RARELY get to Bleep her.

How come you claim the Military is highly regulated and yet she is likely to cheat in a highly regulated institution. Is that not contradictory?

This is the worst place to bring this sort of marital issues to (or any marital issues for that matter) . They'll fill your head with negative thoughts and make you doubt your wife's fidelity and it's mostly the chronic singles who have the worst things to say just so you'll be sad like them.
My brother, your wife is in the military and transfers are a hazard of her profession, you'll just have to bear with her since she seems to be enjoying the job but if you have any doubts then talk to her one on one when next she's around but never bring marital matters to social media because many people in the name of cruise and fun will and have brought down many good relationships/marriages

Namaster:
Encouraging your wife or GF to join the Military is like serving up your pet dog to a RAVENOUS Lion. Just consider them LOST to you.

The Military, even a shambolic one like the Nigerian Military, is a HIGHLY structured and regulated institution.

Superiors are PLENTIFUL and NEVER to be questioned. Testosterone fly everywhere like knockouts on New Year's Eve.

Your wife is exposed to these ALL the time.

Plus, women CANNOT control themselves around authoritative men. Especially if it's clear that he's above them. The Military is filled with them.

Imagine her being deployed for 3 months where EVERYDAY she's surrounded by a certain commander barking orders at HUNDREDS of men. And they obey him. Then she gets back home to you and you're asking her things like "what should we eat this night?".



Your wife is the wife of an Army man now. Spare yourself the needless heartache, show a little backbone and get a DIVORCE.

Her attraction to you is DEAD!

Every Military person thinks he/she is ABOVE every civilian person. That includes your wife. And women can NEVER be attracted to a man they consider beneath them.

I bet even when she's around, you RARELY get to Bleep her.

God will also judge people for scattering a peaceful marriage.

I just say make I remind you.

Wisdomclass1:
I encouraged her to join the army after graduation from the University.

Ever since we got married i have never cheated on my wife, bt we constantly move around a lot due to her transfers. It seems she doesn't like staying in ona place for up to four years. Sometimes we don't see each other up to a month except on video calls and our am the one taking care of our child and taking him to my office.

I have talked to her about it. Let's just settle down in one location first. We have our own house, but i cant remember the last time we went there to stay. It always matter of assignment and transfer.

I trust her, but is it always like this with men that marry military officers ?

How do you cope ?

OP you encouraged your wife to join the military? Bros u try oo.
That being said, she is a military personnel all are minds are wired for war and movements, she can never be comfortable with staying at a particular place for long.
Before you encouraged her to join the army you should have known all these things. For now you have no choice, you will going for visitation wherever she is till she feels like resigning from the army or perhaps till when she retires, I pray she retires peacefully.
I want to marry a military woman does you wife have female military friends? You know just for one or two

Just so you know.. she's the man of the house and you are the wife. All the best to both of you.

I really empathize with you.

All the randy Colonels and Brigadiers in the Army go just dey fvck am d-oggy & Wheelbarrow style on a steady, especially after dem don drink to stupor & chop their dog meat for their Mammy Market.

Unless no be this same Nigerian Army wey superiors dey always take advantage of their low-ranking officers.

Abi you did not read about sexual abuse of a female soldier (Ruth Ogunleye) by her superiors?

https://punchng.com/nigerian-female-soldier-exposes-alleged-abuse-by-senior-officers/?amp

Na order dem go just dey give your wife like:

Captain Mary Magdalene, report to the officer’s mess guest house at 11pm pronto and unclothe yourself on the bed.

Shey she wan refuse the order of a Brigadier or a Major General ni? Dem go just end her career by dismissing her on a trump-up charges.

Bro, you made a big mistake, but confronting her will be a bigger mistake, as she go just arrange low-ranking soldiers to flog you like a secondary school student and then make you do frog jump from Ojuelegba to Mile 2.

You should have just settled for a low-budget slay queen. That way, if she messes up, you will be confident enough to commot her front teeth with just one Mayweather punch.

Nobody go follow you argue.

otipoju:


I have not fully grasped that of the medical practitioner. What is the pshycological basis of their behaviour.


I recently told someone that " once you return to your bed side nursing job again, you will start to carry shoulders again"

So I am aware of this behaviour...but the underlying psychology behind it I've not had the time to reflect on. I'm curious

They are thought in school that nurses are caring, so they can give their all just to make a client feel better in the name of been caring

bdon123:

Millitary considers their married personel n help to keep them close to their husbands.its ur wife that wants to move around like her male counterpart as shes overly ambitious.

He wanted to marry a woman that brought something to the table and he has gotten it.

Let him enjoy his military wife. 🪖

At least they will value each other the more, because absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Mr op i'm not trying to discredit u but ur wife cannot be young nd still be a captain in the military except she's well conected, i might be wrong though.

Georgekyrian:


They are thought in school that nurses are caring, so they can give their all just to make a client feel better in the name of been caring

Lol. Very funny. I need to go build my retirement house beside nursing school.

This is a tricky situation oo

HE STILL CALLS HER HIS WIFE!

she is your HUSBAND.

Captain? She had been in the Military for over 13/14 Years?

The comments are vile!!!!!!!!
Sheesh 😒

Even me wey b young senior officer if i won marry i go avoid uniform lol

If it's working for out fine for both of you, great.