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How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Wakatumbit: 10:56pm On Jun 13 |
My wife gave birth and her mom has been staying with us for the past 3 months, we have dedicated our baby already and my wife has even learnt to bath the baby and do things by herself when it comes to the baby. I don't have an issue with the mom staying with us but ever since she came my wife's siblings has been coming to the house, her elder brother and sister and sometimes they stay up to a week. With the two of them that makes us five in the house and feeding five people in this economy is not easy. I just looked at my bank statement this evening and in the last 2 weeks I've spent over 250k on expenses, from feeding to fuel, to baby food. If it's just me and my wife we won't be spending that much. I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay. My family doesn't come around a lot and when they do visit, they don't even stay the night. But I don't want to make it look like I'm a bad person, so how do I chase them away codedly 163 Likes 12 Shares
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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Phranx1: 11:07pm On Jun 13 |
Calmly discuss with your wife, show evidence your income ain't as strengthening as your expenses so they should go truth be told this government strangulation is why they see your house as Eldorado. 245 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by samwash(m): 11:31pm On Jun 13 |
Like the saying "To be a man is not a days' job" This is one of the sacrifices of a responsible family man. Cheer up Bro. 67 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by minasu190: 11:31pm On Jun 13 |
3 months, dem wan chop you finish, you sure say you pay your wife bribe price? 119 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by onome25(m): 12:51am On Jun 14 |
minasu190:Omo this one loud ooooo ![]() 76 Likes 4 Shares
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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by obinna58(m): 12:58am On Jun 14 |
This one choke me 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by eazzzy1(m): 2:06am On Jun 14 |
You should have planned it before she came. You would have told her to come bond with the baby for 4 months after which your mom would come for 4 months. That way the duration of their stay isnβt subjective. As it stands now the only way to codedly chase her is to invite your mother to move in too. 114 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by DiskJokeyManic: 2:53am On Jun 14 |
Wakatumbit: Ok.... Dis is where ur problem is.....Oga de earlier U do de needful,, de better for U,,, u wear the shoes so u know where it hurts.... U don't want to look like a bad person but dis same pple u re feeding like dis,,, should u go broke tomorrow dey will say u hve squandered ur money womanizing or gambling or drinking etc.....π.... U say ur own family don't even sleep over when dey come right? Ok, just put it as a test, let ur family come over ND stay for a week like ur wife's family does ND den see how ur wife will turn de house upside down nd make de whole place so uncomfortable fr dem or even tell u to chase Dem away without caring if u or Dem will call her "A bad person" or not....ππ Stay there ND be dying in silence na..... 258 Likes 17 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Wakatumbit: 3:33am On Jun 14 |
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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by MarketDispatch: 4:44am On Jun 14 |
Wakatumbit: Suggestion If your wife was working, the simplest way to handle this issue is by having a discussion. Let your wife take care of only feeding (foodstuffs ) in the house, whilst you take care of bulk (rent, car purchase, school fees, baby items etc and sundry (dstv, internet, PHCN, drinks) payments. With your wife taking care of feeding, you won't worry about extra mouths you are complaining of 61 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by FreeSpirited: 5:41am On Jun 14 |
Plan a fake travel or conference together with ur wife...tell them ur family have to travel....they should have sense with this scope and fly out of ur life. Ur wife has to support u on this or else it won't work... . 2nd scope is to tell them directly that, your ability to take full responsibility of the house is becoming unbearable in this hard economy that ur earnings can not support more than 2 mouths at the moment coupled with expensive baby food, that u are resorting to borrow.......If u can do this second trips... they will respect ur manliness or boldness and won't take u for granted cos they know u wont take rubbish. 3rd scope......If the above 2 don't work,,,,,,then reduce the quality of food they cook and eat drastically...This scope is a silent scope....u dont need to explain to ur wife, just cook a fake story of how u no longer have enough cash...maybe work related or project related...make ur wife believe the fake story.... . E.g if they use fish for stew, cut it to only egg.....reduce soup to once a week or once in two weeks....let them eat more of beans( give them garri with the beans instead of dodo+bread) cook vegetables soup without meat, instead use Shawa fish...lol....this may cause quarell with ur wife,,,don't shy away from the quarrel, infact welcome it and use the avenue to voice out on ur wife so that everyone will hear ur complain of lack of fund and have sense..... . Economy is hard, they are using u to chop free food..... ![]() ![]() 147 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by sunnymighty(m): 5:44am On Jun 14 |
MarketDispatch: And you honestly think the wife would agree to this? dey play. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Lalami3232(m): 5:54am On Jun 14 |
While others are advising you rightly and wrongly, let me use this medium to enlighten my fellow men nationwide with the good news. OP did you meet her as a virgin? If NO, then the sentence below is also for you. Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooo because boreholes aka non-virgins can't be trusted atall atall 29 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by idahme(m): 6:08am On Jun 14 |
Phranx1: Interestingly 80% of ladies won't even understand this I hope his will be amongst the 20%. I don't still understand the reason why some inlaws behave this way no thought process about expenditure they only think the man that married their daughter is a superman and he can do all things. This is why every man must put factors like how educated the family is, how financially independent they are and if they are able to use common Sense in decision making before venturing. I wish him good luck, it's not easy to take care of a household all by yourself in this economy 48 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by idahme(m): 6:13am On Jun 14 |
DiskJokeyManic: Women don't look back when they take decision to them it's like a last the last decision they will take even when they are not the ones bringing in the money but men are more compassionate than women. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by idahme(m): 6:16am On Jun 14 |
MarketDispatch: Interestingly if it happens this way she will be the first to chase her family out because she won't have any savings after spending her all in taking care of food expenses. Over time I have observed that people who don't care about what others go through don't usually have the guts to be put in same scenario if the tides are changed. 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Sapasenator: 6:30am On Jun 14 |
Talk with your wife first, give her two days to talk to her mom. If she refuses, sit your MIL down and talk to her.... Erm....mama, I really appreciate your help with the omugwo and don't know how I and my wife would have survived without your help, thank you ma. It is now up to three months and I think my wife and I are able to carry on from here. I want to ask when you are leaving so we can adequately prepare for you....... something along that line. With inlaws, be polite and firm and most importantly, never to be afraid to express your mind. If they still refuse to leave, get an angry Rottweiler dog, ten go leave by force. 39 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Karleb(m): 6:31am On Jun 14 |
If you don't have the balls to tell them to leave then keep spending with a happy face. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Kobicove(m): 6:43am On Jun 14 |
Feeding even just one extra mouth these days costs a lot due to the high cost of food! ![]() Tell your wife to ask her siblings to stop coming. It's as simple as that! 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Sapasenator: 6:49am On Jun 14 |
They wont stop coming if the MIL remains. Omugwo has officially ended. MIL should go back to her house. 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by vincenteger: 6:52am On Jun 14 |
I know it's not easy but your wife is in the best position to talk to about this She might even read another meaning to it that you don't want her family around or something. Reduce the amount you usually provide for feeding and use your hand to buy the baby food and co that's if she doesn't see reasons with you. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by mmadu5(m): 6:58am On Jun 14 |
are you the man of the house or the woman of the house . ![]() 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Nukilia: 7:02am On Jun 14 |
Op, I will advise that you and your wife travel to another location for a week. Book a hotel in another town and stay there for a week. Let the visitors know that you are traveling. Shalom. The other advise is too dangerous for you. ![]() In the morning, visit the traditional store, buy a ram horn, clean it properly with water. Stuff the horn with sliced bread and the extruded bread should be smeared with peanut butter. Buy a small calabash, arrange yam porridge, goat meat and boiled egg inside with palm oil interface, tie red cloth for midnight when everybody don sleep. Enter sitting room and light red candle. Try and be eating your meal in the night while making distinctive sounds stylish trying to wake them. By the time one or two inlaws wake up to see you in the sitting room at midnight eating your recipe. Nobody will tell them to take their bags in the morning. You and I know that it's a format and nothing diabolic about the whole scenario. They will all leave your wife for you in peace without any quarrel ![]() ![]() ![]() 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Mikespecialone(m): 7:32am On Jun 14 |
Oga fake ur sack letter ? Then u know ur real in-laws 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by windvane(m): 7:34am On Jun 14 |
when I tell men that for you to be the head of a family is not only money,you must get craze.....You are doing good man,yet you are suffering inside of you.Most men enjoy being called a good man even when they are deep down silently suffering....all you need do is take like 3-5 shirts and pants and go stay at a friend's place,if they call you from home,tell them you are working far from home and you need to safe up,after a week come back home and still tell them you were not paid at work....they will leave one after the other 33 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Osgilliat(m): 7:35am On Jun 14 |
They are still there because your pots are still active. Starve everyone including yourself(except for the baby) for a whole week and watch them run away. Donβt give your wife or anyone money to cook, tell her you are broke and watch drama. 50 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by papyjaypaul: 7:38am On Jun 14 |
I hate to say this but I think you should just bear with them because without them around, you may have come here to tell us how your wife has changed so much since birth when she's dealing with post partum depression. So let her enjoy her family for now, it may just be helping you. do this I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.If you fake traveling, that's when they will feel justified to keep her company. In aw issues are delicate, tread carefully. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by DiskJokeyManic: 7:52am On Jun 14 |
idahme: I tell u my bro.... |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Nicklaus619(m): 7:55am On Jun 14 |
eazzzy1: Diswan wan carry problem solve problem ππππππππ 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by sweetrace(f): 8:05am On Jun 14 |
Op, ask your wife what your mother in law will want, then buy you mother in law the presents she should get when the Omugwo is over. Sheβll know it is time to go. Thank her for taking care of your baby and give her all she needs to go. 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Anguldi(m): 8:16am On Jun 14 |
eazzzy1:Wahala no dey end |
Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Anguldi(m): 8:31am On Jun 14 |
Sapasenator:This is the best line π₯ π―, I dey with you . Barman give him a chilled bottle of orijin π 5 Likes 3 Shares |
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