minasu190:
3 months, dem wan chop you finish, you sure say you pay your wife bribe price?

Wakatumbit:
My wife gave birth and her mom has been staying with us for the past 3 months, we have dedicated our baby already and my wife has even learnt to bath the baby and do things by herself when it comes to the baby.

I don't have an issue with the mom staying with us but ever since she came my wife's siblings has been coming to the house, her elder brother and sister and sometimes they stay up to a week.

With the two of them that makes us five in the house and feeding five people in this economy is not easy. I just looked at my bank statement this evening and in the last 2 weeks I've spent over 250k on expenses, from feeding to fuel, to baby food. If it's just me and my wife we won't be spending that much.


I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.

My family doesn't come around a lot and when they do visit, they don't even stay the night.

But I don't want to make it look like I'm a bad person, so how do I chase them away codedly

eazzzy1:
You should have planned it before she came. You would have told her to come bond with the baby for 4 months after which your mom would come for 4 months. That way the duration of their stay isn’t subjective.

As it stands now the only way to codedly chase her is to invite your mother to move in too.

My mom is late

Wakatumbit:
My wife gave birth and her mom has been staying with us for the my wife we won't be spending that much.

them away codedly

MarketDispatch:


Suggestion
If your wife was working, the simplest way to handle this issue is by having a discussion. Let your wife take care of only feeding (foodstuffs ) in the house, whilst you take care of bulk (rent, car purchase, school fees, baby items etc and sundry (dstv, internet, PHCN, drinks) payments.

With your wife taking care of feeding, you won't worry about extra mouths you are complaining of

Phranx1:
Calmly discuss with your wife, show evidence your income ain't as strengthening as your expenses so they should go truth be told this government strangulation is why they see your house as Eldorado.

DiskJokeyManic:


Ok.... Dis is where ur problem is.....Oga de earlier U do de needful,, de better for U,,, u wear the shoes so u know where it hurts.... U don't want to look like a bad person but dis same pple u re feeding like dis,,, should u go broke tomorrow dey will say u hve squandered ur money womanizing or gambling or drinking etc.....😐.... U say ur own family don't even sleep over when dey come right? Ok, just put it as a test, let ur family come over ND stay for a week like ur wife's family does ND den see how ur wife will turn de house upside down nd make de whole place so uncomfortable fr dem or even tell u to chase Dem away without caring if u or Dem will call her "A bad person" or not....😐😐

Stay there ND be dying in silence na.....

MarketDispatch:


Suggestion
If your wife was working, the simplest way to handle this issue is by having a discussion. Let your wife take care of only feeding (foodstuffs ) in the house, whilst you take care of bulk (rent, car purchase, school fees, baby items etc and sundry (dstv, internet, PHCN, drinks) payments.

With your wife taking care of feeding, you won't worry about extra mouths you are complaining of

I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.

idahme:


Women don't look back when they take decision to them it's like a last the last decision they will take even when they are not the ones bringing in the money but men are more compassionate than women.

eazzzy1:
You should have planned it before she came. You would have told her to come bond with the baby for 4 months after which your mom would come for 4 months. That way the duration of their stay isn’t subjective.

As it stands now the only way to codedly chase her is to invite your mother to move in too.

eazzzy1:
You should have planned it before she came. You would have told her to come bond with the baby for 4 months after which your mom would come for 4 months. That way the duration of their stay isn’t subjective.

As it stands now the only way to codedly chase her is to invite your mother to move in too.

Sapasenator:
Talk with your wife first, give her two days to talk to her mom. If she refuses, sit your MIL down and talk to her....

Erm....mama, I really appreciate your help with the omugwo and don't know how I and my wife would have survived without your help, thank you ma.

It is now up to three months and I think my wife and I are able to carry on from here. I want to ask when you are leaving so we can adequately prepare for you....... something along that line.

With inlaws, be polite and firm and most importantly, never to be afraid to express your mind.