I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Maybe you should have a discussion with her about this current situation and how you feel.
If she also has something on her mind to clear she should say it. Make it a two way thing and get a feedback from her.
You can move forward on the next point of action from there

I don't know what some women really want, if a man is too good, they will start to misbehave and torment him


Her toxic behavior isn't good for your mental health and sanity, talk to her and if she refuses to change, then stop talking to her, don't eat her food as well, a sensible woman would realize her mistakes and adjust, don't die in silence.

You haven’t really said the truth about the purpose of this your thread 😏😒

ScotHarvath:



I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.

Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.
Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

God1000:
I don't know what some women really want, if a man is too good, they will start to misbehave and torment you.

This literally the reason why OP created this thread. So he’ll have people come join him and tell men not to be good husbands and fathers.

On Father’s Day for that matter.

Make una rest small. At least for today.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

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What do you want to do now...cos you were advised and you rejected the advice...how will our own advice help you here...

adamma24:


What do you want to do now...cos you were advised and you rejected the advice...how will our own advice help you here...

He wants people to tell him to stop being a “good” husband, so that he can feel justified in his nonsense that he’s plotting.

That’s if the wife even exists. For all we know this is just another one of them women hating threads.

..some werey will come and say it's ur fault..that women dont wrong.....they will even say u are just hating on women

She detest u, hates u,but wants to remain married to you to keep enjoying free rent, bills free, etc...

if u like treat her like stranger....woman wey hate u no go look uche face.... if u like nor eat her food...she will just laff at u cos na u lose since u don pay...
if u want to remain unhappy in ur loveless marriage to a woman that says she hates u, taking u for granted...na u sabi..gather more strength.. because for better or worse is still very far.....

But hey... ..there is a saying.. "A man will not remain in bondage for life, if he or his tormentor does not set him free, nature will do so"

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

cococandy:


This literally the reason why OP created this thread. So he’ll have people come join him and tell men not to be good husbands and fathers.

On Father’s Day for that matter.

Make una rest small. At least for today.

You are wrong, a good man will always be a good man, he has done nothing wrong asking people for advice, do you want him to die in silence?

If u want to solve this problem.

Get another apartment and leave her there,tell her u are tired of her and possibly considering marrying another woman.

This economy alone will teach her a very big lesson,I mean a big lesson that,except she changes for good.

U didn't cause anything,that is the best way to treat a woman after all,don't u have sisters.

In my case,I have a job but I work from home too...I bought my wife a car,I take care of her and my children. I tell her everything about my income/business and even include her name in all the lands i have,Sometimes I cook before she comes back from work,I make sure her room heater is on and she doesn't play with me.

I think in ur case,she is ungrateful and insolent...that is why she feels comfortable disrespecting u.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Namaster:
"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

Tell him to tell you the real truth
That all I will say

God1000:
You are wrong, a good man will always be a good man, he has done nothing wrong asking people for advice, do you want him to die in silence?

A good man will always be good man. I agree

We just don’t know what OP is.

The moment I start begging my wife for sex

The love is gone

cococandy:


A good man will always be good man. I agree

We just don’t know what OP is.

why the cynicism sis? from his story here, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you the kind of person he is.

He's a good man.

jaeyking:
The moment I start begging my wife for sex

The love is gone

Lol.....married men dey suffer oooo....

Sex wey women go carry their leg wakka come chop...dey even beg u with different tactics like, I will soon go ooo.....I'm hot I want to wear only ur shirt..I want to charge phone and watch film on ur bed....

jaeyking:
The moment I start begging my wife for sex

The love is gone

Na lie,I hate it when we make it look like a woman is a log of wood. What do u then say,when the woman begs a man for sex?

That is simply a fat lie...women get tired too that she declined sex now does not mean that the marriage is about to fail.

Let's hear the other side of the story first.

Diamond1605:



Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

Are you the wife hun?

Women don suffer from an average naija man hand

Do you want us to tell you to divorce your wife or tell you to stop being a responsible man?

Or you want us wey never marry to make sure we treat our woman like slave? Or you want those responsible martied men to withdraw from being responsible?

Nawa for una o

OP, TBH, you need to trash this issues on time cos it will not get better. women don't appreciate good husband, only few that have sense does, For that woman to say such words to you, she meant it and i can assure you, that your marriage will not last and will crash anytime soon. At times as a man , show some craze at home, let her know that you self don't care if the marriage crashes, she has already study you well and know your weak point to the fact that you don't want the marriage to end reason why she is displaying all this nonsense. make sure you separate from her and don't give a damn, though it will be hard but do so cos that is the only thing that can reset her brain, the economy is enough to reset her brain by the time she start taking responsibility of her and the kids, that is when she will recognize your value better, if she truly value the marriage , she will ensure you guys reconcile and if everything end, bros move on and enjoy your life. very soon she will start cheating on you even if she has not started, women always believe the grass is greener at the other side until they experience it and find out that its not so. let her learn her lesson in a bitter way. A woman you are caring and taking responsibility for will still be stressing your life, if you don't take action now, na HBP go kill you and that woman will move to the next simp man.

She claimed to hate you and doesn't even enjoy sex with you saying you can get it from other girls. Bro,what else are you waiting to hear?
This woman can wake up one night and stab you to death. Is like you don't know how the emotion and mind of a woman operates.
Stop loving heartbroken women. They are always out for revenge even before marriage. They are like devils.They will stab you without thinking twice once they are done with you.
Stop dating heartbroken women!
By the way, you lack self respect. You should let your wife do her duties and be a man too but no,you decided to be the woman instead thereby, sweeping, cooking and doing home chores.Now she is seeing you as a woman and not a man. Because you have confused her with your doings.
It is well with your soul bro

funny enough you did prepare breakfast and she even eat it as well and she cant cook for you to eat.... sometimes some lady over pamperd spoiled them imagine its better you do something about it and stop making dish at home only make dish when she is not around just for the sake of the kids and yourself but when she is around dont cook she want to make that an habit of you cooking and she will be eating all the time she is just using that little quarrel as excuses if that continues inform her parent before she makes you lose your temper and do something you will regret letter... not all men can even cook some men can cook but they dont even feel like stepping into the kitchen after the stressfull day at work talkless of married man with kids no matter what happen between you both cooking matter no supporse be issue for house food is life oo

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past ant that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Any air of mystery around you has been demystified...she is now wondering..why she chose a 100 thousand naira man in comparison to what she is seeing on Social media...since she knows all your finances.

On another note, the reason for her actions towards you can only be found on her phone in chat with her best friend...that is where the gossip will be.

God1000:
why the cynicism sis? from his story here, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you the kind of person he is.

He's a good man.

Sorry I’m not easily fooled.

Read the comments he’s getting exactly what he wants. For people to tell him to start misbehaving

If he’s that good and she hates him for no reason, he can divorce. I’m a proponent of divorce when only one party is doing everything they can to make the relationship work and the other party just refuses to cooperate. He should get a divorce and stop the stories that touch.

Solofresh2:

By the way, you lack self respect. You should let your wife do her duties and be a man too but no,you decided to be the woman instead thereby, sweeping, cooking and doing home chores.Now she is seeing you as a woman and not a man.

This is exactly what he created this thread for. To insult men who don’t overburden their wives with work.

cococandy:


This is exactly what he created this thread for. To insult men who don’t overburden their wives with work.

Either ways it is still lack of self respect when a man becomes the woman in a marriage

Oh shut . Dont spoil your post with misogyny.
This marriage is clearly not working for you. Your wife has contempt for you. Nomatter whatever has led to this,no marriage recovers from contempt.

File for divorce and prepare to pay child support. If you keep going,you have yourself to blame.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Solofresh2:
Either ways it is still lack of self respect when a man becomes the woman in a marriage

What made him become a woman?

And why is womanhood attributed to loss of respect?
Yall are saying the quiet part out loud. Because to you women haters, being a woman means being a lesser human and that’s why it’s disrespectful to be seen as or compared to a woman

Gtfoh

talk to her . if she's tired of the marriage ya all can go ur seperated ways n live ur life happily..
u sef u mumu small ooo to the point u tell her everything.
she don see u finish..
see your life.
better tell her if she's tired make she go Ooo.
you are the man. if she won't cook for u then that's a big issh