I met my current boyfriend last year still here in my hometown , but I didn't accept him until march because I needed time to move on from my ex (we broke up because of distance).

I love this new guy and he loves me too we've been together since march and although it started off rocky , its become more stable and its getting serious.

He's been itching to meet my family officially but from where I'm standing that's a bad idea..... My mom is materialistic and artificial , she doesn't believe in humble beginnings and I don't want her to get involved and make him feel bad.

He's orphaned and fends for himself and me , he's very kind and understanding and he cherishes me , other men that came want me for stupid reasons and most of the men here are not single , you'll be a side chick to a man that can't give his wife money to make her hair (waste of sin) ,

But my bf is like my best friend he's my type and I'm his type, young , handsome , hardworking and caring , I love that we both look very good and I usually imagine having a baby with him, that will look just like him

I recently got pregnant without realizing it on time but whilst treating a suspected infection I put myself and my pregnancy at risk and we were adviced to terminate it , it was life threatening and I was bed ridden ,I had him with me from start to finish , helping me go through this hard time ,both of us were emotionally ready for the baby but God knows best(maybe next year)

My mom says he's a nobody because he's orphaned , didn't further his studies after waec , does hard labour and he's not from our town .

My father also had no opportunity to further on time and I wasn't born with a silver spoon , it was after I had grown a bit that we became highly privileged , and got wealthy.

I didn't earn my life , I was blessed and lucky to be the first graduate in my family but none of this is his fault , but my mother thinks I should bring home some big guy that drives a car and has a degree.

if he didn't care about my family ,I won't be bothered yet, but he said he's tired of hiding and wants to reach out but I'm scared it would go wrong because I know my parents.

What can I do ?

Him still a boyfriend an' yuh haffi gi him a try fuss. Nuh badda listen to yuh parents. It nuh like seh yuh two a marry right away, yuh might even end up likin' him gbola.

tell ur mum to keep waiting for super rich guy supposedly one that claimed he's a contractor, importer/exporters till ur Pu$$¥ hair turned to grey or white.And she start running up and down one Church to 🕌 and shrines for solution.

If you love him, marry him but not without your parents' approval.
Try to convince them to accept your newly found love. But mind you, that guy could be a gold-digger.
He may leave you once you have made him up.
Wait oh, it seems he fvcks you very hard with his big preek...reason why you are lusting after him methinks!

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I met my current boyfriend last year still here in my hometown , but I didn't accept him until march because I needed time to move on from my ex (we broke up because of distance).

I love this new guy and he loves me too we've been together since march and although it started off rocky , its become more stable and its getting serious.

He's been itching to meet my family officially but from where I'm standing that's a bad idea..... My mom is materialistic and artificial , she doesn't believe in humble beginnings and I don't want her to get involved and make him feel bad.

He's orphaned and fends for himself and me , he's very kind and understanding and he cherishes me , other men that came want me for stupid reasons and most of the men here are not single , you'll be a side chick to a man that can't give his wife money to make her hair (waste of sin) ,

But my bf is like my best friend he's my type and I'm his type, young , handsome , hardworking and caring , I love that we both look very good and I usually imagine having a baby with him, that will look just like him

I recently got pregnant without realizing it on time but whilst treating a suspected infection I put myself and my pregnancy at risk and we were adviced to terminate it , it was life threatening and I was bed ridden ,I had him with me from start to finish , helping me go through this hard time ,both of us were emotionally ready for the baby but God knows best(maybe next year)

My mom says he's a nobody because he's orphaned , didn't further his studies after waec , does hard labour and he's not from our town .

My father also had no opportunity to further on time and I wasn't born with a silver spoon , it was after I had grown a bit that we became highly privileged , and got wealthy.

I didn't earn my life , I was blessed and lucky to be the first graduate in my family but none of this is his fault , but my mother thinks I should bring home some big guy that drives a car and has a degree.

if he didn't care about my family ,I won't be bothered yet, but he said he's tired of hiding and wants to reach out but I'm scared it would go wrong because I know my parents.

What can I do ?

You just have to think more and be careful. People can be who you didn't fathom them to be. And your boyfriend could be acting very understanding because he wants to tie you down first as you're of a different status. If not he would be more interested in marrying you the right way and not getting you pregnant first. THINK!

Auxtan:

You just have to think more and be careful. People can be who you didn't fathom them to be. And your boyfriend could be acting very understanding because he wants to tie you down first as you're of a different status. If not he would be more interested in marrying you the right way and not getting you pregnant first. THINK!

When we met I was selling pancakes as an hair dressers apprentice , using a damaged button phone (giving damsels in distress)

He didn't know anything about me , he's not from here , he moved to my town last year , even with how he was acting at first I knew he knew nothing about me , he used to talk to me like I was unexposed and local , it was people that knew me that would tell him who I was but even still , if he had grown up here , I would never even give him a chance , the men here have approached for that status thing and its always so obvious.

If I tell the other men I'm hungry , they'll give me a history lesson about my dad , thats why i only date outside ,but with him its as if I'm his child, he sees me as his innocent and sweet person, he's always thinking and making provision with the little he has , most times I don't eat till he's back from work so that we can eat together , even if there's food , I'll wait so that we can eat everything together , it feels good sha.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


When we met I was selling pancakes as an hair dressers apprentice , using a damaged button phone (giving damsels in distress)

He didn't know anything about me , he's not from here , he moved to my town last year , even with how he was acting at first I knew he knew nothing about me , he used to talk to me like I was unexposed and local , it was people that knew me that would tell him who I was but even still , if he had grown up here , I would never even give him a chance , the men here have approached for that status thing and its always so obvious.

If I tell the other men I'm hungry , they'll give me a history lesson about my dad , thats why i only date outside ,but with him its as if I'm his child, he sees me as his innocent and sweet person, he's always thinking and making provision with the little he has , most times I don't eat till he's back from work so that we can eat together , even if there's food , I'll wait so that we can eat everything together , it feels good sha.

Love can make you say a lot more good things about him. But if you are right in all you said now, then he might just be that guy for you. Go and check your genotype and other medicals. You can as well take in again for him to make things easier since your mum is being too stubborn. Happy married life in advance!

hope he's not an akudaya..this one u say he's orphaned.. so he has no known relative
well love comes first.
it's common knowledge mothers want their daughter to marry a financially comfortable guy especially if they value ur future hubby being educated.
find family members to convince ur mother

You're such a sensible banny and I like that...

Make una start small but so long you guys have got dreams,the end will be sweeter..

Make your mother no use her own take spoil your own for ground.. she has lived her life and should leave you alone so that you can live yours.......

E be like say she wants you to be a second option to an already married man

Auxtan:

Love can make you say a lot more good things about him. But if you are right in all you said now, then he might just be that guy for you. Go and check your genotype and other medicals. You can as well take in again for him to make things easier since your mum is being too stubborn. Happy married life in advance!

When the time is right I will do just that , as for the genotype , I'm AA and O+ , I did my test before gaining admission.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


When the time is right I will do just that , as for the genotype , I'm AA and O+ , I did my test before gaining admission.

I need an AA & O+ in my life. You have a sister?

Auxtan:

I need an AA & O+ in my life. You have a sister?

Lol they're too young for you and my second is in a serious relationship as well , so no

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


Lol they're too young for you and my second is in a serious relationship as well , so no

That was supposed to be a joke. Your sisters are not guaranteed to have the same genotype or blood group as you uno.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


When the time is right I will do just that , as for the genotype , I'm AA and O+ , I did my test before gaining admission.

You got urself a soulmate.
Some times, our true love may not be of same educational/economic or social status with us.
Don't allow people make a crucial choice as important as life partner for you.
Most privileged parents always crave that their children marry also from family of same status.
But, life doesn't happen so.
Such mentality is the reason so many highly educated women are single in their late 20s and 30s compared to their not so highly educated counterparts.
If your parents are not in support of ur union cuz of the status thing, get pregnant for your man and they will be the one to tell u to call him by the time u re about 3months pregnant.
You can do ceremonial wedding after childbirth like the way Davido is doing it with his lover Chioma.

From your writings I can't but admire your mindset and reasoning
.
You are far far above most girls in ur country I have ever met......
.
You are a graduate , Yet can feel comfortably with the love of a WAEC holder...and see beyond certificates.

You understand where ur family came from, and how even ur father was nt learned but luck later smiled on him, and u realize the means of ur family was a privilege ... that's some thoughfulness an humility absent in most girls today....

You appreciate hard work and the sacrifices of this young man...really?
You were even more spiritually or morally mature than your mother to be able to spot her character failings which you qualify as "artificial and materialistic'.......wow..omo....I was like so girls still get sense for this country to know artificial life philosophy?
If I see gal with this humble and realistic reasoning....I go start serious relationship today today


May God bless you. And bless your coming union......you guys will do well together
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Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I met my current boyfriend last year still here in my hometown , but I didn't accept him until march because I needed time to move on from my ex (we broke up because of distance).

I love this new guy and he loves me too we've been together since march and although it started off rocky , its become more stable and its getting serious.

He's been itching to meet my family officially but from where I'm standing that's a bad idea..... My mom is materialistic and artificial , she doesn't believe in humble beginnings and I don't want her to get involved and make him feel bad.

He's orphaned and fends for himself and me , he's very kind and understanding and he cherishes me , other men that came want me for stupid reasons and most of the men here are not single , you'll be a side chick to a man that can't give his wife money to make her hair (waste of sin) ,

But my bf is like my best friend he's my type and I'm his type, young , handsome , hardworking and caring , I love that we both look very good and I usually imagine having a baby with him, that will look just like him

I recently got pregnant without realizing it on time but whilst treating a suspected infection I put myself and my pregnancy at risk and we were adviced to terminate it , it was life threatening and I was bed ridden ,I had him with me from start to finish , helping me go through this hard time ,both of us were emotionally ready for the baby but God knows best(maybe next year)

My mom says he's a nobody because he's orphaned , didn't further his studies after waec , does hard labour and he's not from our town .

My father also had no opportunity to further on time and I wasn't born with a silver spoon , it was after I had grown a bit that we became highly privileged , and got wealthy.

I didn't earn my life , I was blessed and lucky to be the first graduate in my family but none of this is his fault , but my mother thinks I should bring home some big guy that drives a car and has a degree.

if he didn't care about my family ,I won't be bothered yet, but he said he's tired of hiding and wants to reach out but I'm scared it would go wrong because I know my parents.

What can I do ?

if you allow this man mistakingly escape from your grip due to some flimsy reasons, I bet to tell you this, you'll regret this so much that you'll wish you had not let go! I know what I'm saying, I don't want to talk much...this is prophetic! that man Is going places, I kid you not.... the journey is definitely gonna be tough at some point and you'll start asking yourself questions about your decision if you're not even in error for defying your mom but in all, only if you're still gonna hold on till the end, then you'll be grateful that you did in later times... involve the holy ghost in this, I mean it.

Freelancerboy:
Anyone who's Interested here should Send a message to my WhatsApp my number is on .y signature.

I'll teach anyone here how to read your cheating partner WhatsApp messages directly on your phone .

It's not free.
Hold your #1000
Before you message me

Lol when you can just ask them to open it for you , without pre informing them , if they throw a fit then your relationship is probably just for ducking

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I met my current boyfriend last year still here in my hometown , but I didn't accept him until march because I needed time to move on from my ex (we broke up because of distance).

I love this new guy and he loves me too we've been together since march and although it started off rocky , its become more stable and its getting serious.

degree.

if he didn't care about my family ,I won't be bothered yet, but he said he's tired of hiding and wants to reach out but I'm scared it would go wrong because I know my parents.

What can I do ?

What sort of hard labor does your boyfriend do?

Danyyyyyyyyyyy

I took you for a smart lady but it's obvious you do not know what you are doing.

You are getting pregnant when you don't have a job? Now you want to try again next year! At fu...cking 24. What the hell is wrong with you girls!

Do you think babies are low maintenance? Don't worry, keep having unprotected sex ehn! Keep it up!