I am 33 years old and I swear, I have failed the brotherhood and I pray I forgive myself and move on for good.

I have been in a messy breakup with my ex girlfriend of 4 years relationship that ended of which I orchestrated. After she demanded I pay part of her pressing need of over 200K, I declined to see how she will react because I suspected she could be rude if I didn't. She ended up doing exactly as I thought and later apologized. But my ego was so her that I still told her it was over between us for being rude to me and especially because in the next 3 days she didn't call me or text or whatever.

She didn't say anything after I told her is over, she then called after 3 days to ask of how I am, I became very rude to her and said silly things to her due to my pumping anger and ego. Ever since I have been the one trying everything on earth to get her back to my life. She moved on with a new guy after 2 weeks of our breakup.

I have knelt, traveled for 10 hours to see her and apologize, I have sent her even some money. Is 6 months but still my heart is still so disturbed and I keep crying.

I have met 5 girls since our breakup but my heart don't wanna love them and I prefer my ex to them. I even met a certified nurse and she's serious and even beautiful but I still see my real connection is to my ex.

Now if I call her she tell me to get out of her phone, that I talk too much, that I am stupid, that I am a horrible person God saved her from, that I am very stupid.

This girl has insulted me to stupor yet I still can't seem to get over her. I feel I am under a spell because really my ex is not even that beautiful physically but is very industrious and intelligent. And I used to feel she was a well mannered girl but since our breakup she has been sooo very bad in attitude. Yet I still long to have her back.

People I need deliverance. I have failed manhood and I am still failing. I had sex and everything with my ex and I don't know if that is what got me tied to her. In fact the whole sex wasn't good because she is too chubby and inexperienced and has bad skills. Yet she's still the woman I long for.

If I call her now she will be telling me how she's on a call with her man/boyfriend and how they discussed about my bad attitudes and how he is soo open to her on everything because he is a pastor of a mega church that he inherited from his late father. That he is even talking of marrying her in just 3 or 5 months of dating and that she is the one trying to make it next year.

I'm so hurt and feel like I lost a part of me. Kindly note I am a very comfortable guy and I owe a lot before you say I am jobless and not busy.

I was going to marry this girl this year because we already dated for 4 years and looking at it now I wasted 4 years of my life.

You actually need JESUS

danijesus:
You actually need JESUS

I have fasted for one full week 6 to 6 for God to bring her back to me. I NEED JESUS NOW MORE THAN EVER. I want to move on for God's sake!

I need genuine help. I don't know if I am under a spell.

Simp....

Fisiryorh:
Simp....

That is why I need help please. I don't seem to have control over this situation.

Calm down give her space. Dont go calling and begging her anymore and dont go into dating for now. Dont even try hard to replace her cos all these wont work, rather it will all contribute to you being more anxious thereby hearimg more hurtful words. Let me warn you if you dont stop and give her space you may become more violent and a pest to her and that will affect your chances of gettimg her back or moving on quickly, this may lead to you loosing totally

I wont blame you or your ex the truth is that life happens.
The best thing to do now is focus on work focus on self love, get new hobby just get busy and stop blaming your self or asking for validation from people cos it will worsen the whole thing.
You will be fine at the end of the day.
Dont date for now just keep casual friends of the opposite sex And hang out with your guys Something new will develop for you sooner

madone:
Calm down give her space. Dont go calling and begging her anymore and dont go into dating for now. Dont even try hard to replace her cos all these wont work, rather it will all contribute to you being more anxious thereby hearimg more hurtful words. Let me warn you if you dont stop and give her space you may become more violent and a pest to her and that will affect your chances of gettimg her back or moving on quickly, this may lead to you loosing totally

I wont blame you or your ex the truth is that life happens.
The best thing to do now is focus on work focus on self love, get new hobby just get busy and stop blaming your self or asking for validation from people cos it will worsen the whole thing.
You will be fine at the end of the day.
Dont date for now just keep casual friends of the opposite sex And hang out with your guys Something new will develop for you sooner

Could she come back even after having moved on with a new boyfriend in just 2 weeks after our breakup?

ExDepressed:

Could she come back even after having moved on with a new boyfriend in just 2 weeks after our breakup?

I can tell you for free that that girl isn't in any relationship, all the altitude she's putting on is to make you jealous and regret your actions.
She won't be picking up your calls if she has found a man as she makes you to believe.
All you need do is give her some time.

Sir, move on with life. Start afresh. Remember if you harm yourself, you are at a loss.

telleyway:


I can tell you for free that that girl isn't in any relationship, all the altitude she's putting on is to make you jealous and regret your actions.
She won't be picking up your calls if she has found a man as she makes you to believe.
All you need do is give her some time.

She is. I know the new guy. He has called me to move on for good. And I know the late dad's popular church he inherited and the school.

ExDepressed:

Could she come back even after having moved on with a new boyfriend in just 2 weeks after our breakup?

My submission is based on my assumption that you're being sincere with all you've typed up there.

The whole "...gotten new boyfriend in 2WEEKS..." might just be her way of taunting you and to make you feel worse. You're also doing a "good" job of letting her think of you as a lesser man the more you disturb and pester her.

I'm no relationship expert but I'd advise you to give her SPACE. Do all you can to stop bothering her. Infact, do not make her think you're cyber-stalking her (avoid simple acts like viewing her status updates).

Hang out with friends, meet new girl friends, don't get fixated on seeing the positive qualities of your ex in them.

Above all, the time to be closer to God is now if you aren't already. (Discard this if you're not a man of faith in the Supreme)

telleyway:


I can tell you for free that that girl isn't in any relationship, all the altitude she's putting on is to make you jealous and regret your actions.
She won't be picking up your calls if she has found a man as she makes you to believe.
All you need do is give her some time.

She still picks my calls to listen to all mu rubbish and insult me more. The worst part is I don't seem to get enough of the insults and call it a day for good. Despite knowing for real she has a new guy who also looks very realistic especially as he is a pastor.

Wizyoung:


My submission is based on my assumption that you're being sincere with all you've typed up there.

The whole "...gotten new boyfriend in 2WEEKS..." might just be her way of taunting you and to make you feel worse. You're also doing a "good" job of letting her think of you as a lesser man the more you disturb and pester her.

I'm no relationship expert but I'd advise you to give her SPACE. Do all you can to stop bothering her. Infact, do not make her think you're cyber-stalking her (avoid simple acts like viewing her status updates).

Hang out with friends, meet new girl friends, don't get fixated on seeing the positive qualities of your ex in them.

Above all, the time to be closer to God is now if you aren't already. (Discard this if you're not a man of faith in the Supreme)

We can only communicate via calls because she has totally blocked me on evert other platform. I appreciate your advice tho is really really difficult.

Let me introduce
Gurumaraji to you

Brotherhood has lost another one

You need to read posts by @john_d_doe on X (formerly Twitter) to reset your brain.

You don;t know what God has done for you.

ExDepressed:
I am 33 years old and I swear, I have failed the brotherhood and I pray I forgive myself and move on for good.

I have been in a messy breakup with my ex girlfriend of 4 years relationship that ended of which I orchestrated. After she demanded I pay part of her pressing need of over 200K, I declined to see how she will react because I suspected she could be rude if I didn't. She ended up doing exactly as I thought and later apologized. But my ego was so her that I still told her it was over between us for being rude to me and especially because in the next 3 days she didn't call me or text or whatever.

She didn't say anything after I told her is over, she then called after 3 days to ask of how I am, I became very rude to her and said silly things to her due to my pumping anger and ego. Ever since I have been the one trying everything on earth to get her back to my life. She moved on with a new guy after 2 weeks of our breakup.

I have knelt, traveled for 10 hours to see her and apologize, I have sent her even some money. Is 6 months but still my heart is still so disturbed and I keep crying.

I have met 5 girls since our breakup but my heart don't wanna love them and I prefer my ex to them. I even met a certified nurse and she's serious and even beautiful but I still see my real connection is to my ex.

Now if I call her she tell me to get out of her phone, that I talk too much, that I am stupid, that I am a horrible person God saved her from, that I am very stupid.

This girl has insulted me to stupor yet I still can't seem to get over her. I feel I am under a spell because really my ex is not even that beautiful physically but is very industrious and intelligent. And I used to feel she was a well mannered girl but since our breakup she has been sooo very bad in attitude. Yet I still long to have her back.

People I need deliverance. I have failed manhood and I am still failing. I had sex and everything with my ex and I don't know if that is what got me tied to her. In fact the whole sex wasn't good because she is too chubby and inexperienced and has bad skills. Yet she's still the woman I long for.

If I call her now she will be telling me how she's on a call with her man/boyfriend and how they discussed about my bad attitudes and how he is soo open to her on everything because he is a pastor of a mega church that he inherited from his late father. That he is even talking of marrying her in just 3 or 5 months of dating and that she is the one trying to make it next year.

I'm so hurt and feel like I lost a part of me. Kindly note I am a very comfortable guy and I owe a lot before you say I am jobless and not busy.

I was going to marry this girl this year because we already dated for 4 years and looking at it now I wasted 4 years of my life.

I attended a wedding today and the husband said he only dated his wife for 1 year & they married today. Be calm, stay away from all attachments, learn your lesson. Que sera sera

ExDepressed:

Could she come back even after having moved on with a new boyfriend in just 2 weeks after our breakup?

let me clear you on somethings
1. Yiur ex has not forgotten you
2. I he move on too quick to forget you then its either this guy has been on standby since that is to say she has not been completely yours all these time
3. If pressure much u loose her completely cos she will see you as a nuisance and a less man compared to her new man.
4. Dont think of coming back rather think of a new and improved you in all ramification

Bro I can tell you for free that if that girl comes back to you, she won't be same girl you know before. You will be taken for granted, you will be under her control, you will get tired of her, you will act gentleman in the day and cry at night, she will boss you around and you will always be afraid to talk to her as a man when she goes wrong. Leave her alone, leave her alone, leave that girl alone. If she is yours she will definitely come back to you. If you continue begging her and she decides to come back just know that you have made the biggest mistake because the girl coming back won't be the same girl you know before. If she's to come back let her come back at her own decision. Delete her no if you don't have it off heart, avoid staying alone. Just do what makes you happy apart from being with girls. WAKE UP BRO.. YOU ARE THE MAN.. YOU GOT THIS.. ITS YOUR WORLD THAT YOU'D STOOP THAT LOW TO BEG A CERTAIN GIRL TO BE WITH YOU. WILL MY ANCESTORS BE PROUD OF SUCH A MAN.

I once had this girl I wanted to get married to, this girl dribbled me up and down for few months, telling me she wants to hear from God first, my brothers and sisters, na so I kukuma gather my remaining piece's, though it wasn't easy for me emotionally,as God may have it, I met an angel who was more mature, understanding in every aspect of life, I dated her for only 1 month and the rest was history, we got married immediately,and we are up to 5 yrs in marriage now and the formal girl is still not married tilll today, probably still waiting to hear from God, I am not saying this to mock the girl but to encourage you to move on with your life as God may have better plans for you.

bro the deed has been done
if you want to heal you need to hurt yourself the more by cutting of all communication asin cut every dam communication, don't even Pick her calls when she calls.

avoid any relationship for the next 6month practice selve love... take yourself out, if drinking 🍻 will help my broda drink am, if crying will help cry her out of your system then wait for the magic to happen.

Trust me there's two things that will happen

1, she will come running 🏃 back to you.
2, the right woman or girl will come in with every quality you you wanted so by then you will have to chose wisely.

You actually need JESUS

ExDepressed:
I am 33 years old and I swear, I have failed the brotherhood and I pray I forgive myself and move on for good.

I have been in a messy breakup with my ex girlfriend of 4 years relationship that ended of which I orchestrated. After she demanded I pay part of her pressing need of over 200K, I declined to see how she will react because I suspected she could be rude if I didn't. She ended up doing exactly as I thought and later apologized. But my ego was so her that I still told her it was over between us for being rude to me and especially because in the next 3 days she didn't call me or text or whatever.

She didn't say anything after I told her is over, she then called after 3 days to ask of how I am, I became very rude to her and said silly things to her due to my pumping anger and ego. Ever since I have been the one trying everything on earth to get her back to my life. She moved on with a new guy after 2 weeks of our breakup.

I have knelt, traveled for 10 hours to see her and apologize, I have sent her even some money. Is 6 months but still my heart is still so disturbed and I keep crying.

I have met 5 girls since our breakup but my heart don't wanna love them and I prefer my ex to them. I even met a certified nurse and she's serious and even beautiful but I still see my real connection is to my ex.

Now if I call her she tell me to get out of her phone, that I talk too much, that I am stupid, that I am a horrible person God saved her from, that I am very stupid.

This girl has insulted me to stupor yet I still can't seem to get over her. I feel I am under a spell because really my ex is not even that beautiful physically but is very industrious and intelligent. And I used to feel she was a well mannered girl but since our breakup she has been sooo very bad in attitude. Yet I still long to have her back.

People I need deliverance. I have failed manhood and I am still failing. I had sex and everything with my ex and I don't know if that is what got me tied to her. In fact the whole sex wasn't good because she is too chubby and inexperienced and has bad skills. Yet she's still the woman I long for.

If I call her now she will be telling me how she's on a call with her man/boyfriend and how they discussed about my bad attitudes and how he is soo open to her on everything because he is a pastor of a mega church that he inherited from his late father. That he is even talking of marrying her in just 3 or 5 months of dating and that she is the one trying to make it next year.

I'm so hurt and feel like I lost a part of me. Kindly note I am a very comfortable guy and I owe a lot before you say I am jobless and not busy.

I was going to marry this girl this year because we already dated for 4 years and looking at it now I wasted 4 years of my life.

Asides Jesus,you also need an Oxford dictionary.

God actually used the situation to save you from that girl, if she actually loved you in the first place, 200k wouldn't have come between you two.


Stop thinking with your prik, use your head and move on. Stop dating every random girl in a bid to get over her, give it sometime, time is the greatest healer. In a few more months, you will be angry with yourself for simping so hard for her, wondering whether she was even worth it in the first place.


Get out of your shell King, engage in things you love, e.g writing, learning new skills or languages, working out in the gym or at home. Avoid being alone for too long when you're not at work. Hang out with friends e t.c


Hope I have been able to help

Haha, another alphabet on the ground. You Men thought ur redpill teachings can walk on every woman. 😂

And let's be honest bro, you don't have what she asked for, there's nothing like " I declined to see how she will react " .




Going through ur post is disgusting, and it shows you are mannerless and a monster.
It's good she move on.

You are not simp my bro,it's the power of sharing everything together for four years...
You don't expect everything to die and go away in six month, all the memories you took years to built..
You are Just being human and people react to breakup differently.. You'll wake up one day and realize she doesn't really matter that much again...
Chin up my bro, time heals everything...

I sell herbs

She started dating the other guy while she was still with you and needed only validation or an excuse to leave you, of which you gladly obliged by being rude to her. The other guy takes care of her financial needs hence the short period of time it took her to make up her mind. In my own opinion, I think God saved from a gold digger and someone who'll leave you at the slightest opportunity when things go sour. However you're stubbornly trying to reopen a hole that was covered to save you from entering and all I have for you is pity.

ExDepressed:
I am 33 years old and I swear, I have failed the brotherhood and I pray I forgive myself and move on for good.

I have been in a messy breakup with my ex girlfriend of 4 years relationship that ended of which I orchestrated. After she demanded I pay part of her pressing need of over 200K, I declined to see how she will react because I suspected she could be rude if I didn't. She ended up doing exactly as I thought and later apologized. But my ego was so her that I still told her it was over between us for being rude to me and especially because in the next 3 days she didn't call me or text or whatever.

She didn't say anything after I told her is over, she then called after 3 days to ask of how I am, I became very rude to her and said silly things to her due to my pumping anger and ego. Ever since I have been the one trying everything on earth to get her back to my life. She moved on with a new guy after 2 weeks of our breakup.

I have knelt, traveled for 10 hours to see her and apologize, I have sent her even some money. Is 6 months but still my heart is still so disturbed and I keep crying.

I have met 5 girls since our breakup but my heart don't wanna love them and I prefer my ex to them. I even met a certified nurse and she's serious and even beautiful but I still see my real connection is to my ex.

Now if I call her she tell me to get out of her phone, that I talk too much, that I am stupid, that I am a horrible person God saved her from, that I am very stupid.

This girl has insulted me to stupor yet I still can't seem to get over her. I feel I am under a spell because really my ex is not even that beautiful physically but is very industrious and intelligent. And I used to feel she was a well mannered girl but since our breakup she has been sooo very bad in attitude. Yet I still long to have her back.

People I need deliverance. I have failed manhood and I am still failing. I had sex and everything with my ex and I don't know if that is what got me tied to her. In fact the whole sex wasn't good because she is too chubby and inexperienced and has bad skills. Yet she's still the woman I long for.

If I call her now she will be telling me how she's on a call with her man/boyfriend and how they discussed about my bad attitudes and how he is soo open to her on everything because he is a pastor of a mega church that he inherited from his late father. That he is even talking of marrying her in just 3 or 5 months of dating and that she is the one trying to make it next year.

I'm so hurt and feel like I lost a part of me. Kindly note I am a very comfortable guy and I owe a lot before you say I am jobless and not busy.

I was going to marry this girl this year because we already dated for 4 years and looking at it now I wasted 4 years of my life.

God punish you

If I should tell you my mind I will advice you to move on, do it may not be easy but even if you give her billions now she no go hear let her satisfy her mind. If she is yours the new guy will Bleep up and she will not have any other options than to come back to you cos with the way you sound you dey provide for her now. I just believe one day she go need you and call you by her self abi no be woman ni

If you know what is good for you move on with your life, it's obvious she never love you in the first place, you're only forcing yourself on her , get yourself together and pick up your phone to call that nurse to stay a meaningful relationship with her.

This could have been cause by not eating well enough. Eat Eba and other egusi