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Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by VBCampaign: 7:39am On Jul 05
In this video, Pastor Deji Yesufu, minister at Providence Reformed Baptist Church Ibadan, situated at the University of Ibadan, talks about the sensitive subject of masturbation. He proffers biblical solutions to it.

Below, is also an article on the subject.


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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by VBCampaign: 7:45am On Jul 05
Overcome Masturbation

By: Deji Yesufu

Pastoral work is an extremely sensitive one and from time to time you get information from people you counsel that reveals a deep spiritual need that they have that has become something of an albatross to their walk with and work for Christ. Masturbation is the subject that I have in mind here. It is a secret sin, yet I feel it is a widespread challenge among young people in our day. This feeling is mainly intuitive but a deduction one can easily make as one observes the challenge that our days have sprung on us. Everything around us screams sex. From the television to the internet, to billboards, and then this thing, they call reality shows. It appears that women try to outdo each other in how provocatively they can dress.

Then there is the proliferation of X-rated movies. When I was growing up, you had to make some effort to find those movies on the VHS cassette tapes. Now, X-rated movies are everywhere – thanks to the internet. What X-rated movies do to the mind is that they introduce watchers to the grim world of sexual perversion. Those who watch those things will do everything they see. The least watchers will do is masturbate – have sex with themselves. The real challenge with X-rated movies is that the images rarely go away – some people may take those images to the grave. It is the reason why those things are extremely harmful. Now, my essay is directed to believers. People who, in the days when they were in the world, indulged in watching X-rated movies (and may have been sexually active too) and now that they are Christians, they find that the images have not gone, and masturbation is still a secret sin. I pray that God the Holy Spirit will give grace to your heart as you read this, and I trust he will empower you to overcome masturbation and all other sexual sins you may be battling. As I ventured to tackle this subject, one scripture that kept coming to mind is Hebrew 5:1-4:

“For every high priest taken from among men is ordained for men in thing about God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins: who can have compassion on the ignorant, and on them that are out of the way; for that, he also is compassed with infirmity. And by reason hereof he ought, as for the people, so also for himself, to offer for sins. And no man taketh this honour unto himself, but he that is called of God, as was Aaron”...

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The picture this scripture is painting for us is that of the Levitical priesthood. It is saying in essence that the people God calls to this ministry are sinners. And that before they offer up sacrifices for the sins of the people, they offer sacrifices for their sins first (Leviticus 16:6). But as they do this, they do it with compassion, realizing that they are partakers of the same grace they are extending to others. When sexual sins are talked about in church, you get the impression the ministers preaching are immune from this problem. If you are not careful, the very thing you have shared in private with your pastor will soon become public news in the congregation. I believe the way God designed it is that those who have battled a sin, and who have found the grace of God to overcome it, are the ones best suited to minister to others battling it. It means that you come to a subject with compassion and grace of heart, and you are patient with others until you see them overcome. Before God, sin is not in grades. A person who may not be besotted by sexual weakness may have anger problems and a history of killing people. All sins are sins, and it is the same sacrifice that is offered that both absolves and cleanses from sin.

Another point of view that must be seen before we look at practically overcoming masturbation is the subject of Christ’s death and sin itself. Christ died for the sinner – of whom I am chief, said Paul the Apostle (1 Timothy 1:15). If an apostle will call himself a sinner, it means God has given you and me freedom to freely associate and identify ourselves with our sins. But the good news is not that we are sinners; the good news is that Christ died for our sins. The challenge with this doctrine is not knowing that Christ died for sins; it is understanding that Christ died for my sins. Paul the Apostle goes further to explain in Romans 4:7-8 that there is a blessedness that comes with the death of Christ for our sins. It is this: that our sins are forgiven; our sins are covered; God will not impute iniquity on his people. My children’s catechism defines justification as “God forgiving sinners and treating them as if they had never sinned”.

R. T. Kendall said that the most controversial statement Martin Luther might have made was when he said to Philip Melanchthon: “…sin lustfully that grace might abound…” The simple-minded will say Luther was encouraging lasciviousness in his followers. No. Melanchthon was a very careful believer, who would not be found with a trace of sin on his conscience. Luther, his pastor, felt Melanchthon was not enjoying the grace of God. So, he explained that until Melanchthon experienced the deepest sin, and found God forgiving him all the same, he would not understand the grace. Nothing paints this better than that publican’s prayer: God be merciful to me a sinner. We preach the cross of Jesus Christ, not because we enjoy being called pastors; we preach the cross because we are the first beneficiaries of God’s mercies. Like Aaron, we applied the sacrifices of Christ’s death to our sins first. True pastoral work is then extending that grace to those who hear us. It is the reason why compassion for sinners is one of the leading attributes of a true pastor.

We now come to practical matters: how does a Christian overcome masturbation? The first thing of course is to hope and pray that God the Holy Spirit has done a true work in the life of the Christian. A Christian who still finds himself masturbating or is involved with any kind of sexual sin must show true contrition. There must be a genuine desire to be rid of the sin. The next thing that must be done is that this person must make the effort to avoid trigger points. It could come in what you see, the movies you watch, some websites you view, some friends you keep, etc. Jesus gives us the example by telling us that if certain things cause us to sin, we must cut ourselves off from them no matter how painful doing it is (Matthew 18:8-9). The effort that you put into separating yourself from your trigger points, will bring you to greater levels of discipline over that sin.

As you labour at doing this, you also want to give yourself means of grace. Go to a church where the word of God is taught. Occupy your mind with godly things – read a good book; indulge in writing an essay; get into theological debates; pursue a good course of helping the needy; etc. Just ensure that your mind is not idle. Sexual sins are a mind thing, and you will realize soon that the moment your mind is occupied doing something, you will have little time fixated on the things that trigger sin in you. As you do all these, I pray that you find a pastor or a spiritually older person whom you can confide in, and who can pray with you and also hold you accountable. All these must be done simultaneously and prayerfully, and you have to be incredibly patient with yourself. It means that when you fail, you consider it a fall; get up, repent, dust yourself, and get back at resisting sin. I also wish to ask that ministers who hold people’s past histories should never bring those things up against them, or share them with others. We must nurse people to spiritual health, not to use their past to hold them to ransom.


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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by NNTR: 9:58pm On Jul 06
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In this video, Pastor Deji Yesufu, minister at Providence Reformed Baptist Church Ibadan, situated at the University of Ibadan, talks about the sensitive subject of masturbation. He proffers biblical solutions to it.

Below, is also an article on the subject.

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0:00 ... and so when we live in uncleanness when we live either in sexual immorality or masturbation or all sorts we are
0:06 dishonoring the Holy Spirit and the Holy Spirit is grieved so we must know how to
0:11 possess our vessel in sanctification and on you must know it if you're truly possessed of the spirit of God when you
0:17 commit sin you will have true Contrition you'll be able to repent and you'll be able to stand up again and try again and
0:24 you try again and you try again until you gain Victory I'm coming to appreciate the fact that there are there
0:30 is such a thing as generational changes that is to say something that a former
0:36 generation experience and had challenges with a latter generation will not this
0:42 present generation of young people are coming um face to face with uh
0:49 challenges in life that I personally think is going to be rather overwhelming
0:54 and um if they do not find a way of dealing with it it's going to swim them up and probably
1:00 some of them will be dead long before they reach adult life if they do not deal with these things uh when we were
1:07 growing up I was born about the time when the HIV and AIDS was uh discovered
1:13 you know and we grew up to that but the generation before that didn't even experience HIV AIDS so that means that
1:20 they could be as promiscuous as they want they would not catch the disease we did not do such a thing okay uh today I
1:27 want to talk about a very sensitive top topic I've written about it but I still felt that I should make a video for
1:33 those who do not read they can watch the video and probably benefit from the subject I want to talk about
1:40 masturbation uh is a very very sensitive one and because it is quite sensitive I
1:46 am not going to begin with my opinion rather I'm going to try to see uh State
1:51 exactly what the Bible says about it before I go into it I'm going to use masturbation as a a topic to cover all
1:59 kinds of sexual sin and then I'm going to try as much as possible to allow the Bible to speak first before I begin to
2:05 give my opinion on the matter Paul the Apostle writing to the Thessalonians in
2:11 the first in his first Epistles to them chapter 4 verse1 reads and I quote
2:17 finally then brethren we urge and exalt you in the Lord Jesus that you should abound more and more just as you have
2:24 received from us how you ought to walk and please God for you know what
2:30 Commandments we give you through the Lord Jesus Christ verse three for this
2:35 is the will of God your sanctification that you should abstain from sexual
2:41 immorality that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in
2:47 sanctification and honor not in passions of lust like the Gentiles who do not
2:53 know God that no one should take advantage and the FR his brother in this
2:58 manner because the Lord is the Avenger of all such as we as we also fored you
3:04 and testified verse 7 for God did not call us to un cleaness but in Holiness
3:10 therefore he who rejects this does not reject man but God who has also giv us
3:16 his holy spirit so I'm just going to take a very quick overview of each of the verses that we cover starting from
3:23 verse three Paul the Apostle is saying that if you do not know what the will of God is please know it now the will of
3:30 God is your sanctification and then it goes on to say that you should know how to abstain
3:35 from sexual immorality there is a sense Paul is trying to compare sanctification
3:42 with abstinence from sexual immorality he's saying the sense that if you're going to grow in sanctification you must
3:49 know how to deal with this subject of sex okay if you do not know how to
3:54 possess your vessel in sanctification you haven't begun to grow in in sanctification it appears that
4:02 sanctification increase in sanctification is uh synonymous or yeah
4:08 synonymous with increase in knowing how to deal with the issue of sexual
4:14 immorality verse four that each of you would know how to possess his own vessel
4:19 in sanctification and honor I remember in my University days I saw this scripture and what actually came out to
4:26 me very clearly then was know it that was what came to to me I believe that's what the Holy Spirit put in mind he said
4:32 know it know how to deal with this thing in the sense that for the rest of your life you're going to be learning how to
4:39 know it you're going to know it what will trigger it in you will be different from what will trigger it in others so
4:45 the important thing is know this thing know how to possess your body Your
4:50 Vessel in sanctification and honor why did he put honor in it it means that the
4:56 people who do not uh the people who do not live in SE I mean sexual Purity are
5:02 actually dishonoring their bodies and eventually they going to face dishonor in life okay those who know how to deal
5:09 with it are living honorable that each of you should know it know this thing
5:15 okay it is no knowledge all right you must possess knowledge so by all find
5:20 the article that I've written study it possess knowledge watch the video get some insight and also from other people
5:27 also know how to possess Your Vessel in sanctification and honor not in the
5:33 passions of lost like the Gentiles who do not know God H if there was such a thing as Gentiles who did not know God
5:41 in the days when Paul was writing this letter it was I mean sexual immorality was so rampant uh all over the Roman
5:48 world all over we can't even begin everything that our generation experienced now or even more they
5:55 experience worse in those days okay the only thing of course they didn't have is that God had not begun to send the
6:00 judgment of diseases on them in those days but they had all kinds and of course they had some diseases too they
6:07 had syphilis they had uh gonorrhoea they had all of those things too okay. Verse six that
6:13 no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter
6:18 because the Lord is the Avenger of all such as we also for you and testify
6:23 what's Paul saying here he's saying that there is nothing worse than a person
6:29 leaving his own wife and going to take another person's wife and sleeping with
6:34 him says there's nothing what it says that if there is something God is going to deal with himself that is's not going
6:40 to wait to Hell he's going to deal with it in this life it is such a thing such
6:45 adulterous uh relationship and the truth of the matter is that every sexual immorality is adultery every because
6:53 you're either sleeping with somebody who is the wife of somebody else or you're sleeping with somebody somebody who is
6:59 going to be the wife of somebody else so every is and God will avenge it okay so
7:05 it says that it's a terrible thing please separate yourself from such because if you defra a brother brother
7:12 sleep with somebody else's wife God is going to deal with you himself directly
7:17 verse 7even for God did not call us to uncleanness but to Holiness or in Holiness what's he talking about here is
7:24 talking about masturbation okay masturbation is uncleanness is sin it is
7:30 uncleanness and he's saying God did not call us to such a lifestyle God has called us to what called us in Holiness
7:37 therefore he who rejects this does not reject man but God who has given us his holy spirit why does he mention the Holy
7:44 Spirit here because when it comes to sexual sin the first I mean the first
7:49 thing that is Dishonored is our body and our body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit the Holy Spirit lives in our body
7:56 and so when we live in uncleanness when we live either in sexual morality or masturbation or all sorts we dishonoring
8:04 the Holy Spirit and the Holy Spirit is gried so we must know how to possess our
8:10 vessel in sanctification and on you must know it you must know it it's possible
8:17 that you may some of the Insight I will share here might not be what will even be helpful for you it may just be
8:22 something that you just get you must know it know your trigger points separate from them okay so before we go
8:28 on the first point of C that I've been trying to make over and over or which maybe you may have missed because I
8:35 didn't emphasize it enough is this the mustabation is a sin that's it plain and
8:40 simple it is a sin we're in a time when all kinds of psychologists have come out and they talked about the fact that
8:46 masturbation is good for your body is all kind of studies they continue to do that the truth of the matter is that
8:52 masturbation is a sin masturbation is having sex with yourself okay and it is
8:58 sinful it is is uncleanness all right and it must be repented of it must uh we
9:05 must do everything by the power of the Holy Spirit to overcome it okay like I said I'm doing this video because
9:12 because of counseling young people and being exposed to certain information as a pastor I've come to realize that it is
9:19 a masturbation is a stronghold a serious thing in our time and um it is just the
9:25 Bedrock of so much uh other sexual sins that people can lead on to okay so if you
9:32 deal with masturbation and you know how to possess your vessel in sanctification
9:37 and honor then you can be sure that uh by the mercies of God you begin to know
9:43 how to live and increase in true sanctification of life like we have seen
9:48 uh earlier that sanctification and handling the issue of sexual immorality
9:53 work hand in hand the more we are able to deal with our sexual passion the more
9:58 we increase in our sanctification and as I go on perhaps I should also mention this and
10:05 that is that the Christian the Christian when I talk about the Christian I'm talking about somebody who has been
10:12 genuinely Born Again born of the Holy Spirit okay uh perhaps I should even say
10:17 straight away that like I mentioned in my article that it is possible for you to be born again genuinely converted and
10:25 still be having challenges with masturbation and still be having challenges with um sexual sin it is
10:33 possible very very possible and that's the reason why I'm making the video that the Lord will give to us Grace to be
10:39 able to overcome every kind of sexual sin okay so let's note this that the
10:45 Christian has been delivered from the consequences of sin that's the blessing
10:51 of the cross a person who has been genuinely converted by the power of the
10:56 Holy Spirit has been delivered from the concept consquences of sin what is the
11:01 consequence of sin death what is death in its real form death is eternal
11:07 separation from God death is eternal destruction in Hell okay so as many who
11:14 are genuinely Born Again born by the spirit of God they will not go to hell
11:20 they have been delivered from the consequences of sin they have been
11:26 delivered from the consequences of sin the challenge however is that many have
11:32 not been delivered from the power of sin okay while they have been delivered from
11:37 the consequences of sin we have not been totally delivered from the power of sin
11:43 and we are going to use the rest of our Christian Life to be delivered from the
11:48 power of sin okay so uh it's the same way with what they call even the
11:54 masturbation if masturbation is sin then the Christian will not go to hell for for committing masturbation okay or even
12:03 any sexual sin that's the truth the true Christian would not however God calls
12:08 every true Christian to be delivered from the power of sin the power of masturbation and every other sexual uh
12:17 iniquity okay so it is the whole process of going from bondage to sin or bondage
12:23 from in the power of sin to Total Deliverance that we want to discuss about in this uh in this video okay the
12:31 Christian Life will consist of battle with sin that's it that's it um there
12:37 are people there are all kinds of theological perspective you know um the Deep alive people teach and the Holiness
12:43 movement wesan they teach that uh you actually get some kind of sanctification
12:48 or that two types of baptism in the Holy Spirit the first one gives you speaking in tongu the second one delivers you
12:54 from the power of sin okay fortunately or unfortunately I've not any of them
13:00 that has been delivered totally from the power of sin except they want to deceive themselves as long as we live on this
13:06 Earth we will sin that's what first uh John chap 1 verse 7-10 says we we we
13:12 will sin okay and God has made provision for the place of repentance and Faith so
13:18 the Christian Life will consist of fighting battle with sin battle with sin
13:25 so they are going to because it's battle in every word they are numbers of battle okay so there will be
13:32 times of Victory there will be times of losses okay so in the time when you have
13:37 victory over your sin you rejoice you give praises to the Lord at a time when
13:43 you lose the battle over your sin what do you do you repent and receive Grace
13:48 from the Holy Spirit to continue uh the battle another thing I want to note is that the Christian Life will require a
13:55 comprehension of Christ's victory over sin and death now when you read um the letters of Paul
14:02 the apostles his letters are usually divided into two the first part deals with what God has done for us through
14:09 Christ Jesus the second part deals with this subject sanctification so if Jesus
14:15 has done this for us then we should go on to serve the Lord in spirit all right
14:20 in this in Holiness and so on that's how usually his letters come so there is a
14:25 need many times for us to understand what Jesus Christ has done for the
14:31 Christian what has Jesus Christ done for the Christian ladies and gentlemen let me uh lead us into um a scripture is a
14:38 scripture that I pray every day using as an opportunity to bless the Lord okay

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14:44 it's something I call the blessedness of the Christian all right Paul the Apostle while talking about justification by
14:51 faith as God has given to Abraham he reads from Romans chap 4: 5 reads and I
14:58 quote but to him him who does not work but believes on him who justifies the ungodly his faith is accounted for
15:06 righteousness verse six just as David also describes the blessedness of the man to whom God imputes righteousness
15:14 apart from works so the blessing of justification by faith is that God is
15:20 able to give us righteousness besides whatever we do okay like I wrote in my
15:27 um article I said that my children catechism which is something all of us must learn okay and I'm always blessed
15:33 by it using the opportunity to learn it myself my children CM says that justification is God forgiving Sinners
15:40 and treating them as if they had never sinned that is what justification is
15:45 unfortunately we can't go into justification now all I want to talk about is what Christ has done for us
15:52 what has Christ done for us Christ has given Christian a true blessing a true
15:57 blessedness and that blessedness is what uh David wrote about in Psalm 32 which
16:03 Paul is reiterating now in Romans chapter 4 it reads and I quote verse 7
16:09 blessed are those whose Lawless days are forgiven all their Lawless days all their um what do they call it um
16:16 masturbation sexual sin everything every sin that a person who has been Justified
16:22 commits has been forgiven will be forgiven has been forgiven in the past is being forgiven right now will be
16:29 forgiven in the future and whose sins are covered I think this is even more blessed okay so I say something like
16:35 okay if it happens that the devil says this particular sin cannot be forgiven then you tell the devil that there are
16:42 sins that also can be covered so it's not just that the sins are forgiven God
16:47 also chooses to cover them and whose sins are covered and then lastly blessed
16:52 is the man to whom the Lord shall not impute sin so what is the scripture
16:58 saying he saying three kinds of blessed number one God forgives all B all sins he forgives all the sins of God's people
17:05 he forgives them because of Jesus Christ secondly if it happens that there's one
17:10 sin that is spoken out somewhere and that appears not to have been forgiven God will cover the sin thirdly if there
17:18 appears to be one sin somewhere that has not been covered that has not been forgiven that has not been covered the
17:23 Bible says God will choose not to use that sin against God's people why
17:29 because of what scripture says earlier on God gives us a righteousness besides
17:34 our works the righteousness of his holy son so it must always begin with what
17:40 Christ has done if we're going to talk about what the Christian is going to do if even if we're going to talk about
17:46 overcoming masturbation we must start always with what Christ has done so that
17:52 the Christian life becomes translating Christ's victory over sin to our own
17:59 victory over sin in this life that is what the Christian Life is translating
18:04 it what Jesus has done in full the 100% the Lord has Acquired and bringing it
18:10 into our own scores and then translating it into practical Christian Living
18:16 practical Holiness we are going to use the rest of our lives to do that amen
18:22 and I trust that by the mercies of God when we are facing death you know we can
18:29 have a confidence that by the grace of God Alone not by our works or our effort by the grace of God Alone we have grown
18:36 in Grace we have grown in sanctification of life amen so now we now come to the
18:43 main subject of our discussion how do we overcome masturbation how do you deal with this
18:50 thing practically number one I mentioned it before like to mention it at my first
18:56 point the first thing you want to do is that you want to separate yourself from your trigger points you want to separate
19:02 yourself from your trigger points and you're going to do some very practical things okay young people who probably
19:09 see themselves bound to this thing and want to be accountable may want to submit their phones their systems their
19:16 laptops to their parents and it is very very easy these days all you have to do is you there are there are some apps
19:23 that parents can have on their phones with which they can use to browse I mean check your own phone they will see
19:30 whatever you're doing on WhatsApp they will see whatever you're doing anything you're doing on your system and on your
19:35 phone they can see it and they can shut those things down and they can hold you accountable okay so for young people who
19:41 see themselves bound to this things they can submit themselves to such accountability okay another thing is
19:48 that you might want to also separate yourself from certain I mean if you're bound to um cuz one of the things that
19:56 triggers masturbation is uh watching X ated movies so if you're finding yourself watching this thing you want to
20:03 make yourself accountable to somebody and then you want to cut off yourself completely from certain website and
20:08 certain things that bring the triggers okay uh there are other triggers maybe
20:14 friends there are friends that you associate with and all they just talk about is sex and vulgarity and all of
20:20 that you may want to end such relationship bring it completely to an end okay if it is going out some
20:27 nightclubs and all you may want to separate yourself okay sanctification in itself in the Biblical word for
20:34 sanctification actually means separation you want to remove yourself from such things okay so there are trigger points
20:41 there are things that encourage sin there are things that encourage sexual sin in you you want to separate yourself
20:47 from them that's the very first thing okay and it might sometimes it might look like cutting off an arm or removing
20:55 an eye but Jesus has said that if we're going going to go to heaven we are going
21:00 to take those steps all right it's not something that God is going to do for us but the spirit of Jesus that is within
21:07 you right now is telling you this is what that man is talking about this is what I don't know what it is but you
21:13 know those particular things you must end your relationship with those things bring an end to them okay separate
21:20 yourself from your trigger points all right the second thing you want to do is you want to understand that sexual sins
21:27 like every other sin is actually a sin of the mind but I think it is even more in a sexual for sexual sin that's why
21:34 Jesus was saying that he that looks on a woman with lust in his eyes has already committed adultery with her in his heart
21:41 okay so Jesus is basically saying look this thing is a mind thing the war is in
21:46 the mind that is why our ministers or pastors who fall into sexual sins are
21:52 actually disciplined seriously because one they would expect that the minister would know better
21:59 that the minute he's beginning to cross certain boundaries he would know better and he will separate himself from it if
22:05 he cannot do that he can't handle the Pastoral office it's as simple as that in some other U Christian Traditions
22:12 they forgive their Pastors in reformed sets we sack the pastor there's no forgiveness the man will leave the pull
22:19 pit he will go and join the Pew he'll go and join the people in the Pew and become like any other person if you
22:25 cannot deal with sexual immorality then you don't have have any sanctification if you don't have any sanctification
22:31 there's no Holiness to pass to the congregation okay so it's a mind thing
22:37 all right you must understand that it's a mind thing so what do you do after you have separated yourself from your
22:42 trigger point the next thing is you want to engage your mind fruitfully
22:48 fruitfully 2 Samuel chapter 11 what happened to David David sent his men to
22:54 go and fight War he sat down at home Idol and before he knew it he began to
23:00 see somebody else's wife bathing on the on the roof if David was engaging
23:05 himself in Warfare and he was directing his men on the field of battle his mind
23:10 would not have been running to another person's wife it's as simple as that engage your mind fruitfully so that
23:18 means study for those of you who are student engage get into your studies
23:24 read make sure that you do not waste your time with frivolous things move movies uh phone website all those things
23:32 separate yourself from them study get your mind working fruitfully okay for
23:39 those who are working get into fruitful work do something work with your hands
23:44 write an article uh that I'm talking about the things that I do easily write an article
23:50 write a book do a research pursue some um higher Noble tasks get your mind
23:57 working okay another I I do is I get I enter into debate how in fact some people
24:05 wonder wonder why I get into so much debate is because I'm trying to get my mind working and getting my mind off
24:10 certain things that rubbish that I filled my mind off with when I was in the
24:16 world okay so I try as much as possible to get my mind working get your mind
24:22 working let it be fruitful get your mind working on something that is healthy
24:27 that is that is is fruitful that will benefit Society get your mind
24:34 working that's the anst says that the the idol mind the idol hand is a devil's
24:40 workshop it's same thing the idol mind is a devil's Center you come and all start whispering all kinds of demonic
24:46 things into your mind you start carrying them out okay now when you have dealt with your trigger points and you're
24:52 exercising your mind fruitfully an exercise of mind fruitfully doing that fruitfully will
25:00 lead you to begin to do fruitful work and anybody who is doing fruitful
25:05 genuine successful work will begin to earn money it's as simple as that anybody who's using his mind well will
25:13 begin to become productive and then he will begin to earn money when you begin to have money in your hand get married
25:21 get married because no matter how much you separate yourself from your trigger points or no matter how much you engage
25:27 your mind you still have a body that God has given to you for
25:33 procreation when you see a woman your body will stand men will wake up in the
25:38 I mean early in the morning and they ... I don't know whether I should add this into the video but their
25:44 something will stand it's it's the way God designed it. You know when my young
25:49 my son was growing on one of the ways my mother my wife and I wanted to know whether he was a healthy boy was when he
25:54 wakes up in the morning does is his uh penis strong that's that's a healthy man
26:00 wakes up with a strong with an erection that's that's how God designed
26:05 us it can't be you can't you can't I mean it's not something you can run away
26:11 from all right and when a person has his sexual hormones raging that way he has
26:18 he must find a way of channeling it and the way God designed it is get married
26:24 get married legally and come together with a woman a man comes together with a woman a
26:31 woman comes together with a man not same seex marriage but man and woman marriage
26:39 one monogamous marriage not polygamy one man one woman one marriage enough for a
26:49 lifetime okay get married and find your fulfillment in your spouse there are
26:55 certain things prayers and fasting will never take away it won't take away your sexual urges it won't it will be there
27:00 forever TI Li Li God put it there okay so God who put it there wants it
27:06 controlled you know know how to possess your vessel in sanctification or he wants it controlled not for it to be
27:13 removed completely all right so not all of us are going to be Uno I've not even seen a Uno anywhere in my life before
27:21 most people that I see have sexual passions and the sexual passions have to be controlled so do not forget that we
27:29 are in the poor period in my discussion where I'm talking about translating the done work of Jesus Christ to the work
27:36 that we must do ourselves there's something Jesus has done totally he has
27:41 delivered us from the power of sin he has saved us from sin our sin is not going to damn us but the Lord wants what
27:48 he has done perfectly to be translated to our life through growth in Grace
27:54 growth in sanctification all right so as you doing all of this as you separating yourself
28:01 from your trigger point engaging your mind fruitfully and you get married one thing you want must do not just with
28:08 masturbation or any other sexual sin but every other sin you have to be patient with yourself okay you have to learn to
28:15 forgive yourself when you fail you have to be patient you try again repentance and Faith you try again it's nobody's
28:21 asking you to go to a reverend father and confess your sexual sins to them no what they asking you to do is if you
28:28 you're truly possessed of the spirit of God when you commit sin you will have true Contrition you'll be able to repent
28:35 and you'll be able to stand up again and try again and you try again and you try again until you gain Victory and someday
28:42 you'll gain Victory you look back and you realize that ah so this was how I used to be of course you now go on to
28:49 help other people who are having those struggles I hear so many people who get
28:54 into sexual sins and rather than admit to their failures they begin to make excuses uh some of them even blame other
29:01 people some of them try to you know change the subject and push the excuse
29:07 to other people such people are not they are not even born again that's the truth of the matter okay if you have failed
29:14 sexually you should simply repent before the Lord there will be consequences for
29:20 your for your sin and when those consequences come face them gently
29:26 honorably as a Christian admit you failed okay and you're sorry about it

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by NNTR: 10:04pm On Jul 06
29:31 don't cover your sins and don't join other people to cover their sins all right so so that is that many years ago
29:40 uh when I was learning this I was a new Christian I was learning some of this things dealing with my sexual passions
29:46 and all of that I was in the University then that's over 20 years ago I came across um a write up by selin Hughes and
29:55 selin Hughes said this he said that that sin in a Christian is like the dying
30:02 kick of a dead man he said it is like the dying kick of a dead man now uh if
30:09 you have ever killed a chicken before you would understand what selin Hughes is talking about the minute the neck is
30:15 cut off and the wind pipe are cut off and you carry the chicken and you put it in the bucket to remove the feathers
30:21 with hot water most of the time you see that the kick the leg is still kicking it's still kicking you know sometimes if
30:28 you do not cut the neck very well the chicken will get up and start running until it grains out of blood completely
30:34 and then it dies okay this is what this is what sin is in Christians sin is the
30:41 dying kick of a dead man that's the truth sin is dying the only thing of
30:49 cost is we want it to die quickly so when you fall into sin realize that the
30:56 Lord has won the victory over Satan over the world over your sins but the Lord
31:03 wants it translated into your life the Lord wants you to gain total victory
31:08 over sin the Lord wants that kicking dead man to be dead completely and it is
31:15 very very possible all right it is the reason why there is such a thing as the Pastoral Ministry I open my article by
31:22 talking about a scripture uh let me let me refer us to that scriptures in Hebrew
31:29 chapter 5 verse uh one start reading from verse one for every high priest taken from
31:36 among men is appointed for men in things pertaining to God that he may offer both
31:41 gifts and sacrifice for sin verse two he can have compassion on those who are
31:46 ignorant and are going astray since he himself is also subject to weakness because of this he's required as for the
31:54 people so also for himself to offer sacrifices for sin and no man take no man takes this honor to himself but he
32:01 who is called by God just as Aaron what is the scripture saying is saying that
32:06 there's something that happens in the levitical priesthood uh whole sacrificial process what happens is that
32:12 the um the priest brings the when it comes to sacrificing for the people the
32:18 first thing he does he makes sacrifices for his own sins first he sacrifices for
32:25 his own sin now when he has been absorved and the Lord has forgiven his own sin then he ministers to God's
32:33 people he makes sacrifices for the sins of God's people that process has not
32:38 changed our God is the Lord Jesus Christ he has given to us the Pastoral minist
32:45 the pastor is a person who has applied the benefits of Christ's death and
32:51 Resurrection to his life first his own sins have been forgiven he knows how to
32:56 go to God to find peace with God through Jesus Christ as he does that he's able
33:02 to minister to God's people so my prayer is that as you're dealing with this
33:08 issue may the Lord grant you pastors may the Lord give us pastors because I hear
33:13 of so many things that go on in churches and it is extremely sad pastors get
33:19 information about people about people's weaknesses about their past about their sins and then
33:25 begin to use it against them in fact they begin to even tell people about it everybody in church gets to
33:31 know about it it is a very sad thing and I pray that if there are pastors who are
33:36 doing this and are watching it that that the Lord will grant you repentance because I mean it is there I do not
33:42 think there's anything worse than that you are custodian of people's
33:48 information not to use it against them but to use it to help them the same Sal
33:54 Hughes in some recent studies I'm having with my children was talking about the fact that Jesus sees us in two ways
34:00 first of all the way we are and the way we are going to be that is the way the pastor must see the pastor must see the
34:07 people he pastors the way they are the the sins they are battling with and then
34:12 he must be able to see what they can become all right so we there is no other
34:18 person that should be more patient with people than pastors okay and we must be able to help people to realize that
34:24 their sins have been forgiven in Christ Jesus and then we must be able to translate that whole Beauty Panorama
34:32 into practical Christian Living there are two types of Holiness that I see in
34:38 scripture it's either a phical kind of Holiness or true Holiness from the Lord
34:43 Jesus Christ if you're somebody who have gained Mastery over sin through phism
34:49 through self-will through uh self-denial and so many by your own physical
34:56 strength at the end of the day you will have a certain pride of your success and
35:02 you will look down on others if you're somebody who have found victory over sin
35:08 by the grace of God Alone by sinning and coming to the Lord for forgiveness and
35:14 experiencing cleansing over Years you'll be able to minister to other people
35:19 because you know that what you have is not of yourself but it has been given to
35:24 you and then you pray that the Lord does the same to other people also so masturbation in
35:30 a Christian is a sin but it is it is a sin that would not damn you however the
35:36 Lord wants you to have Mastery over it how do you do it number one stay away
35:41 from your trigger points number two walk on your mind get your mind to be fruitful number three get married get
35:48 married and as you're doing all of the be patient with yourself find a local church find a pastor to watch over you
35:55 to be accountable to and the Lord himself will help you and I trust that
36:00 it doesn't matter that sexual sin it doesn't matter the Lord who has said
36:06 that he has given us sanctification and he has called us to possess our vessels
36:11 in sexual uh Purity He will grant you that Grace to increase in sanctification
36:17 as dictated over your victory over every sexual sin that you have whether it is
36:24 masturbation or any kind the Lord himself will do it I want to thank you very much for watching my video my name
36:31 is xxxx xxxxxxx Pastor Providence Reformed Baptist Church here in the city of Ibadan
36:37 if you want to get to know more about what we do send me an email at newx at
36:44 gmail.com okay please uh share uh my video with uh other people and by all
36:50 means subscribe to my channel thank you very much for watching
36:55 [Music]
37:10 [Music]
37:26 oh oh

Personal text: Jesus is not a theologian. He is God who told stories.

Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Chijeep(m): 10:45am On Jul 07
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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by diamond68: 10:45am On Jul 07
shocked
Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Imoksp(m): 10:46am On Jul 07
So?
Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by geoworldedu: 10:47am On Jul 07
To overcome masturbation, you need self disciple and also see psychologist. Any other thing is secondary. Religion is not the answer to this.

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by tiswell(m): 10:49am On Jul 07
There's an evil spirit behind masturbation,and it is very very addictive

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by judedwriter(m): 10:49am On Jul 07
Masturbation is something I have struggled with for years, until I realized that there are very wicked spiritual forces behind it.

Jesus said,

''This kind goes out by nothing but prayer and fasting.'

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Epistasis(m): 10:49am On Jul 07
Very valid, sir
Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by umpire1st(m): 10:49am On Jul 07
Religion has done more harm than good to Africa

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Passionate888: 10:49am On Jul 07
cool shocked
Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Passionate888: 10:50am On Jul 07
Samutrd2:
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Fake. Where's the winning code?
Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Curious345: 10:50am On Jul 07
Lovely piece .

In North Korea , watching porn or x-rated movies attract death penalty by MACHINE GUN..

here in Nigeria 8 out of every 10 lady/woman (age 14yrs -40yrs) have a minimum of 900mb worth of porn videos and pictures on their phone and laptop Rom & SSD..

Nigerian is not only a crime scene,but it's a sex city

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by veekid(m): 10:52am On Jul 07

Do your shit but don't ever get caught.

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Dhamio(m): 10:52am On Jul 07
cheesy sad tongue cool
Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by ThinkSmarter: 10:55am On Jul 07
Masturbation is good when done in moderation.
it is a biological urge.
If i should stay a week to 2weeks without sex or masturbation.
I will start having unecessary erection at the sight of a round ass.
Frequent masturbation leads to depletion of the body's energy and it will lead to weakened immunity which results to sickness.
Not releasing semen for a long time will lead to high cortisol, risk of prostate cancer, aggressiveness due to high testosterone.

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Denalarian: 10:56am On Jul 07
cool As a urologist, frequent ejaculations can protect a man by flushing away disease buildup in the semen. I'm not misleading anyone, but what's good is good and what's bad is bad. What I see wrong in mastubation is the religious aspect and danger to the ego and self-esteem if and when not controlled. I'm a religious person and I won't say it's good, but frequent ejaculations are good for a man's health yound and old, married or not. The pastor hasn't seen a urologist of last cos if he has, 80% are of patients have prostrate issues.

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Imoksp(m): 11:01am On Jul 07
ThinkSmarter:
Masturbation is good when done in moderation.
it is a biological urge.
If i should stay a week to 2weeks without sex or masturbation.
I will start having unecessary erection at the sight of a round ass.

Well said. Tell me more please. LoL 🤣
Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Nahunger(m): 11:01am On Jul 07
Omo
This one long oo

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by allen113: 11:02am On Jul 07
Can't you just summarise this ur epistle

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Curious345: 11:03am On Jul 07
ThinkSmarter:
Masturbation is good when done in moderation.
it is a biological urge.
If i should stay a week to 2weeks without sex or masturbation.
I will start having unecessary erection at the sight of a round ass.

I beg you in the name of bulaba , please quit masturbation ASAP.
Only cowards masturbates

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Imoksp(m): 11:04am On Jul 07
This will help you overcome any problem including masturbation

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by SlavaUkraini: 11:05am On Jul 07
All these long write up because of simple hand job ?

Una nor really get work

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Re: Overcoming Masturbation By Deji Yesufu by Imoksp(m): 11:05am On Jul 07
Contact me for a copy. T and C applies

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