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Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by God1000(m): 5:34pm On Jul 07
A 30year old man who is in love with a 46year old woman says they met in a supermarket and have been inseparable since then. My woman has 3children from her previous relationship and when we met she had told me that her ex-husband and her simply co-parent. Nothing more.

She was glad her children liked me when we were introduced to one another about a year ago when we started dating. However, recently, her ex-husband has been pushing for more and this has been stressing my woman out as she says she has moved on. Her children now act strangely towards me and would rather go spend more time at their dad’s. This has become concerning for her as she says does not want to lose the bond she has with her children who are just 14,12 and 9 years old.

Our parents know about our relationship and are in support even though my mother has always been vocal about her worry that my woman is way richer and that she won’t be able to give her grandchildren if I decide to marry her. I am thinking of proposing to her just to prove my utmost commitment. I told her kids about this. Few day after, my girlfriend told me the kids said she should choose between me and them.

How would children that young come up with such ultimatum? I know my woman loves me but she does not joke with her children as well. How do I win this fight? How do I win their hearts? How do I not lose my woman. Should I just propose without the children’s approval? What do I do? Please advise me.

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by God1000(m): 5:34pm On Jul 07
This guy is a gold digger setting himself up for serious heartbreak, he's feeling loved in an uncomfortable environment.

He doesn't even know what made the woman to separate from her ex-husband, one thing I know is that a woman would always choose her children over any other thing, he should quit the relationship before it's too late

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by immortalcrown(m): 5:37pm On Jul 07
However, recently, her ex-husband has been pushing for more...
The ex husband is pushing for more in what sense? The meaning of "more" in this case determines what you should do. Una go leave out important details, still expect effective counselling.

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Does the more mean the custody of the children? If this is the case, the woman is just looking for an excuse to discourage you because she does not want marriage with you. As a matter of fact, the alleged opinion of the children is not that they want to go back to their father. Their alleged opinion is that their mother should choose between them and you. Think about it.

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Does the more mean a reunion between him and the woman? If this is the case and the woman is now presenting her children's alleged opinion to you, the woman still has feelings for the ex husband and will likely cheat with him in future whether you leave her or marry her. And if what the ex husband wants is a reunion between him and the woman, your life is in danger if you continue your affair with the woman. Again, think about the fact that the children do not ask her to choose between you and their father. Since the children, according to your post, are not concerned about their father, why would she take their opinion seriously in this matter?

The opinion of the children is inconsequential here because their mother has the natural power to manipulate or convince them to be on your side. Whether the mother will be willing to do this or not depends on the meaning of the "more" that the husband is pushing for.

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Sonnobax15(m): 5:37pm On Jul 07
lipsrsealed
The moment I saw--" she's richer" I knew this guy has a plan undecided.


Werey even said he loves her cheesy. Why won't you love her when she has got money ? cheesy. For you to be jealous that the kids are even spending more time with their dad instead of you means you're loser and and a fvcking opportunist angry

Well, there's no way she's gonna choose you(an outsider) over her kids undecided Nigha better start fooling around and accept his fate......Cuz the bond between momsy and her kids is most times inseparable.......

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by muyico(m): 5:40pm On Jul 07
Shey dose kidz stupid nih? Dey didnt want make they mama enjoys life nih? Lack of s?x can cause depression

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by immortalcrown(m): 5:49pm On Jul 07
muyico:
Shey dose kidz stupid nih? Dey didnt want make they mama enjoys life nih? Lack of s?x can cause depression
Who told you she can't get sex while following the kids' wish?

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by finallybusy: 6:08pm On Jul 07
They’ve come with lies again.

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Risingblue008(m): 6:38pm On Jul 07
See,guy man

U never tell us the truth

Tell the forum,its nothing

grin grin grin

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by ThinkSmarter: 6:38pm On Jul 07
It appears to be true that women's libido peaks in their late 30s to 40s.
Then, their clitor1s might have grown double to what it used to be in their 20s.
Then they turn to predators looking for younger men with sexual stamina.
My advice to men is to learn how to fvck and take care of ur health/sexually health, especially in ur 50s and 60s.
Don't get pot belly as a man, it causes ED
Meanwhile, women are loyal to the men that gives them orgasm.
And if you are a man and ur wife uses smartphone, wears leggings and fixes eye lashes/makeup, there is a high tendency that she will cheat or she is already doing it.
Especially if she starts being disrespectful to you.
And to the 30year old man that is obsessed with the pvssy of a 46yr old woman and even going to the lenght of proposing marriage to her.
You are likely a lazy gigolo that have only looks and dick to offer.
How u dey do face when sucking a breast sucked by grown up kids in their teens?
Maybe 4 u, breast na breast. #lol
Agafuu!

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by MaxBee2050(m): 6:39pm On Jul 07
No be small tin I swear ..
It's their usual lies.. in 2baba's voice, e be like say Dem wan tell us another story again..

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by lexy2014: 6:40pm On Jul 07

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Anguldi(m): 6:40pm On Jul 07
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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by GVTAsiwaju(m): 6:42pm On Jul 07
Mr. Gigolo, go and work

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Faber(m): 6:43pm On Jul 07
Depart from that family, you have serviced her enough and you have been used by the woman to cure konji and heartbreak from her ex-husband...

They are now coming back together, leave now while you are alive or you leave in a body bag

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Gadafii: 6:44pm On Jul 07
Wetin join that woman and her babies daddy is stronger that what ever you think you can offer.

It's just a matter of time before she succumb to the pressure of her BD and her children, by then you might have invested a lot emotionally, financially and psychologically into her, you might like be at a loss I the long run

Her children would never regard you, as long as their father is still alive, the man still have high chances of bedding her no matter how she claim she has moved on, okafors law is very strong

My advise for you

Leave her alone and go start afresh with a lady with no baby daddy baggage

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Primusinterpares(m): 6:44pm On Jul 07
When you see single mothers... Run oooo.
Don't commit yourself o. It always has repercussions.

Because very soon you go soon see wetin pursue the first man.

The baby daddy will always have his way to her anytime any day.

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by themanderon: 6:45pm On Jul 07

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Eriokanmi: 6:47pm On Jul 07
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
The moment I saw--" she's richer" I knew this guy has a plan undecided.


Werey even said he loves her cheesy. Why won't you love her when she has got money ? cheesy. For you to be jealous that the kids are even spending more time with their dad instead of you means you're loser and and a fvcking opportunist angry

Well, there's no way she's gonna choose you(an outsider) over her kids undecided Nigha better start fooling around and accept his fate......Cuz the bond between momsy and her kids is most times inseparable.......
Looks more of a gold digger to me. He should just go look for his mate, if the story is true anyway

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Hakeem66: 6:48pm On Jul 07
Gold digger

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by firearcher: 6:48pm On Jul 07

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Jamie248: 6:49pm On Jul 07
Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by segebobo: 6:50pm On Jul 07
Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Tightpussy2024(f): 6:51pm On Jul 07
The intent of this thread is to bash SM. Its a fictitious tale. So that men will get the opportunity to insult them.

But then again why cant kids let their mothers be?

They will be the ones telling her to give them boundaries when they grow and get married

Typically with boys, they will never allow you date and will frown if you give any man your number. Then want you only for themselves .

Letter when they leave you to meet their spouses they will be complaining you are too attached.

Drop the kid off with to their father or your parents and enjoy your life .

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Tightpussy2024(f): 6:56pm On Jul 07
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
The moment I saw--" she's richer" I knew this guy has a plan undecided.


Werey even said he loves her cheesy. Why won't you love her when she has got money ? cheesy. For you to be jealous that the kids are even spending more time with their dad instead of you means you're loser and and a fvcking opportunist angry

Well, there's no way she's gonna choose you(an outsider) over her kids undecided Nigha better start fooling around and accept his fate...... cuz the bond between momsy and her kids is most times inseparable .......
but women are hiding their kids and dropping them with relatives...
Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Kenmatt(m): 6:57pm On Jul 07
I don't even know I have started typing.

I don't like commenting on this frivolous thread.

Let's assume the story is true, you're calling a woman that has three grown Children and their father is Hale and hearty your woman, that you love her.

No wonder someone said you're a gold digger.

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Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by IamHonourable1: 6:58pm On Jul 07
You gonna soon learn in a hard way when it's too late.
Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by Cousin9999: 6:59pm On Jul 07
He needs to accept that he cannot have a serious relationship with this woman. He's way too young. And she's probably still involved with the children's father.
Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by ElevationD: 6:59pm On Jul 07
Wahala dey!
Re: Kids Of 46-year-old Lady Ask Her To Choose Between Them And Her 30-year-old Boyf by atobs4real(m): 7:00pm On Jul 07
They know what is good for the mother.

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