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Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by UpTown001(m): 7:11am On Jul 30 |
Mynd44:What happened to sport betting? Did u create any job? Oh just because u have 10mb , doesn't mean u talk anyhow |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by NurseJay: 7:12am On Jul 30 |
[quote author=Diamond1605 post=131217011][/quote] When he eventually infects you with an incurable disease that will end his life and yours, leaving your kids orphans, I hope you'll be able to forgive yourself. Keep making excuses for a man who isn't ready to save himself. You can pray for and love him from a distance. Give him space while he fights his battle. You can't help him. |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Captaincool1(m): 7:13am On Jul 30 |
Tokskob2008: That's the best advise I have seen from all comments. Continue to stay as we are staying on the mandate of Tinubu |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Abimbola29(m): 7:14am On Jul 30 |
Colos is very addictive, hardly he can stop taking it.why not talk to any elder members if his family,let them take him to rehab! |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by DrAda(f): 7:14am On Jul 30 |
"My husband is a good man, he cares for me and the kids"... I understand the need to marry the positive and negative in any narrative, it can be quite potent as it aims to strike a balanced perspective. However, in your case, I fail to understand how your husband actually cares for you and your kids with these mountain of challenges. Nonetheless, I implore you to please try not to lose yourself while trying to change him. You are the responsible adult now, and while waiting for him to change, it's crucial that you focus on developing yourself to genuinely care for yourself and the kids. Hopefully you will get the results that you seek in the nearest future but for now, prioritize yourself and the children. Cheers 3 Likes |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by liverpudian9(m): 7:15am On Jul 30 |
Just leave this marriage forget it he will not change he remain like that forever move on the drug and cheating part will hurt u and it children continuously,just leave the relationship |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by 0taPiaPia(m): 7:15am On Jul 30 |
If you be my sister ehhh.. all the training your family gave to you and you had to settle for nonsense...... Chei 1 Like |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by mikendie(m): 7:15am On Jul 30 |
On him smoking, stop complaining and if you have money, help him buy the stuff he smokes. Keep reminding him to smoke whenever you notice he has not smoked. Choke him with what he loves doing until he's confused on your stands and eventually gets tired of the act. On him cheating is a more serious issue and my advice to you is to advise him to always wear his condoms for your sake and the children because you say he loves you. Any man who hits his partner has no regard for such partner. Avoid the things you do that makes him hit you at all cost. Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Ivegotsolutions(m): 7:18am On Jul 30 |
Wait till he infect you with HiV or stab you to death. |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Kukutente23: 7:20am On Jul 30 |
Mynd44:What's wrong with sports betting? |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Houseontherock1: 7:20am On Jul 30 |
Hmm..a good man won't beat his wife; a caring man who loves his wife and kids won't cheat on his wife. He's none of those attributes. Your husband is not responsible...the ball is in your court... 1 Like |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Difrent: 7:20am On Jul 30 |
[quote author=Diamond1605 post=131217011][/quote] It's Obvious you didn't know him too well before marrying him, if I may ask how long did you court before getting married? |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Olaolex: 7:21am On Jul 30 |
Kobojunkiee:She came here for solution. If you have one, spill it out and stop asking unrelated questions. You can see she is confused, frustrated and fed up yet all you could render is insult-like questions. 3 Likes |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Adetheprince01: 7:21am On Jul 30 |
This sounds like someone I know in Magboro. Does his name start with A and surname with A too? My advice is to just pray that God preserves him at his turning point. This is because one day, what he does will put him in great danger and might almost take his life. Just pray that he survives it. That would be his turning point and after then you guys will be fine. . Only God can do this. [quote author=Diamond1605 post=131217011][/quote] |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by ProphetofOdin: 7:22am On Jul 30 |
He uses drugs and beats you up? Madam, you and your kids are not safe, find away and stay far away from that man until he sort himself out. "na person wey dey alive dey marry" |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Kukutente23: 7:22am On Jul 30 |
AntiChristian:I don't get Alfa I thought Islam allows one to beat his wife He's also allowed to marry another, even a 10 year old so what's your issue with what's on ground The man seems like a good Muslim IMO |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Starhearts: 7:22am On Jul 30 |
DiamondJLove: Who knack u hammer 🔨 4 head |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by victorazy(m): 7:22am On Jul 30 |
Augustine2244: And you'll come and marry her. |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Ezennia101(m): 7:23am On Jul 30 |
I know a man who can help you and he can do all things, you have to learn how to pray and cry to God. Try praying by 3am for 7days with fasting and make use of psalm 51,28,126&127. God will surely help you Amen. 1 Like |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by danhans(m): 7:24am On Jul 30 |
Pls be patient and be calm,don't quarell or fight him,talk to him politely.I am a man and most men don't like being challenged for any reason,so spend more time with him,try to know why he is taking drugs, talk things out,then watch and pray believing God for speedy answers 1 Like |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Aristoworld: 7:25am On Jul 30 |
If you've got the resources, change location. Move to another country, where both of you are likely to start all over again. His thinking would change and he would seriously engaged and occupied by a new circumstance in a new environment totally different from where he's coming from. Change of location would impact his change of thinking/orientation. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by thesolutions(m): 7:25am On Jul 30 |
Diamond1605:For some guys, it is fun cheating. If that is not the case with your husband, someone, probably your friend, has convinced him that you are not what he think you are. Good men sometimes find it difficult to talk to their spouses about a perceived truth they learn about them because denial and emotional blackmail might be all they will receive. So they often go to the extreme of doing things they won't do ordinarily hoping their spouse would come out plain and confess. But that rarely happens. So they loose themselves in the new found illicit act when it lingers and becomes a habit. |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Starhearts: 7:25am On Jul 30 |
Diamond1605: U re good woman ... Am on kneel begging u, with time he will change ... Pls nd pls don't leave him ooo.. be in good talking time with him |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by MrBroke(m): 7:25am On Jul 30 |
Sorry for your loss Dear |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Olaolex: 7:25am On Jul 30 |
Difrent:Honestly, this questions are needless. She needs solution to her predicament now. She wants to know how to manage and make her cross lighter. 2 Likes |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by iLoveYouToo(m): 7:26am On Jul 30 |
After reading the second paragraph , I went back to read the first two lines, that’s when I realized OP is not serious. You reiterated that your husband is a good man. Please what are the qualities of a bad man? When you see black and keep calling it white the problem is WITHIN YOU 2 Likes |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by malvisguy212: 7:26am On Jul 30 |
Diamond1605:he beat you and you still address him as a good man who takes care of his kids,? I don't know what to call you. you are just senseless, 1 Like |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by lamentor78(m): 7:27am On Jul 30 |
[quote author=Diamond1605 post=131217011][/quote] I believe there is something you are not telling us. Are you saying you did not notice all these signs before you marry or you choose to ignore it. Sometimes men that stumble on money after they marry want to explore what they couldn't do when they were broke. Until he is satisfied before he stop. |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Steveagro: 7:29am On Jul 30 |
Your story doesn't add up madam, Except you're straining him with responsibilities he cannot handle, or Maybe you did something or are doing something he is yet to get over or you're a manipulative individual like my ex I don't see why a man's toxic traits are popping up and you're saying he is a good man. Does your husband think you're a good woman too?, does he make enough money to cater for the needs of his family comfortably? Are you in the school of thought of women who believe their husbands adopted them at marriage and should be working class dependents not minding if he can meet up or not? What exactly does the Nigga complain of about you? Abeg you guys should just carry out a thorough risk assessment individually and as a team and know what is troubling you two coz na two of una get problems then decide on the next step |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Aristoworld: 7:30am On Jul 30 |
If you've got the resources, change location for all of you including. Move him and your children to another country, where both of you are likely to start all over again. His thinking would change and he would seriously engaged and occupied by a new circumstance in a new environment totally different from where he's coming from. Change of location would impact his change of thinking/orientation. |
Re: I Thought I Could Change Him To Be A Better Man by Edusouls(m): 7:30am On Jul 30 |
Women master deceptors and excellent liars, they never tell you the bad ones they did to their husband but only their husbands bad behavior towards them you don nag craze enter ur husband head pushing him into drugs, living with Gods faulty creation called women na military training I swear, men Don see hell in this life in the next life we would live in a different world 1 Like |
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