Good day my lovely people, it always good to share life with you people here. Pls I need to ask, what is the advantage and disadvantage of living together with your girlfriend under the same roof. My girlfriend had an accommodations problem, her friend they stay together kick her out for no just reason, she wanted to get an apartment and the money she was ask to bring was quite much 250k, I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
1... I want to get to know her better cos I believe when you live with someone in the same space, that's when you get to know them better, I was once married and have learnt a lot on how ladies pretend in dating but show their true color in marriage, atleast I want to know her well before making another serious commitment of marriage.
2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.
3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.
To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Now my question is to those that have been in this situation of living together with a girlfriend you are yet to marry, how did this affect the relationship afterwards. Pls share your experience be it negative or positive, I really want to learn from others to see if I can proceed on this or just abort mission by not allowing her to stay any longer. Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now.. pls help me to navigate this scenario

To put my mouth for people relationship these days don tire me I swear but lemme just talk small here

Bros op,since you said you were once married,at least you don suppose get experience from your past relationship/marriage na.....

Personally,the last time my banny came to spend some time with me,I was totally fed up ...it was at that juncture I asked myself if I was really ready to accept someone's daughter into my life in form of marriage,cuz e no easy to cohabitate with banny for house..... Especially the one wey you never marry and she come still belong to the set of bannies of this generation ....... Honestly, expect drama upon drama.... cuz how you go feel when she receives calls from other guys? . After all,you never weld ring for her finger .

Tbh, expect the unexpectable bro..

I support any decision you take with one LOUD for this cold weather.

Afodot0022:
Good day my lovely people, it always good to share life with you people here. Pls I need to ask, what is the advantage and disadvantage of living together with your girlfriend under the same roof. My girlfriend had an accommodations problem, her friend they stay together kick her out for no just reason, she wanted to get an apartment and the money she was ask to bring was quite much 250k, I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
1... I want to get to know her better cos I believe when you live with someone in the same space, that's when you get to know them better, I was once married and have learnt a lot on how ladies pretend in dating but show their true color in marriage, atleast I want to know her well before making another serious commitment of marriage.
2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.
3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.
To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Now my question is to those that have been in this situation of living together with a girlfriend you are yet to marry, how did this affect the relationship afterwards. Pls share your experience be it negative or positive, I really want to learn from others to see if I can proceed on this or just abort mission by not allowing her to stay any longer. Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now.. pls help me to navigate this scenario

The roomates didnt kick her out like she said......... but let me not cast the recent update of these girls....

Why not meet her parents first..... to declare your intentions

why not do a court wedding first if your intentions are PURE and not just for SEX and using her as a MAID.

then she may use pregnancy or something else to tie you down. BE CAREFUL....


Living together means you will notice bad characters in her, unrestricted sex before marriage and many more..... lol dont deceive yourself man, you justt want to USE HER, you are not ready to commit.


Be honest with yourself.... you already know what you want to do.

Don't ever cohabit with your girlfriend when you're not financially bouyant that's a serious financial suicide.

You want to use your hands and cut your dreams short.

WARNING⛔ Abort!! Abort!!

No. 2.

Dude's about to be VAWULENTLY jerked awake from his pipe dreams.

It usually don't end well. You get too familiarize which can either strengthen your bond or break it. The latter is usually the case as you guys won't have any privacy at all. And if one of you is either jealous or possessive, omo una go dey fight almost everyday. I have been there. The only advantage for me was the sex. I had sex almost everyday. Sometimes 3-5 times a day but no be everything be sex, so think about this carefully bro

Living wit her is a good idea,so that u get to knw her more,,am staying wit my boyfrnd too,cuz i had an accomodation problem,,itz nt a big deal at all,i wash his cloths,cook,keep his house clean,i dnt keep frnds too,am working and saving to get my plc,bt sometimes i do assist him wit some bills,,itz nt until u tell her that she should share bills wit u,,jst watch and notice if she wil do it by herslf by getting dos thngs she cn afford once in a while,,support in terms of cooking once in a while,witout u asking,datz hw u wil knw if she wil b a supportive wife......my boyfrnd once bought me a watch as a supprise gift,and told me dat,,he got me d watch bcuz i do support wit bills at times,dat he has being watching me,i was at d top of his expectation,he was happy...u dnt need to tell her,jst watch her first,if she dosnt,then u can tell her wat u v byn expectin frm her since she is working

Discuss out the bills sharing with her first let's know her response.

After 2 months of steady knackin and widening there, you'll get tired, look for one silly fault from her and dump her for one innocent man.
Just start saving up for pampers sha in case...

So you want us to tell you to drive her out or encourage you to continue in this iniquity you just narrated? You claimed you are divorced, this your story if true means you didn't learn anything from your first debacle.
BTW God hates divorce.
Anyone who is not in denial will know that living with a woman or man with the excuse of trying to figure out what they are doesn't work.
My advice to you is first, stop fornicating, God hates it, if you die while you are fucking a woman who is not your wife, what will you tell God when you face him on the judgement day? Go back to your wife and try to sort things out.
Because based on what I think of your story here, if you end up marrying this one, you will also divorce her and come back here one day with another woman to ask our advice again.
You be great man, you just divorced your wife and come here to boast of disvirgining more girls, well done, we dey clap for you.
Nonsense

Not a wise decison if you asked me. Living with you means more sex and It is possible she might get pregnant when you are not yet ready for marriage. Even though she is working and earning a decent income, once she moves in, she will never want to spend her money again.

Why is it hard to cook, clean, and take care of yourself? I honestly do not get it.

@op FYI if you think she go help you with some bills bro you goofed.... I may be wrong tho but........

Please don't.

Not advisable. This may sound harsh but better not to start something you can't finish. If you can assist her financially, do instead of accommodating her

She should go and stay with her relatives.

Cc Afodot0022

before she moves in with you, pls...
1) figure out what is the full details of why she fell apart with her friends in her old apt (not just her side of the story)
2) understand that being together as bf/gf and living together is a whole new ballgame. have you ever seen her without makeup and wig etc? do you know her character? is she a clean person? etc
3) if you really wanted to live with this babe, then why wait now that she is in this situation to do so? why didnt you ask her to move in with you before?
4) before she moves in, makes sure you make it very clear to her exactly what you want her to do (if/when she moves in) and what you want her to pay for.
5) if you expect her to be a replacement for your wife, then PLS marry her then. this woman is not your wife, and therefore as much as she may help a lot in the house, she is not obligated to do any wifey stuff. if you want someone to fulfill that void in your life then find a WIFE... not a gf.
7) as much as this could be a beautiful experience, it could be a nightmare that you will have difficulties getting rid of. beware!

i suggest you ask her to come stay with you for whole weekends etc before taking such a big step with her...

Honestly just the few days she has stayed,am already getting so uncomfortable and realizing this aren't right. Am trying to see how to talk to her to go and look for an apartment already cos am not just prepared for the aftermath of all this. I just came out from a very terrible marriage that escaping it was like a miracle and won't want any daughter of eve to trap me again in such scenerio. Even though if I want to enter another marriage, It should be done in a proper way.

Afodot0022:
I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are ....blah blah blah..

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I still don't know why grown up adults will cohabit without anything official. No shame again, I understand students, but two working adults living as room mates.

Why not at least see her parents!

So no shame again!

If you are not what I'm thinking oo (mummy's boy), you should be able to read red flags on a lady even if she's not staying with you under the same roof. Believe me bro, those women are crafty and manipulative, don't ever get drunk so early with her wifey material attitudes she's giving you now. Invite her for a week, two weeks, a month; observe her with your BRAIN not HEART. During her visit Change ham for her sometimes and look for her reaction. Borrow money from her and extend the day of refund ×2. Playfully tell her to refill your gas cylinder and be serious with it while you're playfully saying it. My brother I will never lied to you, human characters, attitudes and behaviors are just like a SMOKE, what you need is just to trigger the smoke and see if you can inhale it or not. Prevention is better than cure; not untill she start living with you under the same roof you will then be noticing her attitude. A month visit is enough for you to pick basic red flags and green flags that you want.
EXAMPLES:
PERSONAL HYGIENE
UNSUBMISSIVE IN ARGUMENT
PRIDE
SEGREGATION
NAGGING
SOCIAL SENSES AND RESPECT
SOCIAL MEDIA ADDICTION
"CALL RATE"
LAZINESS
ENTITLED
GOSSIPING
TALKATIVE
MISS WISE
TOLERANCE
PATIENCE
TRUTHFULNESS
LIES AND EXAGGERATION
FORMING
SECRECY
SUPPORT
and so on

What if she dies in your house, this period make una de de careful it's best she visit and go.

real691:
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I still don't know why grown up adults will cohabit without anything official. No shame again, I understand students, but two working adults living as room mates.

Why not at least see her parents!

So no shame again!

Exactly... That's why u see lots of unmarried people living together producing children as husband and wife without a dine paid on the lady.

What's makes me laugh at times is how they address their opposite sex in public or making reference's. That's my "husband" that's my "wife" wife wa them never pay anything for her head.

Na free sex de push you

Mine said she’s pregnant and want to move in

I told her No

Remain in your house and be visiting

Smoke first make you get clarity before you make this decision..

Desist from it, if you love her. Such arrangements usually do not end well.

Why would you ask a lady to move in with you so you can share bills with her?

Do you think we're in America or Europe?

Sonnobax15:

To put my mouth for people relationship these days don tire me I swear but lemme just talk small here

Bros op,since you said you were once married,at least you don suppose get experience from your past relationship/marriage na.....

Personally,the last time my banny came to spend some time with me,I was totally fed up ...it was at that juncture I asked myself if I was really ready to accept someone's daughter into my life in form of marriage,cuz e no easy to cohabitate with banny for house..... Especially the one wey you never marry and she come still belong to the set of bannies of this generation ....... Honestly, expect drama upon drama.... cuz how you go feel when she receives calls from other guys? . After all,you never weld ring for her finger .

Tbh, expect the unexpectable bro..

you're an old wise man

See free toto!
You can dive in and dive or just plug it in an leave it there till day break!

Afodot0022:
Good day my lovely people, it always good to share life with you people here. Pls I need to ask, what is the advantage and disadvantage of living together with your girlfriend under the same roof. My girlfriend had an accommodations problem, her friend they stay together kick her out for no just reason, she wanted to get an apartment and the money she was ask to bring was quite much 250k, I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
1... I want to get to know her better cos I believe when you live with someone in the same space, that's when you get to know them better, I was once married and have learnt a lot on how ladies pretend in dating but show their true color in marriage, atleast I want to know her well before making another serious commitment of marriage.
2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.
3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.
To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Now my question is to those that have been in this situation of living together with a girlfriend you are yet to marry, how did this affect the relationship afterwards. Pls share your experience be it negative or positive, I really want to learn from others to see if I can proceed on this or just abort mission by not allowing her to stay any longer. Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now.. pls help me to navigate this scenario

If she dies in your house, kirikiri awaits you. Naija co-ver is always ready.

No matter how good she is it will end it tears, speaking from experience ooo lol boss try and marry her if you truly care about her. This is just you about to open a chapter you might not come back from. My opinion tho!

Bring that lady to my hospital let me conduct some medical tests on her first

I do appreciate you guys input, it is helping me on how to navigate on this situation. I will appreciate more input from you guys especially guys that have being in this same situation or that is presently in this situation.. thanks all

Your conclusion that she is a good girl because you're the one that disvirgin (disflower) her may be faulty , have you heard about artificial virginity therapy?

The only disadvantage I know of is uncontrolled sex like rabbits. This can make even the most focused man lose focus in life. You wan de play with fire and not expect to burn?

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