There's this guy who started working at my workplace in February last year. Of all the ladies that were there, he chose to make only me his friend. We got along well. He asked a lot of questions, and I gave him detailed responses, I was indirectly orienting him. Within a few weeks, he was already receiving accolades from our boss for working hard and being diligent.

All the ladies started throwing themselves at him, but he didn't really mind anyone. He kept only me as his friend, and it made me happy and proud.

About two months later, he invited me for dinner at a restaurant around the airport residential area. I went, and after we had spoken for long, he made it known to me that he admired me and would love for us to start a relationship.

I was already in l0ve with him before he made that proposal but I didn't want him to feel like I was yearning for him or I already wanted it like the other ladies so I turned down his proposal at that moment. He didn't talk much, he just said it was fine and then we went home.
Days later, he got me a flower and some perfumes and added a note that he wanted me to reconsider his proposal. That was where I fell completely in love with him but I wanted to play hard to catch so I told him I wasn't ready, that I was still recovering from my ex and was scared of men.

He tried again for the third time by taking me to the beach and trying to convince me he was different. I told him at the beach to give me some days to think about it. Three days later, he asked if I had thought of something, and my response was simply "not yet."

Bro Kwaku, can you believe that from that time till the guy never asked me anything concerning relationship again? I waited days for him to ask, so I tell him I was ready, but he never did. He only discussed work, work, work with me. I was single and waiting for him to just raise it.

What should I do now as a Lady?

#Copied

If I were in his shoes, I would not have asked you out more than twice.

Who go help you no go stress you. Who stress you fit no help you. Someone may give you tough time before accepting to date you but will end up being very bad for you. Someone may quickly accept to date you and will turn out to be your treasure.

Forming hard-to-get or being quick to accept a relationship proposal doesn't define you, since you have already spent time with him and have known him to an extent.

Forming hard-to-get or being quick to accept a relationship proposal is debatable when the proposal is coming from a stranger. You have been close to him enough to know if he can be good for you or not.

Before he asked you out, you had already conducted the study that should precede a romantic relationship and concluded that he is good for you. So, why the shakara? This is the same stupidity some ladies display when a man they have dated for long proposes marriage to them. Some ladies that have been craving for the marriage proposal and have directly or indirectly asked for it will reject the proposal on the mere ground that he didn't propose in a romantic way.

immortalcrown:

Pls

Any amount

essentialone:
There's this guy who started working at my workplace in February last year. Of all the ladies that were there, he chose to make only me his friend. We got along well. He asked a lot of questions, and I gave him detailed responses, I was indirectly orienting him. Within a few weeks, he was already receiving accolades from our boss for working hard and being diligent.
All the ladies started throwing themselves at him, but he didn't really mind anyone. He kept only me as his friend, and it made me happy and proud.
About two months later, he invited me for dinner at a restaurant around the airport residential area. I went, and after we had spoken for long, he made it known to me that he admired me and would love for us to start a relationship.
I was already in l0ve with him before he made that proposal but I didn't want him to feel like I was yearning for him or I already wanted it like the other ladies so I turned down his proposal at that moment. He didn't talk much, he just said it was fine and then we went home.
Days later, he got me a flower and some perfumes and added a note that he wanted me to reconsider his proposal. That was where I fell completely in love with him but I wanted to play hard to catch so I told him I wasn't ready, that I was still recovering from my ex and was scared of men.
He tried again for the third time by taking me to the beach and trying to convince me he was different. I told him at the beach to give me some days to think about it. Three days later, he asked if I had thought of something, and my response was simply "not yet."
Bro Kwaku, can you believe that from that time till the guy never asked me anything concerning relationship again? I waited days for him to ask, so I tell him I was ready, but he never did. He only discussed work, work, work with me. I was single and waiting for him to just raise it.

What should I do now as a Lady?

#Copied

If the story is true then we can say that .
Rule 1. Do not ask a lady you've not bleeped out .

Cesarr1:
If the story is true then we can say that .
Rule 1. Do not ask a lady you've not bleeped out .

So, it should be election before campaign, and you can't date without sex? Nawa oh!

immortalcrown:
So, it should be election before campaign? Nawa oh!

Guy if she no fit go sexual with u
Infact fucking u. She no dey really feel u sexually b that

Your profile says you are a male
Are we missing something here ?

He even asked thrice
Jobless man

You even lucky he even took you out 3 times , once i ask you on an outing and you form busy and other yanga, you won't even see me again not to talk of arranging another outing...who get time when there is money to be made.

This is the Age of Social Media. With social media, there are literally thousands of girls that are just one DM away. Men from the 1990s were chasing one woman for three years because choices were limited.

Personally, I don't even try a second time, if the answer from the first time was a clear no. Nobody has time for someone who likes you, but wants to stress you because of this foolish notion that a girl has to play hard to get.

Because unlike before, guys now have options.
Unlike before, girls bring no value to a relationship except sex.
Unlike before, girls are not traditional and approachable.
Unlike before, girls don't know how to respect a man even if they would say NO.

Guys are beginning to realize that women are overhyped and the ROMANTIC HAPPILY EVER AFTER IS SIMPLY A FANTASY.

Why I go dey chase who I wan help?

Last time I toasted a babe , I nearly chop massive billing



To hell with toasting , as a lady if you're not bringing anything to the table


GTFO

Chase and run like mad idiots

Too many women chasing men, so men are now expensive like USD. MEN SCARCITY

The Truth is that there are so many Options Available now for Men.So no need dying for a gal dt has just her Kpekus to offer.

carl90:
Your profile says you are a male
Are we missing something here ?

U didn't read ....copied

The post would have been more engaging if it is actually a female narrating it from a personal experience .
We do not want all this cooked up nollywood tales rampant everywhere , most especially out there on Facebook .
We need original stories and experiences .
Nothing personal .
#Just Saying

idahme:



U didn't read ....copied

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is why I laugh at women who, instead of working on their stubbornness, say they will find a man that can "handle" them.

Who told you that a man wants to handle you? The last lady I asked out did something similar.

We vibed well, I took her out once, then invited her over, and it was at my place that I told her what I wanted. She straight up said "na."

I said okay, we're good, and that was it.

We gisted a bit more, I saw her off, and when she got home, she texted me, "Are you angry?" I said, "na," but that was it for me.

It wasn’t even the rejection that was the issue, but how it was said. If you want to play hard to get, at least drop hints that you're interested, otherwise, I'll assume you're playing "never gonna happen."

Later she told me I had everything on a platter of gold but wasn’t man enough to take it.

Ladies don’t realize how stressed the average Nigerian guy is already, and then you add unnecessary hard to get on top of it.

I will pass abeg.

Tallesty1:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is why I laugh at women who, instead of working on their stubbornness, say they will find a man that can "handle" them.

Who told you that a man wants to handle you? The last lady I asked out did something similar.

We vibed well, I took her out once, then invited her over, and it was at my place that I told her what I wanted. She straight up said "na."

I said okay, we're good, and that was it.

We gisted a bit more, I saw her off, and when she got home, she texted me, "Are you angry?" I said, "na," but that was it for me.

It wasn’t even the rejection that was the issue, but how it was said. If you want to play hard to get, at least drop hints that you're interested, otherwise, I'll assume you're playing "never gonna happen."

Later she told me I had everything on a platter of gold but wasn’t man enough to take it.

Ladies don’t realize how stressed the average Nigerian guy is already, and then you add unnecessary hard to get on top of it.

I will pass abeg.

That's what they always say after displaying their nonsense. Don't fall for it.

jorion:


That's what they always say after displaying their nonsense. Don't fall for it.

I did not.

I have been on the street too long to fall for that.

I don't chase twice, once I ask and you refuse bye bye be that.

carl90:
Your profile says you are a male
Are we missing something here ?

He ended with #copied to signify that it isn't his post, read before commenting

carl90:
The post would have been more engaging if it is actually a female narrating it from a personal experience .
We do not want all this cooked up nollywood tales rampant everywhere , most especially out there on Facebook .
We need original stories and experiences .
Nothing personal .
#Just Saying

You are right, I thought like you initially until I saw that copied

Forming hard to get never made sense to me, but then again, I am not a woman.lol
One thing I know for sure though is that opportunities to meet and engage a responsible man are limited, and not one to do shakara over.
All it takes is you the woman being a responsible woman first.
Being a responsible woman makes it easier to focus on important qualities in people generally, and not be swayed by inanities.
Once you are such a woman, you can EASILY identify husband material and play along confidently after he even hints at first move.
You can also stop time wasters and shut the door firmly against them no matter how hard they try!
Some women have gone on to marry men they even slept with on first date, while some women have dated men for years without them proposing, and even them marrying someone else. Yep, it happens!
So, work on yourself first and be an excellent judge of men's character.
That is more important.
So that when a real husband material shows up, you won't lose him -at all.
I hope this helps someone.

When be say hook up don take over, I no fit allow one toto dey use me catch cruise make blood pressure no go kill me

Different strokes for different folks.

carl90:
The post would have been more engaging if it is actually a female narrating it from a personal experience .
We do not want all this cooked up nollywood tales rampant everywhere , most especially out there on Facebook .
We need original stories and experiences .
Nothing personal .
#Just Saying

Your point is noted. But you can still engage.

I wooed a lady last 2 years but she said she will give me feedback after six months that will should just be friend, we were friends for those months after 6 months, I asked her again and she said she will still get back to me. Ever since then, I no dey disturb myself anymore. After some months if I don’t post on WhatsApp for like months, she will now call me to ask why am I not posting since. And I will say am busy. That scenario happened coincidentally but I facilitate it again by not posting for like 2 months on WhatsApp status to see if she would call, you won’t believe at around 1 month, she called me again to ask why am I not posting , and I said am busy. But why trailing me?

Times have changed and there are more opportunities of meeting new people these days

So, we should come and kee ourselves on top of naija women matter? Joor shift! Better women dey Mozambique, Kenya, Tanzania... Naija ladies too dey shakara. We don't have time for that abeg