Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

U want her to leave yet u don't want her to feel hurt?? 🫤🫤🫤🫤

That is the only way she can leave ur house at dis point

Invite your mother for a holiday and order the girl to take good care of your mother.😀 The girl will run.

The funniest part is that she doesn't even want to live with you forever.😀 But you don't know. You think she wants to be with you for life.

She wants to exploit you and save enough money that will afford her a classy lifestyle when she finally dumps you. For your information, she is secretly and desperately looking for an alternative to your house. She will take you by surprise if she succeeds. She is very manipulative and selfish. Now, you must have understood why her previous host evicted her.

No girl with a genuine intention will perch on a male divorcee in the manner described in your post. Don't confront her too much to avoid a domestic violence that can end someone's life.

But I must tell you that you can't eat your cake and have it. You thought that she living with you would offer your more access to her body. You didn't know that there is a price for that.

Moral lesson : Don't start what you can't finish

You wanted to eat free kpekus at anytime you wish now u don tire you want her to leave

Let's put the situation in perspective. Let's assume you were the one kicked out by your friend, would she take you in? If she took you in, would you contribute to the house ?

It's good to help others most especially when you are lovers but keep in mind not to let anyone USE you and move on to another dude. She's actually not interested in you(i knowyou sense this already sha). Don't assume the "father role".
Be hard hearted. Make it expressly clear you want her to contribute to the home expenses

Lemme get this ...

She stays in your house...
You pay all the bills...

She's working but she doesn't contribute financially to the running of the household and yet she can't take on the house chores? ...

If the above describes the situation, then her feelings is the last thing you should be bothered about ...

At this point, it doesn't matter how she takes it, DRIVE HER OUT OF YOUR HOUSE!! ...

The best you can do for her is give her a weeks notice ...

Wait for the rent to finish and pack out

She is naturally lazy to the core. Despite her being around, I do my laundry myself, I clean and sweep, I cook attimes , wash dishes. All she does is lie on bed and sleep at day. What surprised me was when she just picked her cloth alone about of our both dirty cloths and left mine. That was when I knew she doesn't worth the sacrifices I rendered her. She hate spending her money and expect me to sort all bills including feeding on top say I be her boyfriend. What she say is that am her boyfriend so I should handle all of it. Anytime I bring the discussion of her getting her place, she will start crying and saying all emotional blackmailing words. Some girls can just be so irresponsible, you work and earn and don't want to spend your money. I told her, did she realize that if she got her apartment, she will start paying bills and feeding herself, so why is it difficult to do such now you live with me. I see it as been stingy, selfish and self centered, reason I want to kick her ass out. She doesn't worth the sacrifice

Fahvvy:
Lemme get this ...

She stays in your house...
You pay all the bills...

She's working but she doesn't contribute financially to the running of the household and yet she can't take on the house chores? ...

If the above describes the situation, then her feelings is the last thing you should be bothered about ...

At this point, it doesn't matter how she takes it, DRIVE HER OUT OF YOUR HOUSE!! ...

The best you can do for her is give her a weeks notice ...

Change your locks case solved! Don’t be a Sisiman…

This won't work cos my rent is sorted out till the end of 2025 . I can't wait till then to kick her out

Pzpropertylimit:
Wait for the rent to finish and pack out

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Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Tueh!
You begged that woman to stay with you! You disvirgined her! And now you’re fed up! You were the problem in your previous marriage!
You didn’t know “ To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married” when you were begging her to stay with you o. Shameless and wicked man

Step1 don't fill the gas when it finish

Step2 don't recharge when the light finish. or if you share bills don't pay

Step3 don't subscribe on any cabe channels

Step4. Don't buy foodstuffs at home if you hungry go out and eat

With this I think it would be enough... As long as you don't make her comfortable in your house.

if you had listened to the below i told you to do before moving her in (In your initial thread on the issue), all the above wouldnt have happened...

MrBrownJay1:
before she moves in with you, pls...
1) figure out what is the full details of why she fell apart with her friends in her old apt (not just her side of the story)
2) understand that being together as bf/gf and living together is a whole new ballgame. have you ever seen her without makeup and wig etc? do you know her character? is she a clean person? etc
3) if you really wanted to live with this babe, then why wait now that she is in this situation to do so? why didnt you ask her to move in with you before?
4) before she moves in, makes sure you make it very clear to her exactly what you want her to do (if/when she moves in) and what you want her to pay for.
5) if you expect her to be a replacement for your wife, then PLS marry her then. this woman is not your wife, and therefore as much as she may help a lot in the house, she is not obligated to do any wifey stuff. if you want someone to fulfill that void in your life then find a WIFE... not a gf.
7) as much as this could be a beautiful experience, it could be a nightmare that you will have difficulties getting rid of. beware!

i suggest you ask her to come stay with you for whole weekends etc before taking such a big step with her...

the only solution to your issue now is to be RUTHLESS and stop falling for her emotional blackmail... give her an ultimatum as to when she got to get the fukc out your home (beware that she doesnt run away with your shiit as revenge), and when the day of that ultimatum comes, whether she has a place to stay or not, open the door and get rid of her. basta!

Will you die if you tell her to start doing wife responsibilities for you?

You dey enjoy pussy na why e dey hard you to pursue that liability

It's a simple something

In the babe's mind the abunna u are chopping is enough payment

You are not planning on marrying her....she knows this.....you know this

You guys are just using each other to pass time

If the agreement is not ok

Na to end relationships

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

The way you tell to move in now, Babe I want you to move your stuff out before Saturday, Shikenah.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Lol

When a gal is in your house make sure to let her know you are the boss.

She washed only her cloth. Tell her next time she should wash your cloth.

Talk and stop keeping quiet.
Women listen and act with what they hear.

First two weeks of staying with a woman is correcting then begging.

Warn her sternly and seriously.
Later beg her and tell her what she did is not good.

That is how you change them and not keeping quiet

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Alternatively, ask her for rent share else she move. If you need enforcement, call me I will tell Cynthia my ex girlfriend who is an officer in Bonny Camp to come package her commot for just 250k

Ask her to tell you when she plans to leave then reach a balance if not suitable for u. Let her be aware of the consequences if she fails.

You say you have been married before but you are here telling us how you are still wrapped up in childish situations and inability to make decisions like a man.

run & hide your face in deep shame.

PerfectStranger:
You wanted to eat free kpekus at anytime you wish now u don tire you want her to leave

Small pikin

And you will call your self a man. Person wey divorce suppose don get experience na. Clear that banny once make she disembark with a loud and clear voice. There's no other way around it

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Buy calabash, buy red clothes, buy powder buy live chicken buy charcoal .....
At midnight wear the red cloth, tie on your head tie on your arm put the charcoal inside lite it put the feathers inside so it would bring smoke start talking rubbish until she wakes up and see you but don't say anything to her before u wake up in the morning she don run

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Even if you date, must you you date nonsense... How can you date such a selfish, egotistical human being. Na her type dey leave her guy tuwama when the chips are down.

A live in kpekus comes with billing neva forget that and don't bang it too much so you don't quickly loose interest..

PerfectStranger:
You wanted to eat free kpekus at anytime you wish now u don tire you want her to leave

He said he thought it will be beneficial to both parties but it's now a parasitic relationship and he is right to sell her away.

Don't get this mindset of some women z they are fine if they are the ones spending all the money in their sown house but once they stop Paying rent still find it difficult to plough back that rent money in form of assisting themselves in the new house they live by investing it in food and other home expenses that they majorly consume.

At this time and age no man should ever be with a woman that will become burdensome to him both in finances and otherwise. Irresponsible and zero accountability ladies should have zero place in relationships but dumb men won't agree.

RealityKings:
Let's put the situation in perspective. Let's assume you were the one kicked out by your friend, would she take you in? If she took you in, would you contribute to the house ?

It's good to help others most especially when you are lovers but keep in mind not to let anyone USE you and move on to another dude. She's actually not interested in you(i knowyou sense this already sha). Don't assume the "father role".
Be hard hearted. Make it expressly clear you want her to contribute to the home expenses

You ain't far from the truth, it's nice to always reverse the scenario and see if the reactions will be the same if it's not then something is wrong definitely.

That lady can't host a man who is working and lost his accommodations for 1 day without him contributing to the house. The way I loathe selfish people is unimaginable.

idahme:



You ain't far from the truth, it's nice to always reverse the scenario and see if the reactions will be the same if it's not then something is wrong definitely.

That lady can't host a man who is working and lost his accommodations for 1 day without him contributing to the house. The way I loathe selfish people is unimaginable.

sure

Afodot0022:
She is naturally lazy to the core. Despite her being around, I do my laundry myself, I clean and sweep, I cook attimes , wash dishes. All she does is lie on bed and sleep at day. What surprised me was when she just picked her cloth alone about of our both dirty cloths and left mine. That was when I knew she doesn't worth the sacrifices I rendered her. She hate spending her money and expect me to sort all bills including feeding on top say I be her boyfriend. What she say is that am her boyfriend so I should handle all of it. Anytime I bring the discussion of her getting her place, she will start crying and saying all emotional blackmailing words. Some girls can just be so irresponsible, you work and earn and don't want to spend your money. I told her, did she realize that if she got her apartment, she will start paying bills and feeding herself, so why is it difficult to do such now you live with me. I see it as been stingy, selfish and self centered, reason I want to kick her ass out. She doesn't worth the sacrifice

You see this bolded , that's how you know a lady who cares about you. Leave any eye love bullshit talk that comes out of there mouth, watch the actions and not what they say.

Anyone wether male or female that doesn't sacrifice her finances for his or her partner is the biggest test of knowing they can't be a permanent partner in the long run. Irresponsible, selfish and self centered humans should never be in a relationship.

I discussed responsibility and finances with my ex in the first 3 months of our relationship and I got I shocker , shw is the type that will spend 100% of her finances on her house but when she gets married will never spend a dime to assist the man. I missed this part pre-relationship stage and was lucky to have it in the first 3 months into the relationship that was it to me I withdraw every privileges and that was it.

Now I put forward finance discussion before relationship, if I don't like your view there is no need entering into one.