JovialJune:
Still waiting for when Nigerian women will stop seeing marriage as an escape route for what I don't understand and think of themselves first, because with the way the world is going, everybody is on survival mode, there is no country that isn't having difficulties in every aspect right now, so protect your mental health by any means possible cos when you die, your loved ones will move on and forget you the next day.

Zonefree:

But you're an obedient married woman

JovialJune:


Doesn't mean I won't prioritise my mental health first "when push turns to shove".

Zonefree:

About 10 years in marriage and push is yet to turn to shove?

You're happily married to a Nigerian man and you're advising single Nigerian women not to see marriage as an escape route.

SKhanmi:

Help a sensible wife out at home sometimes and she would appreciate and understand why. But see the rest, they would start feeling entitled. Before you know you’re still paying all the bills and doing most of the house chores. No be say dem go still please you for the other room

Klass99:


The sentence in bold has me LOL. You dey vex sha! Why don't you just ask for what you want to be pleased and satisfied in the other room?

pocohantas:
Majority of the issues here revolves around money. Thankfully I didn't see any case of physical or emotional abuse.

If the man is walking through coal to provide for a family on a single income, he is just as frustrated. So they are definitely surviving on a tight budget in 2024. I will suggest the women talk to their husbands to at least help with dressing the kids in the morning.

Or, they can get a job and outsource some tasks.

When we emphasize on the importance of a woman having an income before or in marriage, they say it is feminism and we are deceiving young girls. But money would save you a lot of bad days and help you ignore things that would have ordinarily caused issues in your marriage.

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Except you are married to the minute percentage of Nigerian men that can shoulder all the bills and still provide you appliances and a help. This would most likely be your reality.

Finally, 2 kids is okay for 99.9% of Nigerian families. The remaining 0.1 are politicians, executives, trustfund babies, oil workers and people earning a solid 7digit income.

Let's stop repeating a cycle of parents who spend all their youth training kids until they forget the main reason they got married - COMPANIONSHIP. It is not the flex y'all think it is.

Thank you!

GloriousGbola:



Since you are confam 0.1%, I expect 4 pikins minimum

pocohantas:


I bind and cast you.

Tallesty1:
You should be saying AMEN

pocohantas:


Finance is one part, emotions is another.
Born the number you can train without turning into a mad woman.

Tallesty1:
Your mates dey use four test mic in the north 😂

CodeTemplarr:
one terrorist child per wife. One almajiri child per wife. One quran reciting legend too.

Zonefree:
A female Nigerian student would slave for her school boyfriend for 4-5 years without complaining.
-She'll cook and serve the young man and his friends.
-Wash his clothes.
-Clean and tidy his rooms/kitchen.
-Wash his toilet.
-Attend to sexual needs in marvelous ways.

All these for free!

Same girl will get married and start to complain after just 8 months that house chores are too much for her. Same chores she was doing for her school boyfriend for years without complains!


If you want to practice feminism, stay in your father's house! As long as marriage is in your dictionary and you're getting married in an African settings, get ready to work!

Lazy dimwits!