In a story sparking intense online discussion, a man has reportedly withdrawn from a marriage proposal due to a highly demanding traditional bride price list provided by the woman's family.

The incident, shared by social media user
Princess Adeola, highlighted the emotional toll on the man and drew attention to cultural practices cthat some argue may discourage potential suitors.

The bride price list, meant to honor the family, included numerous items such as crates of drinks, livestock, clothing, and monetary gifts for various members of the bride’s extended family.

The total value was estimated at ₦3.5 million.

The prospective groom, reportedly eager to marry and even committed to taking the bride abroad and sponsoring her education, expressed heartbreak after realizing the bride herself supported her family's demands, citing the rising costs of living in Nigeria.

Adeola expressed sympathy for the man, describing him as a "good man" who was willing to go to great lengths for his partner. She criticized the bride's family for what she termed "greed" and urged women to advocate for reasonable expectations from their families.

Many online users joined the discussion, debating the relevance and practicality of traditional marriage customs in modern times.

While some defended the practice as a cultural heritage, others viewed it as a hindrance to relationships and an unnecessary financial burden.


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That amount is very considerate. There is no labor charge there, which exist in some climes.

He got a good offer to be honest, I see no reason to complain. The expense is less than 2 month's of average rent in London.

Does the girls family live at Billings way, ikeja?

atilla:
Does the girls family live at Billings way, ikeja?

yes no149

atilla:
Does the girls family live at Billings way, ikeja?

yes no419

How person go sell family land just to marry burden put for house

God abeg oh.

Chie. They even wrote God bless you amen at the end of the list.

The hussle is real.

Akwa Ibom marriage list na Scroll naa
....na dem be the highest for Naija

Sonnobax15:

How person go sell family land just to marry burden put for house
God abeg oh.

Exactly what most people don't understand

TheBillyonaire:
That amount is very considerate. There is no labor charge there, which exist in some climes.

He got a good offer to be honest, I see no reason to complain. The expense is less than 2 month's of average rent in London.

Are you Joking or what?

APOPTOSIS:
Akwa Ibom marriage list na Scroll naa
....na dem be the highest for Naija

Closely followed by the Igbos...as per day we no fit read news make we no attach tribal identity join



Back to the Op.

So basically, they were just rearing the girl like she's some special breed of dog to sell to the highest bidder in the future.

Girl wey Dem prolly deflower for free

tanigororo:

Are you Joking or what?

Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Wait for Lalami3232 for more enlightenment

That's less than 2000 dollars.
Chicken change.
Poor man mentality.
Devil punish poverty

Smart guy

Those are lists from Leeches family . Such family, na every week events go dey sha ni

Who wan marry for that amount for this Tpain period?

He cancel wedding cos of bride price.

The other Bauchi man cancel wedding cos of genotype

Its a season of wedding cancellation

This list no pass Akwa Ibom , them too dey do

It states it is negotiable, why not negotiate?
That said, the current day inflation added to the cost nonetheless, what is it with other people asides the parents on the list? Shouldn't it be one family?

Ok

LEAVE OTHER PEOPLE CULTURE ALONE AND CONTINUE WITH THE FREE WOMEN IN YOUR OWN CULTURE.


IF MY FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HIS FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HI GRAND FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HIS GREAT GRAND FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, I PAID BRIDE PRICES.




SHOULD WE CHANGE IT BECAUSE OF YOU A FOREIGNER DONT RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE CULTURE?



U DEEM IT FIT TO HAVE IYALOJA AND BABALOJA EXTORTNG MONEY FROM TRADERS, WE KEEP QUIET OURT OF RESPECT FOR YORUBA CULTURE, NOW SOMEHOW U ARE ALLOWED TO CROSS TRIBAL LINE TO MARRY, U ARE SHOWING YOUOR DISDAIN AND DISRESPECT FOR A CULTURE PRACTICED ACROSS AFRICA.



MEHN GET LOST ALREADY

Alright

[b]It's funny people are just ignorant when it comes to marriage list

70% of things in most marriage list would be used to serve people on the traditional marriage ceremony

I don't know of other places... But in Mbaise those high bills are placed so that u don't pay complete...

In fact if a family bills you 1 million and you pay it... It's insulting to the family, it is meant to be seeing that you scrapped everything you own and yet could not still afford our daughter so that you then take her on credit and continue to pay till death

"My in-laws please this is what I can afford, but as you know they dont finish marrying a wife, I would continue to balance the bride price forever ".. ... The above statement would make what ever you present acceptable


It's important to have a friend from the area of your wife to help you navigate

I am from Mbaise none of my sisters husband spent more than 100k on actual bribe price and we hosted the traditional marriage reception from pocket... While the men handled the white weddings [/b]

People don't know that some part of Akwaibom have very high bride price than you can imagine.

It is our pride as Africans to "sell" our daughters in the name of bride price 😂

TheBillyonaire:


Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

gbam

Can't they be smart about this?

Pick 4 traditional item costing 800k.

Pick one mommy item that cost 1.2m

Pick one Daddy item that cost 1.5m pere.

Present the list with dignity.

That's all.
If he wants to marry, let him stay. If not, allow your daughter to travel with him.
He will come back someday to pay the bride price.

Dozen pants and bras for the mother?

🤣😅🤣😅

Omo, any person wey do this one na very big FOOL!
Make person no born this kind unfortunate son ooo.

Sonnobax15:

How person go sell family land just to marry burden put for house

God abeg oh.

Omo, any person wey do this one na very big FO.OL!
Make person no born this kind unfortunate son ooo.

Sonnobax15:

How person go sell family land just to marry burden put for house

God abeg oh.

Good job by pulling out of the marriage. What nonsense. I would have done the same thing.