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Talking stage is a scam. No such thing as that. If u no gree for me after 2 days. Its bye

chatinent:
In Nigeria, this stage is a trap for some girls to render your life koboless. And it's not like you are even going to be the only applicant in the love job.

Imagine someone comparing what you can offer to what another can offer... "Somto dey drive Benz and he's promising me an iPhone and two Brazilian hair, and this one is busy telling him he'll love me with all his heart when he is still struggling to buy me common four sticks of snail of ₦15k. Na love I go chop?"

You sef no fear who fit chop four sticks of snail in one sitting! That's about 16 animals at once!

Now who is Somto? Somto is an internet scammer who picked $5k, bought a car and is spending the rest money finding HIVAIDs with his penis.

It is also a stage where you CAN be taken for a fool! I mean, yes. You can be kept as an option. Bisola will always say: "you can't keep all your eggs in one basket."

"We have sex so she can't be using me!" You can still be wiping and be used by her! Whoever told you sex is an indication of love! Just console yourself already!

That's not even to tell you the bitterest truth that a Nigerian girl can still love you very much and still many who is ready. Now you see the definition of "who is ready" must have money attached. Even the ones that add love, there's always money bending in one corner. Note, I don't really mean that you may be poor but who knows? What money cannot do, more money can do it.

Want another truth? You fit still dey struggle with talking stage make Bayo dey snub her messages after "collecting what he wants." It's the same Bayo who professed "Nkiru, I have many girls in my life and they don't really give me the vibes you give me. I will be Bayoside in everything." This is the same Nkiru heartbroken by spare parts expert Chinonso who she served as a sales girl for three years, before graduating to an understanding girlfriend. I mean, three years of "don't forgot to buy postinor. I don't want ploblems o."

Let me not even forget the fact that it seems like every time you meet a Nigerian lady, e bi like she's just coming out from a relationship like some popular customer who patronises a local airport. Very busy airport indeed!


My drunkard uncle will always advise that if you have a spec complex of wanting to marry a virgin. There's every tendency you will marry a lie. I mean, someone who will outsmart you until you join your ancestors yonder. So while having a spec is good, be cautious you fit too!

I hope I’m not still being a total buzzkill for you. If you're diving into the talking stage, just remember to set some boundaries—it's like putting up a friendly fence around your heart! Most guys tend to notice a woman's physical features right off the bat. You never even know her name, but you are already planning a memorable bedtime. And that's when you end up overlooking everything else that really matters. Let the talking stage just be the talking stage.

Smell nice, but don't push it. It's not an audition...it is a get-to-know. The first question that really matters is "what is your genotype" before "what would you like to eat." AVOID stupid pickup lines online...it makes you sound dumb. Go straight to the point that you want both of you to work things out and give a relationship a start. You and I know you are not romantic so stop the nonsense "Like Romeo and Juliet, I think God made you for me" gibberish. Just say what you want before ordering even meatpie.

Who says the talking stage has to happen at Chicken Republic with two charred chickens on the table, legs akimbo, and cutlery ready for battle? Not me! Not you too! Talking stage can happen in a zoo or recreation place where you folks can walk too!

But una guys like to monetise everything! And the girls don't disappoint to not be hungry! "Give me Amarula!" See your forehead like Amarula. Drink water abeg.


Stop monetizing what your mouth can deliver! Well, you know how it goes—during those early chats, a lot of guys seem to think that flashing their cash is the way to win a lady's heart. And many ladies use this opportunity to eat brunch, lunch, crunch, sunch, dunch, munch, and save in their reservoir.
Then I think it really shouldn't be called a talking stage, right? It ought to be a financial analysis naw.

Me I am a local man and na advice I dey give.

I will advise that if you are ready for marriage, leave the wooing and let the friendship work on its own. Yeah, I understand you'll say how but it can also work if you know your onions.. Focus and invest only on marriage-driven relations in Nigeria...every other thing is a waste of time.

Goodluck on your journey.

For the lawyers and judges of public opinion, before you attack me, ask for my account details and send your attack as a narration.

Thanks for your understanding.



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..... God bless u for this analysis

Fryx:


I’m not actively searching (I usually don’t keep women at heart by default). But if I see a lady is showing interest in me, I invite her to my place and watch how she compose herself.

If she no come, we stop talking. It shows she doesn’t trust me enough to come.

If she come and I no like her, I only reply when she text. With time, she will get the gist.

Even if we vibe, I let her know I am in a relationship, if she is ok with FWB, fine. Else, we parted.

But recently, I am trying my best to keep only my woman. But that will only work if she is ready to start having sex. She claims to be a virgin, and I am respecting her choice.

Trust is like salary. It is earned. Inviting to your house is a snare.

Fryx:


If a lady loves you, she won’t use logic when dealing with you. A snare, yeah. But I am sure I am not a rapist.

If I see you truly love me, I will then work on solidifying that trust. But that leaving yourself vulnerable to me must be first secured.

If you are trying to use logic with me, just move. E no go work.

Love doesn't not replace common reasoning.

And note,

No rapist was born with its tatoo. It starts with a snare.

Fryx:


Why not just dive in and if she be snake, you dive out back. Why waste so much time, it won’t hurt different.

Intellectuals don't just dive in.

Fryx:


And who tells you a woman in love care about all that? You talk as a man, which is understandable. A woman don’t truly care about consequences when their feelings are involved.

They may try to reason at first. But will soon change their mind in the fly. I gave some ladies that even come to my place without being invited. And some of them come with the aim of having sex, although I don’t lay a woman unless I first know her.


I only care about the feelings, nothing more. On my end, it’s my duty to maintain my integrity.

Clearly you haven't been doing so lately:

But recently, I am trying my best to keep only my woman.

I like it sha...... it's the stage I have been with almost all d bannies I'm rolling with, yet they can't explain how they hav been ending up in my bed.....

Jus look good and attractive for them, most importantly, make sure you don't spend your financial dime on them apart from your airtime, data and time......na dem go ask you las las on bed: what are we now?

When yu geh to dah stage, let them know you were also in talking stage with other bannies and she's d one dah delayed things, na ya attention dem go dey find.......

Fryx:


Well, retards like us just dive in.

Hmm, do you believe you are a retard?

Talking stage ke? I no get time. If I collect your number and I call you two or three times and you come the form one thing, na to move straight up.

All these gen z self, Bleep her to the point where she ask u what are we😤

I have never done talking stage before

A lady puts you in a talking stage if she’s not interested in you.

Chevrolet076:
Maybe because I grew up in an environment where; if you like a lady, you simply ask about her from one or two people who might know her, and if that isn't possible, you walk up to her, letting her know you find her attractive, have a little conversation to know her name, where she stays, what she does etc. If that isn't possible at the first encounter, you get her number, continue conversation on phone or if you’re more of a physical person, agree to meetup at a restaurant and speak as an adult while reasoning if she'll like to be in a relationship or not. Then move on!

But recently, i find the idea of Talking Stage creeping in where you have to be proving to her why you’re worthy, spending in gifts, expensive dates etc. Meanwhile she can be in more than 1 talking stages, maybe 4 or 5 at the same time without committing to anyone of the guys while enjoying all the benefits of a girlfriend. This can go on for up to 6 months or a year and the girl will say "We are just friends " or better "he's my talking stage"

Am I the only one who finds this absurd? As a guy, will you say she's just a friend, best friend, girl friend or what? You're not allowed to touch her, regard her as anything personal to you and she goes out with other guys, while you have to keep up with your boyfriend-love-proving journey.

What really is the use of talking stage? Or is it really another copied western culture?

Some people will argue that talking stage is to know the person, but then, what is the purpose of the dating period?

I will really appreciate your opinions

Na mumu dey do talking stage

Nothing like talking stage in Nigeria

You're been played and you don't even know

Fryx:


I’m not actively searching (I usually don’t keep women at heart by default). But if I see a lady is showing interest in me, I invite her to my place and watch how she compose herself.

If she no come, we stop talking. It shows she doesn’t trust me enough to come.

If she come and I no like her, I only reply when she text. With time, she will get the gist.

Even if we vibe, I let her know I am in a relationship, if she is ok with FWB, fine. Else, we parted.

But recently, I am trying my best to keep only my woman. But that will only work if she is ready to start having sex. She claims to be a virgin, and I am respecting her choice.

And you fell for this?

This in itself is already logic she is using on you

Chevrolet076:
Maybe because I grew up in an environment where; if you like a lady, you simply ask about her from one or two people who might know her, and if that isn't possible, you walk up to her, letting her know you find her attractive, have a little conversation to know her name, where she stays, what she does etc. If that isn't possible at the first encounter, you get her number, continue conversation on phone or if you’re more of a physical person, agree to meetup at a restaurant and speak as an adult while reasoning if she'll like to be in a relationship or not. Then move on!

But recently, i find the idea of Talking Stage creeping in where you have to be proving to her why you’re worthy, spending in gifts, expensive dates etc. Meanwhile she can be in more than 1 talking stages, maybe 4 or 5 at the same time without committing to anyone of the guys while enjoying all the benefits of a girlfriend. This can go on for up to 6 months or a year and the girl will say "We are just friends " or better "he's my talking stage"

Am I the only one who finds this absurd? As a guy, will you say she's just a friend, best friend, girl friend or what? You're not allowed to touch her, regard her as anything personal to you and she goes out with other guys, while you have to keep up with your boyfriend-love-proving journey.

What really is the use of talking stage? Or is it really another copied western culture?

Some people will argue that talking stage is to know the person, but then, what is the purpose of the dating period?

I will really appreciate your opinions

In western world talking stage in relationships is very important but here in Nigeria is mess up by Nigerian girls , talking stage is opportunity for them to milk you dry financially, their house rent will start to expire, their mama in village will start to fall sick, you will fill their cooking gas or even buy a new cylinder for them , infact talking stage is when they will take you can you take care of me financially in Nigeria it's talking money that's what Nigerian girls have turn it to be

Don't be a willing simp. You are literally talking and having conversations with a person you just met. The fact the person is a female and you are already smitten does not mean you should turn to jelly. Grow a pair bro

Nah lady wey no like man dey put am for talking stage.

If a lady likes you, she will not waste time diving into your life.

johnson4nosa:
There is nothing like talking stage, that is the time they use for billing, meanwhile another guy is banging the hell out of her and you are doing talking stage. My guy go straight if she no gree check the next door

..abi . talking stage and she is chopping his money...no talking stage nowadays. .na chop and clean mouth

MartinsD12:

In western world talking stage in relationships is very important but here in Nigeria is mess up by Nigerian girls , talking stage is opportunity for them to milk you dry financially, their house rent will start to expire, their mama in village will start to fall sick, you will fill their cooking gas or even buy a new cylinder for them , infact talking stage is when they will take you can you take care of me financially in Nigeria it's talking money that's what Nigerian girls have turn it to be

Be calming down bros, talking stage is for guys who has international airtime to spend,they are well to do, enough credit to throw around,my opinion and experience though

helinues:
Talking stage should be mutual planning afterall both are after same thing.

The issue with it is, some ladies dont even worth the time and preparation. That's where love map should be amongst priority before any approaching

The talking stage process is where friendship start from. Meeting mostly in public place to know more about each other. Do's and don't, likes and dislikes

What the fvck is talking stage?
Women and double standards are just inseparable. If giving money is a proof of love, why aren't they giving the same money?
If you can't love without giving, why aren't they the ones doing the giving? Why must they be at the receiving end?
How can money be the love language of someone who is broke?
This whole thing makes no sense.
Simps among men encourage this silly attitude and mentality of women.
Just going through my timeline on the blue app and I've seen over eight wedding posts and pictures, guess what? They were all posted by women.
You hardly see any man post wedding pictures.
The said relationship and marriage favour women more and they know it. The funny thing is that, they still manipulate some simps to think that they are doing them a favour.

Kingosytex:


What the fvck is talking stage?
Women and double standards are just inseparable. If giving money is a proof of love, why aren't they giving the same money?
If you can't love without giving, why aren't they the ones doing the giving? Why must they be at the receiving end?
How can money be the love language of someone who is broke?
This whole thing makes no sense.
Simps among men encourage this silly attitude and mentality of women.
Just going through my timeline on the blue app and I've seen over eight wedding posts and pictures, guess what? They were all posted by women.
You hardly see any man post wedding pictures.
The said relationship and marriage favour women more and they know it. The funny thing is that, they still manipulate some simps to think that they are doing them a favour.

Honestly, I sometimes wonder where guys do meet all these hungry girls. On some standard level, it's not even something expensive. Not necessarily to hang out at expensive place. Ordinary park or Zoo can do the trick.

The hanging out shouldn't be somewhere distractive. It's just getting to know more about each others by asking questions, I mean sincere ones

Omoawoke:
Talking stage is a scam against men to be spending money.
They will say they want intentional man…. Only a foolish man will fall for that scam called “intentional “
Them go finish your money and you no go see toto

Intentional man na mumu man

Love800:
Talking stage can be cancelled.

What do you really want from the girl....... Marriage, ordinary friend, girlfriend, sexing-mate?

Approach her, show her you care(by spending money), then you tell her your intent. If she says no, move on(there are many fishes in the sea).

Note: money must be involve. Na broke guys dey use 6months dey toast one woman!

I no dey spend ooo so e mean say i vroke? Women don format your brain