paradoxqueen: I am in a relationship with Nigerian man but I am American. He has not been in the U.S very long. However we have many cultural differences but most we can work out. Over the weekend he had me attend a family celebration. He became upset with me because I didnt want to try African food. He constantly wants me to try his food. Anyways he makes it clear he isn't going to let me get away with not eating his food. To keep from being embarressed I follow him to get some food. He sets me down with his brothers who are trying to tell me what each dish is, however I am upset and not listening to them. While he is gone I move the food on the plate so it looks like I ate it.
The problem for me with the food is that I am real picky about food. I don't eat often and when I do eat I don't eat much. I have an eating disorder. I have recovered and relapsed many times in life. He is unaware of this and I don't want him to know.
His reasoning for wanting me to try all these foods is because he says he sees a future with us and wants me to know his culture. I truly want to be with him but How do I get him to stop trying to get me to eat his food without offending him or making him think I don't care about or respect his culture?

Bludeville: I think you should tell him you are not adventurous when it comes to food, and that anything you are not familiar with makes you really nauseated. I'm Nigerian and there are several Nigerian meals I would NEVER try in a million years. Because the aroma alone makes me wanna throw up. He should understand that, food is one aspect of culture that you should be allowed to say no to.
And yep, you should keep the eating disorder thingy to yourself, the average Nigerian doesn't get it, or believe that it exists.

ibkaye:
I met a girl who thought Bulimia was the name of a restaurant lol

Idowuogbo:
Roftlmaoooo! Wtf?

ibkaye:
I met a girl who thought Bulimia was the name of a restaurant lol

ibkaye:
I met a girl who thought Bulimia was the name of a restaurant lol

Ab025: U see, in africa, there is a saying that "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" this means that the best way for a lady into an african man's heart is to prepare good and delicious meal for the man. Most of us nigerian men luv our nigerian native meals (swallow). Let me tell u a secret, if a man really wants to marry a lady in nigeria, the man will want that lady to know how to prepare nice and delicious nigerian native meals.

I saw ur other post abt how to impress ur nigerian guy, the best advice I can give to u is to suprise ur man by preparing his best nigerian meal. Ask him what is his best nigerian meal, go and meet some naija ladies over there and learn frm them how to prepare this meal....this is somethin that he will neva forget once u do it

By the way, stop running away from ur boyfriend's nigerian meals that he wants u to taste, do u really think if u guys get married in d future, he will be eating pizzas and harmburgers everyday...? NOPE

Try to adapt, try to luv and develop interests for ur man's meal, afterall, he is ur man and u need to take gud care of him, stop runnin and start cookin those meals for him....ciao!!!

paradoxqueen: I know how important food is for him. I really cant cook, not even American food. He and I came to an agreement that he would want me to cook but it isnt something I would have to do everyday just once a week or so.
I dont plan on hamburgers and pizza everyday...I dont eat those foods. I dont eat meat.

Ibkaye...I about died laughing at running from food like aids. But I do feel that way. And every time I see him he is eating and eats often cookie ice cream his food any food lol but he always wants me to eat and I have a million excuses why not. But he always puts a big bite on his fork for me to try...how sweet except I am praying that I dont become ill in front of him...I debate leaving every time he offers food. I want to lie and say an emergency happend lol all I can thinkIis I have got to get out of here. I dont think he would understand the eating disorder most people dont.

I dont mind his culture and I love where he comes from because it Is what makes him so amazing. However I cannot afford to gain weight. All his food is high fat high carbs...
I really hate cooking but I wouldn't mind agreeing to learn to cook his food as long as he would agree I dont have to eat it. That way he can show me his culture like he wants but I dont have to end up gaining weight.

maxwello.yg:
tell him how much you hate eating. With all your strength, try to make him understand. If he truly loves you, he will understand you don't hate African foods in particular but just hate the thing 'food'

paradoxqueen: I know how important food is for him. I really cant cook, not even American food. He and I came to an agreement that he would want me to cook but it isnt something I would have to do everyday just once a week or so.
I dont plan on hamburgers and pizza everyday...I dont eat those foods. I dont eat meat.

Ibkaye...I about died laughing at running from food like aids. But I do feel that way. And every time I see him he is eating and eats often cookie ice cream his food any food lol but he always wants me to eat and I have a million excuses why not. But he always puts a big bite on his fork for me to try...how sweet except I am praying that I dont become ill in front of him...I debate leaving every time he offers food. I want to lie and say an emergency happend lol all I can thinkIis I have got to get out of here. I dont think he would understand the eating disorder most people dont.

I dont mind his culture and I love where he comes from because it Is what makes him so amazing. However I cannot afford to gain weight. All his food is high fat high carbs...
I really hate cooking but I wouldn't mind agreeing to learn to cook his food as long as he would agree I dont have to eat it. That way he can show me his culture like he wants but I dont have to end up gaining weight.

paradoxqueen: I am in a relationship with Nigerian man but I am American. He has not been in the U.S very long. However we have many cultural differences but most we can work out. Over the weekend he had me attend a family celebration. He became upset with me because I didnt want to try African food. He constantly wants me to try his food. Anyways he makes it clear he isn't going to let me get away with not eating his food. To keep from being embarressed I follow him to get some food. He sets me down with his brothers who are trying to tell me what each dish is, however I am upset and not listening to them. While he is gone I move the food on the plate so it looks like I ate it.
The problem for me with the food is that I am real picky about food. I don't eat often and when I do eat I don't eat much. I have an eating disorder. I have recovered and relapsed many times in life. He is unaware of this and I don't want him to know.
His reasoning for wanting me to try all these foods is because he says he sees a future with us and wants me to know his culture. I truly want to be with him but How do I get him to stop trying to get me to eat his food without offending him or making him think I don't care about or respect his culture?

paradoxqueen: He said I would only have to cook once a week...right now I cook none. I have never dated a man that cooking was important. But I can try to learn for him but no way I will cook daily.
I am definitely not telling him. I dont want to hear all the speeches I have heard before. I definitely don't want him trying to make me eat. There is no way he would understand it for what it is.

Ab025: One thing u should know is, nigerian men like ladies that cook

U said u may be cooking like just once in a week,..lolz, pls try and improve, cooking is very essential to most nigerian men in deciding whether to settle down with a lady or not

SniperInADiaper:

Cooking once a week isn't too bad IF you are preparing an entire weeks worth of meals.
Just because YOU have an eating disorder doesn't mean that HE does, or your future kids.. and trust me, they pick up on that stuff fast.

Mrs.Chima:


It's not easy for those with eating disorder to be around food let alone cook it. The man need to cook if it's that important to him. Marriage is for better and worse.

If they have no interest in that future then it wouldn't matter.

paradoxqueen: He said I would only have to cook once a week...right now I cook none. I have never dated a man that cooking was important. But I can try to learn for him but no way I will cook daily.
I am definitely not telling him. I dont want to hear all the speeches I have heard before. I definitely don't want him trying to make me eat. There is no way he would understand it for what it is.

SniperInADiaper:

I beg to differ.... Some cant be around it, but others have no problems cooking, as long as they don't eat it.. In fact, some prefer to cook for other people more often because it gives the impression that they are actually eating and the excuse "I ate while cooking" is a damn good one

Mrs.Chima:


I work with those with severe eating disorders and it is different from your lots that are watching their figure and counting down the days to get in a bikini.

I don't expect NL to understand the difference.

SniperInADiaper:

Im not referring to those trying to fit into bikinis or teen girls who think anorexia is a diet either

Mrs.Chima:


You are not by force to try African food just because you are dating an African. The fact that you have a eating disorder is difficult. He needs to respect that or go your separate ways.

There are other fishes in the sea.