Cecediva: Bank wire how much am i expecting?

are you a PHCN cable vandal? And why must it be the one at the bank?

Brought tears to ma eyes

This one is tough but sincerely I dont mind dating a single mum as I've done in the past. They are quite strong and caring

Amusaopeyemi: I grew up without a father, i'm an only child and I graduated at the age of 20, i'll be serving next month. I'm proud of who i've grown up to be.
My mom was an iron lady tho, she takes no nonsense. Died last year.

I see anoda Iron lady, wish u d best

Stories that leave one introspective. Abortion is never an option (for those who were never married). The important thing is learn your lessons, don't repeat your mistake and love that child. Don't make the child pay for your actions.

onyaigo: Anyway...for me sha oooo....it happened when I was a teen,i took in immediately i got disvirgined.....it wasn't funny then....going to school,,,the stigma,,the gossip,,,,breaking my family's heart,,,emotional,,,psychological,,,mental trauma(na die)....thank God I never did an abortion(i for done die of heart attack)....today am a better,,stronger,,prettier,,,classier lady......its been from one blessing to another since then(i can't fit shout).........I have learnt that love ain't sex,,relationship is for the matured in mind,,parents know your kids in and out,make them your best friend.....my advice is,,,no Sex before marriage(u r entitled to ur opinion so don't give me dat look)..,,love is not a feeling but a choice u make,,,,if it is easy getting the right partner we all would have been married by now so chill and be the best you can be(your own dey road)......brb.

You're just an Angel..
Chill,your time will surely come

...

Here in America,You can easily get if you're a single mother but in Nigeria,it's a different story..

I can marry a single mother.

iceberylin:
I taught u lied

I DIDN'T.

I became a single parent when i was 17..

My first sex with my virgin girlfriend produced a baby girl.
My 1st baby mama got married @ 20 & she took my daughter to her matrimonial home..

Then @21 i got another girl pregnant & she gave birth to a baby girl..
The third one followed the next year but this time it was a boy..


I'm so sorry for being so irresponsible & useless by putting innocent children in a sorrowful mood because i rendered them fatherless.

How will God forgive me

Thread will have fared better in the family section...

Atmmachine: I became a single parent when i was 17..

My first sex with my virgin girlfriend produced a baby girl.
My 1st baby mama got married @ 20 & she took my daughter to her matrimonial home..

Then @21 i got another girl pregnant & she gave birth to a baby girl..
The third one followed the next year but this time it was a boy..


I'm so sorry for being so irresponsible & useless by putting innocent children in a sorrowful mood because i rendered them fatherless.

How will God forgive me

u are a complete fool for sharing this current affair.

My two kobos here. Most people that are presently living as single parents didn't get into the situation by choice. No one plans to be put her/his child through the hassle of being stigmatized. I personally don't know why people do that stigma thing. One rubbish popular saying in my language says "ti ile kan o ba ti daru, omo ale ibe o ti dagba ni' it means that if a home is still living in peace, the one that is born outside of wedlock is not grown yet. The adults are the ones that makes living as a child of a single parent difficult for the kids. It's what the kids learn at home that gets translated to such a child in school or wherever. Some adults are just pathetic at training their kids to respect people and their choices.

The mistake people make is not knowing that a child is a child. I can be with a single father of any amount of children. I love kids. They are just wonderful. If I have my way, I would rather take care of those as I can. even start an orphanage where all the kids will have my name. its a dream I'm working on.

I'm single and I have a 3 year old girl. She is the best thing in my life. That girl ehn, I see no bullying for her. As a toddler, she stands up for herself. She will tell you to shut up when you insult her or her friends. I let her do things, she does chores and reads out her phonics to me. When I sit to watch her, I just marvel. Any guy that has her as a daughter, should be proud as heavens. She is one heck of a girl and she is all mine. I don't even wanna share.

It ain't easy, but who says it can't be one heck of a ride when you want it to be. People will always look down on you and see their own mistakes in yours. They will open their judgmental mouth to talk, it's in their nature. So would one determine her/his own happiness in relation to someone else's? Be happy and that's the only way your child can transcend that into her own life and be proud of whom she is.

Odilafta: What can I say
I'm presently being raised by my Godsent mother when my parents abandoned me

It isn't easy at all but all is well

eyah

onyaigo: Anyway...for me sha oooo....it happened when I was a teen,i took in immediately i got disvirgined.....it wasn't funny then....going to school,,,the stigma,,the gossip,,,,breaking my family's heart,,,emotional,,,psychological,,,mental trauma(na die)....thank God I never did an abortion(i for done die of heart attack)....today am a better,,stronger,,prettier,,,classier lady......its been from one blessing to another since then(i can't fit shout).........I have learnt that love ain't sex,,relationship is for the matured in mind,,parents know your kids in and out,make them your best friend.....my advice is,,,no Sex before marriage(u r entitled to ur opinion so don't give me dat look)..,,love is not a feeling but a choice u make,,,,if it is easy getting the right partner we all would have been married by now so chill and be the best you can be(your own dey road)......brb.

See my love. I sight u.

.

Omolehinme: My wasnt nice at all. I got pregnant during my second yr in d university. My parents dealt with me and d thought of it result to HBP. I nearly died during delivery but God had mercy on me. D baby is 4yrs now and atleast am ok now.

Hope you are a graduate now? I won't marry u ooo

vict505: See my love. I sight u.

lolzzz...I see you too

[quote author=onyaigo]lolzzz...I see you too [/quote yes o . ABEG where in Lag are u. Make I come after work come grab u.

donnypool:


lol no body ready to feed another man pikin na

if you love the mama,wetin go stop you from loving the pikin join?smh for some men.

[quote author=vict505][/quote]choiiiii ;Dcalm down my guy....ur blood is hotting ooooo...God is watching

vict505: Hope you are a graduate now? I won't marry u ooo

like she needs you....

onyaigo: like she needs you....

yes she do .

onyaigo: choiiiii ;Dcalm down my guy....ur blood is hotting ooooo...God is watching

No time my love.

Had mah son wen I was in skul n d dad was just too selfish and not serious. I bet you, raising a child all by yoursef is not easy. Buh I thank God for making mii a gud mum n a best dad for mah son. I'm proud of him anywhere, anytime. The fact still remain that pple see it as a stigma buh as for mii, I don't care. Even prefer to remain ma single mum for life than having one yeye hubby dat wud later make mii choose btw him n mah son.


its bin God all the way. I LOVE ma son n God BLESS him for mii

simbaddsailor: If my sister decides to open her legs for a man witout a protection, she shuld be able to. bear wotever consequencies dat comes out if. Were u forced to v a sex wit ur boy friend witout protection? U women will always be at d receiving end wen d result finally comes out. U r here lamenting being a a single mother wen u failed to do d right tin. If u r nt ready to take responsibilies, close ur legs or advice ur guy to use protection. Some of u were deceived, u delibrately took in for a guy tinking dat wuld make him marry u, wen d guy is nt ready n ditched u, u come here lamenting.

dude if u don't have something productive to say then shut ur mouth or rather stay away from the keyboard. Don't u know that divorce or death could result in single parenthood?
u r obviously a child.

freshdude2: They probably don't want to be raising another man's child. Don't blame them.

I don't blame them, but its so ridiculous. One actually was shocked when She turned him down, infact he was like, I am doing you a favour you should be grateful lol. I had the pleasure of kicking him out of the house

chineloSA: Those who are single parents ( those who were never married and married and divorced) I salute their courage, but I get worried when people come on social or public forums and bit their chests and say " I am proud of being a single parent" ( particularly those who were never married )
1) Ignoring the fact that its not about them and their mistake but its about a child who will be psychologically affected because of an absent father.

Yes it was a decision/ mistake that you did and you had a child out of wedlock, but its not good to condone and justify your behavior on a public forum where the younger generation will learn from you that its OK to be a single parent ( refering to those who never married ).

Having a baby before marriage is " NOT GOOD " for the child. Being single maybe good for you but but a child needs the father.

I am not judging those who are unwedded single parents but I am against those who paint a picture for the younger generation that " single parenthood " is the way to go.
DON'T DECEIVE other people. Single parenthood is harder financially, emotionally etc than you paint it to be.

For christians looking into have children before wedlock, here are words for thought
Wisdom of Solomon 4 : 16 - 19
( Read this chapter and let's debate )

Why concentrate on missing dads? what of missing moms. After all we have single dads on this thread. My mom died when i was 10yrs and my brother 1yr so he has been trained by a single dad his whole life.
Nobody actually sets out to have kid out of wedlock, 80% are actually mistakes of the youth. The 20% who purposely have kids out may do it with ulterior motives (eg to force someone to marry or just wanna have kids cos they are getting old) Nobody said it is rosy and easy and this thread is to encourage them.

Besides why won't single parents beat their chest and be proud. Considering all the odds they had to surmount to get themselves and their kids to where they are.

Ishilove: Stories that leave one introspective. Abortion is never an option (for those who were never married). The important thing is learn your lessons, don't repeat your mistake and love that child. Don't make the child pay for your actions.

My dear the bolded needs to be emphasized. Don't make the child hate the other parents, hate men or women, think people are untrustworthy

Don't turn the child into an extension of yourself, Give the child opportunities to get role models in the sex he/she is without and help the child not to repeat your mistakes.

God bless us all

Akinsbobo2:

Pls,can you connect me with her?on a serious note,pls

Settle me first and i will

M4gunners: The boy that came to marry her is a loser.The Child is the pride of the Woman.

Yes o!

The boy is just making me proud, At times i feel like kidnapping him and making him my own