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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 7:04pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
OrlandoOwoh: You said traditional marriage does not constitute as absolute marriage, you relegate it to cohabitating. but your opulence for white wedding gives it legal backing.... In your world African traditional marriage is not up to oyinbo traditional marriage... That equals to inferiority complex... 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sixix: 7:04pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: What a pity! However would you like me to start counting women who were wedded legally and still got dumped and maltreated. Court marriage is for 'those' women and NOT WOMEN 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by kings11ng(m): 7:04pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon:actually the traditional wedding is more solid than white wedding. white wedding is just byproduct of colonisation 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 7:04pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
OrlandoOwoh: Erm. .. Well said.. But in addition, even couples who just started cohabiting and breeding and have lived together over a certain period of time and having been living like husband and wife also have rights under the law. I believe that relationship is called 'common law marriage'. Problem with this remains the burden of proof which like customary marriage greatly relies on pictures and credible witnesses. #Tanks 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by ayanbaba2(m): 7:05pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
MabraO: |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by satowind(m): 7:06pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Anygal dat is dragging a man to court marriage to be entitled to his properties wen dey split is a gold-digger and is not ready to tolerate the ups and downs in marriage. I think traditional marriage is ideal enough for a family to work. That what the bible recognize |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MabraO: 7:07pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
[quote author=ayanbaba2 post=26889926][/quote] Point to? ![]() |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 7:08pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
GooseBaba: The issue of African marriage (customary marriage) vs White weddings is not about complex but legality and absolute recognition and irrefutable proof under the law.. Your post shows you have lost the plot of this thread.. Don't abuse me please, cos I am Mad Cow. 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:09pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon:documents can always be altered. it depends on what you both signed .... not just about document. it is necessary to have certificats but it shouldnt be a pre requisite for marriage. do you know how many women have certificates , yet they complain of abuse and all. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by ayanbaba2(m): 7:09pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
MabraO:meaning what and who you dey point to... |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by uzolexis(f): 7:09pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
jmoore: I agree,traditional wedding should be the recognised one,all others should be formality. The Nigerian govt should start giving certificates 4 traditional wedding. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sidoka: 7:09pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
its a pity the way we keep loosing our culture and heritage all in the name of civillisation,have u ever seen a white man performing or doing african wedding rites in their country.....why then would a proud african perform or be so crazy about white weddings.......my people die for lack of wisdom |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 7:11pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
satowind: Call her whatever you like.. BUT any woman who does not legally protect herself in a marriage only has herself to blame should shiit go south. . Also note that the marriage act does not only protect women but men as well as in some cases the man may be awarded alimony from his wife. Tanks 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:12pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
OP is right that it's important to sign documents and make the union legally recognised. It's not only about divorce but God forbid incase one of the parties die and the family wants to cheat you and your children out of what you guys worked for. It just helps to protect the family incase of such things since the law will be on your side even if there's no will. It doesn't have to be an elaborate affair just go to the registry. If a man doesn't trust the woman enough to marry her legally then why is he marrying her at all ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:13pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
jmoore:yea ...... there are certificates issued at the local government. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 7:13pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
bukatyne: A court marriage does not need more than 2 guests who will stand as witnesses.. The only thing these Nigerian court people ask for as extra is a meagre court charge and some refreshments for themselves like biscuit, coke, malt and stuff which are not expensive as such. 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by OrlandoOwoh(m): 7:13pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
MadCow1:People cohabiting hardly have problem with whether or not their relationship is legal until there is a case of devorce and the need for the custody of the child(ren) arises. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by InvertedHammer: 7:15pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
/ Oyibo = 1 white wedding. Case closed. Nigeria = 1 white wedding + 1 Traditional wedding + 1 court wedding, not excluding introduction, bride price, 3 page list of items, etc. Where do you expect people to get money for all these stuff? And they wonder why people are frustrated in marriage. Men start having feeling of entitlement after all the expenditures. Don't blame them. Sorry! I forgot the leeches/liabilities (in-laws) that come thereafter. This is why a lot of men are scared of getting married. Worst of all, there are no guarantees. Wahala dey o! \ 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 7:18pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
OrlandoOwoh: True.. But even then, such relationship if not customary is considered to be common law marriage and can be decided in court like a full court marriage. What I am not sure the spouses can get is "maintenance" from each other, but the court can award custody to one parent and child upkeep from the other as the case may be as that child's or children's interest must always be protected under the law irrespective of the circumstances of their birth. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by CoCoLav(f): 7:21pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
tatiana009: Thank you! By the time one husband's brother will suddenly come from the village and explain to them how they are 'property' and so cannot inherit their husband's wealth (some of which the both of them even worked for) then their eyes will clear. This kind of topic no need to argue sef. Just fold hands and watch. 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 7:21pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
MadCow1: Guy abeg try read before you reply person post.. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by OrlandoOwoh(m): 7:22pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
GooseBaba:You're contradicting yourself. Whether traditional or church, the issuance of certificate is what makes it legal. I know of people who sit in their living room and join their children. If there is a case of devorce, then you will know that it is important to have certificate. You think you can just impregnate a girl, give her family the bride price and think the law recognizes you as a couple? 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:22pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Like seriously, dis made FP? Since Sept.15, two weeks n six days ago? Nawa!!! |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ishilove: 7:24pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
jmoore:I think traditional wedding is called customary marriage, backed by law or something (I read it somewhere a while back). After your traditional wedding, you go and register it in the local government where it took place after a duration of twenty-one days and you are given a certificate or something like that. My folks never did a white wedding and I have seen their marriage certificate, fully backed by the court in the district where the wedding took place. I don't intend to do a white wedding. I'm a Christian, but I don't know where it is written that I must do a white wedding. Heck, the weddings that took place in the bible were marriages according to Jewish laws and customs. I'm a Nigerian, not a Jew. I will invite a man of God to my traditional wedding who will bless the union in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Shikena ![]() ![]() ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by OkikiOluwa1(m): 7:24pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon:Is white wedding a real solution to missing out on sharing husbands property? Hell no. Your arguement is incomplete. Even a wife that had white wedding can be cheated. If there's no proper documentation. Last Bullet A guy like me ll not shy from church wedding. Its only white wedding that I frown against. There's a diff btw them. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Emmalot121(m): 7:24pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sweetlemon:After reading this piece, my brain has been trying in futility to bring out the minutest of sense in this piece. Here are my conclusions-: 1) You think divorce can only affect women 2) That only men can bring up divorce in cases like this 3) That traditional marriage is useless and baseless 4) That rather than a means of saving money, it is a problem to the society. 5) That it is possible to chase wife out of house on which you both have names. 6) That marriage like this are most likely to fail. Still can't make tangible sense out of your tasteless post. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by synergycom19: 7:26pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Documents or not when you are throw out you are out, when you commit divorce able offense you get throw out 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ojix85: 7:26pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:27pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Realistically how do u xpect a person earning below 120k to do a white wedding without help. Hes gonna rent a place thats like 400k the wedding should cost ova 400k how many months salary is dat. The apartment gonna be furnished so u see times are hard. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ishilove: 7:28pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
israelbenzion:God bless you. I know I read something about this sometime back. Traditional marriage/customary marriage is very legal in this country. |
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