I feel it sud be a corporate Thing. Work together, spend together and take decisions together.

...insomnia. will comment later

Pls I nd answers quick shuld a wife work cos her huby insist she shuld nt work rather she shuld stay at home n train d kids answers pls

jumzzy448:
model 3. let me work and keep my money. so if anything comes up and hubby is not readily available, i can shoulder the responsibility.

isn't that a bad idea??

I will always take marriage lead from my parents. . popsy and momsy contribute to family needs even though not equally while EVERY decision making/taking is always done together.

#grabs Mic# Yeah! Today is my birthday and I want to thank God for everything.... especially for the gift of life. Also want to thank my mom for popping me out into dis chaotic but beautiful world. uhm... this goes out to y'all Nairalanders especially the crazily funny ones with comments that make me laugh...want to also say thanks to my enemies for bringing out the best in me. Jah bless y'all.

Very interesting topic. Watching and learning.

Me o, Iya Moyin o, we do everything together *that doesn't include her monthly tin oo*

Mine shd be scenario 4:
My wife and I both contribute our quota to d welfare of d household, kids and family projects. But she wants me to make every decision which could be burdensome sometimes.
Most times she calls me to ask what to cook, which of our accounts she should lodge money (we have diff accounts but we both have access to all our atm cards and PINs).
She even somtimes asks me what to do with her salary. I always encourage her to make at least some decisions without waiting for me but she won't budge. She believes all decisions that concerns us shd be made or sanctioned by me.
This often wears me out but I'll marry her over again 3million times.

Bensondrums:
If Dey dnt contribute wat den re dey using dia money for?d woman is d neck of d family as d man is d head nd d work of d neck is to support d head.

This neck and head talk again.

So model 3 is waiting for her husband to die before spending the money on herself and her children. What a bad wife

Understanding is d most important thing sha,,, nevatheless, d husband remains d head and d final decision taker not maker oo

Model 4. The one who communicates well wit d husband for d expert running of the home.

bennyrazz:
model 2 is the best kind of model for any household and just because as a woman you are contributing to household expenses means you have now become the man of the house. No, you are not. You are just supporting and its not as if we won't let you have any say. You would have a say but the final decision is left to your husband.

This... Both work, both contribute.. The man is the head, but that doesn't mean he should shun his partners suggestions. They discuss together, he makes the choice based on what is best for the family.

Any lady who works and wants to keep it all for herself and allow her husband to pay all expenses is greedy.

funky41:
Pls I nd answers quick shuld a wife work cos her huby insist she shuld nt work rather she shuld stay at home n train d kids answers pls

Allow her work from home then.

It beats me a times how marriage has become so broken and everyone trying to make it scientific. I paint another scenario, one which i am very conversant with.

My dad and mum both were working, but no formulae was used for anything (per say), Granted, my dad takes care of the MAIN responsibilities, and my mum the minor ones but these roles were easily interchangeable whenever the need arose.

Pops pays our fees, gives us some upkeep money, Mums usually gives us additional money for other frivolities (clothes, shoes.. just playing around money). In them of house hold stuff, my dad would usually buy the bulk food (bags of rice, beans, yam), but my mum takes care of most additives and fruits and the likes. Some months, moms wld go out and buy the bulk foods (looking back now, she is usually very excited when ever she does, maybe because of exra money she just made or just the joy of buying them) and other times my dad comes home with the food additives. Clothings, each buy for themselves and for one another. (mums real did like buying for my my dad tho).

DECISIONS WERE ALWAYS TAKEN TOGETHER, with few exceptions where apologies are made and efforts to make it up, like my dad buying my mum a gift to apologise or my mum preparing a special delicacy

WHAT IS MY POINT

As much as it might sound quite idealistic, but if my parents could do it for almost 50yrs, any sincere couple can. Just do things sincerely for one another, contribute when you can. and this includes even house chores. it surprises me when pple talk about whose responsibility it is to do what; the answer is.. its both yours, Just do them with joy and love.

ps: i remember when my dad started a building project, and all house hold purchases went to my mum, even our fees a times. But even then, She would contribute some to the building and He some to house. There was no clear cut lines.

The problem of number 3 husband could be psychological, growing up he saw what his father went through in the hands of his mum.
I think the man is trying to protect his pride though his endangering the health of their according to the wife. I believe that the wife should talk to her husband respect reason with him in a loving maner, make him understand that she's a helper, somone created to assist him emotionally and financially.

Yea!

In a team there is a team leader

Asa palapala

greatgod2012:
It's obvious and unfortunate that many don't really understand what marriage is all about.
Marriage is all about partnership, teamwork, in everything, every aspect and every area in love, understanding and empathy.
Marriage is not about one-man battalion, it's about two people working as one in every area that involves their marriage and lives.
If, as wife, you really love your husband, with understanding and empathy, you will realise that it's "unmarriage"(formed by me) to saddle your husband with all the financial responsibilities, apart from the fact that it isn't good for his health, it shows that you yourself aint committed to being teamed up with your husband, (selfishness)which sooner than later, may brings up unhealthy marital relationship to spring up.

Similarly, if, as a husband, if you really love your wife and see her as part of you, you will involve her in every decision to be taken at home, and in your life, when it comes to household matters, you will know that you're both one and act accordingly. You will see her as part of you that mustn't be neglected or abandoned.
At the end of the day, both parties enjoy their commitment towards each other and peace reigns absolutely.

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Yes, I'm of the opinion that working class wives should contribute to the up keep of the family; Besides, if she doesn't -what will she be doing with the money?... stock piling it in a bank account?... if women really want the gender equality they are clamoring for,then they should also do what the man is doing. otherwise, men will always take them for granted.

MarvellousGod:
I don't stand anywhere! !!!!

I want to work and contribute to my family projects/expenses. .

AND

I must make be involved in decisions making with my husband, I must have a say.. we must talk things over, he can't just decide alone.... Nobody has the final say in a marriage, decisions should be reached by both couples. ..

QED

hope i am not sensing imposition?
The dogmatic , stubborn and authoritative nature of some ladies have most times led to wars in homes or divorce (the much talked about monster, Irreconcilable Differences).
If you must have a say, which is normal,must you insist on having your way?
The bolded statement is wrong in it entirety, it's expected that a man should be more experienced in marriage than the wife, and as much as it's advisable for a man to plan, discuss, brainstorm with the wife, the FINAL decision is entirely his. it's left for a humble and submissive wife to accept that.
Even if he eventually makes a mistake, still you shouldn't impose your will on him.
On a final note, i must say that in marriage, due to the diverse nature of human beings ,there's no single foolproof method for marriages couples must discover what works for them through understanding and cooperative ness

greatgod2012:
It's obvious and unfortunate that many don't really understand what marriage is all about.
Marriage is all about partnership, teamwork, in everything, every aspect and every area in love, understanding and empathy.
Marriage is not about one-man battalion, it's about two people working as one in every area that involves their marriage and lives.
If, as wife, you really love your husband, with understanding and empathy, you will realise that it's "unmarriage"(formed by me) to saddle your husband with all the financial responsibilities, apart from the fact that it isn't good for his health, it shows that you yourself aint committed to being teamed up with your husband, (selfishness)which sooner than later, may brings up unhealthy marital relationship to spring up.

Similarly, if, as a husband, if you really love your wife and see her as part of you, you will involve her in every decision to be taken at home, and in your life, when it comes to household matters, you will know that you're both one and act accordingly. You will see her as part of you that mustn't be neglected or abandoned.
At the end of the day, both parties enjoy their commitment towards each other and peace reigns absolutely.

you nailed it. spot on!

SpcAgtOko:


This... Both work, both contribute.. The man is the head, but that doesn't mean he should shun his partners suggestions. They discuss together, he makes the choice based on what is best for the family.

Any lady who works and wants to keep it all for herself and allow her husband to pay all expenses is greedy.

GBAM

Take it easy o o, ok?

Money money money
Na real wa

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Of everything u listed model 2 is the best.. But a readjusted model 2 is what is best for business$$$...