My friend sharap dere, what do u know about criticism, if people don't criticize u tell me how u will grow? Critics make u think deep because dey tell u sore truth, they will tell u what odas will not tell u, they will go straight to the point, reveal ur weaknesses and so on, its only a fool dat will get angry if he/ she is criticized.

debrihachi:

damm am not but it sucks wen u ask for an advice n receive criticism instead....If she was looking for criticism she would V specified it but she said 'I need an advice' life is hard but tz harder wen people r stupid....

henryhemon:
You are greedy already by not being contempted with what you had?what's crushing on someone?you didn't love the poor guy before,what you called love was infactuation,what qualities did ur new dick have that the other doesn't have. Aint advising kids like you,continue jumping from one D to another and call it luv. You don't know what luv is,for people like you,its the highest spender.

henryhemon:

All of a sudden she remembers he is a cultist,all along she was enjoing d D she didn't know?what's the guarantee the new guy isn't? Girls usually don't know what the want.

****Bitter Truth*****

This is. A complex situation,much patience must be exercise,in other for you to be free from problems I suggest you report the case of threat to life to the police,better still you will have to dance to the tune of your ex by smartly discharging in and not frankly

equlibrium:


elders are sleeping.
they will be here soon

Going thru ur profile officially u are a clown

And I luv u that way

vivaciouzz:
yea,I know he was a cultist all dis while but I hv trying to save him from being known..only few pple know abt it..its not as if I got into a relationship coz of dat.I knew so many tinz I stopped him from doing like smoking.. I made him take his studies serious.. I really helped him..hez d quiet type n recently has been having issues with the school security, n I don't want to get involved dats y I want to leave ..d oda guy doesn't know dat I had a crush on him n hez loving me now..n hez in anoda school coz assuming hez in my school..dunno wat would hv happened to him n I didn't start my new relationship with se.x..I just wanted someone dats free from problems n who I can b with without being afraid dat something bad might happen to him

Sister stop playing game with the first guy heart abeg. I'm not going to advise you to leave him because he is a Cultist you knew it all this while that he is a Cultist and you are okay with it until you meet your so called crush . Tomorrow you we be the first one to call nigerian men names just look at the life you are living now! Go back to him oh eeeh.

[color=#770077][/color]Dont leave ur bf coz of a new catch, u might later regret it.....

Ladies, liking bad guys since 1900BC. she's just trying to cover up for the guy by calling him a good guy. A good cultist...lolz
I wish your parent can see this.

Herrmes:
Excuse me? So she should put her guy first? before herself? who does that?

People who are not self-centred and people who are not love peddlers. They do that. I hope you get it now?

Reason why I cant trust any woman....

safarigirl:
you know how you go to the market with the intention of buying a particular shoe, only to get there and find that the shoe you've wanted for so long has some defects nd there's a better, more attractive one on sale?

Same thing happens in relationships. Sometimmes you think you want one person, only to find there is someone out there far better for you. It's not like the first guy is bad, it's just that the second guy suits her more and he might be the one she was really waiting for while the first dude was a distraction

'he might be the one she was really waiting for while the first dude was a distraction'..... Sorry Ma'am but have you been reading every bite of the OP's story? Did you miss the part where she said 'they' loved each other? She even made mention of the fact that d guy was ready to do anything for her.

The OP was wrong in the first place by dating a cultist who also smokes(I wonder what she was thinking).

My point is, she wasn't forced to date the cultist, it was her own choice. So how is d guy a distraction?

I personally think the OP is still very young and doesn't even understand what love truly means.

My Advice?

She should leave both and focus on her studies more and please, she should change her mindset.. If she has positive plans for herself, dating a cultist is a No No thing. Shikena!

Babe u don't really know what u want..

you r doomed hun,you were neva in love with him.

equlibrium:


elders are sleeping.
they will be here soon

I have not liked any post in a long time. This would be my first. That aside, a wise man once said Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't." (Erica Jong, How to Save Your Own Life, 1977)

equlibrium:

on the face of it, ex is a cult guy
dats a no no
thats a yes reason anyday anytime to ditch his twisted arse

focus man, dd she not knw all along he is a cult guy? 3yrs bro, She jux realised dat nw cos she is lookin for wat to hold on to to move on, dd she not also say he is a good guy? No dey misyarn if u no get reasonable point

vivaciouzz:
since my first year in the university, I hv dated just one guy and we love each other so much but recently I got a new male friend whom I hv been crushing on since my sec school days.

I just felt like visiting him only to go and fall deeply for him.Just because of him,I broke up with my bf of 3yrs.D guy also felt something for me but my bf won't let me go..he keeps on saying dat d new guy will not love me d way he does.he has been calling n threatening d guy to leave us alone.

Another reason y I broke up with him was dat I was tired of his cult activities but deep down,he is a good guy n kind hearted.he is ready to do anything for me.

Recently, he threatened my new bf again telling him he will find n kill him if he continues seeing me.

My new bf has begged me not to compromise n leave him but I don't know if he truly loves me.I need ur advices coz my heart is confused. I don't want to b greedy by keeping the both of dem

You need to save like 5k as roger, tape that guy's voice recordings, get him arrested, the Police love things like that
make sure he spends one night in the cell and tell him you are working with your lawyer to charge him to court.

Dont wait till you or someone you love get acid burns abeg
what rubbish.

One a second glance at ur profile, you may want to notify your parent.

Awkward and very painful situation. I am certain there are more reasons that made her leave not just because the ex is a cultist and this her new guy is like a rebound guy. From experience, It could work either way, your rebound guy can become the right one or your ex is the right one so it is up to you and how you feel about each guy. If the rebound is the wrong guy in the end and your ex is still wanting you, your tail should be between your legs and head bowed when he dey take you back because you phuckup

Bigcake:
Was she not living with the cultist and fvcking his rough dick all this while? Only to meet ''Doro Bucchi'' a better spender and tag it a crush just to create a lee way to vamouse. Babe, you are joking with fire. As for the new guy, he simply sees you as an'' Awoof'', because na only you walker come meet am. My advice, go back to your former guy for peace to reign. If still interested in droping him on cultism grounds then look for a subtle way to do that.

no mind dat gal, she is a typical nigerian Gal, bitch, well she doesnt knw niigas nd awoof kpekus, dem go dive am take off, den she wuld realise d cultist was a better guy

eph12:
There's an easy option. Just stay away from both!

dats nat d best man, stayin away frm both puts d 2nd guy in danger, cos d strong man knws tins wulda bn ok shld he not have surfaced

slap1:
You can't truly love two people at a time; because if you really love the first, you won't need the second.


***
I know you won't take my advice but I'll just give it anyway: LEAVE BOTH OF THEM!
Why? You are sitting on a time bomb by dating a cultist. ( What kind of girl are you self?!)

I also feel the second guy knows you're crushing on him and is waiting to crush you back.

For safety sake, leave the second guy completely and pretend you still love the first one...maka ndu gi.

cultist no go get gf again? Boko harm guys no get wives & gfs

silversonuc:


no mind dat gal, she is a typical nigerian Gal, bitch, well she doesnt knw niigas nd awoof kpekus, dem go dive am take off, den she wuld realise d cultist was a better guy

A true case of where the desired was not available and the available became the desired. Now the desired is available and must take it rightful position.

Beware of cultism

vivaciouzz:
yea,I know he was a cultist all dis while but I hv trying to save him from being known..only few pple know abt it..its not as if I got into a relationship coz of dat.I knew so many tinz I stopped him from doing like smoking.. I made him take his studies serious.. I really helped him..hez d quiet type n recently has been having issues with the school security, n I don't want to get involved dats y I want to leave ..d oda guy doesn't know dat I had a crush on him n hez loving me now..n hez in anoda school coz assuming hez in my school..dunno wat would hv happened to him n I didn't start my new relationship with se.x..I just wanted someone dats free from problems n who I can b with without being afraid dat something bad might happen to him

babe believe me wen i say, iwu amu, wat u need is deliverance, u stopped him frm being a bad guy to a studious guy, do u knw wat it means to stop a cultist frm smoking? Nd bending to read? Nw u wanna leave him cos of one or two silly security eish, yet u claim u loved him, do u knw wat love is? Nd proudly ur tellin us u dnt wanna get involved in smtin concerning someone u claim u love, kaaaaai well lemme stop here nfore i flame upm some Nigerian gals can b annoying

y is that anytime am happy and come online, one post in nairaland will make me unhappy & remind me y God shouldn't ve created women.....what is wrong with dis female gender? u just knew he is a cultist now.....

ugoezeik:
lol mumu, wen did their let u go off quarantine center

RIP ENGLISH!!

This story be like one film wey I watch tay tay. Wetin be the title abeg

GJyty[quote author=safarigirl post=26961307]you know how you go to the market with the intention of buying a particular shoe, only to get there and find that the shoe you've wanted for so long has some defects nd there's a better, more attractive one on sale?

Same thing happens in relationships. Sometimmes you think you want one person, only to find there is someone out there far better for you. It's not like the first guy is bad, it's just that the second guy suits her more and he might be the one she was really waiting for while the first dude was a distraction[/quote after 3yrs he is now a distraction? Comon sharap there u girls ar al same.. Set of whores

debrihachi:

yh like ur sis n esp ur mother dat failed t raise u well cos she was jumping from one dick t anda

Involving his family is a bad one since his family never insulted you.

vivaciouzz:
since my first year in the university, I hv dated just one guy and we love each other so much but recently I got a new male friend whom I hv been crushing on since my sec school days.

I just felt like visiting him only to go and fall deeply for him.Just because of him,I broke up with my bf of 3yrs.D guy also felt something for me but my bf won't let me go..he keeps on saying dat d new guy will not love me d way he does.he has been calling n threatening d guy to leave us alone.

Another reason y I broke up with him was dat I was tired of his cult activities but deep down,he is a good guy n kind hearted.he is ready to do anything for me.

Recently, he threatened my new bf again telling him he will find n kill him if he continues seeing me.

My new bf has begged me not to compromise n leave him but I don't know if he truly loves me.I need ur advices coz my heart is confused. I don't want to b greedy by keeping the both of dem

Mtcheeeew

ugwum007:


cultist no go get gf again? Boko harm guys no get wives & gfs

They should, preferably a cultist girlfriend too.

Kom ur papa and momsy send u make u go read.u go day do boyfrnd tins abi.abi u no no say boys need fresh punany to day satisfy themself?

Bigcake:
A true case of where the desired was not available and the available became the desired. Now the desired is available and must take it rightful position.

bros trust me, once one oil company guy come us a yr after she has prolly started datin dis 'crush' of hers she wuld still come here to tell us she has bn crushing on d oil guy since nursery skool nd jux realised dis old crush is a dark guy nd she doesnt like dark guys, who wan bet?