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On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:23am On Oct 15, 2014 |
It's getting less uncommon to see women, especially those occupying high positions in society hyphenating their surnames and their husbands' surname. I think it's a good thing, at least, it will erase the notion that the daughter you've invested much in will bear another man's name. Ladies, would you do it? Guys, would you marry a lady that has this notion? |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:25am On Oct 15, 2014 |
my wife won't do it 2 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by EngelNyanibo: 10:26am On Oct 15, 2014 |
Depends on the Husband. . i will comment later |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:27am On Oct 15, 2014 |
I see no problem with it as long as the husband is okay with it. |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:30am On Oct 15, 2014 |
KiddaBlingzz: Why not? |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:31am On Oct 15, 2014 |
Unique3: Does this mean your doing it depends on your husband's acceptance? |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:35am On Oct 15, 2014 |
Chiamaka01:i just don't like it. she is taking my last name and not both our last names 1 Like |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:38am On Oct 15, 2014 |
KiddaBlingzz: Well, that's your opinion. |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by YungwizzzyChina: 10:39am On Oct 15, 2014 |
Today is my birthday |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 10:52am On Oct 15, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: Yes, definitely. Marriage involves two people and it works better when they are in agreement over issues that affect them both. I would not expect a woman to go into marriage with her significant other, without first talking over with him this kind of issue. So, yes, she has to carry him along, and very importantly secure his acceptance. 7 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Rosarie(f): 11:03am On Oct 15, 2014 |
i use it only wen it is relevant.once u re married u ve nothing to do wit ur father anymore.ur kids and u shud have a unison name. 3 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by stinggy(m): 11:27am On Oct 15, 2014 |
If she wants it that way, I have no problem with it. Whatever makes her happy ![]() 10 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by ireneidiva(f): 11:34am On Oct 15, 2014 |
Rosarie:Once you are married, you have nothing to do with your father again? Okay 14 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by lertee(f): 11:48am On Oct 15, 2014 |
A woman is not meant to adopt her husband's name in d first place. The best she can do is use her surname as middle name and her hubby's as last name. 1 Like |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 11:56am On Oct 15, 2014 |
[quote author=Rosarie post=27159611]i use it only wen it is relevant.once u re married u ve nothing to do wit ur father anymore.ur kids and u shud have a unison name.[/quote] ![]() 1 Like |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Godmystrength: 1:40pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Rosarie:This one is strong o So my own father that doesn't have a son now should forget that he has children anywhere when all of us get married abi? Or maybe keep trying till he gets a son that will have something to do with him even after marriage... 9 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by crackhaus: 2:07pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
lertee:Please elaborate. 1 Like |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 2:14pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
@Godmystrength, 1000 likes for your comment. |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by tmosco(m): 2:20pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Godmystrength: Won't d name still die after u,since ur children will be bearing ur husband's name. What is d point. It only if u and ur husband agree to change ur surnames together. |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Godmystrength: 2:24pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
tmosco:Please where did you see me mention anything about NAME in my comment?? besides who told you that any name is dieing?? Maybe you didn't read the comment i quoted and the portion i highlighted... ![]() ![]() ![]() because a woman is married and now bears her husband's name doesn't mean she shouldn't have anything to do with the father 2 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by chlowi(f): 2:28pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
These are some of the issues that ought to be raised during courtship. I do not see anything wrong with it, however the man (husband) has to consent to this! Both parties have to agree, and who says once your married you have nothing to do with your father? Huh? For real? No one prays for. A failed marriage but. Hey it happens and in. This case where do you fall back to? Usher recently demanded his ex wife. To drop his name ooooooo (food for thought) *jumps out through the Window* 2 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 2:35pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
I think i understand the view of those who believe the intending husband has to consent, but why wouldn't he? |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by tmosco(m): 2:39pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Godmystrength: U know I don't mean it like dat, it d change of name we ar talking about.U can't abandon ur family even if u want 2. |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 2:43pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
I think it depends on the place you are from... Some places, the child keeps their own name throughout their lifetime, and in others, they don't even have the same last name as their father in the first place. Where I live, the wife keeps her own name, else she has to go thru a name changing procedure that can cost $$$ especially since it involves changes all official documents, birth certificate passport land titles, bank accounts medical insurance... too much stress so we just keep our names, and hyphenate our husbands names for social purposes only. 2 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by haftob(m): 2:59pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Islamically, women are not supposed to change dia surnames to dia husband's name wen they get married, they are supposed to maintain dia father's name,tho many muslims don't do dis or don't even knw abput it sef. So women still using dia father's name are right. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Mention(m): 3:34pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
I smell fp |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Godmystrength: 3:36pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
tmosco:Okay. But I wasn't even talking about the change of name in my comment and that was why i highlighted the part i was addressing.. |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 3:41pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
I use my father's name and hubby's name at the same time, father's name first and hubby's name last,and hubby doesn't mind.....it's understanding the reason for the use of the names, not a battle of who owns you between your father and your husband. 2 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by feedthenation(m): 4:02pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Ladies wanting to eat their cakes and still have them. Always looking for avenue to change the goal posts. It remains a small time for ladies to start advocating that guys should change their surnames because of equality. 1 Like |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 4:07pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
haftob You're right. I've never heard any of my muslim friends talk about it. How do you know about it. Is it in the Quran? |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by Nobody: 4:11pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: why didn't he marry his daughter ? because he invested much in her, after collecting bride prize you still want your daughter bear your name? any father with that mentality will be a bad in-law. 3 Likes |
Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by lertee(f): 4:18pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
crackhaus:I only wrote that from the islamic viewpoint which is strictly my opinion. Many people that are not of my faith won't agree with me ofcourse. |
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