liyuboy:
Hello Peep, i need ur advise,, i am married to a woman i tot was of a certain characteristics upon marriage and two years down the line my only source of happiness are the two children (Boy and Girl) we have.

Despite all I do (as bread winner) to please her she is not appreciative, she disrespect me, she doesn't cook for me, she complains too much, she compares me to her father daily even though i have told her her mother has a better character than her that is why her father would do anything to please her.

I am always unhappy becos of her character, i am thinking of seeking divorce.

What do u guys think?

coogar:


•she doesn't respect you
•she doesn't appreciate you
•she is a moaner
•she compares you to her father all the time.

divorce isn't even needed now. man up & give her father a call. break it down to him how he has failed as a father to bring up her daughter the proper way.

tell him how disappointed you are to have been scammed to marry a damaged good(his daughter). tell him you are few inches away from driving a dagger into his daughter's heart & if care is not taken, he would be burying his daughter instead of celebrating christmas....

trust me, things would change......

alutacontinua:

Did your supplier mix something else with your weed?

@op, have you talked to your wife about these changes?
like it or not, the most important thing to a woman from a man is not money, so, forget about the 'I take care of her financially' part.
A normal, sane woman does not exhibit all of those characteristics at once, not to a very wonderful husband. She's most likely reacting to something. Have you cheated or are you cheating on her? Do you have unresolved issues? How's the sex life? Etc etc......I seriously believe your wife is reacting to an equal but opposite action, identify the action and you can move from there.


However, if you're strongly convinced that this woman has just made it her life ambition to frustrate you for no reason, then, you have a psycho on your hand-you know what to do

coogar:


i don't even do weed....too cheap.
my choice revolves round angel dust, charlie & amphetamines

it's the 21st century....
any father in law that has the support of his daughter would get verbally lashed to have done a terrible job as a father.

i would spell it out to him how he is an irresponsible father to his children. parents that are family oriented would nudge their daughter to behave herself in her matrimony - not fan the embers of fire.

alutacontinua:

You're apparently high on something cheap would be too honourable a word to describe.
Cow urine, maybe

You never meet correct father wey go deal with you and your whole entire being
Why would we call a man a man if he needs another man to handle his woman?
biko, coogar, I no fit argue this morning.....just wanted to tell you to check your 'angel dust', a laboratory test would reveal some urine of some sort (I'm sure of that)

coogar:


whatever it is.....who cares?
i am not being chased by cops, my employers value my output & sister sara is forever grateful.....



which correct father?
that would be a hubby who probably borrows from his inlaws, a hubby who sleeps over in her inlaws house, a hubby who removes shirt to devour bowl of eba in her inlaws house.

i am not about that.
the only time i would be having tête-a-tête with any father in law is when i am paying the bride price....after then, he better minds his business & face his own wife.

if i then find out the reasons my wife has been misbehaving is as a result of her father's backing then that man would get verbally lashed. i don't even see such happening. if he looks into my eyes, he would get the message that my type cannot condone any nonsense.

mk3jax:


Well I have a similar issue with my wife. She was miss perfect agreeing to everything I want when she was looking for marriage and after marriage, her real self started to manifest. First it was constant complain about my family for no reason, then she graduated to wanting to control my life and determine who I am to give money or not and where I can and cannot go. She complains about everything and never appreciating anything I do. I provide all the financial need of the house 100% yet she want me to take care of her parent and siblings(both married and single ones) like i am their father and every time I refuse to send them money it is quarrel. She also expect me to praise her for almost everything she does like I demand same praise for putting her under a roof, paying all the bills, feeding her and our child and making her as comfortable as possible.
She bitches about everything I do making me feel like i am a child that doesn't have a sense of making my own decision despite being very successful in my career and handling lots of real life responsibilities that she can never imagine doing.
After the birth of our child, she turned to something else which in turn made me to make up my mind that I will never have a second child. She has time to watch all her tv programs to make herself happy but as soon as I pick my remote to play a game despite working from morning to night while she sits at home, she complains and I have over time disregarded her complains and do what I want to do to make myself happy. I have just one life to live and being married to someone doesn't gives them a control over my life and if you don't want to stay married to me again, then get the fu.c.k out of my life and go take care of yourself. I almost divorced her sometime ago but just decided to calm down. I hope we do not separate because of my love for our child but if we have to, then so be it because I will not live a life of a prisoner because of a child.

liyuboy:
Hello Peep, i need ur advise,, i am married to a woman i tot was of a certain characteristics upon marriage and two years down the line my only source of happiness are the two children (Boy and Girl) we have.

liyuboy:
Despite all I do (as bread winner) to please her she is not appreciative, she disrespect me,

liyuboy:
she doesn't cook for me

liyuboy:
she complains too much

liyuboy:
she compares me to her father daily even though i have told her her mother has a better character than her that is why her father would do anything to please her

liyuboy:
I am always unhappy becos of her character, i am thinking of seeking divorce.

What do u guys think?

mk3jax:


Well I have a similar issue with my wife. She was miss perfect agreeing to everything I want when she was looking for marriage and after marriage, her real self started to manifest. First it was constant complain about my family for no reason, then she graduated to wanting to control my life and determine who I am to give money or not and where I can and cannot go. She complains about everything and never appreciating anything I do. I provide all the financial need of the house 100% yet she want me to take care of her parent and siblings(both married and single ones) like i am their father and every time I refuse to send them money it is quarrel. She also expect me to praise her for almost everything she does like I demand same praise for putting her under a roof, paying all the bills, feeding her and our child and making her as comfortable as possible.
She bitches about everything I do making me feel like i am a child that doesn't have a sense of making my own decision despite being very successful in my career and handling lots of real life responsibilities that she can never imagine doing.
After the birth of our child, she turned to something else which in turn made me to make up my mind that I will never have a second child. She has time to watch all her tv programs to make herself happy but as soon as I pick my remote to play a game despite working from morning to night while she sits at home, she complains and I have over time disregarded her complains and do what I want to do to make myself happy. I have just one life to live and being married to someone doesn't gives them a control over my life and if you don't want to stay married to me again, then get the fu.c.k out of my life and go take care of yourself. I almost divorced her sometime ago but just decided to calm down. I hope we do not separate because of my love for our child but if we have to, then so be it because I will not live a life of a prisoner because of a child.

Bunsky:
Dön't even know what to say,meanwhile let me call people that can give you advice,i called them the inspiration one's,b'cos they do insire me.
Godmystrength
mizmycoli
chaircover
carefreewannabe
aisha2
cococandy
greatgod2012
Tallesty1
ifyalways.u guys are needed here.

alutacontinua:



Did your supplier mix something else with your weed?




@op, have you talked to your wife about these changes?
like it or not, the most important thing to a woman from a man is not money, so, forget about the 'I take care of her financially' part.
A normal, sane woman does not exhibit all of those characteristics at once, not to a very wonderful husband. She's most likely reacting to something. Have you cheated or are you cheating on her? Do you have unresolved issues? How's the sex life? Etc etc......I seriously believe your wife is reacting to an equal but opposite action, identify the action and you can move from there.




However, if you're strongly convinced that this woman has just made it her life ambition to frustrate you for no reason, then, you have a psycho on your hand-you know what to do

coogar:


•she doesn't respect you
•she doesn't appreciate you
•she is a moaner
•she compares you to her father all the time.

divorce isn't even needed now. man up & give her father a call. break it down to him how he has failed as a father to bring up her daughter the proper way.

tell him how disappointed you are to have been scammed to marry a [size=18pt]damaged good[/size](his daughter). tell him you are few inches away from driving a dagger into his daughter's heart & if care is not taken, he would be burying his daughter instead of celebrating christmas....

trust me, things would change......

Bunsky:
Dön't even know what to say,meanwhile let me call people that can give you advice,i called them the inspiration one's,b'cos they do insire me.
God mystrength
miz mycoli
cha ircover
care freewannabe
aisha 2
coco candy
greatgod 2012
Tallesty 1
ify always.u guys are needed here.

liyuboy:
Hello Peep, i need ur advise,, i am married to a woman i tot was of a certain characteristics upon marriage and two years down the line my only source of happiness are the two children (Boy and Girl) we have.
Despite all I do (as bread winner) to please her she is not appreciative, she disrespect me, she doesn't cook for me, she complains too much, she compares me to her father daily even though i have told her her mother has a better character than her that is why her father would do anything to please her.
I am always unhappy becos of her character, i am thinking of seeking divorce.
What do u guys think?

OP, no talk of mine would surpass this valuable diary.
You should take your time and read it, word for word.

It's a chronicles of sorts, showing how he's going through the same ish as you, and he is getting emancipated, gradually.
https://www.nairaland.com/1842979/lonely-yet-married

You are being abused by your wife, not good.
For very strange reasons, I support cogar.


Not for the violence of course, but then, something in those lines might work or NOT. (I mean calling her parents/guardians and threatening to do away with her).

It's your call to make.
Just don't die prematurely, biko.

Ymodulus:


Rotten useless item.

He should divorce her an move on. The is the 21st century no time to wallow in pains all cause of a girl. Women are NVR to be trusted.

Seriously?
Are you for real on this one?

Ymodulus:
Rotten useless item.

He should divorce her an move on. The is the 21st century no time to wallow in pains all cause of a girl. Women are NVR to be trusted.

carefreewannabe:


Where have Cococandy and EfemenaXY been lately?
And where is Aisha2?

DukeNija:


Bros abeg no vex o, is it your wife who doubles as life partner and
mother of your children you are referring to with such disdain?
You seem to be a very angry person who feels he's doing a woman a favor
by marrying her. I am not married, but I felt the urge to say I am very
disappointed in your choice of words towards your wife. I take care of
people who are not even related to me by blood, financially and
otherwise and I never feel I'm doing them a favour, how much more my own
family.

You sound like you were forced to marry her, like you didn't propose to
this woman, didn't buy her an engagement ring and all that, like she was
begging to become your wife. I went through your post and I couldn't
even find what she did so wrong for you to hate her this much, even up
to the point of contemplating divorce.

Using words like "putting her under my roof", "feeding her and our kids"
"bitching about everything" is just too disrespectful to your wife and
I'm afraid your marital challenges can be traced to your negative
attitude towards your her. Please approach your marriage with a better
countenance and see your wife as you see yourself by truly loving her
and sincerely appreciating her contributions to your home. And yes you
need to praise her for cooking, cleaning after you and your child,
taking care of you and maintaining the home. Yes, you must praise her.
Try telling her how much you appreciate her efforts and cooking, and how
delicious her food is and see if she won't be overjoyed and do
something special for you.
Women complain a lot, my mom, sisters, gf every woman I know can
complain, it just doesn't make them bad people. That's just their way of
communicating sometimes.

And pls if you are tired of putting her under your roof, u can send her
to me. I have a very large flat with four rooms that can comfortably
accommodate her. *Just kidding*

mk3jax:


Don't worry since you're not married. I was also very positive of women when i was single and didn't really understand what men go through when they complain about their wife. Many women are very different when they get married. They believe they own the man and he has no say in his life any more. I will not argue with you abut hope you get the right woman when you marry. I said all the positive things you are saying above when I was single until I saw the reality of being married to someone that complain about everything you do.

liyuboy:
Hello Peep, i need ur advise,, i am married to a woman i tot was of a certain characteristics upon marriage and two years down the line my only source of happiness are the two children (Boy and Girl) we have.

Despite all I do (as bread winner) to please her she is not appreciative, she disrespect me, she doesn't cook for me, she complains too much, she compares me to her father daily even though i have told her her mother has a better character than her that is why her father would do anything to please her.

I am always unhappy becos of her character, i am thinking of seeking divorce.

What do u guys think?

liyuboy:
Hello Peep, i need ur advise,, i am married to a woman i tot was of a certain characteristics upon marriage and two years down the line my only source of happiness are the two children (Boy and Girl) we have.

liyuboy:
Despite all I do (as bread winner) to please her she is not appreciative, she disrespect me, she doesn't cook for me, she complains too much, she compares me to her father daily even though i have told her her mother has a better character than her that is why her father would do anything to please her.

liyuboy:
I am always unhappy becos of her character, i am thinking of seeking divorce.
What do u guys think?

ednut1:
part of d reason i dey fear to marry

Godmystrength:
There is no fear in love

pickabeau1:
; nor love in fear