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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by stevecantrell: 7:48pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Nigerian women...Scamming men since 1914. 5 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Skybright227: 8:21pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
do you mean you don't know why she suddenly change?....then pet her,talk to her shower love to her and i mean plenty of it...you have to put your wife first and evry thing(children) will fall to plc 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by chlowi(f): 8:52pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Effective Communication remains one of the key item in any relationship, you both should have a real talk, before you initiate the session, Ensure that you both are in good conversational mood!. Try this severally, and if this doesn't work call on people she respects. When you've done these, you would knw the next line of action. May God see you both through. 3 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 9:03pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
OP, you have been beta for too long. You have become over-emotional and she's using that to dominate you. She's boss and is acting it. The question is are you going to reclaim your throne? You could involve her parents who might mediate and talk sense into her but that will only be papering over cracks. You have to look for your balls in her portmanteau and install it where it truly belongs, in your pants. You're the provider but you've relinquished your authority to her over time and have been left with nothing. Now is not the time to plead for her love and respect because instead of getting that you'll be baptised with even more contempt and disdain. This woman does not respect and, therefore, cannot love you. You want respect? Get your balls and be ready for the worst. Set rules in your house that must not be broken with clearly spelt out consequences which you must be ready to enforce. If she will not love you, she must not disrespect you. OR You can just get a divorce. 5 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by thorpido(m): 9:16pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
If your wife was not like this at the beginning,then when did she start to change?What are some things that have been happening that made her become like this?In all fairness ,women don't suddenly start behaving like this........ except she chop winch. 5 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by rofemiguwa(f): 9:16pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Geeez!!! Is this legal, sharing someones'4 diary. Seun this shouldnt be right, there is a reason it is called a diary.it is very private. The share button shouldnt work in the diary section. Mizmycoli please make sure this person approves this sort of exposure.its not a literature thread,it is a DIARY MizMyColi: 4 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by cococandy(f): 9:18pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Right here bae carefreewannabe: 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 9:18pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
DukeNija:God bless u 4 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by cococandy(f): 9:27pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Coogar. Well this post made me laugh sha. Funny you coogar: |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by cococandy(f): 9:30pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Pele mk3jax: |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by cococandy(f): 9:36pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
How can it be called private when everyone can read it? Just saying rofemiguwa: 9 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Stillfire: 9:37pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
stevecantrell: Seems Nigerian women are the better players in this game. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by rofemiguwa(f): 9:40pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Ya it shud be for diarylanders,the same reason guest readers cant acess that section The diary gist shudnt leave the diary room. #na so e suppose be# cococandy: 4 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by stevecantrell: 9:41pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Stillfire: They won't get me.. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by cococandy(f): 9:43pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Ok rofemiguwa: |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 10:34pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
cococandy: Finally. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Ymodulus: 10:36pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Phema:Yes na |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by uzolexis(f): 11:56pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
stevecantrell: I just can't seem to figure this out? Why, Why, Why do most guys here think Nigerian women are awful and other women are better I see so much Nigerian women this and Nigerian women that it amazes me. pls what is the basis of comparism cause i just don't get it. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by DukeNija(m): 12:07am On Oct 17, 2014 |
chlowi: Nne sorry to derail o, but this ur profile pic made me shout 'Chisos'! |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:52am On Oct 17, 2014 |
Morotov1:Would you please keep shut? If he were to be enjoying it he wouldn't lie about it. Your type just come out to judge people and want to sound sane and reasonable when you are piece of shit. Did you take time out to read what he wrote? and where in the article did he abuse her? You have serious comprehension issues. go back to his post and reread carefully and stop jumping the gun 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by stevecantrell: 6:47am On Oct 17, 2014 |
uzolexis: Don't take the above too seriously, I'm sure Belgian men say the same thing about Belgian women. Its all relative. But jokes aside...there's some truth to it Women regardless of race, culture or location, tend to put on an elaborate show of their best behaviour during courtship only to unleash their true colour after the wedding. I'm not saying guys don't do so too, but women have more reasons to do this and are better known for it.. Don't you think ?. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by freecocoa(f): 7:27am On Oct 17, 2014 |
mk3jax:Just had to quote this post, like seriously? How do you stay in the same house with this woman you so obviously hate? Hmm OP, just like many people have said, try talking to your wife, I mean if all you said is true, then there still has to be some of that good woman whom you married, left inside her, just try to reach her and see how it goes. I'm not married but if there's something I'm certain of, it is that, communication is a good and effective means of resolving conflicts by two mature and willing minds. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by mk3jax: 8:14am On Oct 17, 2014 |
x 21 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Morotov1(m): 9:46am On Oct 17, 2014 |
satope1:Go and swim, please . You haven't say anything to him either. Frustrated housewives and early menopause spinsters taking their anger out on another internet monicker. Don't come after me or you will get burnt. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 11:13am On Oct 17, 2014 |
mk3jax; I wouldn't blame you for resenting your wife if she is all you say she is. No one will be comfortable with a partner who does not look out for their interest and only interested in what he/she can get from the union. You guys are married and should have common interest. Why does she feel you should bail her siblings out financially? Are they your responsibility? I can understand if these demands are once in a blue moon and you seem to be the last resort. Even at that, it should be at your discretion and convenience. I think part of her problem is cos she doesn't know how difficult it is to make money. Some stay-at-home wives are guilty of this. Please, get her a job. No matter how small. When she leaves for work in the morning and come back at night, she go know say khaki no be leather. She will be telling her siblings to source for cash elsewhere cos you don't have. What kind of wife doesn't plan with her husband financially? She is supposed to be the one encouraging you and cheering you on when it comes to planning for the family and investing for the future. You really do need to speak with her ASAP. As for your family coming around. . . Is she always informed prior to their coming? Or they just come at will, badge into the house with her being little or not even prepared to receive a visitor? When they do come, do they boss her around while putting up the "this is my brother's house, so I can do as I like" attitude? Do they tidy up after themselves and even help around the house? Are they in good relationship with her? Do they like her? What some men don't know is that it is easier for them to cope with their "bad" inlaws who come visiting than it is for a wife. This is because, men are seldom involved in the day to day running of the home. The wife does the cooking, the cleaning, washing etal and in all of these, she has to put the inlaw who came visiting into consideration. The men merely provide the money. So, no, its not thesame scenerio. My MIL came sometime ago and she was on a diet. Guess who had to make two different meals before leaving for the office? One for her breakfast and the other for lunch. Guess who had to prepare another seperate meal for her when I'm back from work at night? Guess who had to prepare the visitor's room for her coming? Guess who had to go shopping to get the things she liked available? And many more. Was it inconveniencing? Sure it was. Did I complain? No I didn't. Cos I was duly informed and had enough time to plan and put things in place. It also helped that she wasn't gonna stay for a long time, so I knew the inconveniencies weren't for long. Moreover, she was so nice to me and always thankful for every little thing done for her. How could I complain? I think you should be more understanding in this regard. You should not "throw" your people on her. Always carry her along when anyone indicates they will be visiting and do well to not let them overstay. It is ALWAYS more inconveniencing for the woman. 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by thorpido(m): 3:07pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
^^^Phema has spoken well. Honestly,I don't understand the part where he has to keep fending for the wife's family.I thought you do these things at your own discretion and occasionally. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Bibol(f): 5:31pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
@ Phema, well said. Pls check your mail. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Bootybuttchic(f): 11:03am On Oct 18, 2014 |
freecocoa:and its the man who gets all the blame,this man just said something thats bothering his marital life,and everyone is leashing on him like hes a woman hater,too many hypocrites on nairaland,so u tink a woman cant do all he listed up there smh....its why i avoid female freinds.....why cant u just advice or ignore......,..,nairalanders and their super perfect life..mstweeew mk3jax and @op God will help ur marriage just be praying,remember God can do everything....and try communicating with her.....i pray she is the type that can understand sha..,.cos when u talk to some people,what they understand iswhat they are thinking from their own mind.....they just go all anticlockwise on u.....it is well 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Rosarie(f): 11:08am On Oct 18, 2014 |
mk3jax:u can nva ve it perfect.ve u evr hit yr wife.why is she nt working yet 2 share her salary to her pple 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 11:27am On Oct 18, 2014 |
freshdude2: THIS is the BEST and most intelligent advice. MY Respect bro...seem you are married! OP, make use of his advice...Trust me. You have played into the hand of your woman and she has imprisoned you emotionally. To reclaim your position, it won't be easy cos things could get even worst leading to temporary separation but all in all brace up for the worst scenerio unless you'd wanna be her emotional puppet to the end. It is your call. 5 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by EfemenaXY: 2:09pm On Oct 18, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: Present ma! Been a bit busy of late but I'm good. You? Happy weekend dear |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by 5minsmadness: 2:31pm On Oct 18, 2014 |
liyuboy: I just posted this in another thread but I think its relevant here also. The first 2yrs of marriage are usually the toughest and then the next 3yrs are the adaptation period. So usually if a marriage is going strong after five years, chances are it will last long. This experience will be the same whether you marry prince charming or your ex, its just the way human relations work Brb let me go and read what others said. But op you should know that this is usually the toughest time in any marriage. It is at this point that you realise that the lovey lovey you were professing on your wedding day to your then most beautiful woman in the world was a complete sham/imagination/emotional 419. Now its time for the hardwork. If you want this marriage to work you have to learn to adapt to her. Don't wait for her to adapt to you, you are the man and you want your house to stand, do it first. I assure you, she will eventually follow. It will be hard but that's why its called hard work. You will have to learn to love her no matter what she says or does. In so doing you will earn a deeper respect from her. She will start to see you differently. And with time she herself will change, not because she is forced to but becauae she will see your commitment and effort. You have to be patient. You have to be selfless. And you are the man of the house and the head of your home. You have to be strong. CC mk3jax 5 Likes |
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