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True love is often confused with lust. Here’s how to know for sure what your feelings really are.
Moving from “like” to “love” is one of the most important transitions a couple can make. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the most misunderstood ones.


Too many couples think that love is the same as lust. This equates love with the ooey, gooey excitement and breathless anticipation that usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship.

Unfortunately, defining love this way makes it into a feeling. The down side of that is that feelings come and go. If you don’t want your love to wax and wane with your emotions, you probably don’t want to define love solely as something you feel.

Our culture doesn’t give us a lot of other options for a definition of true love, though. If it’s not just a feeling, then what else is it?

Love is a Feeling . . . and More
Fortunately, you don’t have to lose the concept of love as a feeling altogether. Most of the time, when you are experiencing true love, you will feel positively about your significant other. You may not feel head-over-heels in love with them, but you will think well of them, want to be with them and, overall, feel good about being with them.

The difference between true love and defining love as only a feeling, though, is that true love continues even when you don’t have positive feelings about your partner. In fact, you can experience true love even when you’re furious at your partner or when they have just hurt you deeply.

The thing that causes this difference is commitment. When you’re truly in love with another person, you commit to staying with them even when things are hard. You decide that the person you’re with is a person you want to continue to be with, and you choose to stay.

Note that there are usually some caveats to this decision. You should, for instance, not choose to stay with someone who is abusive. Some people choose not to stay with a partner who cheats on them. Whatever your caveats, you can build them in to your original decision.

How to Decide
Since committing to love someone is a big decision that will affect all aspects of your life, it’s not one you want to make quickly or without some knowledge that the other person will return your commitment and is someone you want to be with.

Luckily, there are some things you can do that will help you decide whether or not to commit to a partner you’re in a casual relationship with. These same things will help build your commitment once you’ve made it.
First of all, you’ll want to build trust. After all, you don’t want to commit to someone who isn’t worthy of that decision. Secondly, you’ll want to get to know your partner well and to let them know you. It will be easier to commit to someone who knows your quirks and loves you anyway. Finally, you’ll want to build a strong friendship with your partner. This friendship will help you hold to your commitment even when you’re not sure you want to.

Source: http://lifestyle-ng..com/2014/10/how-to-know-if-you-are-in-love-or-in.html

What is true love?

Tallesty1:
What is true love?

I really want to know.

Story for the gods,love is dead.

Love is commitment to care for anyone without expecting anything in return.
Remember the bible say: Love your enemies as yourself and do good to them. This is a pointer to the fact that Love is not based on feelings but action.
Good write up. Though I don't agree with the last paragraph.

On point!

major466:
Love is commitment to care for anyone without expecting anything in return.
Remember the bible say: Love your enemies as yourself and do good to them. This is a pointer to the fact that Love is not based on feelings but action.
Good write up. Though I don't agree with the last paragraph.

Tallesty1:
What is true love?

FÜCK!! love is a pure FÜCKING choice we make to FÜCKING love someone (regardless of their faults or imperfections) without our FÜCKING emotions blinding or misleading us.

Love is when you FÜCKING take away the FÜCKING feelings, the passion, the romance & you FÜCKING find out you still FÜCKING care for that person

Tabh:
Story for the gods,love is dead.

Seconded!!!!!

priscaoge:


Seconded!!!!!

huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu *laughing in japan* so you follow kill love e kwa Madam, you're under arrest . You have the right to remain silent, anything you say will be used against you in the court of law

major466:
Love is commitment to care for anyone without expecting anything in return.
Remember the bible say: Love your enemies as yourself and do good to them. This is a pointer to the fact that Love is not based on feelings but action.
Good write up. Though I don't agree with the last paragraph.

haa this to me is not completely true o. Are you trying to define agape love?- the love of God which cannot be returned in a way that matches.
If its eros- the romantic love, that one has to be requited o. It has to be returned and its not bad to expect a return in this case. Tenku.

missberrypop5:
huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu *laughing in japan* so you follow kill love e kwa Madam, you're under arrest . You have the right to remain silent, anything you say will be used against you in the court of law

[size=14pt] *FAINTS* [/size]

priscaoge:






[size=14pt] *FAINTS* [/size]

Hey chic, at the heat of our last discourse, you scampered.

iconize:


Hey chic, at the heat of our last discourse, you scampered.

Do u wanna take me back to the thread? We are moving forward abeg

missberrypop5:
huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu *laughing in japan* so you follow kill love e kwa Madam, you're under arrest . You have the right to remain silent, anything you say will be used against you in the court of law

'Court of love' u mean...

Tallesty1:
What is true love?

It is a big blackish greenish box full of fictitious stories written in a blue paper

Dayjhihannon01:

pls dear interpret Wetin dem write here for me bikko,, in two sentences d tin too long

hahahaha. I no read am.

Mrfils:

'Court of love' u mean...

all join. Love, law, rove

priscaoge:






[size=14pt] *FAINTS* [/size]

*Pours her tank of water, handcuffs her and drags her to the police suction*

priscaoge:


Do u wanna take me back to the thread? We are moving forward abeg

***Dies***

merit12:
Typing wait,I'm coming back

Sig never give up if you wanna try

Wait....are you black

See question o I'm green!