Biralee:
This is my opinion. I guess she b*nged one of your friends and she does not want them around to prevent stories that touch.

A real possibility considering that the lady in question "was very close to some of his friends" b4 marriage.

Anoda wan don come o! It is only Monday. Chai! Chai! Chai!

Tymax:

The lady is immature for thinking she can weed out the same guys that helped shape the man whom she fell in love with and married. Take away those friends and he won't be the same guy. She will be dealing with a stranger.
My friends have influenced me as much as I have them. It is a mature man that doesn't run into the arms of his wife alienating his good friends.
What next will she do? Separate him from his family? Talk about insecure ladies!

eskober:
so to hv friends is immature, to watch match is immature? well that is ur own opinion. thank you

jsunex:

Wat do u mean, he only asked for an advise, u women are so dangerous...

eskober:
so to hv friends is immature, to watch match is immature? well that is ur own opinion. thank you

Watching all d males ranting nonsense here s quite more disgraceful to u guys..
D lady s wrong actually (am not disputing dat fact) but wat matured man come up here saying "can I survive this marriage?" barely 3days into d wedding. was he spell bound when taking his vows? If I kip on ranting here,it won't help matters cos its annoying me already..
@ OP,u can go on n sign divorce papers already. mtchewwww

No you won't survive the marriage, because you are not suppose to survive it. Marriage is till death. If you're asking whether you can endure the marriage, then it will be a different thing all together.




Less than 48 hours after the wedding you can't afford to sacrifice watching Chelsea match for your bride. Don't come back here to complain after two years if she doesn't give a heck about you or what you do, because you are setting a bad precedence.




wishing you a happy married life.

Na wa o! Less than 48hrs. This one is strong!

Candis009:


Watching all d males ranting nonsense here s quite more disgraceful to u guys..
D lady s wrong actually (am not disputing dat fact) but wat matured man come up here saying "can I survive this marriage?" barely 3days into d wedding. was he spell bound when taking his vows? If I kip on ranting here,it won't help matters cos its annoying me already..
@ OP,u can go on n sign divorce papers already. mtchewwww

Wat is ds one saying...

I suspect this op is seeking attention. Abeg change this topic and upload your wedding pictures joor. Let us celebrate first before you put sand in the garri.

Xx

eskober:
the marriage is brand new, infact its less than 48 hrs, the problem is that she as started complaining about some of my friends and that she don't want them around anymore. some of these people hv known all my life. we used to visit them together n I tot she liked them but it's clear now that she was pretending my fear now is only God knows what else she has in stock. to even watch Chelsea match today na with fight. I need advise on how to deal with this situation.

I think the marriage is just too early to bring on NL my brother, you no how u handle her when she is upset when u guyz are dating that same thing u will do to calm her down and makes her understand everything. Plz marriage is nt an easy task @ all you need to understand that God bless you home

Candis009:


Watching all d males ranting nonsense here s quite more disgraceful to u guys..
D lady s wrong actually (am not disputing dat fact) but wat matured man come up here saying "can I survive this marriage?" barely 3days into d wedding. was he spell bound when taking his vows? If I kip on ranting here,it won't help matters cos its annoying me already..
@ OP,u can go on n sign divorce papers already. mtchewwww

you r u vexing, I only seek advice from experience people because am sure there r people out there that had gone through the same thing. take your time oh. peace

2good:
Xx

you don't have sense

egopersonified:
I suspect this op is seeking attention. Abeg change this topic and upload your wedding pictures joor. Let us celebrate first before you put sand in the garri.

are you by any chance saying........ pisure or u don't believe it

egopersonified:
I suspect this op is seeking attention. Abeg change this topic and upload your wedding pictures joor. Let us celebrate first before you put sand in the garri.

are you by any chance saying........ pisure or u don't believe it

jsunex:



Wat is ds one saying...

by their comments we shall no them, I don't know y she dey vex o

Zehner:
Na wa o! Less than 48hrs. This one is strong!

don't worry we will weather the Storm

slinkky:
No you won't survive the marriage, because you are not suppose to survive it. Marriage is till death. If you're asking whether you can endure the marriage, then it will be a different thing all together.




Less than 48 hours after the wedding you can't afford to sacrifice watching Chelsea match for your bride. Don't come back here to complain after two years if she doesn't give a heck about you or what you do, because you are setting a bad precedence.




wishing you a happy married life.

selsea for life joor. No carry blues play o

eskober:
you don't have sense

You are stupid for saying I don't have sense. FYI I deleted my comment

2good:


You are stupid for saying I don't have sense. FYI I deleted my comment

u just proved it to me that you actually don't have sense. if I catch you

Op, I think You entered into the marriage with much fear and suspicion. You already had It in mind That your wife might change after marriage, hence whatever thing she does tends to point to that direction.

eskober:
u just proved it to me that you actually don't have sense. if I catch you

No wonder your wife is controlling you. Grow up man.

Op...brace your self. There is more to come from her. Soon,it will extend to your mum, sis, etc. These are your friends she knew way back. Most def. She knew you are in safe hands. Barely some hours into the marriage,the rules starts abi? Ok o! Thats how its starts. By the way op, I was married for 6 yrs now divorced. Take this issue very serious and thrash it out with her. Enough said.

ELLYsian:
Don't allow your wife to tell you how to go about your friends. Today it is about your friends, tomorrow about your family. Tell her you are not her child.

Gbam! Home breaker naso una go dey advice pple against their wife, Op u better wake up and start making sacrifice 4 ur nw family,reduce ur going out with friends,create time to bond with ur wife,I don't think ur wife hates ur friends she's only jealous because dey take u away frm her most of d time

Never receive advice from any man who is a matrimonial failure, its too early for all this.

Your wife might be wrong by advising you to reduce your closeness with your friends this early,it depends on what she sees in them.

You are now a married man and no longer the free single guy,you have to learn to sacrifice certain things for the happiness of your partner. Watching football cannot be more important than your wife.

@ OP, well your marriage is still in the formidable stage.. 1. What were you discussing all through courtship, if you did not sort out issues like this!! 2. There is a simple word called COMMUNICATION, wake her up in the middle of the night and have a heart to heart talk with her.. Ask her the reasons for not wanting your friends around and if possible as well during the conversation analyse all her points without being biased. If YES some of her points are valid then you gradually find a way to break the friendship with them and if No, don't argue with her all you have to do is be diplomatic with your choice not to hurt her or yourself. Also NEVER RAISE YOUR VOICE AT HER during the discussion. 3. The issue of watching your club play football, bros hmmmm you must learn to compromise oo, it's either you allow her take the T.V while you stream the match on your device or simply share the T.V with her in control of the remote. Note: you can rap her once in a while to allow you watch the match for 1- 2 minutes then switch back to her program or alternate between her program and the match at intervals. Finally, if you want your marriage to work o boy you must listen and be very very patient gra gra is not the answer

NairaMode:


Handle whatever comes.
God will give to the grace.

Complete BS.
What exactly does crap like the above mean?.

Why don't we as well tell him to consult an oracle or go to a native doctor right away?.

Like, the nairamode say said, if you have a brain, then use it to confront your problems in the most rational way possible.

My advise for the op.

I really understand your surprise and shock, and you are doing a good thing by seeking advice from anonymous people in a public forum who have not stake or bias in the matter. I think a public forum is the best place to get a widest variety of unbiased advise.

My advise to you is to FIRMLY PUT YOUR FEET DOWN , or you will be woman wrapper for the rest of your immediate future.
A woman that does not respect, cherish or love the people and things that you do does not also respect, cherish and love you.
Make no mistakes about this.
Unless, of course, your friends are known criminals that she wants to protect you from.

If she was very pretentious towards your close friends, I am betting she was same to your family members, and possibly you too.
We know her type. She wants to isolate you from your friends and loved ones.

Everyone has a mixture of good and bad friends, and every mature adult knows how to handle their category of friends.

egopersonified:
Draw near to me and I will draw near to you. You better hold your marriage strong now before we hear stories that touch the heart becos these are not issues at all. By the way, are you not supposed to be honeymooning, wetin consign football join honeymoon? And those your friends I even suspect them, dont the married ones have girlfriends? Dont you guys go on drinking spree? She never pretended to like them, she does like them, just some traits she wants you to avoid, hence her stance against them. Not saying you should disown your friends but try to tap into the positives only. And this football issue is a life battle so better sort what works for you both at this early stage for you to enjoy your marriage.

Why do women generally want to mold men to their fancy?
The guy is already who he is and wants to be.
She met him that way, and I assume fell for him the way he is.

If she is suddenly unsatisfied with him and his entire package that includes his close friends and family, then this man will never know peace .
I cannot see peace in this relationship unless the man puts his feet firmly on the ground at this early stage.

princesstemi:
I think the marriage is just too early to bring on NL my brother, you no how u handle her when she is upset when u guyz are dating that same thing u will do to calm her down and makes her understand everything. Plz marriage is nt an easy task @ all you need to understand that God bless you home

If you stop to consider that this is a public anonymous forum, then it is the best place at any time to seek and get wide variety of advice on personal issues that one cannot even share with close friends and relatives without compromising one's pride and privacy.

wandeboi:
Op...brace your self. There is more to come from her. Soon,it will extend to your mum, sis, etc. These are your friends she knew way back. Most def. She knew you are in safe hands. Barely some hours into the marriage,the rules starts abi? Ok o! Thats how its starts. By the way op, I was married for 6 yrs now divorced. Take this issue very serious and thrash it out with her. Enough said.

Thanks a million.
This is what the op should read and re-read.

A stitch in time, saves nine.

Seems u were eagerly waiting to get married and post your problems! wow! You only voice out marital issues that you've tried to settle continuously and didn't work!!! And running here shudnt even be your first option mehn. Pls I will advice you to grow up,obviously,I sense u are and will be the problem in your home,NOT YOUR WIFE!!!

Let me warn you: Its very risky taking marital advice from a divorcee,a bad husband/wife or a single person.

eskober:
the marriage is brand new, infact its less than 48 hrs, the problem is that she as started complaining about some of my friends and that she don't want them around anymore. some of these people hv known all my life. we used to visit them together n I tot she liked them but it's clear now that she was pretending my fear now is only God knows what else she has in stock. to even watch Chelsea match today na with fight. I need advise on how to deal with this situation.

Will you stop this rubbish n be a man. Must you bring ur problem to the public? Smh

48hours kwa!
Your wife complained about stuffs and you came to report her to Nairalanders.

Wait for the people that married the woman for you, they will soon be here.