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Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 5:56pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
bukatyne: Not really. He wants the wife to take full responsibility. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by rebella(f): 5:57pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Lmao, this Sagamite is just a trouble maker |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by bukatyne(f): 6:04pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize: That's better than saying he is her slave Imagine a woman saying that she is tired of handling the bills because she is not his slave? Choice of words |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by DukeNija(m): 6:06pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize: No offence but I think I'm with sagamite on this one. Lol! Your friend must be a huge joke of a man. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:10pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Homo fagggot, you've been whipped and outshined severally by your God, Iconize. The last time you got severely beaten, you had to invite your fagggot biatch, Masonkz to plead on your behalf. Masokz: Now you tryna troll on my thread to restore your self-esteem like a boy who got beaten by a girl., but nah! |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:13pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
DukeNija: Lmao! Yeah, could be love after all. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by DukeNija(m): 6:14pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize: There's really nothing your friend can do, he has already stamped his own certificate of role swap and has chosen to be the wife. If I were his husband I swear I won't even listen to him, afterall cooking is his role as my wife. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by DukeNija(m): 6:16pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize: Ofcourse, his wife is a lucky woman! |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:17pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
DukeNija: From the look of things, dude hasn't really showed any seriousness in convincing his wife. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:19pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:20pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:25pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
bukatyne: Your comparison has nothing to do with this matter. The wife is not the breadwinner of the family, so she absolutely has no reason to consider herself a slave. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:27pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Fagggot biatch, you must think everybody is a London cleaner like you or perhaps everybody is from Nigeria. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by Nobody: 6:27pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize: Er, let me just say: I don't like advising folks on what to do in their relationships/marriages because every relationship is unique, and people are different. However, I'll just say what I'll do if I were in his shoes. Since your friend is "self-employed" - he's definitely going to have time on his hands to help out. And there's no harm in helping a bit. However, when she now makes it his duty, sitting her lazy ar.se down, and expecting the man to do her own duty for her - then it's problematic. You just can't give women that luxury and put them in a space where they can make it a necessity for you to perpetually perform their natural roles for them, all in the name of being romantic. With women, once you lose that respect, it's always difficult to get it back, unless you put your feet down. I'd say he can't earn his respect anymore - he has to command it. The first step would be to stop the cooking nonsense altogether and, start buying his own food from restaurants. When she starts starving, she'll get her lazy ar.se in the kitchen and start cooking again. You just have to draw a line and dare the consequences...since this madness has gone beyond what they can sit down and talk about. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:45pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Coming from a low-brained, buck-toothed fagggot biatch that practically thinks being self-employed is all about being a petty businessman or perhaps an importer. Your incestuous momma with gorilla brains should be slaughtered for producing a walking corpse. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:47pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by bukatyne(f): 6:56pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize: I was doing comparison dude |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:59pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
SirShymex: Yeah, I talked to him about buying his own food from restaurants but he's trying to pick up fully in that aspect. However, its obvious the matter can't be settled amicably without inciting troubles. So for being initially dumb he has to take risks and face the consequences. Though as Camerounian-Dutch, he's trying to avoid making troubles with the wife. But I can say that the wife doesn't see the "romantic" job she has given the hubby as weird or bad, she sees it as a romantic role. You should know chics. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 6:59pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
bukatyne: Sure, you were. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by akinsadeez(m): 7:11pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
bukatyne: But in Nigeria we all know that it is the wife that does the cooking in the home. Now any loving husband can cook for his wife from time to time as a loving gesture but a situation where the husband is in the kitchen everyday cooking for his wife is just not normal in our culture. Imagine the husband's parents coming to stay with them for a few days and then seeing their son in the kitchen everyday cooking and serving the food. Your friend should sit his wife down and tell her that cooking for her everyday has gone beyond a romantic gesture. When they were courting, their understanding must have been that she would do the cooking in the house and that shouldn't suddenly change in the marriage. If she refuses then he can also simply refuse to enter the kitchen and cook. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by bukatyne(f): 7:14pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
akinsadeez: I understand you My grouse is the way he passed his point across |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by RoyalPearl(f): 7:52pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
My friend are you sure you are not talking about yourself |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 8:30pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
RoyalPearl: Lol! As you know, I'm yet to marry Aranaa. |
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