He is always locking his phone in order to keep me away from it..sometimes he stays up late night chatting on whatsapp n Bbm I have always been suspicious of him n passwording his phone is more or less like a confirmation dont know what to think anymore

No b rozzay wey contest for miss nairaland be dis?

Cutehector4u:
No b rozzay wey contest for miss nairaland be dis?

noooooo....im new here

roWzayy:
noooooo....im new here

ok so u were say ur husband is cheating on u.... Do u hav proofs

There is dis particular girl he always chat with on whatsapp n he deletes d msgs immediately after chat....when I confronted him he didnt say anytin den he resulted to locking his fone

roWzayy:
noooooo....im new here

If you new how you come know about miss nairaland and where e dey hold?

Make a confirmation first before shouting on something that you have no certainty. You hear!

Tell him u aint comfortable with him chatting with another woman late at nite.

Its that simple!

luvablesam:
Tell him u aint comfortable with him chatting with another woman late at nite.

Its that simple!

ok I will

chakula:
Make a confirmation first before shouting on something that you have no certainty. You hear!

im certain he even deletes his call logs especially dat of d girl

oieda:

If you new how you come know about miss nairaland and where e dey hold?

pls I dont know anytin abt miss nairaland

roWzayy:
im certain he even deletes his call logs especially dat of d girl

Kindly adjust the title of the thread from the initial one and correct it. Because the phrase 'I think' here is showing that you are not certain.

My dear stop giving yourself headache trying to prove that he's cheating on you.

What if your suspicion becomes true, what will you do about it?
You'll only spoil your marriage because you'll birth distrust.

My advise: if you think he's cheating on you (which might not even be true), look for ways to get the spark back into your marriage(that's what you should be concerned with sef) you don't have any business trying to know the other lady; your business is your husband. Get the spark back and other women will be non- existent to him.

JEITO:
My dear stop giving yourself headache trying to prove that he's cheating on you.
What if your suspicion becomes true, what will you do about it?
You'll only spoil your marriage because you'll birth distrust.
My advise: if you think he's cheating on you (which might not even be true), look for ways to get the spark back into your marriage(that's what you should be concerned with sef) you don't have any business trying to know the other lady; your business is your husband. Get the spark back and other women will be non- existent to him.

I agree she doesnt have any business with the lady but it does not neccessarily mean spark is missing in their marriage. I complained of something similar not long ago about my hubby too. Men just like all these side attraction n attention, i really dont know what this other women talk to them about that their wives dont talk to them about.

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he...

Your spouse should never have given you reason to doubt him.



















If you think he's cheating on you, then he probably is...


Solution? You decided what to do with him.

Cutehector4u:
No b rozzay wey contest for miss nairaland be dis?

So u now open dis acc to take ova from me abi? Bia op? Rowzayy? Nawa ooooo name don finish abi. Continue.

dsgirl:


I agree she doesnt have any business with the lady but it does not neccessarily mean spark is missing in their marriage. I complained of something similar not long ago about my hubby too. Men just like all these side attraction n attention, i really dont know what this other women talk to them about that their wives dont talk to them about.

Stop generalising please. Just say some men who don't understand the value and weight of the vows they took are the ones who would go on looking for side attractions when they have a wife at home. We have thousands of men out there who's spouses are their best friends and confidants.


As for the op. Asking him would just make him more resentful and hide it more. I believe you need patience and a watchful eye. I dont know how deep your level of communication is, but I doubt someone like that is sensitive enough to hold a matured talk with. They would always turn it against you saying yu are insecured and stuff just to make you look like you are crying wolf. Just wait.. he would slip soon.

Well, ur husband might not be cheating but just enjoy chattin wit other ladies. I used to chat alot too and attimes i did delete sum msges cuz dia was no way i could have explain other wise if my wife see such chats. I assure u he wil outgrow such habit wit time, meanwhile try to worry less and keep doing ur best to please him.

Domwiz4all:
Well, ur husband might not be cheating but just enjoy chattin wit other ladies. I used to chat alot too and attimes i did delete sum msges cuz dia was no way i could have explain other wise if my wife see such chats. I assure u he wil outgrow such habit wit time, meanwhile try to worry less and keep doing ur best to please him.

And have you outgrown yours?

And why do you delete it? If you are bold enough to do things, you should be man enough to take responsibility for your actions and words and gladly show it off to the world and not hide it from her. She should enjoy seeing what you love doing. Ain't it?

my dear wot u don't kw won't hurt u. I kw dat its not easy but jst take it easy so dat u won't loose ur home. all d best

Hmmmm...thks for d comments above,i ll modify d topic d tin is I know he is cheating very certain.. each time I confront him he is always defensive just this morning his phone rang as early as 7 I went to give him in order for d ringtone not to wake our baby up,the call was from a female he didnt pick d call neither did he return it I told him him to call d girl back n place d call on loud speaker...he was just shaking like a jellyfish

rozzay:

So u now open dis acc to take ova from me abi? Bia op? Rowzayy? Nawa ooooo name don finish abi. Continue.

original rozzay abeg no quote me biko, na d fake roWzayy u suppose quote...

JEITO:

What if your suspicion becomes true, what will you do about it?


.

This is how you people encourage men to continue cheating.

dsgirl:


I agree she doesnt have any business with the lady but it does not neccessarily mean spark is missing in their marriage. I complained of something similar not long ago about my hubby too. Men just like all these side attraction n attention, i really dont know what this other women talk to them about that their wives dont talk to them about.

when I say get the spark back, I'm not insinuating that the she's doing something wrong and thus needs to change. What I'm implying is that for the man to all of a sudden begin to look outside, it means his attention has been drawn away(except if that man is a born cheat) how can you keep one from distractions? Is it not to get him focused on one thing? What I'm saying is that she can or should focus on getting her husband's attention on her alone and not bother with whether he's cheating or who he's cheating with.

Every woman has got that killer instinct to nail her husband to herself and that's the spark she needs to strikke again. It is possible that it is from her ends or his, either way, she can get him drooling over her again.

It is up to her to research and find out what men like to talk about, see in their wives and other things that tickles an average man. That's how she will get him interested in her alone.

NB: I can't be doing wrong when I'm doing right. Same way, he can't be loving other women outside when he's loving his wife at home.

Btw, not all men do that.

1stCitizen:


This is how you people encourage men to continue cheating.

I tink you are taking my statement out of context. I will never cheat, neither will I encourage anybody to do same.

When I asked, what I was saying was if indeed he's a cheat, can she change him or change the fact that he cheated? Maybe you should read it again and understand my angle

turasumon:
my dear wot u don't kw won't hurt u. I kw dat its not easy but jst take it easy so dat u won't loose ur home. all d best

This statement is why today we have women with differents STDs and HIV all over the place.Just like her not knowing that she is already infected by her husband and probably dying.....

So my dear,which home is she keeping?The one she will lose anyway when death comes knocking?


@Op,talk to your husband,let him know that you hurting and his attitude is affecting the trust you have in him....

Discuss as you will do with your confident,a friend....tell him what's going through your mind...

It shall be well...

JEITO:
My dear stop giving yourself headache trying to prove that he's cheating on you.

What if your suspicion becomes true, what will you do about it?
You'll only spoil your marriage because you'll birth distrust.

My advise: if you think he's cheating on you (which might not even be true), look for ways to get the spark back into your marriage(that's what you should be concerned with sef) you don't have any business trying to know the other lady; your business is your husband. Get the spark back and other women will be non- existent to him.

LOL! LOL!! LOL!!!

Op I'll advice u act in line with @edwife's comment.

Pls dnt accuse him, dnt fight with him, dnt even raise ur voice, jst talk in a calm voice but let him knw d severity of d mata .... Open up.

Let him knw his actions by chatting late at night as simple as it may sound, disturbs u n diminishes it trust in him.

Pray.

In d end, All will b well

@edwife n mrfils thks alot I really appreciate

He is always locking his phone in order to keep me away from it..sometimes he stays up late night chatting on whatsapp n Bbm I have always been suspicious of him n passwording his phone is more or less like a confirmation dont know what to think anymore






















My dear sista,U r not d only one in such shoes,am just a year old in my marriage wiv a baby now,My husband spends hours on Facebook and Whatapp chatting wiv both girls,He even calls dem asking dem when and wia they can see,I have confronted him severaly am tired,I have tried even being over Romantic but not working, I was depressed 4 months no body 2 talk it with,cus we r new in dis area of ph I think we shuld just continue praying 4 dem,But try nt 2 do things dat he will
Start suspecting u,remain faithful and dnt always tell ur friends abt it.U can reach me if u need someone 2 talk wit.








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@Better2014 im also in ph...thks for ur advice