efosticgum:
@op, I hv 3 questions to ask. You hv answered 2 which is; u ain't shy and you hv a stable job.

now d third is; are u good looking?

Well to be honest with you I would say looking Good maybe 50%.. dere are days when i feel and look good then there are days i'm just derr.. I'm about 5'7" in height dark complexioned people say i'm getting fatter (They say i'm chopping money - dats not true were the money dey kwanu, its just dat noting is burning away the food i eat... abi now) and what else would you like to know..

lawrenceunaa:
just like that

marriage is not a boyfrn ,galfrn matter ooo

What's your point?? what are you proposing?

Annypie:
hmm,call it luck or fate.

buh,u still hav to make dah effort to answer d door,let it in,and be a good host.

At the end of the day....I can only speak for myself. I kinda made a personal choice not to chase anymore. Or at least for now!..after talking to some female friends who openly admitted that girls of today now have more than one bf and it's perfectly normal. And these bfs play different roles. Shit closed my heart for business!

endie44:


Its not like you really put it... as in programming per sa..

I may not be correct, but my mind tells me you maybe of younger generation compared to me. I can tell you categorically, when i was younger Yes! the norm would be as you've stated it.. as in all going Organically you meet people and nature takes its course in time. Well i'm still here and that has not happened for me..

To tell you the truth About 2 - 7 years ago if sumone had told me to wait till 2015 before i get married i would have said the person didn't like me that that Date and year is too far.. but them 2015 is just around the corner now.

To answer your question if by then noting happens nko? well Daris God! I'll keep being me and keep getting better... but then i'm really trusting God for this Miracle.. Its the Faith!

Thanks

Lol. Are you referring to a man who had his eyes wide open when Bashir Tofa and Moshood Abiola were the celebrities in Nigeria's political space?

That being said, whether at 40 or 45 years of age (whatever age it is really), it still is enough cause for amazement that any man would decide to make a marriage just happen like that. That just goes with the notion that he has to satisfy a societal obligation just to feel normal, whether he realizes he is doing it or not.

endie44:


Its not like you really put it... as in programming per sa..

I may not be correct, but my mind tells me you maybe of younger generation compared to me. I can tell you categorically, when i was younger Yes! the norm would be as you've stated it.. as in all going Organically you meet people and nature takes its course in time. Well i'm still here and that has not happened for me..

To tell you the truth About 2 - 7 years ago if sumone had told me to wait till 2015 before i get married i would have said the person didn't like me that that Date and year is too far.. but them 2015 is just around the corner now.

To answer your question if by then noting happens nko? well Daris God! I'll keep being me and keep getting better... but then i'm really trusting God for this Miracle.. Its the Faith!

Thanks

So because that has not happened for you, you then have to make it happen, regardless of anything else? What does that statement even mean?

diluminati:


You kids should stop this Nonsense.

It is evil to DATE before Marriage. No where in the Bible was it stated or induced that you have to have a girlfriend that you would be sexing constantly before marriage.

If you want to get married, Just be ready say the word, and you will find a woman who is ready and know whats up. All these yeye dats are the ones that later turn out to divorce, or serial killer marriage.

OP dont listen to kids, when you are ready just shout out the word.

here goes a sister in desperate need of a husband.

op, search no more, here is the ideal wife

and, easy miss, no one is a kid here.
never knew people become kids by advising a bro to date first before getting married.

you are saying he should blindly pop the question. let him not come and open another thread saying ''i wan't to divorce my wife''

endie44:


What's your point?? what are you proposing?

my point is that u don't enter a relationship such as marriage just cos ur heart clicked while dating

U should consider knowing her background , u knw some illness are hereditary so with proper checks u can save ur self the headache of Having a sickler etc

justmag:


At the end of the day....I can only speak for myself. I kinda made a personal choice not to chase anymore. Or at least for now!..after talking to some female friends who openly admitted that girls of today now have more than one bf and it's perfectly normal. And these bfs play different roles. Shit closed my heart for business!

Best of luck. Maybe when youre ready those things won't matter as much.

OmoEziokwu:


Lol. Are you referring to a man who had his eyes wide open when Bashir Tofa and Moshood Abiola were the celebrities in Nigeria's political space?

Sorry Sir.. Didnt mean to undermine your person.. I apologise sincerely.

That being said, whether at 40 or 45 years of age (whatever age it is really), it still is enough cause for amazement that any man would decide to make a marriage just happen like that. That just goes with the notion that he has to satisfy a societal obligation just to feel normal, whether he realizes he is doing it or not.

What can I say... There exist a point where Emotional thinking equals Logical thinking, at such point everything falls into place naturally.. everything takes care of it self. I've seen it happen a lot of times.

So because that has not happened for you, you then have to make it happen, regardless of anything else? What does that statement even mean?

With God all things are possible.

KiddaBlingzz:
here goes a sister in desperate need of a husband

you are saying he should blindly pop the question. let him not come and open another thread saying ''i wan't to divorce my wife''

Very funny Bro... but then on a more serious note, people marry dat way too. marriages are contracted based on recommendation from respectable adults.. such was the case in the past and great unions have being achieved by them. so i'm not opposed to recommended unions.

lawrenceunaa:
my point is that u don't enter a relationship such as marriage just cos ur heart clicked while dating

U should consider knowing her background , u knw some illness are hereditary so with proper checks u can save ur self the headache of Having a sickler etc

I totally agree with you on this.

I ve once dated a very pretty beautiful and decent lady but i was advised not to continue with her after she told me her genotype was SS. i was very much devastated about it dat i asked any1 and every1 if it could be possible we contunued strongly but i got few no's and many weak yeses with buts. it really broke my heart.

Omimah:

Please, could you explain further?

a man can settle any time in life when he likes even if he has no money but for a woman she cant she only keeps hoping on God. A bachelor can say by the end of december i want to be married but a spinster cant say she will settle by the end of decemeber even in 2years time they hope only on God. Thats the difference between a man and a woman. You go to church you see a single lady and next thing you tell her you like her and you just thought of marrying her mhen that they your luck shine neat.

akpur1:
a man can settle any time in life when he likes even if he has no money but for a woman she cant she only keeps hoping on God. A bachelor can say by the end of december i want to be married but a spinster cant say she will settle by the end of decemeber even in 2years time they hope only on God. Thats the difference between a man and a woman. You go to church you see a single lady and next thing you tell her you like her and you just thought of marrying her mhen that they your luck shine neat.

You are right, the man can choose when to get married whereas the woman can't, as it is the man that proposes. But don't you think the man can face constraints in not being employed, or even when employed, not having enough as salary? To what extent can these delay marriage?

nestaolive:
@op, wooing a lady is not the answer. Dont rush into things u can't control later on. Allow nature make it happen. And also, wooing a lady doesn't necessarily mean that it will End up good. Just take ur time, look carefully and you will get what you desire. I have never wooed any lady on nairaland. Even those that follow me here can attest to that but surely,you can find ur wife even here on nairaland

Interesting...

Update...

No Lady yet. OOooH!.. I seriously need help. I fear i might be single for a long time..

He who gets married in haste would repent in leisure.

endie44:
Update...

No Lady yet. OOooH!.. I seriously need help. I fear i might be single for a long time..

Marcnelly sd on page 0 dt you shld call. She's a lady n dts a greenlight. Y don't yu just gv it a try?

endie44:
Update...

No Lady yet. OOooH!.. I seriously need help. I fear i might be single for a long time..

Op if u are really serious come in let's discuss i have some questions for u...#waiting

cutemii:


Op if u are really serious come in let's discuss i have some questions for u...#waiting

Ok.. I'm all ears. Shoot pls.

Oahray:
He who gets married in haste would repent in leisure.

which 1 is dat. How do u contrast marryin in haste with dis situation. Its far from it. its my tyme. and its now.

endie44:


Ok.. I'm all ears. Shoot pls.

Good morning and happy Sunday first.

May I know ur kind of woman...are u cool wid any tribe?

And which tribe are u from?

I have two ladies I'm close to that want something serious too...one from east and one from south.

cutemii:


Good morning and happy Sunday first.

May I know ur kind of woman...are u cool wid any tribe?

And which tribe are u from?

I have two ladies I'm close to that want something serious too...one from east and one from south.

Goodmorning 2 u too. Eastern lady is preferable to me.

endie44:


Goodmorning 2 u too. Eastern lady is preferable to me.

Are u from the east too?

cutemii:


Are u from the east too?

Yes.

endie44:


Yes.

Jus contacted her and she said she's currently seeing someone

endie44:


which 1 is dat. How do u contrast marryin in haste with dis situation. Its far from it. its my tyme. and its now.

marrying in haste doesn't simply mean marrying before you are old enough. If you get married to someone (anyone) before you REALLY get to know her, just to beat some self-imposed deadline (haste), you'd have alot of unpleasant things about her to discover after saying "I do" and plenty time (leisure) to feel irritated about them.

cutemii:


Jus contacted her and she said she's currently seeing someone

Wowch!?.. thanks non d less. I'm back to basic

Oahray:
marrying in haste doesn't simply mean marrying before you are old enough. If you get married to someone (anyone) before you REALLY get to know her, just to beat some self-imposed deadline (haste), you'd have alot of unpleasant things about her to discover after saying "I do" and plenty time (leisure) to feel irritated about them.

U re are very correct in many respect. but i still maintain dat derr exist lots of marriages out derr that are doing well that didnt have the luxry of courtship.. so i am open to all available options.

endie44:


U re are very correct in many respect. but i still maintain dat derr exist lots of marriages out derr that are doing well that didnt have the luxry of courtship.. so i am open to all available options.

alright. All the best bro.

Oahray:
alright. All the best bro.

Thanks. Really appreciate ur kind thougths.

I had been contacted by some nicer ladies on NL.. I replied them and I've not heard from them since... What did i do now.. They've developed cold feet already.. Na wao!! Still on Still waiting for the right one to come my way. There is no tyme anymore.. Its DEcember already then January.. (Fear!,).... LOnely!

OH LORD MY GOD! PLEASE FORGIVE ME ALL MY TRESPASSES.
I SUBMIT TO YOUR MERCIES AND GRACE.

HEAR MY DESPERATE CRY IN NEED.
I NEED MY OWN WOMAN.
THE ONE I WOULD SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH.
THE ONE I WOULD CALL MY OWN.
THE ONE THAT WOULD MAKE ME WALK PROUD AGAIN.
THE ONE I WOULD BOAST WITH..
MY OWN, MY WIFE, MY DARLING, MY LIFE.
THE ONE WHO I WOULD MAKE CHERISHED MEMORIES WITH.

THE ONE I WOULD CALL MUUMMEEY AND SHE WOULD CALL ME DAADDEEY TO MY DELIGHT.
I DO NOT AS FOR MUCH, JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY AGAIN.

EVERYTHING SEEMS TO BE AT A STOP, CNT FIND A WAY TO MOVE AHEAD..
I CANT DO I ALONE ANYMORE..
I CANT CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE THIS ANYMORE..
IT HAS GOTTEN VERY BORING AND UNEXCITING.
TRUELY.

I HUMBLY PRAY OH LORD!
IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME . AMEN.
THANK YOU LORD FOR ANSWERED PRAYERS.

[quote author=endie44 post=28093043]I had been contacted by some nicer ladies on NL.. I replied them and I've not heard from them since... What did i do now.. They've developed cold feet already.. Na wao!! Still on Still waiting for the right one to come my way. There is no tyme anymore.. Its DEcember already then January.. (Fear!,).... LOnely!

OH LORD MY GOD! PLEASE FORGIVE ME ALL MY TRESPASSES.
I SUBMIT TO YOUR MERCIES AND GRACE.

HEAR MY DESPERATE CRY IN NEED.
I NEED MY OWN WOMAN.
THE ONE I WOULD SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH.
THE ONE I WOULD CALL MY OWN.
THE ONE THAT WOULD MAKE ME WALK PROUD AGAIN.
THE ONE I WOULD BOAST WITH..
MY OWN, MY WIFE, MY DARLING, MY LIFE.
THE ONE WHO I WOULD MAKE CHERISHED MEMORIES WITH.

THE ONE I WOULD CALL MUUMMEEY AND SHE WOULD CALL ME DAADDEEY TO MY DELIGHT.
I DO NOT AS FOR MUCH, JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY AGAIN.

EVERYTHING SEEMS TO BE AT A STOP, CNT FIND A WAY TO MOVE AHEAD..
I CANT DO I ALONE ANYMORE..
I CANT CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE THIS ANYMORE..
IT HAS GOTTEN VERY BORING AND UNEXCITING.
TRUELY.

I HUMBLY PRAY OH LORD!
IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME . AMEN.
THANK YOU LORD FOR ANSWERED PRAYERS.[/quote.]. Don't u have female friends? Well Amen to ur prayers.