Good Morning N'anders, wishing y'all a lovely morning and day ahead.

Now to the Discussion of the day :

In the Past, marriages were most often pre-arranged by families with LITTLE or no emphasis on love or dating but then marriages lasted more but nowadays that people are freer to choose and even date for extended periods, the rate of divorce is so high.

Why is this? Let's discuss

The difference is social media. There were lots of divorce too but there was no means of transmission of the news of divorce.

The very reason Islam promote illiteracy amongst women is to make sure women remain loyal to men, so was it those days, because men refuse to train their daughters too, out of ignorance and dependence on men as bread winners, but now women have equal opportunity to get education and work to earn a living, so women can decide to divorce at will, for "irreconcilable differences".

Love isnt a good reason to get married, not then, and not even now, because love is unlimited in nature, it can be depleted, but friendships keep unions strong after the diffusion of love.

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Those days, moral values were upheld and maintained, but these days, moral values have declined so badly, coupled with negative external influence mostly copied from the western world!

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Lets not deceive ourselves with this comparison. There were still divorces back then even though they were not as rampant as it is now. The fact that the marriages lasted longer then does not mean they were all happy, healthy ones. Some of them had dysfunctional families and were just merely patching up. We have people who can testify to this in their indivdual homes. These same marriages of then produced new generations with a lot more horrible mentality towards marriage thus transfering the same dysfunction from generations to generations. Now add that to the low morals of now plus marrying for flimsy reasons or to please society, then you see the product as many more dysfunctional marriages and more divorces. A good marriage of an old generation will produce sane and sound individuals with a healthy mentality towards marriage.

Lets just say that people are now more aware of what they want and would not remain in a marriage when their lives are at stake unlike that of marriages of old. Since many are marrying to please society or to fulfill righteousness then expect more divorces.

Sophyrocks:
Lets not deceive ourselves with this comparison. There were still divorces back then even though they were not as rampant as it is now. The fact that the marriages lasted longer then does not mean they were all happy, healthy ones. Some of them had dysfunctional families and were just merely patching up. We have people who can testify to this in their indivdual homes. These same marriages of then produced new generations with a lot more horrible mentality towards marriage thus transfering the same dysfunction from generations to generations. Now add that to the low morals of now plus marrying for flimsy reasons or to please society, then you see the product as many more dysfunctional marriages and more divorces. A good marriage of an old generation will produce sane and sound individuals with a healthy mentality towards marriage.

Lets just say that people are now more aware of what they want and would not remain in a marriage when their lives are at stake unlike that of marriages of old. Since everybody is marrying to please society or to fulfill righteousness then expect more divorces.

These highlighted texts above gets me pissed off. Why do women feel that their happily married friends got married because of some flimsy excuses. Common!!! I m not saying that some people dont get married for whatever flimsy excuse,but WHY DO ALL YA SINGLE WOMEN BELIEVE THAT ALL YOUR MARRIED FRIENDS GOT MARRIED BECAUSE OF SOME FLIMSY EXCUSES?

iykedare:


These highlighted texts above gets me pissed off. Why do women feel that their happily married friends got married because of some flimsy excuses. Common!!! I m not saying that some people dont get married for whatever flimsy excuse,but WHY DO ALL YA SINGLE WOMEN BELIEVE THAT ALL YOUR MARRIED FRIENDS GOT MARRIED BECAUSE OF SOME FLIMSY EXCUSES?

Did you read the Op well at all? Where did you see that in my comment? are women the only ones who marry for flimsy reasons? why turn it to a "Single ladies vs married women" thing? My comment isnt gender specific. And please, you already know about the many flimsy reasons so why are you asking me again??The thread is about why there are divorces and why the marriages of old are different from the new? and im simply stating possible causes. So? Who is introducing happily married people here?

I should have used the word "Many" instead of "everybody".

Sophyrocks:


I should have used the word "Many" instead of "everybody".

Thank you

iykedare:


Thank you

Indeed.

dammyjay93:
Good Morning N'anders, wishing y'all a lovely morning and day ahead.

Now to the Discussion of the day :

In the Past, marriages were most often pre-arranged by families with LITTLE or no emphasis on love or dating but then marriages lasted more but nowadays that people are freer to choose and even date for extended periods, the rate of divorce is so high.

Why is this? Let's discuss

Why is what?

What are you comparing in marriages of old and marriages of now?

Keep in mind that the marriages of old brought forth the adults in the marriage of now

The only difference I see is that women of those days worry too much about the society 's expectations,most women now know that the society you are striving to impress don't give a rat ass, so they walk if need be. Most marriages then survived because most women had little or no choice than to keep enduring till their time on earth elapse.

Billyonaire:
The difference is social media. There were lots of divorce too but there was no means of transmission of the news of divorce.

The very reason Islam promote illiteracy amongst women is to make sure women remain loyal to men, so was it those days, because men refuse to train their daughters too, out of ignorance and dependence on men as bread winners, but now women have equal opportunity to get education and work to earn a living, so women can decide to divorce at will, for "irreconcilable differences".

Love isnt a good reason to get married, not then, and not even now, because love is unlimited in nature, it can be depleted, but friendships keep unions strong after the diffusion of love.

U said it all

People often say divorces rates are high but I know more married people than I do divorced ones,

For instance only two of my classmates from university are divorced where as more than 6 of them are still married. Hell in my entire life I only know about 4 divorced people whereas I know tons & multitudes of married peeps.

Divorce rates may be high in our present day Sodom & Gomorrah (i.e the USA in my opinion) because that society is far too permissive for its own good, pedophiles will one day come out to fight for their own rights. But I doubt if the divorce rates in Naija outweighs the married rate.

I'm just saying

sihom:
People often say divorces rates are high but I know more married people than I do divorced ones,

For instance only two of my classmates from university are divorced where as more than 6 of them are still married. Hell in my entire life I only know about 4 divorced people whereas I know tons & multitudes of married peeps.

Divorce rates may be high in our present day Sodom & Gomorrah (i.e the USA in my opinion) because that society is far too permissive for its own good, pedophiles will one day come out to fight for their own rights. But I doubt if the divorce rates in Naija outweighs the married rate.

I'm just saying

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sihom:
People often say divorces rates are high but I know more married people than I do divorced ones,

For instance only two of my classmates from university are divorced where as more than 6 of them are still married. Hell in my entire life I only know about 4 divorced people whereas I know tons & multitudes of married peeps.

Divorce rates may be high in our present day Sodom & Gomorrah (i.e the USA in my opinion) because that society is far too permissive for its own good, pedophiles will one day come out to fight for their own rights. But I doubt if the divorce rates in Naija outweighs the married rate.

I'm just saying

For now they have rights in Nigeria.

carefreewannabe:


For now they have rights in Nigeria.

Lol!

Which one is the real sodom and Gomorrah?

ileobatojo:


Lol!

Which one is the real sodom and Gomorrah?

A rhetorical question, isn't it?

carefreewannabe:


A rhetorical question, isn't it?

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Marriages then all the way, too much book don spoil today's marriage. Women claiming equality in marriage and all dAt crap, Men being too selfish and all d craps alike. Life was less complicated back den nd dat was y dey lived long.

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Btw marriages of d past are much mur beta dan nwaday'z marriage, TOO MUCH divorce jare

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The Type of marriage of the old lasted cause in our society then there was orderliness everyone knows their place in the family





Men And Women Were Asked Why They Really Divorced. Here's What They Said...
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Back in d days, women see men as superiors, but today gender equality is d headache. Before d man says 1 d woman has said 3.

Marriages in the olden days lasted longer because divorce wasn't accepted, if u don't like your husband anymore, tough luck you just have to tolerate him. Your parents wouldn't allow u to come back to their house and bring shame to the family.