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Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 11:29am On Nov 29, 2014 |
Zeemoor: I've never claimed to be a "progressive, strong" or "feminist". In actual fact as far as I'm concerned feminist is the flip-side of male chauvinism. I also think it's disrespectful to say the women of today are "progressive and strong" as this is not a modern thing. History is filled with strong, progressive women including African women going back to biblical times. As for "us" twisting, misconstruing etc. the word submission, I'm sorry to say babe you are mistaken. The dictionary is very specific about the meaning and the meaning has always been the same it has never changed. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 11:36am On Nov 29, 2014 |
DieeDiee:My dear, wen u av a girl dat is submissive to you,u wil blow it out dat she's d best...it dosnt mean she's subdue or a weakling,she's jus respecting ur right wish. D bible says woman shud be submissive to her husband & dat will make d man love her more. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 11:42am On Nov 29, 2014 |
skelefish: LOL!!! Thank you but I don't need exorcism. Now as for the verses you have just given me you have to specify which bible because even modern bibles no longer encourage submission. Ps: whether or not I go to church does not change the fact submissive r/ships are unhealthy and please if we are going to start using bibles let us not be lopsided. Don't forget the bible was written by man and at the time it was put together religion was the politics of the day and was used as means to control people and that the pope decided what goes in or not it was not G. I respect G let us not bring him in to this, alright good people? |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 11:47am On Nov 29, 2014 |
Midehi: Babe, I don't think you are weak and I never said you are. I respect your decision hence I said if you are happy then it's all good. All I'm saying is that submissive relationships are unhealthy because you give power away or power is taken from you which creates a very fragile door for abuse to take place. 1 Like |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by scribble: 11:57am On Nov 29, 2014 |
DieeDiee: Lol not spousal rape at all. Especially if she's yelling harder... Ummm let me put things in perspective for you. Bae knows there are other chicks that want her spot but she doesn't even care because she knows the man she married. She saw a note from the Unilag boo the other day and all she could do was laugh at how razz the note was and how big her lips are based on the lipstick print on the note. My boo is confident. Pls don't worry on her behalf. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 12:07pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
scribble: LOL!!! And I'm sure you are more than willing to oblige her, mh? Why you entertaining other "boo"? Nigger if that were me, there wouldn't have been any laughing only explanations from your side. It's one thing for someone to throw herself at you but another for you to take the napkin home. Tell if it had been the other way around would you have also just laughed? |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by kozaic(f): 12:18pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Submission is reciprocal and dual... Trust me i will and can never ever be submissive 2 a man who doesn't love me nd guess wat love is submission.. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 12:22pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
DieeDiee:I still dsagree wit u sayin its unhealthy & dosnt take any power frm me...wat power are u talkin abt if i may ask..are u nw sayin woman shud av power to rule over her husband? submissive is jus acceptin d right advice/decision frm d man...do u know some women will neva accept d right decision frm der man all because she's stubborn & no respect..is dat wat u call power? oshe oooooo |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by scribble: 12:24pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
DieeDiee: It honestly depends. Too many variables in love. Not always open and shut case. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 12:24pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
scribble: Just looked @ your profile and saw your previous post and 90% of the people you follow are female. You are a CHEAT! I could smell it off you. No wonder you want a submissive woman, so that she will not stand up to you!!! No nigger your wife aint confident, she lacks self-love. She needs to find herself some love and leave your trifflin' A! 2 Likes |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 12:27pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
scribble: It is very much simple. It's either you love your wife or you don't. And you brother DON'T else you would have respect for her! What you love is the power you have over her and this is the danger of submission. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 12:37pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Midehi: No hun, I'm talking about self power. Power to have dominion over yourself and free will. For example to be able to decide for yourself what is right or wrong, to be able to voice anything you want freely, go where you want freely without needing permission. This does not mean be inconsiderate of your partner, for example, wake up one day and decide that you are going to the States for a year and that's it, your will just have to deal with it - no, but if you want to go out with your girls you should be able to without having to report or ask permission first. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 12:47pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
DieeDiee:D bible was Written by man, no doubt, but inspired by God, d past, present and d future is in the bible. As christians, it is our ultimate guide. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 12:53pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
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Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 12:55pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
skelefish: Last I checked the pope wasn't G and it was the Roman Catholic church that decided what goes in and what doesn't which makes the bible a compromised source. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Medunah: 1:21pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
I agree with dieediee on this, wht makes a man a better leader than i am? Why should everything he orders be right and i cant question his orders?? Its good women are coming out these days and airing their opinions, our fore mothers were totally submissive to our fore fathers, our fore mothers would gladly kneel down while our fore fathers were eating and all those shii but did it stop our fore fathers from marrying more wives? Did it stop our fore fathers from having concubines?? NOOO!!! 1 Like |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by kadas01(m): 1:40pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
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Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 2:25pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
It saddens me that some women feel submission = love and that for a r/ship to work a woman HAS to submit herself. That is BS and my friends and I are living proof. I've had 6 marriage proposals, 2 of them even tried to veto my decision by going to my family and were promptly told that I have a mind of my own and am able to make my own decisions without being submissive. I've lived with 2 boyfriends. All my boyfriends know I don't cook or clean. They did the cooking and we had cleaners who came in 3 times a week. If I wasn't happy with what the cleaner had done or if I wanted her to do something I'd instruct my bf and he would instruct the cleaner yet they loved me and were both hurt when I dumped them. Men who are strong, confident and comfortable with their masculinity do not have a need for a submissive woman to make them feel like men. Someone said something about muslim women... in 2011 I dated an Arab Muslim from Tunisia we were together for a year and a bit. We broke up because he wanted a muslim wife and planned to go back to Tunisia and I wasn't willing to convert or move countries (he hadn't proposed we were just talking about the future). Anyway he also didn't require me to be submissive and he never made decisions without seeking my input no matter how big or small the matter. 1 Like |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 4:04pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Midehi: Is he shaggging your neighbour as well? |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by 1one: 4:18pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Evina: Whatever you've been drinking... Please continue drinking it in drums and tank sizes!!! Your post is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo on point!!!.. Ah Ah na only you waka come... Why you con carry better sense like this... Chaii. I was going to reply the OP but after seeing your reply I would have been faulted for tataulogy or even telepathic plagiarism |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 4:40pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
DieeDiee: U know i agree with u. People who r talking about submission in relationship so highly, havent seen anything different. What works in their village, would never work in other country. In europe long time past that woman would follow her husband like a sheep. Women taking higher posts than men in some occasions, often in family woman earns more than man and achieved more in education. So theres a question why i should follow u, listen and do what u say if am gud in my life on my own? Nowadays women most of the times doesnt need u as a rock to hide behind u. They need a partner who stays in his boundaries because she expects u to see her as independent person. Ull never get more from me in relationship unless u invested the same amount. U have to earn my love. It is enough to give yourself away for somebody who is not worth it and will never give same to u back. Save your energy to your kids not to your man. Men r plenty in the world. When ill see that man is trying same as men than maybe ill think about it. As some women say- i will not kneel for any men, except my son to zip his jacket 4 Likes |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 4:45pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
voodoo85: AMEN sister! I like x10k Love the last part about kneeling only to your son. And that is the only reason ANYONE should kneel - man or woman! |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 4:47pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Midehi:You are probably doing it for something. i'm not saying you shouldn't be respectful. Heck! I won't be controlled anyhow. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 4:50pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
1one: Why do you need her to submit to you? Why is her CHOOSING to be with you instead of the million other men out there not enough show of her love? Why are you not satisfied with her sharing her life, her sorrows and joys, your sorrows and joys not enough? Why do you feel she shows her love only when she bends to your will? 1 Like |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Evina: You don't have a point here. If a woman is my boss, I would still be her floor mat. Are you saying a woman can't be a man boss in work place? 1 Like |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 4:52pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Women dont have a problem with being submissive to a man who respects and honours them. Thats how a healthy relationship normally works 2 Likes |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by KingTom(m): 4:56pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Mondisweets:Very true. |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Evina(f): 4:59pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
VickyyB: Learn the art of comprehension before rudely stating someone doesn't have a point. You mentioned I don't have a point, yet proceeded to ask me a question based on your inability to deduce my point. Are you interested in getting my point or just focused on forcing your opinion on others? |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 5:00pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
KingTom:hey tom |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 5:01pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Just because a woman is independent and challenges a man doesn't mean she doesn't respect him but that she loves him and wants him to be the best version of himself. 2 Likes |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Nobody: 5:03pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Evina: I'm interested in getting your point. Work place and family thing is entirely two different thing and shouldn't be compared. Are you insinuating a man being controlled by Okonjo Iweala is submissive man or rather, doing his work?. 2 Likes |
Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by DieeDiee: 5:05pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
kozaic: If you look up the word love, signs of love, characteristics etc. Submission is NEVER on the list |
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