Never open ur legs for him @ nyte after he punches and slaps you in d day saying he loves me dats y he s apologising on dis bed. Oyo is ur case.
Souce- rozzayy's book of life.

Nice piece! But need I ask? How abt d place of submission? I seriously need constructive inputs.

dechandel:

Never wear his engagement ring for more than two years

unless u want to be the lord of the Ring...

Am sure op is not married.

MzPreshie:
Should I say thanks? Which dish is that?

boiled titus fish and stew

Storyformezie who cares when T.A ORJI is Still in power...

MzPreshie:
Mr. Advice abi match maker, when did I ever say I came to N'Land to find a husband? Abeg ooo, I'm happily single. Not old enough for marriage anyway.

Ok o, Miss 'not old enough for marriage'

I have screenmunched this comment of yours, so that when you open a thread in a few years time, placing an advert reading, '38 year old Godfearing woman urgently needs a man to settle down with', I will just upload the pishure for you

With that write-up, it appears there should be this constant disagreement b/w a man and a woman in a relationship. Pls stop teaching such strife.

SAMBARRY:
boiled titus fish and stew

Awww... Thanks

Louislewis:
This write-up was done by a woman that see herself as equal to a man. Please, I advice women to be careful with some of her points.

True.

ammyluv2002:
7. Never give him money to pay your bride price



Nice write up

Ok by the time She is 36 no Man is telling her she pretty. I tell you the first guy that will say to her i want to marry you, not only will she give her money to marry her, but her ATM Card join.

MzPreshie:
Awww... Thanks

o you're welcome jare.omo dada

Tinubu:

Ok o, Miss 'not old enough for marriage'

I have screenmunched this comment of yours, so that when you open a thread in a few years time, placing an advert reading, '38 year old Godfearing woman urgently needs a man to settle down with', I will just upload the pishure for you

Lol... Bro, I'm just 15, so before I turn 38 and desperate, its gonna be a long wait on your part.

nelly711:
Nice piece! But need I ask? How abt d place of submission? I seriously need constructive inputs.

Good question.

Looking at the "seven tips" given by the poster concerning relationships, it is not only silly, it is immature and reeks of crass ignorance!

As someone who is married for close to two decades, l can tell you that l have "forgone" some "moral values" (things very important to me) of mine, to suit my wife. For example, l stopped taking alcohol completely cos my wife does not like it.
She in-turn has had to change some of her own "values" to suit me. That is the way "marriage works" .... give and take!

My wife has had to chose a particular colour of Suits & Tie for me because she thinks it fits me more. She has sewn native Attires for me because she sees it on some men and thinks it will look good on me. I have seen some look beautiful in some clothes or hair do and have told my wife l will like her to try it out and it has always worked. The whole idea is to "compliment each other". We would "adjust for each other" as need arises.

Marriage means TWO DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES ARE "TRYING" TO BECOME ONE! (Take note: I said "trying"!).
There is no more two unique personalities! You cant be striving for "uniqueness" in a marriage... what you strive for is "blending"!

growing-up, l have heard "intelligent and matured people" say that when you live long enough with your spouse in a good and healthy relationship/marriage, tow of you start "resembling each other and becoming like Brother and Sister"!
I am sure other people have heard this also.
That is "blending".... not Uniqueness.

As for "handing over the reins", ..... you never had the reins! NEVER!!
But a smart woman knows that despite not holding the "reins"... she can direct the "holder" to steer the horse in the direction she want!
It just takes "subtleness and confidence inspiring" to make a husband do what you want...... not all these "gar-gra and over-sabi"
"Good Mothers" need to inculcate this into their daughters and live by such example.... as my wife is doing.
My own wife knows that if she tries to 'struggle or order me around' on something, l will do the "exact opposite" but because she uses the "right approach" as a wife, l will sacrifice my life for her!

We dont even have this "power struggle" as each one of us is "always trying" to satisfy the other and make the other person happier. Making her happy is my goal and she does her possible best to ensure that l am happy as well.
What else does one want from a spouse or in a marriage?

When immature folks come on here to post nonsense in form of "advice", like they are some authority on "How marriage woks", l just pity the foolish person that will "swallow such gibberish" and start acting it out in their own relationship.
Dont give advice, (even if it is copy and paste) on what you are clueless about.

Anyway, its your life, you can ruin it if you want but dont blame one "foolishly anonymous post" on Nairaland.
Discretion is always advised.


Lastpage!

MzPreshie:
Lol... Bro, I'm just 15, so before I turn 38 and desperate, its gonna be a long wait on your part.

k

Let the Watching begin

*already following you*

I BET U THE WRITER IS A DIVORCEE "eni ti aye'e bati baje asi ma wa eni kun ra Ni". Young girls beware of what u take as advice from Divorcée oooo

These advice will end up fueling trouble in families. If you ask me I'll say telling a wife not to submit to her husband is satanic advice. This is contrary to what the bible says that wives shuid be submissive. However, bible advice about marriage applies to only born-again christians, so if u submit to a sinful husband, he might tell u to walk the streets half naked. If u're a christian and u need marriage advice, pls turn to pastors and your bible, this one is for the worldly. Principles here are wot torn america family structure to pieces.

[quote author=OlamiB post=28530168]When two people come together in a relationship, it is important that they make certain adjustments. This helps their bond to grow stronger and fonder. But, always remember that a healthy relationship is a two-way street. A place where both partners are equal at all levels. We say so because when you look around you find that it is the woman who makes more than her fair share of sacrifices and compromises for her men. Especially after marriage, she is the one who is expected to make all the adjustments and changes. Ladies, while you might be doing some things happily, there are some crucial aspects in which you should never compromise evem when you are in love. Here are some things that you should never do for your man

1. Ignore Your Dreams

Just because he wants you to spend time with him or be around him always, should not make you feel guilty into turning down that big promotion or the chance to go for thyuat prestigious conference abroad. He should never ask you to make a choice between your dreams and him. There should always be a common ground to work on. Ask yourself, would you be happy in a relationship where you have to give up your hard-earned dreams? If he loves you, he will understand that your dreams and career are as important as his.

2. Modify your values

All of us have our own set of moral values and principles that we believe in. These values form our identity and individuality to a good extent. Never try to change your morals just because your man wants you to. Even if you two don’t share common values, he should always respect yours, rather than change them. This is not just about moral values; it is also about religion and beliefs. Such things cannot and should not ever be changed just because someone else wants you to do so.

3. Change Your Look

woman should never change her appearance or the way she looks only because her man desires so. Subtle changes are acceptable, like dressing and styling ones. But if he wants you to go for surgeries to change certain aspect of your appearance then never agree to it. He should admire your natural beauty and not work towards changing it. Just because he doesn’t like the way your nose looks or if he finds your ears too pointy, it should not guilt-trip you into going for something as drastic as a surgery.

4. Sacrifice your personal space

Even your family and friends need your time and attention, and this is something even you enjoy, right? So, never sacrifice your personal space and time that you should be spending with them just because he wants you to. Try to divide it and strike a balance. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you do not need anyone else apart from him. And, he should understand and respect that.

5. Forget Who You Are

Never try to act what you are not. Do not show that you are less intelligent than him just to boost his ego or only because it will make him happy. Men like independent women, so acting stupid is not going to help at all. Also, you should not change your likes and dislikes for him. These things make you unique. So, do not lose your individuality and identity for a man. At least, not when you are being forced to do so

6. Handing over the reins

Never give him the access to be in control of you. No matter how much you love him, the decisions should always be mutual. He should never make the final decision of what you should and shouldn’t do. Always discuss with him, but make your decision keeping your own lifestyles and choices in mind.

Ladies, keep these things in mind. There are certain aspects of your personality that you should not change for a man, even when you are in love. If you are not true to yourself, you can never be true to your relationsh
Give him Mouth Gig

Never allow him to eat the garden apple untill....

lastpage:
Looking at the "seven tips" given by the poster concerning relationships, it is not only silly, it is immature and reeks of crass ignorance!

As someone who is married for close to two decades, l can tell you that l have "forgone" some "moral values" (things very important to me) of mine, to suit my wife. For example, l stopped taking alcohol completely cos my wife does not like it.
She in-turn has had to change some of her own "values" to suit me. That is the way "marriage works" .... give and take!

My wife has had to chose a particular colour of Suits & Tie for me because she thinks it fits me more. She has sewn native Attires for me because she sees it on some men and thinks it will look good on me. I have seen some look beautiful in some clothes or hair do and have told my wife l will like her to try it out and it has always worked. The whole idea is to "compliment each other". We would "adjust for each other" as need arises.

Marriage means TWO DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES ARE "TRYING" TO BECOME ONE! (Take note: I said "trying"!).
There is no more two unique personalities! You cant be striving for "uniqueness" in a marriage... what you strive for is "blending"!

growing-up, l have heard "intelligent and matured people" say that when you live long enough with your spouse in a good and healthy relationship/marriage, tow of you start "resembling each other and becoming like Brother and Sister"!
I am sure other people have heard this also.
That is "blending".... not Uniqueness.

As for "handing over the reins", ..... you never had the reins! NEVER!!
But a smart woman knows that despite not holding the "reins"... she can direct the "holder" to steer the horse in the direction she want!
It just takes "subtleness and confidence inspiring" to make a husband do what you want...... not all these "gar-gra and over-sabi"
"Good Mothers" need to inculcate this into their daughters and live by such example.... as my wife is doing.
My own wife knows that if she tries to 'struggle or order me around' on something, l will do the "exact opposite" but because she uses the "right approach" as a wife, l will sacrifice my life for her!

We dont even have this "power struggle" as each one of us is "always trying" to satisfy the other and make the other person happier. Making her happy is my goal and she does her possible best to ensure that l am happy as well.
What else does one want from a spouse or in a marriage?

When immature folks come on here to post nonsense in form of "advice", like they are some authority on "How marriage woks", l just pity the foolish person that will "swallow such gibberish" and start acting it out in their own relationship.
Dont give advice, (even if it is copy and paste) on what you are clueless about.

Anyway, its your life, you can ruin it if you want but dont blame one "foolishly anonymous post" on Nairaland.
Discretion is always advised.


Lastpage!

Wow man! God bless you for this! Some people are just out to destroy marriages and make young ladies unmarriable. Our entertainment industry is destroying us. People now have disfigured belief about marriage.

ALKARULEZ615:
Who cares?

And of course, Topics like this will not go down well with two-faced, less of a man like you. A man who attacks and pull people down rather than fix his psychological problems wont care about things like this. Camarade tare

Nice thread !
We need more posts like this*

ammyluv2002:
7. Never give him money to pay your bride price



Nice write up

na your own nice past

OlamiB:
When two people come together in a relationship, it is important that they make certain adjustments. This helps their bond to grow stronger and fonder. But, always remember that a healthy relationship is a two-way street. A place where both partners are equal at all levels. We say so because when you look around you find that it is the woman who makes more than her fair share of sacrifices and compromises for her men. Especially after marriage, she is the one who is expected to make all the adjustments and changes. Ladies, while you might be doing some things happily, there are some crucial aspects in which you should never compromise evem when you are in love. Here are some things that you should never do for your man

1. Ignore Your Dreams

Just because he wants you to spend time with him or be around him always, should not make you feel guilty into turning down that big promotion or the chance to go for thyuat prestigious conference abroad. He should never ask you to make a choice between your dreams and him. There should always be a common ground to work on. Ask yourself, would you be happy in a relationship where you have to give up your hard-earned dreams? If he loves you, he will understand that your dreams and career are as important as his.

2. Modify your values

All of us have our own set of moral values and principles that we believe in. These values form our identity and individuality to a good extent. Never try to change your morals just because your man wants you to. Even if you two don’t share common values, he should always respect yours, rather than change them. This is not just about moral values; it is also about religion and beliefs. Such things cannot and should not ever be changed just because someone else wants you to do so.

3. Change Your Look

woman should never change her appearance or the way she looks only because her man desires so. Subtle changes are acceptable, like dressing and styling ones. But if he wants you to go for surgeries to change certain aspect of your appearance then never agree to it. He should admire your natural beauty and not work towards changing it. Just because he doesn’t like the way your nose looks or if he finds your ears too pointy, it should not guilt-trip you into going for something as drastic as a surgery.

4. Sacrifice your personal space

Even your family and friends need your time and attention, and this is something even you enjoy, right? So, never sacrifice your personal space and time that you should be spending with them just because he wants you to. Try to divide it and strike a balance. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you do not need anyone else apart from him. And, he should understand and respect that.

5. Forget Who You Are

Never try to act what you are not. Do not show that you are less intelligent than him just to boost his ego or only because it will make him happy. Men like independent women, so acting stupid is not going to help at all. Also, you should not change your likes and dislikes for him. These things make you unique. So, do not lose your individuality and identity for a man. At least, not when you are being forced to do so

6. Handing over the reins

Never give him the access to be in control of you. No matter how much you love him, the decisions should always be mutual. He should never make the final decision of what you should and shouldn’t do. Always discuss with him, but make your decision keeping your own lifestyles and choices in mind.

Ladies, keep these things in mind. There are certain aspects of your personality that you should not change for a man, even when you are in love. If you are not true to yourself, you can never be true to your relationship!

Source: copy and paste

OP, dis kai matter wey u carry. for head so, wetin concern u with two couples who chose to submit part of their freedom so dat dey both can happily coexist. how does relationship work without compromise. people like u dey wreck marriage

lastpage:
Looking at the "seven tips" given by the poster concerning relationships, it is not only silly, it is immature and reeks of crass ignorance!

As someone who is married for close to two decades, l can tell you that l have "forgone" some "moral values" (things very important to me) of mine, to suit my wife. For example, l stopped taking alcohol completely cos my wife does not like it.
She in-turn has had to change some of her own "values" to suit me. That is the way "marriage works" .... give and take!

My wife has had to chose a particular colour of Suits & Tie for me because she thinks it fits me more. She has sewn native Attires for me because she sees it on some men and thinks it will look good on me. I have seen some look beautiful in some clothes or hair do and have told my wife l will like her to try it out and it has always worked. The whole idea is to "compliment each other". We would "adjust for each other" as need arises.

Marriage means TWO DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES ARE "TRYING" TO BECOME ONE! (Take note: I said "trying"!).
There is no more two unique personalities! You cant be striving for "uniqueness" in a marriage... what you strive for is "blending"!

growing-up, l have heard "intelligent and matured people" say that when you live long enough with your spouse in a good and healthy relationship/marriage, tow of you start "resembling each other and becoming like Brother and Sister"!
I am sure other people have heard this also.
That is "blending".... not Uniqueness.

As for "handing over the reins", ..... you never had the reins! NEVER!!
But a smart woman knows that despite not holding the "reins"... she can direct the "holder" to steer the horse in the direction she want!
It just takes "subtleness and confidence inspiring" to make a husband do what you want...... not all these "gar-gra and over-sabi"
"Good Mothers" need to inculcate this into their daughters and live by such example.... as my wife is doing.
My own wife knows that if she tries to 'struggle or order me around' on something, l will do the "exact opposite" but because she uses the "right approach" as a wife, l will sacrifice my life for her!

We dont even have this "power struggle" as each one of us is "always trying" to satisfy the other and make the other person happier. Making her happy is my goal and she does her possible best to ensure that l am happy as well.
What else does one want from a spouse or in a marriage?

When immature folks come on here to post nonsense in form of "advice", like they are some authority on "How marriage woks", l just pity the foolish person that will "swallow such gibberish" and start acting it out in their own relationship.
Dont give advice, (even if it is copy and paste) on what you are clueless about.

Anyway, its your life, you can ruin it if you want but dont blame one "foolishly anonymous post" on Nairaland.
Discretion is always advised.


Lastpage!

are you by any means a descendant of Solomon?

The op meant no harm. A well educated man should not have any problem with this write up. The op expanciated his points by giving examples which i see nothing wrong in. Ofcourse there would be exceptions but that would be considered within the confinement of your own home. To those talking trash talk like 'wait till you are 30 abi 40, i think its about time you all got rid of your mothers at home since they are now useless to your fathers....sometimes i doubt if it's a woman who gave birth to future peadophiles like you. So much disrespect for your elders- your generation is a wasted one and the one after you will treat you accordingly.

ammyluv2002:
7. Never give him money to pay your bride price



Nice write up

Should a woman assist her fiancé in paying the bride price?

This is very funny a question.

Of-course not. Bride price should be paid by the man but then i believe the issue of bride price in today's world have been blown out of proportion and what we see today is totally absurd.

Tradition is very important and must be adhered to but let me make it clear to many pastors who have not found it necessary to understand the concept of bride price from the Biblical point of view and to many ignorant people who have misconstrued the essence of the act.

The Biblical bride price(Lobola) is totally different from what we see today as parents practically sell their daughters in some parts of the world and you will see the man treating the lady like shits after marriage shouting "I paid your bride price" as though that is a condition to make her feel like a bought object.

DEMANDING MONETARY OR MATERIAL BRIDE PRICE FOR A CONSENSUAL UNION IS NOT BIBLICAL BUT A PRODUCT OF MAN MADE GREEDY TRADITION

In the bible, 50 shekels of silver was the amount a man who RAPES a virgin must pay AS A PENALTY for the wrong doing and even after paying the father of the lady can still deny him the lady in question beacuse the money paid is a penalty for the crime but today the greedy world have made this a reference point to demand for insane amount on a lady who is far from been a virgin.

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 reads "Suppose a man is caught raping a young woman who is not engaged,He is to pay her father the bride price of fifty pieces of silver, and she is to become his wife, because he forced her to have intercourse with him. He can never divorce her as long as he lives"

Exodus 22:16-17 also states “If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins.

The most acceptable bride price according to the bible should be paid ONLY FOR VIRGINS in form of gifts or maybe even money only at the discretion of the groom to be as seen in the case of Abraham sending his servant to bring a wife for Isaac and never by demand as we see today where they will ask the man to come and collect a list from the bride's family.

Genesis 24 - Now the young woman was very beautiful to behold, A VIRGIN,NO MAN HAD KNOWN HER And she went down to the well, filled her pitcher, and came up. And the servant ran to meet her and said, “Please let me drink a little water from your pitcher.” So she said, “Drink, my lord.” Then she quickly let her pitcher down to her hand, ...

Genesis 24:53-59:Then the servant brought out gold and silver jewelry and articles of clothing and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave costly gifts to her brother and to her mother.

So they called Rebekah and asked her, "Will you go with this man?" "I will go," she said.So they sent their sister Rebekah on her way, along with her nurse and Abraham's servant and his men.

This is a wake up call for us to teach our daughters good ethics and enshrine it in their psyche that it pays to remain a virgin for your husband alone. Yes we know we may have peculiar cases of sexual abuses which of-course can be waived but parents should stop using the Bible as a guide to the man made policy of the type of bride price demanded in this present day.

I am not against paying of bride price on a lady a man wants to marry even if she is a LovePeddler but its high time we drew a line between man made tradition and Biblical injunctions.

I hope this helps.

but the funny part is all you listed women would expect a man to do for them.so who is fooling who

OlamiB:
When two people come together in a relationship, it is important that they make certain adjustments. This helps their bond to grow stronger and fonder. But, always remember that a healthy relationship is a two-way street. A place where both partners are equal at all levels. We say so because when you look around you find that it is the woman who makes more than her fair share of sacrifices and compromises for her men. Especially after marriage, she is the one who is expected to make all the adjustments and changes. Ladies, while you might be doing some things happily, there are some crucial aspects in which you should never compromise evem when you are in love. Here are some things that you should never do for your man

1. Ignore Your Dreams

Just because he wants you to spend time with him or be around him always, should not make you feel guilty into turning down that big promotion or the chance to go for thyuat prestigious conference abroad. He should never ask you to make a choice between your dreams and him. There should always be a common ground to work on. Ask yourself, would you be happy in a relationship where you have to give up your hard-earned dreams? If he loves you, he will understand that your dreams and career are as important as his.

2. Modify your values

All of us have our own set of moral values and principles that we believe in. These values form our identity and individuality to a good extent. Never try to change your morals just because your man wants you to. Even if you two don’t share common values, he should always respect yours, rather than change them. This is not just about moral values; it is also about religion and beliefs. Such things cannot and should not ever be changed just because someone else wants you to do so.

3. Change Your Look

woman should never change her appearance or the way she looks only because her man desires so. Subtle changes are acceptable, like dressing and styling ones. But if he wants you to go for surgeries to change certain aspect of your appearance then never agree to it. He should admire your natural beauty and not work towards changing it. Just because he doesn’t like the way your nose looks or if he finds your ears too pointy, it should not guilt-trip you into going for something as drastic as a surgery.

4. Sacrifice your personal space

Even your family and friends need your time and attention, and this is something even you enjoy, right? So, never sacrifice your personal space and time that you should be spending with them just because he wants you to. Try to divide it and strike a balance. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you do not need anyone else apart from him. And, he should understand and respect that.

5. Forget Who You Are

Never try to act what you are not. Do not show that you are less intelligent than him just to boost his ego or only because it will make him happy. Men like independent women, so acting stupid is not going to help at all. Also, you should not change your likes and dislikes for him. These things make you unique. So, do not lose your individuality and identity for a man. At least, not when you are being forced to do so

6. Handing over the reins

Never give him the access to be in control of you. No matter how much you love him, the decisions should always be mutual. He should never make the final decision of what you should and shouldn’t do. Always discuss with him, but make your decision keeping your own lifestyles and choices in mind.

Ladies, keep these things in mind. There are certain aspects of your personality that you should not change for a man, even when you are in love. If you are not true to yourself, you can never be true to your relationship!

Source: copy and paste

ammyluv2002:
7. Never give him money to pay your bride price



Nice write up

are you talking from experience?