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I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 11:05pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Hello everyone! I have been dating this guy for a year now, both of us have jobs so I don't ask him for any financial assistance. for sometime now I have been getting suitors, they are five in number now asking for my hand in marriage but I keep turning them down because I am hoping on my present relationship though the stuborn ones are still disturbing me with marriage proposals. I decided to let my boyfriend know about them, the response I got from him wasn't satisfactory. From my own understanding he's not ready to settle down any time soon neither did he tell me to wait for him nor propose to me. I am confused right now, I don't know if I should wait for him till when he's ready but my fear is what if he never propose. I really love him and I know he loves me too. Matured advice please. "Please don't mind my typing skills I am typing through one kpalasa phone" 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 11:18pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
please ma'am,should we start clapping? 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 11:31pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Caisenes: Meaning? Please this thread is not for people like you I need matured minds. Thanks! 130 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 11:35pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
He's not ready to settle down I think you should accept one of your suitors your current boy friend might be a play boy you know 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by coogar: 11:37pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
FavourGee: thank you for your honesty, favourgee! you are not alone in this dilemma. women have had to deal with this scenario. the guy they love isn't ready to marry yet while other favours come knocking on their doors. the ball is in your court - what makes you happy? can you deal with the fact that you may never love any of your suitors as much as your present boyfriend? does money matter to you more than puppy love? if you can answer all these questions honestly within yourself then choosing the best suitor shouldn't be a problem. go with your mind & be prepared to cope with whatever consequences that result from your choice. 53 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 11:49pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
FavourGee: Then speak to him dear. Make him understand your fears and worries. Be open. Say your piece and let him air his. Men aren't mind readers. Sometimes, what might deem glaringly obvious to us, might completely elude them unless they're very specifically drawn to the issue at hand. Talk to him and make him understand you need a definite answer. All the best! ![]() 51 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 11:51pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
coogar: Thanks for your advice. 5 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 11:53pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Sweetheart,i understand your plight. I do....my advice is this If there is no commitment,keep dating other guys. You can't continue keeping yourself for a guy who is not ready thereby wasting precious years. If he is serious about you,no one would tell him to see your parents quickly. 8 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 11:56pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: Thanks but I tried making him give me definite answer, he began to talk as if I'm lying and pressurizing him to get married to me. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 12:02am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jennimma: Na that wasting of years be my fears my dear o. I think I will break up with him before I enter another one because I don't know how to double date. 11 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 12:02am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Then he isn't ready. Question now is: how long are you prepared to wait for him? 4 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by coogar: 12:06am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jennimma: what if he's broke? some guys genuinely want to take the leap but they have no funds to carry out their desires thus the wait...... guys are not always at fault in this. sometimes, you women often date your agemates thus the disconnect. at 25, most nigerian women are ripe for marriage. 90% of nigerian men aren't ready to marry at 25 cos they are still struggling. 73 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:07am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:well,thats cool. Just think it through thoroughly. May the best dude win. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:08am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Five suitors?!! ![]() When some women out there will DIE for just ONE? Come, what exactly is the problem again? ![]() 17 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 12:11am On Dec 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: He's simply not ready and doesn't want to commit. if he's willing to commit I don't mind giving him one more year. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 12:14am On Dec 06, 2014 |
MzNelly: Hahahahaha! Sounds strange, nothing but the truth. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by coogar: 12:14am On Dec 06, 2014 |
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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 12:22am On Dec 06, 2014 |
coogar: Hahahahaha! my dear na idole soap #250. You dey suspect am ni 8 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by coogar: 12:24am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: i have to suspect it.... some chics don't even have toasters, let alone have men who want to marry them. your idole soap is working. how can i buy shares in the company that makes them? ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 12:25am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Now that sounds like an ultimatum and he won't like it. Why must you get married in a year's time? What's the rush? The more you push, the more he'll dig his heels in, in resistance to you - hence his comment about you trying to pressurise him. I know it might feel you're spending the best years of your life / youth waiting on someone who may never be ready...but these things can't be forced. You may have to decide whether or not waiting is worth it for you...or not. If not...well, you know what to do. 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 12:31am On Dec 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: I understand perfectly what you are saying, I just gave you one year based on the question you asked me which I know I can never tell him with my mouth. I am in my late 20's so it's not really that I'm rushing/pushing per say, I'm seeking for advice here to avoid 'had I known' 4 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by cococandy(f): 12:56am On Dec 06, 2014 |
coogar:lol ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:34am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:35am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Op pray about it n let God guide u. ‡my2cents 4 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by cococandy(f): 1:43am On Dec 06, 2014 |
AgapeCharis:was |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by amunkita(m): 1:45am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Luv this, don't allow som1 convince u to double date.. @topic.. In such too, though am d guy. Yes, she seez mii as doin gr8 cous of my job buh seriously am broke nd nid to step up my game b4 settling down cous I nid d best 4 my family. I neva told her last year Feb. Kept som 7 figure fund wiv my broda 4 d purpose buh issues came up nd it was used. Buh cous of d way u re goin abt it now, d relationship had a very big crack, still luv her buh since shez bcoming desperate I pray her magic man comes buh if I sort my sef soon might go get her back but not all guyz wuld do this... Am sure dis dude bu Nwa afo cous its in us.. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:46am On Dec 06, 2014 |
cococandy:thank God u'r out ![]() |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:49am On Dec 06, 2014 |
amunkita:urs is slightly different. In ur case, u'r ready. Just d finance holding u back but in her case, d dude doesn't seem ready |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by amunkita(m): 2:02am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Nope.. I was not ready buh I had 2 keep aside som fund cous I noticed she was advised 2 kip a back up nd wen i found out I had 2 do dat. She knows I luv her buh wanted that commitment which my financial state wuld not allow mii cous its crazy proposin nd she kipz wearing dat ring as if nah she act "Lords of the ring" Wat am gettin @ is dat d dude might b broke irrespective he works. 6 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Lovethlovesmike(f): 2:13am On Dec 06, 2014 |
OP thanks for opening this thread. You made my day. ![]() Anyways, I told him everything and how I feel like he's using me to pass time and I need commitment. He's been pleading, buying gifts, etc but I still don't feel any vibe of commitment or seriousness on that level. Although he stepped up tremendously, another time-waster is that his older sister is a pretty 33 year old single. I have no issues with her at all. Now my bf said he won't get married before his sister marries to save her face from shame. So how long will the wait be?? My "heart" says stay, but my "senses" wants to leave. ![]() 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by amunkita(m): 2:26am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike: Help d sister find man nah abii u lik ur situation.. 7 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 4:14am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Sounds like you are ready for marriage Let me be frank with you,Women have a window of opportunity to get their best pick You better open your eyes now and pick one serious suitor now they are all around seeking your hand. If you let this moment slip by,it may not come again and marriage will become a prayer point Leave that small boy alone The woman he will marry may still be in SS1 Don't waste your time How old are you btw? 43 Likes 1 Share |
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