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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Lovethlovesmike(f): 8:20am On Dec 06, 2014 |
jaybee3: I understand your point, but in OP's defense (because I'm in a similar situation), there are more serious guys out there willing to commit and have already made their intentions to settle down, known to me from the get-go without my "entertainment". Maybe that's why she refers to them as "suitors". Thing is, it's not easy to jump from one relationship to the other especially when you're already in a drama-free relationship with a great deal of understanding. My own issue is that he's slow as a snail!! I keep dropping men out of my life when I'm not even sure where this relationship may end up. OP, sorry I took over your thread, somewhat. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by cococandy(f): 8:22am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Ucheosefoh:this too 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by jaybee3(m): 8:29am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike:Do you have some sort of commitment wanted banner attached to your sexy cheeks or how else do these serious guys know you aren't already in a committed relationship? What exactly does commitment mean to you, is it until he gives you that ring that makes him commited? So he is a slow snail compared to the other men you dropped out of your life. Do you realise you create more emotional problems for yourself when you start introducing comparative analysis spirit into your relationship? You don't need me to tell you to move on If your ambition is to get married and he isn't down with that 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 8:30am On Dec 06, 2014 |
hmmmm I've learnt a lot this morning , say no to time wasters 6 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 8:30am On Dec 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: Thanks! |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Lovethlovesmike(f): 8:38am On Dec 06, 2014 |
jaybee3:Answers: Question 1: At a certain age and with certain accomplishments, most men will expect marriage next on your to-do list. Which is, in my case. God has blessed me with everything else. 2. How do they know? Hello ... I'm not ugly and I've never posted any guys pics on social media. They ask and I simply tell them that I'm seeing someone else. 3. Simply put, my understanding of commitment is personal dedication and some sort of assurance (which may fail) by words or actions that I'm in his long-term plans. On comparative analysis, I can't help it. You're right about that. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 8:41am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Ucheosefoh: I doubt they came out of the blue, saw her and immediately said, "let's get married". Fact is, she is ready to get married, and so are they. Most importantly, they already have a common ground. It's not like she's getting married tomorrow to any of them. She obviously will study them and date the one who she feels is her best match for her husband requirements. The bottomline here is that when a man is ready to settle down with the right woman, he'll make make his intentions loud and clear. With regards to her present boyfriend, it's unfair on her for him to make her hope & wait - probably in vain. Likewise, it's unfair on him for her to "force" him to walk down the aisle with her when he's no where ready to do so. 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by jaybee3(m): 8:45am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike:Do you think it's right to work in tandem with goals set by the society when it isn't really what you want? Of course you aren't ugly but i would expect any serious guy to hit you up with i want to marry you chat up line and expect you to take them serious. I like your personal definition of commitment. So is he dedicated to you cos if he is then that's about the best assurance you can ever wish for as a woman. However, if he isn't then i should be asking you why you are simply wasting your time |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 8:53am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Wow! I'm overwhelmed you guys are simply GREAT! I learnt alot @ aisha2, EfemenaXY, jaybee, lovethlovesmike,cococandy etc..I don't even know who to quote again. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 9:00am On Dec 06, 2014 |
You cant make someone do things until they are ready. State your concerns to him and move on if you want to. threatening him with suitors can only back fire. He is not ready. You can wait for him if you both really want to work things out or jump unto the other suitors. I hope you court the other ones first before jumping into marriage. This one you don dey give ultimatum 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 9:08am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Chillisauce: I no dey give anyone ultimatum, If you have ever experienced this you will understand what I'm saying. What will you do when you want to work things out and your partner doesn't? |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Ucheosefoh(m): 9:16am On Dec 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:You have a point but don't rule out the fact that some of the suitors maybe playing the marriage card game to get her. I have witness such and men do that irrespective of their age, they will come as serious suitors only to use and dump the girl later but I don't wish her such. I understand the time wasting factor but she need to be careful, it is better not to marry than to marry a beast and since she wants to give her boyfriend one more year, who knows he may have a surprise package for her. Somebody like me will not give her any hint of proposing until I surprise her with proposal without her notice. The bottomline is she should be careful 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 9:22am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: I experienced the opposite. He gave one to me that many girls where after him, and i knew i wasn't ready so i walked. He was trying to work things out but i knew i wasnt gonna move, so i left. Truth remains if i had succumb to the pressure i would be forever miserable because that was not what i want. I might become the ever nagging woman. What am i trying to say, if you have approached him and you see he is not ready, let him go. You might want to stick around to see but be sure to carry whatever that comes out from it. You sound like one that knows what she wants, listen to your inner voice. Meditate and think about this and make the right choice. No one knows you better than you. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 9:27am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Ucheosefoh: I think you should credit her with some common sense. She isn't an impressionable teenager going out on a first date, nor is she some starry-eyed girl in her early twenties that believes everything she's told (especially from a guy). Yes, she will be careful and will be studying whoever it is she decides to go out with - and that really is the whole point of the dating game...to thoroughly assess potential suitors. Her intuition or 6th sense will be finely tuned. I don't know how to explain it but sometimes, as a woman, you just know if a guy is serious or not. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 9:48am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Disclaimer oh, I didn't advice that you should just jump.in and marry one of your suitors oh just because you want to marry. Take your time know what you want and if any of these suitors have those qualities. Marriage is not tinini tanana 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by FavourGee: 9:54am On Dec 06, 2014 |
aisha2: Ok I hear you. I am not a baby 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by amunkita(m): 10:02am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Now I see d fwendz my beauriful Nuvie met b4 trying her luck else where which have not paid. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by holatin(m): 10:07am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Her boyfriend is planning to use her for ritual soon, so why worry |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by johncreek: 10:08am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Ask him to define the relationship so he won't end up wasting your time. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by solid3(m): 10:10am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Chilling . . . 13 Likes
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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 10:13am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Marriage always a difficult institution. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 10:14am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Ur age is a big determining factor here. But if I were u,since ur boyfy isn't givin a definite answer even when he knows u have other suitors,he isn't bortheree,my dear,d guy isn't ready for commitment U better grab one of the suitors wey make sense oh,love will grow eventually,since u like love alot |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 10:15am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Elesta:He isn't borthered,I meant to type |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Goodquestion(m): 10:16am On Dec 06, 2014 |
MzNelly: Before you count five know that am behind those five. the correct figure is now five and a half. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by chibwike(m): 10:17am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Seeing all these...I just feeling like getting married |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by veraiyke(m): 10:18am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lady wat does ur conscience tell u to do. Ignore n u will b doomed. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by chodosky: 10:18am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Try to consider ur feelings for him, if it's so strong then go to any length with him u won't regret it, sometimes we do things wrong while trying to be fast and smart. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by ericessien24: 10:19am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:let me just advice you. if Im skeptical about a girl, il just tell her that she is young and if she is ready to marry she can carry on.just because I'm not so into her. if he truelly loves you and have future plans for you , he will act faster than the five. so move on.no worry you go try fall in love again. #winks# 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 10:19am On Dec 06, 2014 |
coogar:Bitter truth. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Fxwarrior: 10:20am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: You didn't tell us how long you've been with him. If its up to a year then by all means he should have defined the relationship since from your writeup money isn't the problem. For the fact he doesn't take you serious and thinks you are lying doesn't speak too well of whatever it is you have with him. Simply fall love with any of the suitors and give him the wedding IV. I have seen cases where a guy kept a girl for 7 years during which time the girl was telling everyone she's in a relationship. Now the guy is married and dear sister is in a dilemma how to convince all she's now available since age is no longer on her side. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by edwife(f): 10:21am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Truth is relationship is like a gamble,we all have differents stars.... Some girls have waited for their men for years and are today married to them,while some were dumped... Some girls met the "one" after 6 months to a year of dating..... My point is,go with your intuition,let your heart,brain speak for you...and do not act out of desperation then you will make the right choice. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by valdes00(m): 10:21am On Dec 06, 2014 |
OP is desperate, I understand her worries. In a few yrs tym, she wnt b in form again n by den BF will be eyeing a better chic.... BF is nt ready nw, u dnt nid 2 force him.....sinx u r desperate, jus go 4 any of d 5 suitors --- dats ur best bet 4 nw 3 Likes |
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