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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Truckpusher(m): 2:08pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
kika23:yeah. Unless you say otherwise |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 2:09pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Those are fundamental issues we should expressly discuss before marriage, to alleviate the psychological effect if they eventually come up in marriage. majekdom2: |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Youngpo413: 2:11pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:then dump him and follow another man...or is it a big deal? 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:15pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
[quote author=aisha2 post=28634644] My 30s[/quote. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Callfubu(m): 2:16pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:well I wanted to advise that, but clearly it has backfired. but you size up a suitor you would like and start dating *no sex of course* then see how it goes also don't forget to put it in prayers so you are blinded by affluence or show of emotion from your suitors. or better still lemme refer you to someone I think can be of immense help to you. check out soulties.com or follow @soulties on twitter 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:17pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jamean:smiles , good I like your person . but you can have a similar discussion with a trades man to alleviate this "psychological effect " . I ll stop here , I wish you the best in your endeavours. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Youngpo413: 2:18pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:pls do it asap...you can also keep him as an option should incase... |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Youngpo413: 2:21pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
MzNelly:lol |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 2:23pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Nay! I still stand on, you must have a university degree no matter your business manor. Do enjoy the rest of your weekend. majekdom2: |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Acidosis(m): 2:25pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
When you do not know the WILL of God; expect nothing but frustration, confusion & luck. 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:31pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
1one:Lol Tell them o. Ur comment is so on point. I can't even date someone I've nt shared life with. Someone whose purpose doesn't align with mine(not necessarily d same bt it has to blend), someone I barely know or love. Nt to talk of marrying such. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Youngpo413: 2:34pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike:then leave! |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:39pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: I got married at 23 and I had over 5 suitors lined up at the time When babymama was babymama |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Youngpo413: 2:39pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
AgapeCharis:Desperate ladies dont reason like that...thats why so many marriage crashes...or some of them still bleeping their exes. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by jerome4u(m): 2:40pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
coogar:Dude u re right, most men wants to put some things in place before settling down |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:45pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Babymama1:how many guys did you date before 23. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 2:45pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Babymama1: Lol! About the same age here too. Infact eh, I was sooo green from Naija. The man no gree make I "open eye" small for here. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:48pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Don't just choose a spouse from one of the suitors ,please make sure you court the person at least 3-6 months before marriage This is very very essential Learn about him,get to know his background,his beliefs,his likes and dislikes ,his reactions to situation and his weaknesses too and see if it's something you can live with. 3 months is enough for you to know him if you are in close proximity. Don't marry a stranger ,that will be another disaster 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by 1one: 2:53pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
AgapeCharis: Exactly... Ladies see this relationship/marriage thing like walking into a shop to buy Milo.. If there's no Milo, they would buy Bournvita, if there's no Bournvita, they would buy Ovaltine.. Even though Milo tastes better!!! |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:54pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: Personally I think 23 is a little too early for marriage 25-28 seems to me the ideal age,you are a lot more mature and well into yourself Secretly within me I always wish I had the opportunity to live by myself for at least two years and do my own thing I practically walked out of my parents house into a man's house or shall I say his bed When I hear friends talk about when they lived on their own,etc,I kinda wonder what it was like No regrets whatsoever,The big advantage though is that I had kids early My kids are older than that of most of my friends and people are shocked I have children that big |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:56pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Youngpo413:Seriously, it beats me hollow. Dating/Marriage isn't something u go into just for d sake/name of it. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 3:00pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
1one:I just pray some ladies r reading dx. If u'v actually set ur priorities right n u have a dream u'r focused on achieving, u wouldn't just jump from guy X to guy Zee |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 3:20pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jamean:Coogar said it Girls will be dating their classmates and NYSC camp mates hoping for marriage,rarely does it work out,most times it doesn't Most women marry men at least 5 years older or more That is the reality You can't be a 25 year old girl and pressurizing a 25 year old young man for marriage He will be ready in 5 years or more for the most part That is just the naked truth |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 3:27pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Babymama1: Babymama are we twin sisters?? You've just perfectly captured exactly how it is / was for me too! Yeah, 23 is a bit early. I married on the eve of my 25th birthday. It's funny now that I think of it. Remembering how both families came together to fix the date(s) and my main concern being that I shouldn't enter my 25th birthday before the D-Day o! As per kids, spot on again...and a large family at that. I too have always wondered what it would have really felt like to live the "Miss Independent" life on my own for a couple of years...but yes, I'm glad about the choices I made then. Besides, the courtship had gone on for nearly 2 years. If not for distance and school, we definitely would have married earlier. (Sigh)...The youths today have got it easy, communication wise. NIPOST mail taking nearly 2-3 months to reach you plus no mobile phones in our time - where owning a landline was a 'big deal'. I used to live for those special Saturday mornings to receive his phone call...lol! With momsie and popsie pretending not to eavesdrop 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by 1one: 3:29pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
AgapeCharis: I couldn't have said it any better. GBAM!!! |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 3:31pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Rather unfortunately, I have a close friend in this case right now. I've tried talking to her about it, but she's head over heels in love,and already giving the guy some nudges. No matter how financially stable some men may even be, they won't still be ready to marry till a certain age. So ladies why not just stay single and live well till it's high-time. Many failed relationships leave scars. I quoted a guy and told him I'm 22, and won't start any affair even with a 23yr old guy (infact 25 sef), 'cause I have a perspective & time view for marriage. People should learn to face reality and avoid unnecessary delay. Babymama1: 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 3:32pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
majekdom2: Why do you want to know? 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by coache(m): 3:36pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: According to you, you have been dating for a year now.......you said you decided to let him know about them (your suitors) and his response wasn't satisfactory. Now.........considering the time frame, your guy might still be having doubts if he should head in the direction of marriage with you especially if there are certain issues that both of you are yet to agree on, it might also be finance like some has been saying too cos a guy hates to complain to his woman about financial incapabilities. About you telling him about your suitors.....the response definitely was as a result of how you tabled the matter before him. No guy wants to be rushed but at the same time, when you're in a relationship, the relationship has to be clearly defined from the onset to prevent doubts and fears and ofcourse it takes someone with real discipline, integrity and the fear of God to do this. What can you do now? Tension has been created already, so go down on your kneels first and talk to God about all your fears but that's if you already know Him and He initially okayed the relationship for you. After that, talk to your man in a very calm and non-desperate manner. Let him be assured that you're not just after marriage, but that you sincerely cherish him. Tell him how boring and empty life would be without having the opportunity to share the rest of your life with him.Let him also know that its okay if he's not ready now but you just want to be sure and aware of his plans in life to know if you're included (I believe that's part of relationship too).Let him see reasons why you are concerned because you're a lady and you dnt have all the time in the world to be living in suspence. Study his response now and his reactions you should be able to know the next step to take. Sorry for the long post dear.......ALL THE BEST!! |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by EfemenaXY: 3:40pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
coache: Now if this isn't desperation, then I don't know what is. Why must she plead and beg him to see reason with her? A man who's ready to settle down will be hot on her heels doing the chasing, and not the other way round. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 3:41pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: This is amazing!! Incidentally my best friend also married at 23 and says the exact same thing Yes o,those special calls Then I will go to NITEL to call him early in the morning lol after he left naija I got married in Nigeria and then he left for Obodo Oyibo a few months later and I joined shortly afterwards 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 3:44pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
coache: OP don't try any of this 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by amunkita(m): 3:46pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Rolly83: Broz datz wat we go thru, buh its a diff view frm d females angle, african ladies alwayz want an already made man since Cain killed Abel.. 1 Like |
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