ColinAdua:


My brother am too old to react to aggressive and insultive statements bring out solid points don't succumb to cheap insults.

Moreover, talking about strength; when you defeat sexual urges for just one year.

You'll have a clearer understanding of strength and weakness.

You will then understand who's strong and who's weak.

Remain blessed.

LordReed:


LoL. You called me a pretender and yet you call my statements insulting, the log brother.

You seem to feel your experience is unique. FYI I gone 2+ years celibate. I know strength and weakness, I can appreciate both. You on the other hand are unable to see the balance which is where you fail.

ColinAdua:



Please with all due respect I never called you a pretender. I said "you will pretend". I have seen it a lot. Many people in that situation always pretend, its only few that are strong, reaches out for help, admitting their inabilities.

That's by the way. I don't need a balance between strength and weakness. No! God forbid. Am pressing on to STRENGTH. Am only interested in STRENGTH. I can only get it through Christ Jesus.

" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" Philippians 4:13(NKJV)

That's all I care for.

So, I don't care about balance. Am not interested in balance.

ColinAdua:



Oh! No! That's old testament, old will of Jehovah God. New testament, new will of God says; "But this I say, brethren, the TIME IS SHORT: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none" 1 Corinthians 7:29.

damselabi:
Hehehe, it only shows some ppl still ve courtesy nt to always respond to evey comment.I wonder who wuld even want u as a hubby, enjoy ur confused lyf.

CSTANU:
damn!!! i love this. but op, if ur father thought like u, u wouldn't be in existence. dont be stingy brother, give those sperm of yours a chance.

ColinAdua:


Good morning, my sister. With all due respect marriage do not make one a Christian.

After all, Jesus Christ did not marry. Apostle Paul did not marry. These are the strongest pillars of My Christian faith. I don't know about you.

Am not against marriage and I didn't say its a sin. But just like Apostle Paul through the revelation of the Holy Spirit said "because of the present distress(selfishness, problems and difficulties) let a man so to be" 1 Corinthians 7:26

I tell every single out here please remain as you are its better.

God bless you.

LordReed:


LoL who is a pretender but someone who pretends? Why the need to justify your insult?

It is highly incredible that you can not see the irony of the scripture you posted and your stance. "I can do all things" doesn't include marriage because?

Here is the balance you lack

2Cor 12:10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake:for when I am weak, then am I strong. (KJV)

Ennamdee:



I implore you to read 1 Corinthians 7:1-40, singling out a chapter can be misleading

ColinAdua:


Bros please. How many times will I tell you that am not interested in balance when it comes to chosing between STRENGTH and WEAKNESS?

I MUST LACK BALANCE BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO HAVE IT. I WANT STRENGTH.

Thank God that your quotation ended in "strong"

Cos at the end of the day that's where I dream and wants to end at, like Jesus Christ and Paul.

To finish strong. For goodness sake, I want to be strong and focus in achieving strength all around.

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" involves marriage but through the grace of free will given to me, which is not a sin.

I personally for now decided to remove marriage out of it. If God later says otherwise. Hmmmmmmm! then we'll know what to do.

ColinAdua:


Bros please bring out your point from the chapter. lets look at and examine it.

FYI its called verse not chapter.

No beef intended.

LordReed:


Who is denying you your singlehood? My grouse with you and the OP is the attempt to denigrate marriage because of your choice. It is your choice, by all means stick with it but please be silent about marriage. It is not for you, we get but let those who it's for get on with their business.

Ennamdee:



Mr Collin, The bible is not a book to read, but a Holy book to study, hence, you've been misleading others like us who's here to learn.

In your comment to Lordreed,I quote u.. "I personally for NOW decided to remove marriage out of it. If God later says otherwise. Hmmmmmmm! then we'll know what to do." .... That literarilly means there's a chance of you getting married LATER, After u must have misled others into believing that marriage is a taboo or a setback.



Apologies...point noted & taken. VERSE

Beef? I'm honestly not bothered!

ColinAdua:


My personal target here is to point out to people what is more important in this last days. Sincerely speaking marriage is no longer important. Well, that might be denigration but its the simple truth, all round wise.

If you can't handle it keep off from this thread lets talk to people who can.

God bless you!

Peace!!

ColinAdua:


Marriage is honestly a setback. A brother in my church which I assist as moderator, is refusing to marry. Why? He used to tell some married sisters that are mounting pressure on him that it will set him back from the wonderful service he is rendering to the Lord which he treasures most.

A have a Pastor friend, the general overseer of a church, 46 not married. He tells me that he is not married because God has kept telling him that time is not ripe yet.

Am a Christian, it means I have given the control of my life to Jesus Christ. He is the person that decides what I do or not.

But I have free will in areas where He hasn't spoken clearly. Personally, for me I have chosen singlehood for life because it brings so much peace and order.

But, if God says otherwise tomorrow, which I don't believe He will say. Because this is the last days. God is more interested in people making Heaven than getting married. Then we will know what to do about it.

Actually, I pray to God to turn the good wife and beautiful wonderful children into money, houses and cars for me.

Of a truth I tell you today. I can't bring myself to think about giving up the get up and go freedom am enjoying as a single young man.

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

qtx:

buahhahahahahahahahahahaha, now i know that nothing is bad in itself, it now depends on the power of argument behind it. Well packaged point that will make someone think its an abomination to get married. hmmmmm may God forgive you

LordReed:


Marriage is not important in the last days? Really? God told you that?

I can handle folk like you but you obviously can't handle people who won't back down from opposing half truths.

ColinAdua:


Bros please I don't know if you attend church. If you attend one and have come close to a Bible.

I will advise you bend down and study one.

Earthly Marriage is not Gods priority right now. His priority is RAPTURE and preparing the ELECT to make rapture (Revelations 22:12).

Ennamdee:





Marriage is honestly a setback? With all due respect,Then i wont be wrong to conclude that you are a setback,(being a product of marriage) or otherwise you were born out of careless sexual escapades.

Nonetheless, it is quite appalling that your decisions are based on a brother in your church, and your pastor friend, forgetting that they are mare mortals, You should know the rest .......

I may not be as religious as you are but after reading this "Actually, I pray to God to turn the good wife and beautiful wonderful children into money, houses and cars for me." then i begin to fear for people who take religious advise from you..
Please study 1 Corinthians 7:1-40, pay more attention to verse 30.

I would want to assume that you meant 'I have a pastor friend' and not 'A have a Pastor friend' .

LordReed:


LoL! Chei! Is your bible missing 1Timothy 4?

1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; 2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; 3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. (KJV)

Can you now see you are being deceived by a seducing spirit? You have given heed to the doctrines of devils. Save your soul my dear.

ColinAdua:



Please bros, how old are you? You sound too childish. What happens to 1 Corinthians 7:30?

Write it here and explain it to me let me see.

See person going into and hoping for a successful marriage, simple understanding you lack. I wrote "A have a pastor friend" then what?

Simple understanding should have told you that people makes mistakes sometimes, or have I ever told I don't make mistakes.

This is one of the reasons I kept telling you people to keep this marriage one side because you are going to make a wreck of it.

If you can easily lose understanding or become revengeful when you felt challenged am sorry for your would be wife.

killjoy:




soooooo I, oghene-killjoy is now a seducing spirit.... OMO! c levelsss! gals for my area dan die finish

LordReed:


LoL! Chei! Is your bible missing 1Timothy 4?

1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; 2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; 3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. (KJV)

Can you now see you are being deceived by a seducing spirit? You have given heed to the doctrines of devils. Save your soul my dear.

killjoy:


u so happen to be one of d pipl who still ve courtesy nt to always respond to evey comment. wen i land in ur papas compund with my chopper to ask for ur hand, im sure u wud nt mind me even bein a monkey (not as though im one). btw, dont quote me again.

killjoy:


u so happen to be one of d pipl who still ve courtesy nt to always respond to evey comment. wen i land in ur papas compund with my chopper to ask for ur hand, im sure u wud nt mind me even bein a monkey (not as though im one). btw, dont quote me again.

Ennamdee:


Indeed you're truly deluded. Don't read for the sake of reading,read to understand.
You can stay single for all i care but telling others why they should remain single is utter delutional.

You have a friend who's pastor,that's no body's biz...you coulda frame up stories to support your lame opinion, but for sanity sake,keep them to yourself and stop spreading false stories.

God forbid that i understand a retard like you,lest i'll be infected with same mental illness.

You're indeed a product of 'setback' looking for whom to drag along with you...i nor dey abeg !! #enoughsaid

damselabi:
N if I do...am sure u ve tym so kip responding, am nt one of d pigheaded girls u meet who knw notin bt money.U character can neva get u a wife even if u want one so its beta u stay single.

ColinAdua:



LOL! Chei! laugh no gree me at all. I don laugh tire.

Please my dear friend I really wish you can go to a Bible school and stop quoting Bible out of context.

Now let me put you through a little bit, the person (Apostle Paul) that wrote those verses did not marry. I hope you know and he also told people in the same Bible not to marry that its better to remain unmarried. Does it mean he has a seducing spirit?

Okay! FYI there's a difference between forbidding and convincing. Forbidding is using force while convincing is lovingly showing someone a better option.

If you can recall here. I said once I don't hate marriage and marriage is not a sin but just like Apostle Paul said and out of my personal experience singleness is better.

This is what I said here. Am not forcing anyone under any vow or oath not to marry. I just want to prove that personally imposed singleness is better. All round.

If you cannot resist women and wants to marry, fine! Wonderful! Great! Congrats! But don't go and start regretting it. And don't come back here. telling us "if I had known"

And finally, don't go and make a mess of it. Hahahaha! lols.

Jesus Christ once said, some makes themselves eunuch for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake.

Then He completes it with a statement that is very wonderful which I love so much "He who is able to accept it, let him accept it"

Accept what? Recall He was asked by His disciples "if such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry"

Assignment find where this is in the Holy Scriptures.

Have I made myself clear?

Good night and sweet dreams.

ColinAdua:



LOL! Chei! laugh no gree me at all. I don laugh tire.

Please my dear friend I really wish you can go to a Bible school and stop quoting Bible out of context.

Now let me put you through a little bit, the person (Apostle Paul) that wrote those verses did not marry. I hope you know and he also told people in the same Bible not to marry that its better to remain unmarried. Does it mean he has a seducing spirit?

Okay! FYI there's a difference between forbidding and convincing. Forbidding is using force while convincing is lovingly showing someone a better option.

If you can recall here. I said once I don't hate marriage and marriage is not a sin but just like Apostle Paul said and out of my personal experience singleness is better.

This is what I said here. Am not forcing anyone under any vow or oath not to marry. I just want to prove that personally imposed singleness is better. All round.

If you cannot resist women and wants to marry, fine! Wonderful! Great! Congrats! But don't go and start regretting it. And don't come back here. telling us "if I had known"

And finally, don't go and make a mess of it. Hahahaha! lols.

Jesus Christ once said, some makes themselves eunuch for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake.

Then He completes it with a statement that is very wonderful which I love so much "He who is able to accept it, let him accept it"

Accept what? Recall He was asked by His disciples "if such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry"

Assignment find where this is in the Holy Scriptures.

Have I made myself clear?

Good night and sweet dreams.

ColinAdua:


Na wa o! So you are so bitter and filled with anger like this. Please brother with all due respect kindly get out of this forum and never come back.

This thread is not made for immature people like you that cannot convincingly debate without bitterness and anger.

If I offended you. Please SORRY.

But I think the best is for you to get out of this thread because you will keep getting offended.

God bless you.

Ennamdee:


I need to get ready to watch footy,but in the mean time, stop spreading false stories.