AKMoney1:
Why is everyone blaming the husband? Did you guys read the first part of the story where she clearly stated that she used him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever she just feel like going to the cinema, that the guy never disappointed her? For good 3 years she played and milked him like wtf? How many guys can stand that? To the ladies if ur brother is in such courtship what will be your reaction?

Still yet the guy didn't give up and went ahead to marry her but only for the girl to start misbehaving on the very night of their wedding. Why won't you wanna bath with/for ur hubby? She even tried to resist the sex on their wedding night, come on we all have blood in our veins na and this guy has spent a fortune up till that moment. And even after the sex he realized she was a virgin and might be hurt, he bought her a car to compensate her. But ordinary kiss she can't give her hubby as a thank you.

Even though abusing her sexually is not the best option but what if he was beating her?

None of you guys here is saint enough to call him a beast except you pray to be treated the way she treated him while courting or you want your brother to be treated thus.

As for the lady in question, my advice for you is to beg him and change to a loving wife he wants you to be. Not always about sex, show him love and affections and if it's sex give him he's your husband.

It's obvious she NEVER LOVED HIM, why she even got married to him in the 1st place baffles me

Eyop:


So Ishilove what do you advise her? If na you,will you stay and endure all the jabulani nonsense

First off, Eyop darling, na who be that man wey wan use jabulani terrorise me? Dem nefa born am. Me sef go use punnany torment am. In his next life he go see punny run

Secondly, there are two sides to every story. The lady is painting the man as a beast, but I'm sure she haas her own faults. They both need counselling. Like seriously.

The truth is that you guys are not sexually compatible. Most women would jump at such opportunity: doing it in the bath, kitchen, staircase or even a quickie before work/Church. Depending on their sex drive. Madam you for go marry virgin o so there won't be a problem.

tintingz:
@sophyrocks read what your fellow woman just posted see the sense in her post no gender siding, she said the fact and she balanced it.

And so? What is my business with what she posted? Are we the same? Ive said my opinion and thats it.

From the story I read,it seems you were a virgin till day you did it with your husband?Well,if yes is the answer to the question then you have to keep doing it and don't stop doing it.With time,you will get use to it.Remember this is marriage which GOD had ordained from the genesis.So,sexual intercurse is part of the mfulfillments.

pictures or Adonbilivit

andromida:
I honestly find it hard to believe this story. If its true i am sorry you are going through all this your husband seems insane to me from your story.

I am curious though have you never enjoyed the s3x with him?

Why is he communicating with you in such a violent way and why do you have to tolerate this nonsense? when the pastors wife told you to kneel and beg him you should have said NO. You can't just be crying and tolerating some extreme s3x just to please him look for a solution abeg since he is also a skilled manipulator and you've lost your voice you may need to go back home.

You don't have to pay any price you didn't commit any crime you only got married.

She never loved the guy for ones!

MsPat:
Mr.....u wicked o! Just because she wanted to keep her virginity......she shud die from kitten OVERWORK?! I av one word for u and Op's hubby......EVIL!!!!

Madam, do you believe the problem is from the woman or not? Believe it or not, she's the problem. This is what you get when getting married to someone whom you dont take as a friend, a brother/sister and a partner. She obviously does not relate well with her husband. She's not friendly with him which is very important. She doesnt play with him, she does not kiss and tease him, she does not sit on his laps and rub his body, (of course you've already heard she never took bath with him not until after the pastors' visit) etc. What sort of a woman is that? It seems she does not even talk with him when at home. Why should having sex with a woman you married be a problem? If a girlfriend can give it happily, what should then be expected of a wife? BORING, that is a short word to describe her type. Besides, this is what happens when one gets married to a woman old enough to be a grandma but still a virgin. Let me not sound harsh though pls.

andromida:


Possibly she has issues as well BUT he is her husband why that level of violence she was crying after the act and he just kept demanding for more what kind of man is that? Didn't i read "he said he was giving her hot sex" this man is not in tune with her feelings he can't be a good husband to her. About the hot bath maybe she was shy some gentle treatment would have yielded results he just jumped from no hot bath to raping her.

The lady is not reasoning well at all and i dont think they love each other
you see i think both of them are at fault
and none of them is trying to make things better
but i totally think this is A fake write up


watchu Think?

Sophyrocks:


Have i said so? You dnt like how a lady is running a relationship and yet you stay there and turn to a beast after marriage. Infact you married her to punish her. for what? why couldnt you break the relationship and walk away? when ladies are everywhere? isnt that f00lishness?

Go back and read the years they have been together.

If the wife is not ready for marriage and sex why accept the proposal from the man.

rapmike:

Girl, I like your eyes. Are you taken?

how do I answer this question now ooo *thinking*

IVORY2009:


Yeah, there is a law, I think in Lagos state, child right/woman's right, but still on the issue, the woman has no case in a law court, reasons are that she can not prove it that the husband actually raped her, and the last time, I checked cases that has to do with rape is very slim/difficut to prove, and the women's right group has to still follow the law as well tooo, so tell me how are they going to prove their case beyond reasonable doubt @ a law court.

Are there no rape kits in Nigeria? Actually I understand what you are saying. It will be very difficult for her to prove he raped her since people might be inclined to believe him since they are married. I really don't know how she would prove it beyond a reasonable doubt as I am not a lawyer. But I think her number one priority should be getting herself out of that relationship and ensuring her safety.

AKMoney1:
Why is everyone blaming the husband? Did you guys read the first part of the story where she clearly stated that she used him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever she just feel like going to the cinema, that the guy never disappointed her? For good 3 years she played and milked him like wtf? How many guys can stand that? To the ladies if ur brother is in such courtship what will be your reaction?



Still yet the guy didn't give up and went ahead to marry her but only for the girl to start misbehaving on the very night of their wedding. Why won't you wanna bath with/for ur hubby? She even tried to resist the sex on their wedding night, come on we all have blood in our veins na and this guy has spent a fortune up till that moment. And even after the sex he realized she was a virgin and might be hurt, he bought her a car to compensate her. But ordinary kiss she can't give her hubby as a thank you.



Even though abusing her sexually is not the best option but what if he was beating her?



None of you guys here is saint enough to call him a beast except you pray to be treated the way she treated him while courting or you want your brother to be treated thus.



As for the lady in question, my advice for you is to beg him and change to a loving wife he wants you to be. Not always about sex, show him love and affections and if it's sex give him he's your husband.

phabulous88:
Something must be wrong with those of you advising her to divorce her husband.

God bless these guys....

Sophyrocks:


And so? What is my business with what she posted? Are we the same? Ive said my opinion and thats it.

your opinion is illogical.

tintingz:
Go back and read the years they have been together.

If the wife is not ready for marriage and sex why accept the proposal from the man.

Why must a man rape his wife simply because she held to the No s.ex rule and other funny characters? why did he marry her if he didnt love her but had ulterior motives? He must be a beast!! Marriage isnt by force. You dnt lke how a lady treats you then QUIT!! Now that he has turned to a rapist, is he enjoying the marriage now? Nonsense!!

Readonee35L:

The lady is not reasoning well at all and i dont think they love each other
you see i think both of them are at fault
and none of them is trying to make things better
but i totally think this is A fake write up


watchu Think?

I suspect its fake. But if by any chance its true the man is at fault he is an unkind and cruel person.

tintingz:
your opinion is illogical.

And your opinion about my opinion is of no use to me. I really dnt care.

The story na porkies jor

Suzyky4u:
The truth is that you guys are not sexually compatible. Most women would jump at such opportunity: doing it in the bath, kitchen, staircase or even a quickie before work/Church. Depending on their sex drive. Madam you for go marry virgin o so there won't be a problem.

I THINK SHE NEVER LOVED THE GUY!

Stelvin101:


Hahahahahahahaha. Naaaaa, I luv my Nigeria gals, black, beautiful with natural goodies to match

lol..that's cool

Most nairalanders are confused ppl.
How did she use the man?
Did she force the man to spend money on her while they were dating?
He could have refused to spend his money on her since he didn't owe her anything at that time.

So saying no sex before marriage is now an evil thing? Does a lady owe her body to a man who's not her husband? Pls tell me again how she punished him.


One day y'all are clamoring for Virgins,the next day you're calling those who insisted on not having sex before marriage users and wicked people.
The man knowing that she's a novice should have had some patience with her and guide her gently into the art of love making so that it will be a beautiful experience for both of them.

Now he's coming with the "you punished me by keeping your virginity until marriage,so it is my turn to punish you" mentality.

And some on this thread see nothing wrong with such a sick mindset.even if this story is a lie, it is disturbing that some people think the man is acting right.



Pukes*

Wat sort of nonsense! Uve got to be strong n stand up to him. Wen ur tired try aPpealn to his conscience. It energy u nid to go into sex so tel him xept he wnt u dead so fast. Agn since he loves sex so much as a way of purnishn u for nt granting him sex durn ur dating period den b d one to always demand for sex from him every now n den n do it cheerfully. I bet u he will gve in not to false u into sex agn cox he wud b wondering wat cme over u. D best

victorazy:


I THINK SHE NEVER LOVED THE GUY!

Maybe she does. Most virgins are always scared of s*x tho it depends on the orientation. I think the op was probably able to abstain from s*x till now because she was scared of it. Thus the need for councelling cos even is she leaves the marriage, she might still have issues.

My dear op what u need is a therapist or a medical doctor to advice both of you and not a pastor. The fact that you were a virgin before marriage and that ur husband is a learner in the act of love making is affecting your marriage. There is what will call pre-intimacy before sex, this allow the woman to get wet before intercourse thereby making it less painful, you have to explain that to your husband, that is if he has the patients to listen. You have to also create the impression that you love him and that you will want him to be happy but you want him to show you how. Also pray hard because you need God at this time of your life.

ireneidiva:

My friend, the guy should nicely ask. Simple. Not rape. Is he a goat?

Sweetheart, he did ask and in a romantic way too. If you read her story carefully, you'll find out where he was asking her if she forgot something. Just a kiss from her would do.

And no, he's not a goat; he's just a MAN who's in love with a lady who doesn't understand that little romantic perks help spice up a marriage.

Again, I think he's a MAN venting 3 years of conji. Maybe he should give her time to learn

Chaii! What an ashhhshole your hubby is! Abeg no need for too much story...bolt! Wetin we carry nau? Making you cry like that cos of wetin nau .Pls bol!

Sophyrocks:


Why must a man rape his wife simply because she held to the No s.ex rule and other funny characters? why did he marry her if he didnt love her but had ulterior motives? He must be a beast!! Marriage isnt by force. You dnt lke how a lady treats you then QUIT!! Now that he has turned to a rapist, is he enjoying the marriage now? Nonsense!!

you gat to be confused what these guys want sometimes.
Virgins. Yes? No?

hungryboy:
oh boy shut up, i'm very sure that from her description of the man, the man won't be able to stay for 3yrs without having sex, dude was probably visiting brothels for his sex sessions and was waiting to pounce on this virgin pucci, he knew that his ticket to this virgin pucci's penetration was marriage, dude finally got his ticket,
i know say ashawo boys like u go dey hail am say him be champion but the man is a maniac.
If he tried this in a western country with a white woman, na 21yrs we for dey talk about now

Term it whatever pleases you but do you know that there's a difference between having sex and having sex with that special woman you love? Let me briefly expose you on this. If a man truly likes a woman, even if he f*cks thousands of girls, believe me he'll still feeling unsatisfied because his mind is on the particular woman/pusssy he likes. In other words, even though in might've been having random sex with other ladies, it didnt mean anything to him. All he was doing was to "sharpen the dicck" (laughing) in readiness to this special pusssy and yet, when the special pusssy finally comes, it wants to be a disappointment to him. If it were you, what would you do? The man never raped her. Let's not take that way. Like i earlier pointed out, let the woman change her mindset/orientation and things will get normalized.

TomiwaDamola:


Are there no rape kits in Nigeria? Actually I understand what you are saying. It will be very difficult for her to prove he raped her since people might be inclined to believe him since they are married. I really don't know how she would prove it beyond a reasonable doubt as I am not a lawyer. But I think her number one priority should be getting herself out of that relationship and ensuring her safety.

Yeah, getting herself out of the relationship will definatly be a better option for her to yield to or better still calling for a family meeting between both families i.e. hubby's people and her people, I think that might also help out.

Sophyrocks:


Why must a man rape his wife simply because she held to the No s.ex rule and other funny characters?

His intention might not be to rape her but the wife sees it as rape.

He even said he bought her a car because he met her a virgin and he felt guilty for his action.

The wife at least should adjust and make things work from there.

why did he marry her if he didnt love her but had ulterior motives? He must be a beast!! Marriage isnt by force.

From the post did you see where the hubby didn't show affection?

From her words I can see the wife is not the one not loving her hubby, no affection, no romance to spice up the marriage instead she was behaving like a log of wood with no sexual feelings.

You dnt lke how a lady treats you then QUIT!! Now that he has turned to a rapist, is he enjoying the marriage now? Nonsense!!

Why not tell the woman who is behaving like a wood.

She didn't love her hubby or ready for sex, why did she accept to marry him.

Ibadannimowa:
I wish I could talk to you in private.

Since he never gave u d chance to feel the goodness in sex, you will not be comfortable having it with him. The i.diot should have been patient and given it to you with pleasure.

Those pastors are something else

Wetin u wan talk in private Dis guy eh...u dey find puna on a low abi??

cococandy:
Most nairalanders are confused ppl.
How did she use the man?
Did she force the man to spend money on her while they were dating?
He could have refused to spend his money on her since he didn't owe her anything at that time.

So saying no sex before marriage is now an evil thing? Does a lady owe her body to a man who's not her husband? Pls tell me again how she punished him.


One day y'all are clamoring for Virgins,the next day you're calling those who insisted on not having sex before marriage users and wicked people.
The man knowing that she's a novice should have had some patience with her and guide her gently into the art of love making so thag it will be a beautiful experience for both of them.

Now he's coming with the "you punished me by keeping your virginity until marriage,so it is my turn to punish you" mentality.

And some on this thread see nothing wrong with such a sick mindset.even if this story is a lie, it is disturbing that some people think the man is acting right.



Pukes*

i was the one dat liked your comment i agree with you, but the lady is immature