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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by 19naia(m): 8:00pm On Dec 13, 2014

Ehn? I touch myself also when she slaps me and gets heated over me, i grab her hand and smell it so sweet and tell her to put more on me so she can hear me scream for her... Ooh it so turns me on and i get eager for more until finally we off the lights and under cover to settle the matter in final full contact engagement, no prisoners and no surrender until all agression has been expended with nothng left to spare... Sometimes there must be a round two just to be sure the matter has been properly settled, because some matters are stubborn to settle...

Enjoy life and who you have in whatever way you can...

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:00pm On Dec 13, 2014

The woman who can abuse me verbally, physically, emotionally, spiritually or otherwise is NOT yet born

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Opiosko: 8:02pm On Dec 13, 2014

ruuudboy:

Even though i hardly discuss my marriage issue with people, i called her dad this afternoon to explain what happened. He was surprised and later talk to her including her mum

I know it could have been worse reporting her to my own parent

Mitcheww! Why did u report her? All the good u did by not laying a finger on her has been undone..... U want to hear "She was in the wrong"... Yeye!

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by agarawu23(m): 8:02pm On Dec 13, 2014

sorry Op, I ain't patient for this kind of "suru "

I dnt take shit

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by passionate88: 8:02pm On Dec 13, 2014

damiso:

Nothing justifies assault...

Nothing... You are right, but then.........

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Dec 13, 2014

zeb04:
Op don't listen to any of the advice here esp from the women.

Divorce/Seperation because the woman was banging on his door?
Didn't Op say he has settled with his wife and she promised not to repeat that again.
You all giving such advice are sick in the brain.

Since when did marriage become childplay.
Nansense.

STFU!

Banging on his door? Did you even read the story at all?
You didn't see the hit and slap part, did you? And I'm sure she said the same thing about not repeating it the first time she did it.
If this were to be a woman, I'm sure you'll be telling us how evil men can be but now that he's a nice gentleman, he should take all sorts of bullshyte from the 'weaker vessel'.....once again, STFU!

and ehrm, you're the one who needs your brain examined.

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Lywiled: 8:04pm On Dec 13, 2014

U r a gud man 4 having d patience of restraint. I ve bin married almost six yrs & I can tell u nt every man will take dat let alone tolerate. Ur wife knws d kind of man u r, dat u r nt d type dat wil raise a finger on a lady datz Y she is taking advantage of u.

If she knew u wuldn't take it in d 1st place, she wudn't dare lift her hand on u. Let her knw seriously dat she shdn't dare it again.

She definitelt knew u wuld beg her if she tried to attract d neighbours to d scene.

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by merit12(f): 8:06pm On Dec 13, 2014

Op howfar you?

You only told us about the abuse side of the story .

Wetin u do the woman.(Did she found out you been sleeping with your neighour or have 3kids outside)

What would have resulted let's hear your own fault.

Team black women

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by funnyme(f): 8:06pm On Dec 13, 2014

satowind:

Thanks sweet

you're welcome

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by radiance26(f): 8:06pm On Dec 13, 2014

U'r a real man #thumbs-up#

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by damiso(f): 8:07pm On Dec 13, 2014

passionate88:
Nothing... You are right, but then.........

I know its harder said than done though..I watched that Ugandan Nanny Video and I was it wondering what my reaction would have been if it was my child embarassed

I am normally not prone to physical violence but my kids bring out one kain emotion in me so I get that your 'but then'

That said we need to try to keep emotions in check by not reacting with our fists or lashing out all the time.

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by xdos(m): 8:08pm On Dec 13, 2014

Though I ve not experienced such wiv my wife but I must say u behaved maturely by walking out and also by keeping neighbours away... If she ever tries it again, I'll suggest the both of u meet ur pastor for counseling.... I am not also opposed to the idea of u taking her back to her parents. Let her parents talk to her when u think her head has cooled down, Take her back in...

Please do not bring in friends into this... If there must be a 3rd party, it shud be God and at most her own parents... not ur parents or relatives... cheers

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by freecocoa(f): 8:08pm On Dec 13, 2014

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by sexybash(f): 8:08pm On Dec 13, 2014

19naia:
Ehn? I touch myself also when she slaps me and gets heated over me, i grab her hand and smell it so sweet and tell her to put more on me so she can hear me scream for her... Ooh it so turns me on and i get eager for more until finally we off the lights and under cover to settle the matter in final full contact engagement, no prisoners and no surrender until all agression has been expended with nothng left to spare... Sometimes there must be a round two just to be sure the matter has been properly settled, because some matters are stubborn to settle...

Enjoy life and who you have in whatever way you can...

Pervert in da building

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by TDstarr: 8:10pm On Dec 13, 2014

ruuudboy:
We have always heard about husband abusing their wives. How is it always like, the other way round? I have never laid my hand on any lady before not to talk of my wife and i don't think i can do such.

As a husband how do you handle it if your wife lay her hand on you either by slapping,punching,biting or rough handling? As a wife, how did your husband handle the situation?

I have been married to my wife going to 4yrs now and yesterday was the second time we had misunderstanding that led to serious confrontation.....Initially when it all started around 9pm, i kept quiet and didnt respond to her ranting. When she realized i wasn't responding, she moved close to me, started punching me, bit me and somehow slapped me in the process with serious ranting "you'll kill me today."

I tried as much as not to retaliate and removed myself from her, ran to the visitors room and locked myself in there....she continued talking and started hitting the door with a stick, after which i realized that with the way things are going, neighbours on the next flat might want to come and asked what was wrong, which i do much detest.

I started begging her from inside after which she calmed down and i opened the door.....we talked it through till late in d night and settled our differences which she later apologised for raising her hand on me and promised never to do that again no matter what happened.

The issue now is, i put myself in another man's shoe that how do people handle things like this in marriage as a husband?

As a wife, how did your husband handle issues of misunderstanding? The first thing that came to my mind yesterday when she hit me was the word of my boss who always say, AT THE HIGHEST POINT OF PROVOCATION, ALWAYS EXERCISE CAUTION.

Married peeps, how do u handle this?

God one word for you SIR, you are a big PUSSSY, Even our fore fathers dey forbid you are the wife in the marriage , thats y am never getting married, you a disgrace to manhood, check the new thread most of these stupid girls advising you that you did the right thing said, that they like a man who us confident, you are dealing with a chronic. Nagging woman , who even went to the extent of hitting you twice, this woman will kill you one day either with high blood pressure or physically. You just spoilt my day

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Ralphlauren(m): 8:13pm On Dec 13, 2014

merit12:
Op howfar you?

You only told us about the abuse side of the story .

Wetin u do the woman.(Did she found out you been sleeping with your neighour or have 3kids outside)

What would have resulted let's hear your own fault.

Team black women

Exactly!

Ruuudboy tell us what you did? What did you do to your wife?

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by zeb04(f): 8:13pm On Dec 13, 2014

alutacontinua:

STFU!
Banging on his door? Did you even read the story at all?
You didn't see the hit and slap part, did you? And I'm sure she said the same thing about not repeating it the first time she did it.
If this were to be a woman, I'm sure you'll be telling us how evil men can be but now that he's a nice gentleman, he should take all sorts of bullshyte from the 'weaker vessel'.....once again, STFU!

and ehrm, you're the one who needs your brain examined.

"take all sort of bullshit from the weaker vessel"...Where in my post did you see that?

What do you expect op to do....divorce his wife?
If you so pained op has forgiven his wife,just go straight to hell the world is over populated alredy.

Btw I never supported the wife.

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by TDstarr: 8:14pm On Dec 13, 2014

esere826:
@ruuudboy
no one has the right to hit the other
whether na man or woman

sit her down now before the next incident ever occurs and firmly tell her that if this happens again it would be taken seriously
if it does occur again, record the event and show it to her family,... not yours yet.
Calmly tell her family to call her to order

if it progresses further, report her to your pastors wife
If after that it occurs yet again
then learn to lock her up in a room, instead of yourself and start working on a process for separation from her or sleeping out

Sleeping out will get to her seriously

no one has the right?? but she hit him ...i hate women angry

if na me i go kill her dat day she go run from hiting me next time, women are like dogs the more you are harsh the more they love you, when you are too cold they will bite you

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Airpure(f): 8:16pm On Dec 13, 2014

@Op wat ur wife did was sooo wrong .
But lemme guess was another woman involved cos m thinking jealousy/insecurity .?

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by sexybash(f): 8:16pm On Dec 13, 2014

xdos:
Though I ve not experienced such wiv my wife but I must say u behaved maturely by walking out and also by keeping neighbours away... If she ever tries it again, I'll suggest the both of u meet ur pastor for counseling.... I am not also opposed to the idea of u taking her back to her parents. Let her parents talk to her when u think her head has cooled down, Take her back in...

Please do not bring in friends into this... If there must be a 3rd party, it shud be God and at most her own parents... not ur parents or relatives... cheers

Yeah the only time his parents would be involved is when he is dead
By the time she hits him with a. Bottle right??
Nan sense

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Pamcrest(f): 8:16pm On Dec 13, 2014

Abuse is abuse, no matter who is d abuser. It's wrong for a wife to beat her hubby n vice vers. Violence begets nothing.
Op I salute u for your restraint n maturity.....many men might have retaliated. But I advise u to seek help for your wife, don't tolerate this behaviour....domestics abuse like this tends to be repeated n d consequences might become very grave.
My humble submission

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by EfemenaXY: 8:17pm On Dec 13, 2014

Where is SirShymex? He loves violent stories.

Shymex...

Shymex...

Shymex...

Oya come and give us your view. What would you do if you were the husband in question here?

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:18pm On Dec 13, 2014

The day she lifts her finger on me ... In that day we're done. The only clause is if my actions were so gross and it is very clear that via my actions I pushed her to the wall that made her snap out of control.

@Op really exerted serious self control ... rewarding violence with violence in this context is counter productive. You did well.

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:18pm On Dec 13, 2014

zeb04:
"take all sort of bullshit from the weaker vessel"...Where in my post did you see that?

What do you expect op to do....divorce his wife?
If you so pained op has forgiven his wife,just go straight to hell the world is over populated alredy.

Btw I never supported the wife.

I dunno if it's your eyes or your brain that needs fixing!
Or maybe you're just the product of sub-standard education
Separation! As in send the woman away for a while (a re-training actually), just so she knows that it's not accepted for her to be behaving like a bush-goat in her husband's house. All these begging and negotiation don't work for women who have reached this point.

why don't you understand simple English? angry

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Edusouls(m): 8:18pm On Dec 13, 2014

men's abuse to women is mainly shouting on the woman and at worst beating her up.,and this is done to correct some ill behaviours from her.but women's abuse, extreme nagging, damaging lies,poisining the mind of those that likes you, and at worst that of your own kids turning them against you, when you meet hardship instead of comforting you they add misery on top, unsatiable demands, unprovoked verbal attacks, soul killing insalts,she remembers for you many better suitors that would have married her instead of a nobody like you, appreciates nothing u do no matter what,it eats up the man like cancer until he dies slowly without bleeding, thats why most of the untimely death we hear today are men, when women start they dont stop until you divorce her, run or endure and eventualy die a miserable death..

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:20pm On Dec 13, 2014

I'm not married yet, ok bye. angry

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:23pm On Dec 13, 2014

Amefrica:
I'm not married yet, ok bye.

how do you handle an abusive girlfriend?

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by YourCoffin: 8:24pm On Dec 13, 2014

Chai! This OP is dead and he doesn't know it yet.

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by makkitush: 8:25pm On Dec 13, 2014

nikkyshyne:
But you can abuse english abi?

:-D:-D:-D:-D.

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by BE811APP: 8:26pm On Dec 13, 2014

So what did u do

ruuudboy:

slept with someone ke? Nah........Everly faithful to my wife

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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by litetias(m): 8:29pm On Dec 13, 2014

lilreese:
No women can abuse me, that why i'm a men.

chaiii, na waoo, people dey sha, see english, infact dis no be english again na engrish

Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Sormeh: 8:30pm On Dec 13, 2014

Laeroy:
Being married for a month now....There's not been any abuse of whatever kind....so imma say God reigns in my house....HALLALUYAH.....

What do you expect? Honeymoon is always sweet. that's why it is called HONEY + MOON. I can only pray that it continues like that.

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