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Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: I'm gonna be derailing if I answer that. The topic says "marriage as a husband" ![]() |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by shamecurls(m): 8:30pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
keep quite...take a walk when she is done with her utterances and you could do few jugs of beer if u drink. Go back home and act like nothing happened. 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Edusouls(m): 8:31pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
iamchiddy:hahahaha how old are you? you re still a very young man, you never jam, and your type may even fall inluv so deeply to a woman that when she starts abusing you, you will be so harmless that you just beg and plead.., you never go deep into women, when you do, u now undestand how powerful women are.. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by tintingz(m): 8:33pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Laeroy:Is still a month ...I pray no sort of physical and emotional abuse in your marriage but ofcos misunderstanding will always occur at some point tho. |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by zeb04(f): 8:33pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
alutacontinua:"this point"....which point? You just so pained op has forgiven his wife.its understandable...you were probably not brought up in that kind of family.btw I'd like to see things from your point of view but I can't seem to get my head that far up your asszzzz. 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Obeby(m): 8:39pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
kazlaw2000:My thought as well. Such a weakling! 3 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Reference(m): 8:39pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Laeroy: 1 month eh?.... Remember those VHS video tapes...at the beginning you have a transparent, blank section before the black when the film starts....I guess your marraige hasn't started. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by prolifikVj: 8:41pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
you handled the situation like a man. At times patience, and not brawn defines the family man. Whilst she tries to beat u, u could always hold her...(you're the stronger one)...then calm and soothe her. Its called marriage my brother. Women are emotional beings subject to a lot of mood swings hormonally induced. Check her out when she's pregnant..annoying doesn't even get to describe her...she'll beat u, cry at u..yes at u...its no typo!! Would u kill her then?? That's why marriage is for men. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by ib22003(m): 8:43pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
ruuudboy:This is what I fear most about getting married, I am trying my best to be patient, I douge most of this things. But how do we manage if we go dey the same mind. |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:45pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
zeb04: Sometimes, I forget all kinda of things are allowed to roam on NL and I start posting like I'm posting with normal people. Tell me the sick person now: just read the above post and tell me who has a worm in the brain. You can never see things from my POV, it's obvious you lack the common sense! Just swerve-i don't do your type. ![]() ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by tintingz(m): 8:46pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
[size=14pt]Many women love tough guys who can control and handle them hardly, we can read some women comments in this thread. ![]() Women know how to push men to the wall by nagging, punching, slapping etc but when a man retaliate it is another story[/size] ![]() [img]http://2.bp..com/-xn8IRatwdE4/UcUxjZJN9kI/AAAAAAAAvww/dKvw8c9CtFA/s320/a+a+a+a+man+spanks+woman.jpg[/img] [size=15pt]Men just walk away, ignore when a woman is nagging, then when she's calm talk sense to are brain, give her warnings/boundries [/size] |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:47pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Poster please please please dont keep quiet about this or feel ashamed to report this ugly incident to both families abuse never stops. Abusers will always use " I was provoked" as an excuse. I am sure she found a way to make you feel guilty for her actions she made it seem as you caused it somehow pushed her to act like that My advice dont keep quiet, this is not a sweep under the carpet issue, she will either turn you into a co abuser or she escalates the abuse. Call your families this is a serious issue. Let her get help if she wants to, you asked what I would do if it were me, the day I raise my hand on my husband is the day I will pack my load on my own and leave. There is no excuse for that. 7 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:49pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
damiso: to?? 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by HARDDON: 8:53pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
mencade4: The guy is a sissy ....wimp......wussbag .... Imagine a man that paid her bride price running n locking himself up. Imagine him pleading with poppy voice in a locked room. Imagine his Wify giving him d beating of his life. Op, she got ur balls menh. She dah house boss n u dah errand boy. I bet she always have her way too. U r always wrong I suppose. Sissy op listen, do everything it takes to get ur balls back. Even if it means giving her a Hawt slap d next time a heated argument pops up. U cant hv ur wife talk back @ u. Slap some sense into her. She would be so shocked n respect u from thence. You ain't d head of d home for fun From other's experience, I can tell u there r ladies that Luv their men to take charge n be in control. Which u ain't currently doing. Place ur foot down next time even if u r wrong n melt her d silent treatment if she wouldn't bulge 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Sormeh: 8:53pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Edusouls: These are the commonest form of husband abuse. it is sad that as deadly as they are, the society carelessly overlooks it but when you slap her once, you are called several names and/or even threatened with the stupid, useless law. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by zeb04(f): 8:56pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Normal?....you are far from normal You taking panadol for the op while his busy cuddling with his wife You quote me to insult and rant when I didn't even notice you here in the ist place. ![]() Get a life missy. 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by ruuudboy: 8:58pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
my wife had married working class male as friends and brothers before we got married and most of them do runs out of their wedlock which she was aware of all their antics. According to her way back then, some of them dated her friends then. So, that has always been at the back of her mind and she always make reference to it sometimes (karma things). This week has been a very busy one for me at work, i came home late than usual. Yesterday (one of the few craziest day i had at work) was so late that i came home around to 9pm unlike my usual 5-6pm. She close from her own office around 4pm. I only picked her call around afternoon which i told her i was a bit busy and i couldnt talk to her later and i never bothered to call as i was so tired. i came home and she gave me attitude which i ignored even while i tried to greet her and assumed its normal. I had some report to send to my boss that night cos that was the excuse i gave before he allowed me leave office. I realised i should have explained somethings and why i came home late but i jst concentrated on my fone trying to sort out my report on my ipad. She was just ranting all around saying the one i did outside was not enough, i came home and still continued with my phone chatting with some i.diot girls whereas i was chatting with my boss and colleagues. i later went outside to buy recharge card after i couldn't recharge with my mobile banking app. I was on the phone with my boss which made me stay a bit more outside but i guess she has been trying my number which was busy..........This got her infuriated as she locked the door and started, i was just looking at her trying to explain things but she wouldnt allow me....saying it was friday and i was definitely with someone while she was calling me and i claimed i was in the office and ignored her.....wat i did in the office was enough that i still went outside to make calls, i just kept quiet as shstarted talking. Her ranting got to me that i felt if i should respond with how boiling i was, it will definitely be something else cos of the day stress , i had to keep quiet for her as we cant ve ralking at the same time.......i didnt know my being silent will lead to attack... |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 8:59pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
zeb04: Oh yeah, you over-noticed me! And then instead of you to quote me, you decided to do the snide style ![]() Bad thing is I wasn't in a good mood then, I mostly would forgiven your sorry arse ![]() Anyways, I'm done with ya Next time, when you have a point, say it like a good girl and don't try to insult people with opposing views (aka sick in the brain).... You can have the floor now ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by emmymon24: 9:01pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
the truth of the matter is, it takes the grace of God not to react. bt kudos to u 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by zeb04(f): 9:05pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
alutacontinua:What nansense is all these ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
hensben:Ummm...what do you smell?? HYPOCRISY from the female comments ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Sormeh: 9:13pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
aisha2: Good submission. But family intervention doesn't work in most scenarios especially if one of the families is hypocritical of the issue. Some parents actually architect the problems bedeviling their daughter's / son's marriage without even realizing it. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Jencejyde(m): 9:14pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Say what you have to say and walk away. Simples! 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by hensben(m): 9:18pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Xsolutions:ur head dey there ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by tyconcepts(f): 9:18pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
lilreese: Your English teacher should be crucified up side down. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by tyconcepts(f): 9:22pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Op I respect you.... I jokingly asked my man what he would do if I raised my hands against him...His response is ....."Don't even think of it....." 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 9:22pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: Lol, I was going to avoid the thread, but since you called me out - I'll drop my 2ps. ![]() Err, my ex used to be like that whenever we get into serious arguments (but she never slapped me). Just the normal pushing, and scratching thing. You know how chics get emotional sometimes, with tears running down their cheeks, especially when they're "in love" with all the talks about, "you're the only guy I've ever loved, how come you're treating me like shiit." The emotional blackmail thing. I just used to restrain her cos I don't beat chics - too strong for the average chic. Then after a while, I decided to start walking away, whenever things get somewhat tensed, just to defuse everything. Cos I know she'll be back to normal after an hour. But one time that I couldn't walk away cos we were in the car together. It got out of hand, and as soon as she hit me on the chest - reflex action took over, and I two-pieced her shoulders. One punch on each shoulder (I apologised though) lol. And trust me, she stopped after that day. ![]() Afterwards, it became a case of: get angry/emotional, smash something, and go cry in the room. ![]() ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 9:25pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
ruuudboy: Not an excuse. she is insecure and whenever she feels threatened she may resort to this. She is in an adult relationship and if your husband is late you ask,.you dont assume and start acting on assumptions. Sormeh: Not for family intervention but so family and others can be aware of her abusive nature. 1 Like |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Nobody: 9:27pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
You abuse her emotionally so she abuses you physically. both of you need a man in the house. either you step up and be the man or she'll do it for you.don't accept abuse. never agree to live with it 2 Likes |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by leonshom(m): 9:32pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Laeroy: A month and you're thinking no serious fight or quarrel have occurred, nawa! U still have a long way to go,just day beg baba God make things dey go well! |
Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by EfemenaXY: 9:38pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
aisha2: And what if both families ridicule him? Not many of them are that enlightened and know virtually nothing about domestic violence against the menfolk. If anything, they'll most likely make fun of him and call him a woman wrapper who needs to beat some sense into the crazy wife. |
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