Three friends Peter, Dapo and my honourable self kerosene had this discussion, which i need the contribution of nairalnders. Peter told us he is in love with Toyin (though that is obvious), but is considering marrying another girl. Peter is a graduate with a little paying job and Toyin jst started her Bsc program this year. She and her family are struggling to meet up. Peter most time shoulders her responsibilities out of concern and love though she rearly ask him for help. Three months ago, Peter meet another girl who is well to do and frm well to do family. He is contemplating on marrying her but he does not luv her the way he luv Toyin. Toyin could be described as Peter's morning sun, and peter as Toyin prince charming. The question he asked, which i'm asking nairalanders is: can he marry the new girl and develop love for her?

If you need advise here then you are like your friends. He is a gold digger.

Roger dat

GboyegaD:
If you need advise here then you are like your friends. He is a gold digger.

Roger dat

Y will he do such n does he think toyin won't make it in life,what if d new girl won't give peter happiness

Money is not the ultimate thing in marriage, things might not be financially stable for both Peter and Toyin now but they can come together and work something out no matter how small.

Getting married to the new girl now is a mistake he might regret or have to live with all the days of his life.

Perfect

okirewaju:
Money is not the ultimate thing in marriage, things might not be financially stable for both Peter and Toyin now but they can come together and work something out no matter how small.

Getting married to the new girl now is a mistake he might regret or have to live with all the days of his life.

adebimpe1988:
Y will he do such n does he think toyin won't make it in life,what if d new girl won't give peter happiness

from the way things are, Peter wont get happiness from d new girl the way he gets it frm Toyin. Peter can go 3 day with food if he is wit Toyin. This make the whole mata more confusing to me ooo!

Patience n tolerance will b d watchword

Kerosene:
from the way things are, Peter wont get happiness from d new girl the way he gets it frm Toyin. Peter can go 3 day with food if he is wit Toyin. This make the whole mata more confusing to me ooo!

Sometimes it would be good if we could look into the future and see what awaits us.

There is no guarantee that his marriage with Toyin would end up being a happy one.
There is no saying with which woman he would end up being financially better off, because things change.

However it is better to be unhappy with someone you love than to be unhappy with someone you don`t love.
He ought to follow his heart.

If however material things mean more to him then let him betray his heart and go for the girl with more money because the "probability" is that the money would be there in the future.
In a country like Nigeria where you can only get respect if you have money we need to understand why love is no longer a priority.
Love is not a fertilizer to make one grow out of poverty.

Let him marry both.

Perfect

mutter:
Sometimes it would be good if we could look into the future and see what awaits us.

There is no guarantee that his marriage with Toyin would end up being a happy one.
There is no saying with which woman he would end up being financially better off, because things change.

However it is better to be unhappy with someone you love than to be unhappy with someone you don`t love.
He ought to follow his heart.

If however material things mean more to him then let him betray his heart and go for the girl with more money because the "probability" is that the money would be there in the future.
In a country like Nigeria where you can only get respect if you have money we need to understand why love is no longer a priority.
Love is not a fertilizer to make one grow out of poverty.

Later Coogar would say men don't marry up, lmao .

Another gold digging man, okay na.

adebimpe1988:
Patience n tolerance will b d watchword

thank you for ur advice.

mutter:
Sometimes it would be good if we could look into the future and see what awaits us.

There is no guarantee that his marriage with Toyin would end up being a happy one.
There is no saying with which woman he would end up being financially better off, because things change.

However it is better to be unhappy with someone you love than to be unhappy with someone you don`t love.
He ought to follow his heart.

If however material things mean more to him then let him betray his heart and go for the girl with more money because the "probability" is that the money would be there in the future.
In a country like Nigeria where you can only get respect if you have money we need to understand why love is no longer a priority.
Love is not a fertilizer to make one grow out of poverty.

you understand the situation very well. Peter is concern for his future and dat of his unborn children. If he is concern only for material things he would have ditch toyin for long. His heart lies wit toyin, but the need for the necessities of life make him confuse. For 2 day this mata had come up, i am at lost on wat to tell him, hence i'm seeking advice here. Ma! Can u pls throw more light on him looking into the future.

Uw

Kerosene:
thank you for ur advice.

Abuamam:
Let him marry both.

hw? If he does that, Toyin could kill all of them including herself, i.e if she agrees.

freecocoa:
Later Coogar would say men don't marry up, lmao .

Another gold digging man, okay na.

hw does that ur comment help?

Kerosene:
hw does that ur comment help?

Did I tell you I was helping? Dude needs no help.

freecocoa:
Did I tell you I was helping? Dude needs no help.

ur likes are nt welcome here. I beg fly.

This is how men bring woes into their marriage and then they blame the women for it. They will go and marry jezebel that will place their heads under their armpits and knock their heads. Then they will come to Nairaland and lament for us as to how their wives changed after marriage. A man marrying a lady simpy because she is from a rich background is a gold digger na. what other name is he called?

If he is contemplating marrying her after just three months it can not be just for the money. He has seen something in her.

Besides we cannot assume that she is a Jezebel, she might be a better person than the first girl he loves. She might love him more, she might be better brought up.

When you have been with someone for long she also become a habit.
Assuming he went with the new girl and married her and shares life with her he would grow to feel for her too.

Fact is that we hardly end up marrying our "childhood love".
Most people end up with someone different.

Your friend should know what is important to him..
Yes it is great to be with someone you love but how does it feel when you cannot afford things for your kids. When your parents get ill and you can`t afford their treatment. When you start praying for long life for your parents because you can`t afford a funeral.
Life is complex.
Even today all over the world the high and mighty have other criteria for marrying than just love. The partner is picked strategically.

When two people treat each other with respect and consideration, love flows in through wide open doors.

Kerosene:
ur likes are nt welcome here. I beg fly.

See mumu, you better keep shut and worry about becoming an everlasting gold digger.

freecocoa:
See munu, you better keep shut and worry about becoming an everlasting gold digger.

read through wat others have written and ask your self this question. Who is the mumu on this trend?

mutter:
If he is contemplating marrying her after just three months it can not be just for the money. He has seen something in her.

Besides we cannot assume that she is a Jezebel, she might be a better person than the first girl he loves. She might love him more, she might be better brought up.

When you have been with someone for long she also become a habit.
Assuming he went with the new girl and married her and shares life with her he would grow to feel for her too.

Fact is that we hardly end up marrying our "childhood love".
Most people end up with someone different.

Your friend should know what is important to him..
Yes it is great to be with someone you love but how does it feel when you cannot afford things for your kids. When your parents get ill and you can`t afford their treatment. When you start praying for long life for your parents because you can`t afford a funeral.
Life is complex.
Even today all over the world the high and mighty have other criteria for marrying than just love. The partner is picked strategically.

When two people treat each other with respect and consideration, love flows in through wide open doors.

mutter. Thank you so much. I neva intend showing my frd this discussion. But i'm jst going to print ur post, give to him and let him make his own decision. Thank you again.

Kerosene:
read through wat others have written and ask your self this question. Who is the mumu on this trend?

Your Mumu worse pass as I think sef, trend ko, norm ni, mschew.

freecocoa:
Your Mumu worse pass as I think sef, trend ko, norm ni, mschew.

hw can u see sometine good on the trend wen u r a comfirm mumu. I'm a golddigger, i agree! That is the more reason u shld fly frm dis trend becos u r a goldless pit.

Kerosene:
hw can u see sometine good on the trend wen u r a comfirm mumu. I'm a golddigger, i agree! That is the more reason u shld fly frm dis trend becos u r a goldless pit.

Kai! Where do I start with you? Isn't it obvious your rants of "fly" isn't working? My friend face front and concentrate on how to be a perfect gold digger.

freecocoa:
Kai! Where do I start with you? Isn't it obvious your rants of "fly" isn't working? My friend face front and concentrate on how to be a perfect gold digger.

i'm already a perfect golddigger, hw would i have known that u r a goldless pit? I no go face front o! I must look around sharp sharp to get rid of any goldless pit so dat i can concentrate on the gold fill ones.

Kerosene:
i'm already a perfect golddigger, hw would i have known that u r a goldless pit? I no go face front o! I must look around sharp sharp to get rid of any goldless pit so dat i can concentrate on the gold fill ones.

What a m0r0n.

freecocoa:
What a m0r0n.

the type dat is quick in seeing u as u r. Goldless b-i-t-c-h!

Can money buy true Love? If yes, then your friend has no problem settling for the later option!