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Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by deawong(m): 12:46am On Dec 23, 2014 |
“Mom, dad, I’m gay,” these words is the most unexpected thing the parents can hear from their child. Will you be prepared and accept your kid as he/she is or fly into a rage? Challenging this issue, Naij.com decided to ask you, our readers, how would you react if one day your child come to you to confide he/she is a homosexual? We asked, you answered! Here are the most interesting and absolutely different comments from our Facebook readers that were reactions to an article Girl Scared To Tell Parents She Is Lesbian Killed Herself . SimonOkube Ekwy: There’s nothing like being born a lesbian, its a choice. But nobody should die or be killed because of it. There are many challenges and bad habits in life. If you’ve identified any in your life, seek help, rather than commit suicide. If friends and family will judge you harshly, pray and God will direct you to a kind and less judgmental person you could confined in – he or she will help you through that narrow and dark path. Remember, Jesus loves you no matter what, go to Him just as you are. No matter how messy, He accepts all! Rocky Stunner: I will find all possible means to stop her. Onileowo Tolu: God didn’t created us equal, God that created handsome and beautiful people, also created the ugly ones, the same God created lesbian and gay people. Why the society are not rejecting ugly people ? So, please, allow gays and lesbians. Okafor Collins: It’s better she or he hang himself with rope then telling me. Musa Godwin: Hmm, so strange, telling them will hurt them which is not the best option… But she has hurt them even more by killing herself… One thing that contributes mostly to lesbianism is loneliness and spending too much time with the same sex. Olabisi Bimbo: If you are friendly with your children, they will open up to you. Solomon Prince: Nobody on earth was born perfect from his/her mother’s womb, she wouldn’t have done that, if she was my child I’ll just to start praying for her, some day she wil change. I wil blame her parent for her death, so parents keep on praying for your children the day you notice you are pregnant. Bc Aririatu Edwards: No one is born a homosexual or lesbian, it is a choice and a wrong one before the Lord and man. Come to think of it. What on earth does a 14-year-old girl know about sexuality? This world is turning to something else. Uwem Godwin Bassey: The word of God is so true and clear. The bible says ‘whosoever that confess his/her sins shall be saved but whosover that conceal his/her sins shall not prosper’. The wages of any sin is death, be it gay, lesbianism, stealing, abortion, masturbation, adultery, fornication etc. The girl fail to acknowledge the price that Jesus paid at calvary and chosed to conceal her sin and lost her soul rather than confessing them and go to heaven. The truth is that the girl in the headline is now in hell pleading for a second chance but what a pity for “there is no second chance, neither there is any repentance in grave”. The question that is coming to you now is what is that special sin that you hold so dear that you cannot confess and repent from it? What is that sin that you cannot live without: is it drinking and smoking, fornication, adultery, lesbianism, gayism, abortion…? etc. Jesus is calling you now, don’t die in that sin. Come to Jesus and confess to him and he will forgive you. Come now because tommorow may be too late ( Isaiah1: 18,19.) |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by mesoade(m): 1:21am On Dec 23, 2014 |
May i never give birth to such child. AMEN 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by braine(m): 3:42am On Dec 23, 2014 |
I don't think I'd lash out at him. |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Ahmed0336(m): 5:31am On Dec 23, 2014 |
I wouldn't want to Imagine it, I pray nothing of such happens. ![]() |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by davidmoyes(m): 6:40am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Such child needs his destiny to be reset.. Either soft one thru washing of head or hard reset by mama kuburat's pankere.. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Nobody: 11:00am On Dec 23, 2014 |
I'd love the person like any other parent would love their kid. Makes no difference to me. 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by lilmax(m): 11:05am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Disown.... Live and direct 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Evina(f): 11:24am On Dec 23, 2014 |
The adult a child becomes is a function of the training/discipline received or the lack of it. That is why a wise saying goes, "train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it". Character is difficult to change and habits die hard. If you are an observant parent, you will not be taken by surprise. Your child cannot just become something you don't understand. You must have noticed some subtle signals but out of ignorance, you let it slide. My colleagues nephew, at the age of 3, started to prefer feminine things. He chose dresses and dolls. The mama beat the love for feminine things out of him and when we tell him that story today, we all just laugh about it. Those lazy parents excuse their poor parenting skills with, "he has always being that way". If you correct him, he won't turn out that way. 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by mutter(f): 11:52am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Evina: I think that was a wrong approach. It would have been better for her to let the child play those games and live out his fantasies while also trying to subtly interest him in other things. The problem with not living out your fantasies as a kid is that you take them to adulthood and then start doing it secretly because you have learnt to hide it. That is why most of them take time to out themselves. I had a child tat was doing it and I let him be , I even bought him dolls. I did not encourage him but I did not stop him, every one thought he would be gay but today he is still a teen and finds girls very attractive and relates to them very well. He is also very humane and I know his wife would be very lucky one day because he is not a Macho type. 4 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Nobody: 12:12pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
Evina: Funny. I'm assuming you actually know this guy's sexuality now? Or who he sleeps with? Many gay people passed through same. Changed nothing. They ended up withdrawing every personal info relating to their sexual life from their parents. 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by pickabeau1: 2:36pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
mutter: Can you explain how you did this practically Not encouraging but buying dolls |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Evina(f): 3:11pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
masonkz: I know this is a very touchy subject for you. So I will be sensitive. My earlier opinion still stands. |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Nobody: 3:14pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
Evina: Ok. |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Evina(f): 3:16pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
mutter: Maybe. But I certainly will not encourage what I see as awkward. If a child starts indulging in immorality because he watched adults who weren't discreet, or starts picking stuff not theirs, then I will assume it is a fantasy he has to live right? Don't be scared of instilling discipline in your children. They will be grateful to you later. |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by mutter(f): 3:20pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
Evina:When it comes to stealing etc. The cat turns into a tiger. I am a great believer in discipline and consequences. ![]() |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by tobechi74: 3:26pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
I congratulate him and teach him how to play safe 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by mutter(f): 3:26pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Not encouraging but also not fighting but diplomatically steering subtly against it. I would not ask him if he wanted a doll but if he wanted one I would ask him to wait till his birthday or some other event, hoping that he would forget about it and wish something else. When he got a bit older like 6 I encouraged him to go for a male doll as well as a female and somewhere along the line it was just male dolls and then it stopped. He wanted to wear a princess dress, I let him on condition he would take it of. The first day he wore it about an hour, the next time I let him wear it a few minutes and he took it off without protest. After the second time he never asked again. Before that he had been wanting to do it everyday but was afraid his siblings would finish him. The role I had to play here was to get them to let him be on condition that he promised to take it off after some time. |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by pickabeau1: 3:29pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
mutter:Practical ... |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Amhappy(f): 3:37pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
To be frank i don't know what to do. Good training will help but doesn't guarantee that this wont happen. A lot of same sex relationship starts in boarding schools and higher institution when the child is away from the parents. I remember vividly how some girls did it when i was in secondary school. Some of them are from godly homes but societal influence and bad company got them. So i will train and pray. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Perseus: 3:44pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
masonkz: Hi Masonkz, You make a lot of sense on this platform. Just wanted to say. Cheers 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Evina(f): 4:30pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
mutter: LOL. Abi oh my sister. ![]() |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Nobody: 5:04pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
Perseus: Chai see as my head dey grow big. ![]() ![]() Thanks bro ![]() |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by s3nn2x(m): 5:10pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
masonkz:I dey tell you... He joined over a year ago...with just only one post....and that post was for you. Abeg, you have a right to let your head swell joor ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Nobody: 5:49pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
All i know is it will be hard for me to come to terms with it o |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by jmoore(m): 5:51pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
How would you react if your son loves to fu** a goat? Yes, I answer question with another question. |
Re: Nairalanders Answer: How Would You React If Your Child Came Out As Gay by Nobody: 6:27pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
s3nn2x: As in eh ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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