I was having an argument with my wife over an issue which she was at fault. I angryly left the house to cool temper. I later came back and asked for my food ,she ignored me. I went to the kitchen to take my food, opened the pot to take the food. She came from where she was staying walked to the kitchen and closed the pot and then slapped me saying "how dare you touch my pot". I just stood there for some minutes wondering what i would do to her. Please tell me what to do.

this is really hard to believe , have you ever slap her? op another question are you sure you are the husband? because to the best of my knowledge, according to what you said the reason she slapped you was just a flimsy excuse

Am her husband

Lmaoooo. Ur wife na d breadwinner be dat. U can ave ur say and retaliate wen u become d breadwinner once again

My advice...

I am not married.. but in such situations, I have programmed myself not to say anything... but to walk into my library room/corner, take a book and continue reading...

She will calm down.... You need to study her anger level... so as to know how she gets angry... at what level... and how soon she recuperates...

But give her the feeling that you really HATE what she did so she can start begging you....

And DONT deny her anything o!

kolidave: Lmaoooo. Ur wife na d breadwinner be dat. U can ave ur say and retaliate wen u become d breadwinner once again

thought as much

Turn d other side let her slap it

ledafaze: My advice...

I am not married.. but in such situations, I have programmed myself not to say anything... but to walk into my library room/corner, take a book and continue reading...

She will calm down.... You need to study her anger level... so as to know how she gets angry... at what level... and how soon she recuperates...

But give her the feeling that you really HATE what she did so she can start begging you....

And DONT deny her anything o!

simple question sir, have you ever been slapped by your wife?

Eneze1:

simple question sir, have you ever been slapped by your wife?

Madam,

Please go through the question and the caption once again...


...How will you...

...what can/should I do?...

Before people come here to tell you to retaliate and assert your leadership, locate the nearest buka, order for some amala and ogunfe and go somewhere you can be until night or when you are calm and your anger has subsided

Mynd_44: Before people come here to tell you to retaliate and assert your leadership, locate the nearest buka, order for some amala and ogunfe and go somewhere you can be until night or when you are calm and your anger has subsided

First time I will b in support of you Mynd... lols

Did he just say his wife slapped him
Hmmmmmmm, dt is tough oo, wldn't it be fair to treat this woman as an abusive woman? You know d kinda advice we give to ladies in abusive relationships.

alutacontinua: Did he just say his wife slapped him
Hmmmmmmm, dt is tough oo, wldn't it be fair to treat this woman as an abusive woman? You know d kinda advice we give to ladies in abusive relationships.

Lawd knows I don't subscribe to those kind of advice

kolidave: Lmaoooo. Ur wife na d breadwinner be dat. U can ave ur say and retaliate wen u become d breadwinner once again

OP, Taking a look at your profile, I might wanna go with this post o...


#JustKidding

kolidave: Lmaoooo. Ur wife na d breadwinner be dat. U can ave ur say and retaliate wen u become d breadwinner once again

Eneze1:

thought as much

I seem NOT to understand these posts.

Does who win the 'bread' matter in this case?

Would you like if your hubby slaps you because he is the one winning the bread?

I also do not understand this village mentality of 'my pot', 'my kitchen' etc. where does the hubby own?

@OP:

If you are certain that this is all that happened and you have not slapped or done similar before, please WARN her sternly never to try such with you again and mean it. Also tell her that there is nothing like 'her pot' or whatever. You have become one and relate as such Also do internal check to see where you went wrong (I am NOT saying that there is a justification for the slap) and try to adjust.

Physical violence should be discouraged in marriage from either party and curbed.

If she tries it again, report her to her parents and tell them to train her on how to discuss with you like a rational human being because I am sure she doesn't slap people who offend her outside

This is not a 'assert yourself as the man' advice, I will give the same if it were a woman.

Can you do that?

bukatyne:



I seem NOT to understand these posts.

Does who win the 'bread' matter in this case?

Would you like if your hubby slaps you because he is the one winning the bread?

@OP:

If you are certain that this is all that happened and you have not slapped or done similar before, please WARN her sternly never to try such with you again and mean it. Also do internal check to see where you went wrong (I am NOT saying that there is a justification for the slap) and try to adjust.

Physical violence should be discouraged in marriage from either party and curbed.

If she tries it again, report her to her parents and tell them to train her on how to discuss with you like a rational human being because I am sure she doesn't slap people who offend her outside

This is not a 'assert yourself as the man' advice, I will give the same if it were a woman.

I endorse this. I even think this is an "assert yourself" advice sef. Assert yourself as a mature human being who has control of his anger.

Can you do that?

kensto: Can you do that?

Do what?

bukatyne:



I seem NOT to understand these posts.

Does who win the 'bread' matter in this case?

Would you like if your hubby slaps you because he is the one winning the bread?

@OP:

If you are certain that this is all that happened and you have not slapped or done similar before, please WARN her sternly never to try such with you again and mean it. Also do internal check to see where you went wrong (I am NOT saying that there is a justification for the slap) and try to adjust.

Physical violence should be discouraged in marriage from either party and curbed.

If she tries it again, report her to her parents and tell them to train her on how to discuss with you like a rational human being because I am sure she doesn't slap people who offend her outside

This is not a 'assert yourself as the man' advice, I will give the same if it were a woman.

I disagree with ur last paragraph. If d op were to be a woman, you wld nt include dt part of doing internal check because nothing shld make a man hit a woman.

You wld rather tend towards telling d woman dt dis is just d beginning and she has to get herself out of arm's way before it's too late.

IMO, as a feminist (who blivs in equality), dt's d same tin u shld be telling dis man.


His wife is violent nd might av abusive tendencies, period!

If she has the power to slap you, that means she will also have the power to withstand the slap you are supposed to give her
#Nobody has a monopoly of violence

alutacontinua:

I disagree with ur last paragraph. If d op were to be a woman, you wld nt include dt part of doing internal check because nothing shld make a man hit a woman.

You wld rather tend towards telling d woman dt dis is just d beginning and she has to get herself out of arm's way before it's too late.

IMO, as a feminist (who blivs in equality), dt's d same tin u shld be telling dis man.


His wife is violent nd might av abusive tendencies, period!

Aluta, except you are a mind reader, please do not assume what I will/will not say

This is the second time you are doing this.

bukatyne:

Aluta, except you are a mind reader, please do not assume what I will/will not say

This is the second time you are doing this.

Phew, u're even counting it for me.
I'm sorry if I came across as a mind-reader!

If I lie, oya, tell me, make I know

alutacontinua:

I disagree with ur last paragraph. If d op were to be a woman, you wld nt include dt part of doing internal check because nothing shld make a man hit a woman.

You wld rather tend towards telling d woman dt dis is just d beginning and she has to get herself out of arm's way before it's too late.

IMO, as a feminist (who blivs in equality), dt's d same tin u shld be telling dis man.


His wife is violent nd might av abusive tendencies, period!

Abeg help me tell am well ooo

homesteady: If she has the power to slap you, that means she will also have the power to withstand the slap you are supposed to give her
#Nobody has a monopoly of violence

I hail thee!

bukatyne:



I seem NOT to understand these posts.

Does who win the 'bread' matter in this case?

Would you like if your hubby slaps you because he is the one winning the bread?

I also do not understand this village mentality of 'my pot', 'my kitchen' etc. where does the hubby own?

@OP:

If you are certain that this is all that happened and you have not slapped or done similar before, please WARN her sternly never to try such with you again and mean it. Also tell her that there is nothing like 'her pot' or whatever. You have become one and relate as such Also do internal check to see where you went wrong (I am NOT saying that there is a justification for the slap) and try to adjust.

Physical violence should be discouraged in marriage from either party and curbed.

If she tries it again, report her to her parents and tell them to train her on how to discuss with you like a rational human being because I am sure she doesn't slap people who offend her outside

This is not a 'assert yourself as the man' advice, I will give the same if it were a woman.

yeah it matters. Cos if he's the one that drops d money for soup and food in the house she won't have the nerve and courage to slap him and call it her pot cos she obviously knows where the money is coming from. And if he's the bread winner like I said she'll give him that respect and wouldn't lay a finger on the sole provider of the house.....

homesteady: If she has the power to slap you, that means she will also have the power to withstand the slap you are supposed to give her
#Nobody has a monopoly of violence

This cracked me up a lil

ledafaze:

Taking a look at your profile, I might wanna go with this post o...


#JustKidding

what did u see or observe in my profile ehn?

kolidave: what did u see or observe in my profile ehn?

Not on your profile... on the OP's profile I mean.

kensto: I was having an argument with my wife over an issue which she was at fault. I angryly left the house to cool temper. I later came back and asked for my food ,she ignored me. I went to the kitchen to take my food, opened the pot to take the food. She came from where she was staying walked to the kitchen and closed the pot and then slapped me saying "how dare you touch my pot". I just stood there for some minutes wondering what i would do to her. Please tell me what to do.

Bros you need to finish the story. Did she just walk out and that was the end? No apology, nothing? Please confirm!

bukatyne:



I seem NOT to understand these posts.

Does who win the 'bread' matter in this case?

Would you like if your hubby slaps you because he is the one winning the bread?

I also do not understand this village mentality of 'my pot', 'my kitchen' etc. where does the hubby own?

@OP:

If you are certain that this is all that happened and you have not slapped or done similar before, please WARN her sternly never to try such with you again and mean it. Also tell her that there is nothing like 'her pot' or whatever. You have become one and relate as such Also do internal check to see where you went wrong (I am NOT saying that there is a justification for the slap) and try to adjust.

Physical violence should be discouraged in marriage from either party and curbed.

If she tries it again, report her to her parents and tell them to train her on how to discuss with you like a rational human being because I am sure she doesn't slap people who offend her outside

This is not a 'assert yourself as the man' advice, I will give the same if it were a woman.

I like your advice, but the truth is that it must not happen a second time. If she slaps her husband and offers no apology, then it means she has seen nothing wrong in her actions and it is assumed she will repeat it. So, the man should quickly report to her parents and give her a very very strong warning. This kind of warning involves swearing by Ogun and Sango on how he will retaliate the next time she does it. I will give you an example.

"If you ever try that again, I swear by Ogun (holding an iron rod), that I will give you ten slaps."

If she now tries it again, then na fire for fire o. Violence should not be tolerated at all and must be stopped as soon as it starts.

If she apologised straight after the first time, then no need to report to her parents. The very strong warning should be enough.

alutacontinua:

I disagree with ur last paragraph. If d op were to be a woman, you wld nt include dt part of doing internal check because nothing shld make a man hit a woman.

You wld rather tend towards telling d woman dt dis is just d beginning and she has to get herself out of arm's way before it's too late.

IMO, as a feminist (who blivs in equality), dt's d same tin u shld be telling dis man.

His wife is violent nd might av abusive tendencies, period!

you deserve a wet kiss for this post!!!!