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Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Precious91(m): 1:47pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO. 1 Like |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by iceberylin(m): 1:48pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Ok |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by BeeBeeOoh(m): 2:04pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Full version of what my oga at d top said, "Okay".. |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Oluwatosean(m): 2:10pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Nice post,though i no read am finish |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Nobody: 2:21pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Oh... So what's the question again? |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by InZA: 2:31pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
@OP Is this an excerpt from the book "Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by 1dafullymade(f): 2:35pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
niz one op...indeed u can learn to love someone |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Lisaflex(f): 2:40pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
made a lot of sense |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Monicasque(f): 2:41pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Nice on bro |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Chizzy20(f): 2:58pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
nyc1 |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Nobody: 3:44pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
beautiful, just beautiful |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by rhotimie: 4:19pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Thanks so much! I love the fact that you could give such an exceprt, very precisive and realistic. More! |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Precious91(m): 4:52pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Chizzy20:thanks |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Precious91(m): 4:53pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
1dafullymade:yea,thanks |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Precious91(m): 4:54pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
rhotimie:You welcome,bro.Thanks for reading |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Oahray: 5:13pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Nice... However, love is not something you make yourself do. It's not a wristwatch you put on or take off at will. It's a natural reaction to what you perceive about the other person. The expression "The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found" has poetic appeal but it isn't very practical. Each one of us have qualities that we love in other persons. A relationship (especially marriage) depends on much more than just the effort of one person. The best you can do is try to look for and focus on the good, but if the bad is too bad, forget it, you cannot just make yourself ignore it. The bulk of the work involved in staying in love lies with the other person. How would a woman learn to love a drunken brute who doesn't give a damn about her opinions? How would a man learn to love a nagging and self centered wife who constantly puts him down, even trying to go beyond verbal abuse into the physical? So yes, while you may have to work hard to sustain love, FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON IS AN IMPORTANT FIRST STEP. 1 Like |
Re: Are You With The Right Partner..???(must Read) by Precious91(m): 5:23pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Oahray: hmm.Great one there,bro |
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