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Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by dein77(m): 12:36pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Library. ....you may find her ANY WHERE. Just recognise her...... 1 Like |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:37pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:Most of the guys here are nothing close offline. They just enjoy putting up the front. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:38pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
dein77: How do you recognize her / him? |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by laplace12(m): 12:39pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: You are welcome No problem. Its just that matching the personality with a pics will make more sense. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:40pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:On the contrary, it's actually full of people past their teens. They just reason like teenagers. 1 Like |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by IDEApro(m): 12:41pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
freecocoa: I'm an adult not oboy. Give that dude a chance. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:44pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
goofyone: |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:44pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
laplace12: Maybe, maybe not. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:48pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Hi Carefreewannabe. Happy Sunday. As said by a wise poster above me, always keep an open mind. you could meet your spouse anywhere.. Ladies, His pocket is not as important as his prospects. He may just be a conservative dresser and spender and you'll be thinking he's 'struggling'. Be Miss Right, and don't give what you don't want to be given in return. Dear malefolk, church/mosque is the last place to find a decent girl because everyone puts on their best behaviour in the house of God. Better a girl you meet in the aisle of a supermarket than someone who says. 'don't touch me o, I'm a virgin', and has annnal seks and gives head to Oga akorin. Be Mr. Right, and never expect too much. No one, not even you, is perfect 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by laplace12(m): 12:50pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:51pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by laplace12(m): 12:53pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: We are actually many, I know. But few or probably only I is speaking up |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:56pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
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Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by dein77(m): 12:56pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: My dear, I can't really say. I just knew it. And it was one of those days I wasn't expecting such an occasion. Besides, I had a girl who was almost forcing herself on me. Immediately, I met my wife. .....the rest na story. 1 Like |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 12:57pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
dein77: I guess, that is what is called intuition. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by dein77(m): 1:01pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Sort of. ....I was so sure like I know it all from the beginning before I was even born....... We clicked. No struggle. No eye service. My soul knew it... 1 Like |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:03pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
dein77: I like the sound of it. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by EfemenaXY: 1:08pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
francizy: Put it down to the excesses of youth and youthful exuberance. Once past childhood and probably living away from home, the need to "experiment" with life takes hold and you get your late teens and early twenty-something-year-olds trying to live life to the fullest. It's only natural. (I would like to add, that as long as it's within reason, but one person's boundary might be the other person's starting point if you get what I mean.) Either way, both sexes are "guilty" of this and it's from these interactions / activities / etc that mistakes are made, life's lessons learnt, one gets wiser, etc. It's all part of the learning process. However, there comes a time when the need to slow down and settle, kicks in. It varies from one individual to the next. And that's why you find many middle aged people in their 40's trying to recapture their youth by doing things they felt they missed out on in their earlier years (mid-life crises). 7 Likes |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by EfemenaXY: 1:13pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Odunharry: That doesn't sound like love. Not one bit. Why? Because it's not a tap you can switch on / off at your convenience. You were infatuated with her - briefly. Okay, tell me, what's your understanding of love? How does a person genuinely in love feel? 2 Likes |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:17pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: Good questions. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by EfemenaXY: 1:18pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
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Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Dheartless: 1:22pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
I lost the ability to approach a lady for reasons that concern relationship I don't want to push a girl before she falls in love ( that was how I got here) I get lots of "green light" attention ( like admiring looks, comments , sometimes some girls ask personal questions, they want to be around), but once I make a move (she might be a friend or a colleague or someone that often cross my part eg a Church member) , I just drop the chase the next moment probably because I cant stand a girls shakara (wanting me to keep chasing for love). now it has become chronic that even after a warm chat with a lady and she says " i don't give out my number easily, why don't you meet me at this address tomorrow so we can get to know each other well before I can trust you with information about me" I will simply go and never again bother about her ( in some cases some actually tried to locate me to be sure what went wrong) I get along with girls a lot though ( they say you are very funny) so i have been in many relationship with ladies who I would say were in love with me, without me doing almost nothing to be in the relationship but just by being a friend or the normal cool guy she sees around ( may be work place,church , friend of a friend) before I know things just fall in place ( there are some cases when someone close to me had to pass the message from the girl to me indirectly like " ada says she really love your company and she thinks you are cute" the problem is that most of the ones I really felt something for always slip away , probably because I said nothing that suggested I wish to get more committed ( one deleted my contact, when I asked why, she said she was expecting a relationship proposal from me but It never came, instead it came from my friend and she accepted thinking I would get angry but I didn't so she had to let me go) this days I don't even say hi to someone I don't know but I find attractive unless am in a very happy mood am i suffering from what I detest the most (pride) ? I don't want to push someone before she falls in love with me ( that was what got me to this stage) |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by EfemenaXY: 1:26pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:29pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
mollytinrox: Couldn't help but notice this first . You gotta give it to her cleverness. 1 Like |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:30pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Dheartless: Try and find the happy medium. Don't chase but don't be so cold. It looks like you are not interested when you behave the way you do. It has to flow. Give and take, take and give. The good girls have pride too. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Odunharry(m): 1:31pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:I know i have this intense feeling for her and was ready to be commited to her.. Lol at d bolded...i know it hard to completely let go/forget someone you have feelings for but i know with time i will 4get her completely.. Though the feeling is still there |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by ihedinobi2: 1:31pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Odunharry, I got you. They are friends you've known a while. Women can be exasperating, bro, but they are weaker than us. That is why they have a natural tendency to hesitate. They need to know if they are safe with a man. So they test his patience. How much can he take before he gives up on them? How much really do they mean to him? Sometimes this natural behavior is taken to ridiculous lengths but typically there is always some pause no matter how short for her to figure out how much she really means to you. That knowledge will help her figure out if it's safe for her to let herself go with you. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:32pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Too much pride sometimes. Pride goes before a fall, some proverb says. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by EfemenaXY: 1:33pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Odunharry: Being infatuated with someone is usually preceded with intense feelings of longing. Just goes to prove my point. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:33pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
goofyone: I believe the proverb is very true, pride and arrogance. |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:34pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: What is love then? |
Re: How To Find Your Future Spouse by Nobody: 1:34pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
ihedinobi2:If by women, you meant Nigerian women then I concur. |
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