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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:02pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: YHHBT!! BW!! Ciao! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 3:03pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Times have changed You seem more amiable nowadays Timbuktou: LOL |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:03pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1:By nairaland's most famous feminists, no less.... 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:04pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:You're a meanie. You let me fantasize and then pull the plug when I'm so closed to fulfilling. I hate you Sophy, I hate you. Please, don't leave me Sophy, I need to kill you to be happy. Pleeeeeaaasssse, biitch I swear, I'll kill you only once. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:06pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Allow me take credit for this, she's been trying to impress me lately. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 3:06pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:What do you mean by not having a right to live in the house? You guys are married, where would you rather she stayed? The house is now also hers by virtue of marriage. I don't want to believe the law presumes, there's no way you have all evidence that your wife physically abused you and you'd still be the one getting arrested. They were shipped from their villages to come and work, are you saying their husbands gained nothing at any point in time from the women's earnings? Ofcourse she works but he fathered the kids, he might be a danger to them, that doesn't mean they have to suffer for his madness, 50% of his assets combined with hers, goes into their well being/upkeep. Lay off the pie sweetie, it's bad for you. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:08pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: YHHBT!! BW!! FTLT!! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 3:11pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:his daughter ended his happiness. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:13pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:Alright, alright. I get it. Let's play the alphabet game. XYz!!! CAC!! DJIDJKOHCKUGBB!! I seem to have better keyboard than you. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 3:13pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: the same marriage you don't longer desire?
she only needs to cry to be believed. the cops will arrest the man instantly before he can spell freecocoa.
gained what exactly? how was the hubby surviving before shipping her over? who paid for her ticket and the entire process to migrate her? who paid for her nursing school, transportation to school and other miscellaneous bills? so this man suddenly became poor to start depending on the wife?
if you don't want a man, leave his properties alone. walk away....work out how much his quota would be in supporting the kids and let him pay it. allow him supervised visits to his kids & i can assure you 100% he will not come for you with a semi-automatic weapon.
pie is my addiction. freecocoa: the mother forced the daughter to lie against her dad. the daughter was just 9 years of age when this false claim was made. the mother ended his happiness! 7 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:17pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: . |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:18pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:; |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:19pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 3:20pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou:No, he couldn't. The order to pay came before the DNA test abi? So that's understandable but I don't know what kinda judge would insist even after its been proven that he isn't the child's father, the man should just appeal. Plus, it may have been a honest mistake on the woman's side, she may not have known the child wasn't his, especially if she had been with other men before realizing she was with child. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 3:22pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: she knew it wasn't his but she still used his name as the father of the child for the financial benefit. although, she hes since told the court to stop hounding the man - a judge still wants the man to pay some of the money & they are threatening him jail time if he fails to pay. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:28pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa:First of all, those sorts of judges are the norm not the exception. If they could do this to this man who has proof of paternity, imagine the fate befalling millions of men in a 'he-said-she-said' divorce case. Honest mistake sha. What stops her from staying the judgement and telling the judge to let off? So, when the man pays will she refund him the cash or collect it and say sorry o, na wetin judge talk? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:34pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Thanks, you too. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 3:34pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:An agreement is an agreement, so long as part of the house is what comes with getting married, she earned it and should have it, in and after marriage. Now you are just messing with me, like men don't cry too abi? We are all blessed with the ability to cry, so if you feel the popo responds faster to tears, then cry your way out. Who told you he paid for everything? Let's assume he did, is that not enough reason to want to take everything the woman owns as pay back for what he supposedly spent on her? He decided to pay, he wasn't forced to, so that one isn't even a point to be considered here, so long as they got married, whatever they both have in the marriage, belongs to both of them. It's not just about not wanting the man, there has to a reason, now if the reason is that she no longer loves him, I don't think anyone would ask the man to give her half of his assets nor stop him from visiting his kids, he might actually get custody in this case sef. Pie is messing with your head. coogar:Are you saying she knew from the get go or after the DNA test? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: People marry for different reasons. You have to ask her why she wants to get married. I cannot answer on her behalf. I can only say that marriage can be a beautiful thing with the right partner but it can also go wrong and it is not for everyone. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: LOL It's good. I am still working but distracted by Nairaland, which means that I won't finish early. Never mind. Why do you think husbands kill their wives? And wives their husbands? Some people even kill the children. Why? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 3:39pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: the money she owes has been forgiven by the judge but the same judge wants an innocent man to pay the money owed to the state. can you imagine such nonsense? there are many men forced to pay child support for kids that are not theirs. this is how men get screwed up for things they know nothing about. if he wants an american passport as we speak, he will not get one. if anyone owes more than $2500 in child support in the US, he cannot get an american passport regardless of where he was born. how is murder not expected? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 3:40pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou:If you believe such judges are a norm then there has to be a reason for that, and the reason is simply that men abandoning their kids and abusing their wives is also a norm, except you are trying to say that almost all the judges are anti-men. Coogar already said she did so. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ifyalways(f): 3:50pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
mutter:I quite agree with some of your posts, however, nothing justifies murder. Agreed, those men were pushed to the wall but ending the marriage as opposed to the wife's life is a better option. Well, the ladies are the ones getting killed because of their greed. You know you don't love a man, then don't jump into marriage just so you escape poverty. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 3:51pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: so how are we sure that wasn't her motive of getting married in the first place? i mean what stops you now from marrying mikel obi, stay with him for 3 months and ask for a divorce? you mean you have earned the right to take his house by the virtue of signing a piece of paper?
all she needs to say is the man was the abuser. the cops will cuff the man instantly. that's the way it works unless there's another witness that states otherwise.
the reason for this kinda brawl has nothing to do with her income. the real reason is her total disregard for her hubby and sometimes infidelity. how much do nurses make sef?
91% of all custody cases go to the women. she must be a drug addict or mentally unstable to not be awarded the custody. women always often get to keep everything - all she needs to do is to lie she's the victim.
if i catch you...
she knew from the get go......this was her comment concerning the matter. "I had to turn to welfare to get assistance to take care of them and I had to put him down as the father. That was the only way I could get into the system. Everything is my fault, He shouldn’t have to pay it at all. I want everything to go away for him so he can get on with his life.” |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 3:52pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Nairaland does have that effect, doesn't it? Try finish up on time o, no late hours woman. Well, it's simply really. For some it's mental instability, for some it's as we have said, just the feeling of hopelessness or rage. The ones done in rage are probably regretted shortly afterwards, those does due to hopelessness that one dear o. Imagine Cantrell Alexander going to jail for failing to pay child support for another man's child. His mind would fry, in that state he'd do anything |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by mutter(f): 3:57pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ifyalways: Nothing justifies murder! But to find a solution one should try and find out the reason it is happening and how one can avoid falling victim! That is what this is about. 7 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by iykedare(m): 4:01pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar: Standing Ovation for this guy. I was going to do this before I saw your reply. Aisha2 thinks she is God. 6 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 4:03pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ifyalways: well, that's the norm. they pretend to love him just to get on the plane to america. once they start working, the hubby suddenly becomes a monster, a lazy dirty stinking man. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 4:05pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:Who is to say his motive for getting married isn't to bring her to work and take all she earns, plus even abuse and enslave her? He married her, right? Why did he marry her? Paddi me na lie jor, there are procedures/processes in a criminal case, it is not a he said/she said thing jare, anything other than this is not lawful, no be who first call popo dey win case, get real. The disregard can be on the part of the man, he cheats,abuses her and expects her to be an obedient and faithful wife, she refuses and wants to fight back, he shoots her, boom! Now you are making it sound like the legal system should not be taken serious here, so all lies win in court now, haba Oga sir, if that's the case, we shouldn't be having this conversation. I will catch you first, punch your face, lie and have you thrown in jail. That's one desperate and wicked woman, we can't judge all women based on her actions, now can we? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 4:06pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: It does, I enjoy the discussions a lot. Don't worry, I can finish part of the work from home. Well, it's simply really. For some it's mental instability, for some it's as we have said, just the feeling of hopelessness or rage. The ones done in rage are probably regretted shortly afterwards, those does due to hopelessness that one dear o. Imagine Cantrell Alexander going to jail for failing to pay child support for another man's child. His mind would fry, in that state he'd do anything You are right to say that it happens for different reasons. However, to kill anyone or yourself because you have to pay child support for a child, that is not yours, is defeat. That's not the right way to go about it, not effective and not reasonable. I also agree that men are OFTEN treated unfairly in family courts and that something has to be done about it, even though in many cases it is not as bad as Nairalanders portray it , but killing or suicide are not the way out. There are also cases, and it shouldn't be forgotten, in which women are treated unfairly. A good friend of mine told me that after divorce her aunt had to pay alimony for her husband, which made her income just enough to live on. Her husband used to have a shop and he never correctly stated how much he sells and earns in his tax declaration in order to pay less tax on income. Officially she was the higher earner even though he made more money than she did. The judge ordered her to pay her ex husband alimony, leaving her back with very little, when her husband actually earned more and had the guts to take the money from her, the judge ordered her to pay. To say that men in the West are victims of the system and always on the receiving end is too simple. The reality is more complex. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bennyrazz: 4:11pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
i hate long stories |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by iykedare(m): 4:13pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
lmao.........This made my day. Cant stop laughing....... |
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