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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:05pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: 1. Technically, women suck, men eat. Let's be clear on that. . And when I say afford, I really mean, they stand to benefit from the process. 2. Oh, please. Mainstream media is relentless in pushing the feminist agenda. If anything, these sorts of cases are severly under-reported. 3. Single mothers due to never been married is quite a different demographic from single after divorce Carefree. That latter cash in at the right time to live it up and go on vacations on the ex husband's dime. The west is filled with fatherless children who are the ones who continue to make such silly laws, such as VAWA. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bukatyne(f): 6:05pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
mutter: What did the husband in your story do to his wife? What prompted the rudeness? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 6:06pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: OK I really want to get her point This guy had a kid via surrogate Is one of the richest sportsmen in d world Had a long relationship with a model though over now I don't need to know him personally to know he does not want one woman to shaft him Like they did tiger woods carefreewannabe:Cool... Are u saying Irina sharyk is as rich as cr7 So why did he not wife her 4 years relationship or more cococandy: So the law is fair in your opinion Men losing all they worked for... Timbuktou: Stale Bobo juice..Lol |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by soulglo: 6:08pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Pansies. The system is fair. My man is a lawyer and he says this over and over again. The system is fair. I know women who pay child support. They try just as much as men to get away from paying. An african women called from Florida to get legal advice from my man about keeping the children so she does not pay child support. She's a nurse working ungodly hours. The husband chose to quit his job because he felt the children were paying the price of their moms selfishness. Fast forward to last year and they are done with the marriage. She does not want to pay spousal support or even child support. Well in most states she would have to pay. Nobody cares that she's a woman. She cannot escape it. I don't even think she cares if the kids are with her but in sure she'll want them with her if she can get away from paying child support. My ex friend who pays child support tried to use me to reduce her child support by claiming her daughter came to my daycare and she spent so and so. Heifer, I don't care if the court is asking you to pay 3000.00 a month. Sell your freaking Cadillac and drive a corolla then maybe you can pay the child support. The system is fair. Justifying killing in anyway over spousal rights or the rights of innocent children shows just how depraved these people are. Madonna should have killed Guy Ritchie when she had to pay him 80 million for a marriage that did not even last a decade or maybe Ludacris' baby mama should just go kill him now because he has primary custody of their child. I wish sperm was giving out based on people's character. 12 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 6:10pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:I can count o but let's forget about that, and stop making it sound like all these women never loved their husbands, we don even deviate from OP sef. I disagree, some monsters are born, I know a very wicked man who almost killed his wife, history has it that, he has always been mean/hard hearted even as a child, you want to tell me you'll blame his behavior on his wife? Go jor. Now that's funny, but I don't think any sane woman would stay in such marriage, women are human beings with feelings o, how anyone puts money over their well being and sanity beats me. I like the "real" man na, see this guy o . Iro o, The man can fight, he is and adult heck! they can defend themselves against anything and killing someone who angered you, isn't self defense. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:10pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:I mean that cohabitation is marriage(after a number of years) is reality, not how people would react to it. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:11pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: The benefit how? You assume that most women marry rich men, which is a fallacy. Financial problems are one of the top reasons for divorce, which contradicts your thesis that women initiate divorce due to the money they get out of it. Most women don't get much or anything. Moreover if the problem was money or the loss of it after divorce, then there is something called prenuptial agreement. Problem solved. 2. Oh, please. Mainstream media is relentless in pushing the feminist agenda. If anything, these sorts of cases are severly under-reported. Yeah, and women who had to put up with disadvantages and injustice after marriage are overrepresented in the media. Yet, on NL we only see the sad stories of men from the West. 3. Single mothers due to never been married is quite a different demographic from single after divorce Carefree. That latter cash in at the right time to live it up and go on vacations on the ex husband's dime. The same applies to women who are single parents due to divorce / separation. The west is filled with fatherless children who are the ones who continue to make such silly laws, such as VAWA. Yes, from Nigerian men who impregnated women to get their papers. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:14pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
cococandy: What do they expect before? Greedy men meet greedy women. Greedy men looking for milking factories, greedy ladies wanting to go abroad. Lobatan!! And they expect the marriages to last or not to turn dysfunctional. These men are as lazy as hell, go about asking specifically for nurses to marry. You will think its because the nurses are so pretty and neat in order to try to understand the attraction to these females. Not knowing these uneducated men, with usually nothing to show for their long stays abroad, want to be baboons to eat while their monkeys (wives) work and work their lives out (monkey dey work baboon dey chop mentality). When they see how things are not going in their favour with their wives wanting to be in control of the finances they bring, they turn around and accuse them of being unsubmissive and cheats. And trust the nigerian woman to act like a roman in rome. The white man's land favours women. Lobatan! The men get frustrated and resort to murder. All these acts are typical of jobless men. Look at the age differences between the men and their wives. They strategically select ladies that are half their ages. You know why. And these ones in this forum are here arguing crap to justify rubbish because their secrets don leak. I dnt even think we need to argue on this. 6 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bukatyne(f): 6:14pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
mutter: It is the duty of the woman to cook and clean while the man earns right? Now the wife is working long hours and she is still to do all house chores and Thank God If hubby decides to chip in? If the men know their wives should stick to house work, why don't they marry house wives WHY do they go for nurses when they know they have to work long hours which would affect their primary duties? When the wives contribute to the family purse, why don't they reject it since it is their primary duty and will not wifey with Her own primary duty? 10 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 6:15pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
cococandy:And this is just what it is. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 6:16pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Still some are still foaming at the mouth about murder being justified I have not seen anyone say the dead deserved it Murder is not justifiable However this act is still occurring What can we do or learn from it.. That's the point 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 6:17pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: yes, they loved their husbands initially.......till they found another man they love even much more. what choice does a village wife have when the UK-based suitor comes knocking?
monsters aren't born.... somebody somewhere made him a monster. women with their caustic tongue know how to push the buttons & when they get beaten, they cry for help.
if women can stand by the roadside to do pròstitution, why won't she put money over her well-being? abeg, money answereth everything.
what the father in uganda did isn't self defense. he would have gone to jail for laying his hands on the housemaid anywhere in the western world. self-defense gini? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:19pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:I know that women would marry someone who earned more ore the same as them. Those who marry less-earning men are in the extreme minority. I have a feeling the financial problems that lead to marital issues is due to women wanting to live a Rolls Royce lifestyle on a Bajaj income. Carefree, oya wipe your lips. Good point. The problem with this is women employing emotional blackmail to prevent the guy from going this route. Let's agree to disagree here. I disagree here. Haha. Funny gyal. How many marriages are intact in the west. I dey h abeg. Make I find sometin chop. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:21pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ladygogo: 6:23pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ifyalways: My sentiments exactly! The men should also ask themselves why they are going to marry some random girl in the village. What's wrong with the women in their immediate environment? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 6:23pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Carefreewannabe Prenups are still subject to reasonableness A judge can overrule a prenuptial if he deems it to be overly disadvantageous to the woman |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 6:25pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ladygogo: Did u read the post u quoted at all The girls are greedy marrying obodo oyibo man who is as their fada age |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 6:26pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:I don tire biko, blame it on women, they are everything wrong with the world. The man was defending his defenseless baby, the law can understand that, this grown man on other hand, shooting his wife because of an argument is madness, he should be locked up and the keys thrown away. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:26pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
cococandy: God bless you!! And these are the reasons the lazy a$$ men flare up and go on shooting spree. Very lazy men i tell you!! I am sure they are in this forum. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ladygogo: 6:28pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
soulglo: GBAM!! Lobatan! 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by cococandy(f): 6:28pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1:i still don't get the phrase 'men losing all they worked for' It is a lie. Only in Nigeria (nairaland to be precise ) does one hear it. Property is shared equitably. The man worked The woman worked In whatever ways they deemed appropriate at the time. Then when they have problems They want to divorce and their props are shared fifty-fifty or in the appropriate ratio depending on their case peculiarities. Where does the man get off to feeling cheated? All he worked for as in? The woman didn't do anything all their married life? She didn't bring money? She didn't keep the home front ? She didn't take care of the family and kids? Something you can't equate to money. Yet somehow this man worked for it all his life and the wife just sat down in one corner and stared? Why do they like to hype their contributions as if the wife didn't do anything to improve the marriage? Even the ones that have not paid 5yrs out of their mortgage wil be claiming 'all they worked for' Rolls eye . Mtchew Pls the law is not sentimental nor patriarchal. It doesn't understimate the woman's efforts like our naija system does. And most importantly it considers the kids first before the two adults who need to get their act together. Hence the parent who is always available for the kids will the house because the house belongs to the kids. It is their birth right.usually it is the mothers but I've seen cases where the man got the house because he was able to prove that he has always been more available for the kids. But mostly in general the house is split 50-50 with one party buying out the other. No law is out to favor any gender. Our naija brothers are so used to female suppression that fairness seems like unfairness to them. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 6:29pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ladygogo: many of these men left their girlfriends in the village to hustle abroad. i left chidinma in ituku almost 25 years ago. she was my first love in primary school. if i go back home to marry her then it's because i'm a control freak? freecocoa: yup! right from the garden of eden. it was all peaceful until a woman arrived in eden.
he wants to be locked up. he didn't run away. he handed himself in. he would rather be in jail than let an ingrate pïss all over him in the name of a flawed system. good for him. let the greedy wives claim their child support in heaven. murder-suicide is now very common & this is mostly from caucasian males. if the law is fair, the men won't have to turn the gun on the wives, the kids and themselves. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:29pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ladygogo: Some random girl they know nothing about o. Thinking she is some naive girl who knows nothing. Forgeting that these same girls will act like romans in rome. Some men can be very f00lish and Naive. The belief that they can control these women is the cause. when things dnt go their way, they get frustrated and start shooting. I dnt even know why these men wait until they are sooooo old to marry sef. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 6:32pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
cococandy: Next you will be vexing when we say marriage benefitts women Don't worry marriage is dying gradually We will see the avenue you guys will use to bleed people of money 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:32pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
soulglo: The goody two shoes syndrome is worrying her. 7 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:34pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Let's say a woman who makes 1500$ a month marries someone who makes 2500$ a month. How does it make her rich after divorce? Let us talk about middle class families and not some insanely rich people who are not the majority. The freaking reality is that after a woman has given up on her job to stay at home and look after the children, she continues to look after the children when her husband or ex-husband has the opportunity to have a career and to make money. And the freaking reality is that MAJORITY of men cannot afford it to make up financially for the income she misses and the promotion prospect that would increase her position and income. Let me tell you something about my own situation. If today I decided to have children and to stay at home to look after them, I would have to marry a RICH man so that I could profit from divorce. A middle class man cannot make up for the loss of the income and promotion possibilities, I would have to accept. So if you men find the system so unfair, then let us switch the positions, stay at home with kids, look after them, clean after them, cook for them, clean the house and when I return treat me like a QUEEN because my job is more important. And when I leave, I will tell you that I will only pay for my kids because the work you did at home has no value and the fact that you have given up on your job, your career, your promotion possibilities is YOR problem. Carefree, oya wipe your lips. How many are intact in Nigeria? 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by cococandy(f): 6:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
The sensationalism I read on nairaland makes me wonder if there's a different set of laws these guys are aware of that we don't know about. The law is anti-gender and in family issues will always consider the kids first before the two disgruntled Adults. I notice it is our African brothers that scream blue murder the most. They just can't wrap their head around the fact that women are fairly treated here compared what they would normally be able to do back home. As in instructing the gate man to lock madam out of the house she's been contributing to for the past 10yrs. All because she dared ask him what he was doing with condoms in his pocket (or something of that nature) soulglo: 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ladygogo: 6:37pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I was only echoing what ifyalways wrote and I also added that it takes two to tango. Man wants a youthful and naive wife; girl wants a ticket out of poverty. Voila! Match made in heaven! 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 6:37pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Would you take a proposal that both of you dont have any kids so no one would have the excuse of staying home and losing income? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 6:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ladygogo: OK..I get u |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by cococandy(f): 6:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1:that doesn't address anything I typed there. How is any of that a benefit for women above men? I dont understand. You mean a woman getting her fair share of what belongs to her. What she worked and contributed for is a favor to her? 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 6:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
cococandy: Very true. |
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