Ontarget:
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

Contributions please.

This is the most ridiculous write-up I have read in all my time on NL.
Dude, what kind of dumb reasoning is this?

Call it pre or post-marital sex, it only take the grace of God for anyone to abstain from it. if you like be the most honored Rev.Father in the world, if the thing grey you, you go hear wenn... . Just be guided.

MzNelly:
People be coming up with reasons why pre-marital sex should be endorsed

LOL, Have your sex and leave 'em virgins alone. Nobody asked to be convinced.

that's it... but if you don't tell them d truth, it will stand as a form hindrance to ur entry into heaven...

Faibuhari:
I buy your idea but are there still virgins around?

I got one and I'm proud of her...

gilgal7:
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

well,@ Gil gal u really hv a point.

Meanwhile a Jordanian pilot just got burnt alive. Nevermind, Seems god is more interested about what you do with your genitals.

Show me a man who absain from premarital sex or fornication whether christian or not, and I will show you a man whose family is whot emulating let alone Gods promises on faithfulness. You can't discourage me.

Ah! Ahh!! The devil is a liar

gilgal7:
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

if u are buying a tire rubber car u will not be needing testing. But, because almost all the babes around are second hand. that Is the reason u need the engine "test", b4 u buy a car u will never enjoy.but mind u,baba made It clear to us that It is a sin.

(1 Corinthians 3:17 KJV) If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.

(Hebrews 13:4 KJV) Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Sex before marriage is a sin called fornication and you do it you have defiled your body which is the temple of God.
The judgement is carried by God who promised to destroy anyone that destroy his temple.
The remedy is abstinence or pray hard for a life partner so that you enjoy legitimate sex.

MzNelly:
People be coming up with reasons why pre-marital sex should be endorsed

LOL, Have your sex and leave 'em virgins alone. Nobody asked to be convinced.

gracias

Faibuhari:
I buy your idea but are there still virgins around?

yes offcourse, many of them...

(1 Corinthians 3:17 KJV) If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.

(Hebrews 13:4 KJV) Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Sex before marriage is a sin called fornication and if you do it you have defiled your body which is the temple of God.
The judgement is carried out by God who promised to destroy anyone that destroy his temple.
The remedy is abstinence or pray hard for a life partner so that you enjoy legitimate sex.

gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

Hmmm! Lol

Nice pix by the way

gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

I'm not surprised! Your profile picture says it all!

ireneidiva:

Number 1, if you die without having sex, so what? What kind of dumb reason is that!
Number 2, anybody that marries because of sex is still a kid.sex before marriage will definately take you to hell adn so will other things like creating this kind of thread too. Sin is sin!

..ssshhssssss...swear with ur life u didn't have sex before or after marriage...rev sister irene..tseww ..sin my foot..peeps enjoy life cos these days life are too short

hmmm this is a seriouz issue that we nid to address is nt easy but it only take d grace of God

No sin is greater than the other. Nobody Is a saint for abstaining from sex alone. You have to do away with all other sins before you are fit to accuse people engaged in premarital sex. You might be a gossiper yet a virgin, another person might not be a virgin yet be a good giver. Both of you are sinners! Stop placing one since above the other.

banjicom:


Me

lol chai. Okpo house dey yakpa

msmon:
Sex is one important need of any mankind and it's very essential. However, we can't ignore the fact pre-marital sex is adultery.

Do you really understand what adultery means?

raumdeuter:
Better test drive before you commit

Before we start hearing stories like my husband last just 1 minute or my wife is frigid

And wat happens to her if shez nt ur taste? u leave her? haba! why are guyz so selfish. Itz ok if a guy samples several ladies se.xually bfor finally settling wit a tear rubber bt itz abnormal for a lady to do so, else shez a love peddler, olosho, prostitute etc. Wat happens if na ur daugther or sister several guyz sample and dumped cos shez nt dea taste afta avin s.ex with her? LETZ ALWYS BE FAIR...

Omoluabi

gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

AZeD1:

Stop buying used cars, buy quality. People who buy brand new cars don't open the bonnet for a year.

It seems you are not aware that brand new cars can go faulty? Only a lazy man will decide not to open his bonnet simply because he's using a new car...

What's your own understanding of the subject matter?

uboma:


Do you really understand what adultery means?

Indeed we have come to a time when men are lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God. We grow up with the knowledge of what's right and wrong. Initial indulgence in the latter brings a sense of guilt from an active conscience ;subsequent indulgence brings us to the point when we begin to logically rationalise, make sweeping generalisations and draw conclusions that will silence our conscience. I think the op's post is one of such rationalisations.

zyzxx:
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I sight u bro!

Thread from pit of hell.

Ontarget:
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

Contributions please.

THE WHOLE THING TIRE ME SEF. If you no marry trouble; If you marry wahala. I dont know!

ireneidiva:

Number 1, if you die without having sex, so what? What kind of dumb reason is that!
Number 2, anybody that marries because of sex is still a kid.sex before marriage will definately take you to hell adn so will other things like creating this kind of thread too. Sin is sin!

Hypocrite!

There is a statistics that said that in the Western world, 75% of the teenagers are involved in pre- marital sex. An these are same people that brought this your so called doctrine. Now does it mean all those 75% will end up in hell? Why do we have the urge in us? Africans think, think , think.

seedord247:
I keep asking them the same thing... Where in the bible did they talk about premarital sex ?...

If i'm a product i need to test it and see how efficient it will work if i decided to take it home..

continue testing until u contact HIV. Don't go asking God why u.

9jatatafo:
Abstaining from sex is a personal issue and whosoever wants it that way please respect their decision. On the part of religious angle, sex before marriage is fornication which is a great sin to believers of such faith. Respect!!!!

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