prissyluv:
I was just thinking...
With my first boyfriend,I was always the one that call d piper and dictates the tune. He dare not shout at me then cos whatever he says will be used against him. If we had issues,he always end up begging me. It feels good and I thought that was how things are.

There was this guy too who bites words when talking or correcting my wrongs. He do end up saying he doesnt know which one he will say now and I will get upset.

Infact in my past relationships,I can say I do have my way with many things.
But with my fiance now,it is so so different. He loves me to a fault ooo but dont eat poo. He corrects me anytime I am wrong without fear of wether I will get angry or quit. With him,I cant turn d table to my favour. If I had my way with things,within me I will just know he deliberately allowed me to shine. The truth is,he is always ahead.

prissyluv:
I was just thinking...
With my first boyfriend,I was always the one that call d piper and dictates the tune. He dare not shout at me then cos whatever he says will be used against him. If we had issues,he always end up begging me. It feels good and I thought that was how things are.

There was this guy too who bites words when talking or correcting my wrongs. He do end up saying he doesnt know which one he will say now and I will get upset.

Infact in my past relationships,I can say I do have my way with many things.
But with my fiance now,it is so so different. He loves me to a fault ooo but dont eat poo.

He corrects me anytime I am wrong without fear of wether I will get angry or quit. With him,I cant turn d table to my favour. If I had my way with things,within me I will just know he deliberately allowed me to shine. The truth is,he is always ahead.

prissyluv:
I was just thinking...
With my first boyfriend,I was always the one that call d piper and dictates the tune. He dare not shout at me then cos whatever he says will be used against him. If we had issues,he always end up begging me. It feels good and I thought that was how things are.

There was this guy too who bites words when talking or correcting my wrongs. He do end up saying he doesnt know which one he will say now and I will get upset.

Infact in my past relationships,I can say I do have my way with many things.
But with my fiance now,it is so so different. He loves me to a fault ooo but dont eat poo. He corrects me anytime I am wrong without fear of wether I will get angry or quit. With him,I cant turn d table to my favour. If I had my way with things,within me I will just know he deliberately allowed me to shine. The truth is,he is always ahead.

Chillisauce:


Ok, so Wetin you wan make we do for you

I don't gerrit

prissyluv:
I was just thinking...
With my first boyfriend,I was always the one that call d piper and dictates the tune. He dare not shout at me then cos whatever he says will be used against him. If we had issues,he always end up begging me. It feels good and I thought that was how things are.

There was this guy too who bites words when talking or correcting my wrongs. He do end up saying he doesnt know which one he will say now and I will get upset.

Infact in my past relationships,I can say I do have my way with many things.
But with my fiance now,it is so so different. He loves me to a fault ooo but dont eat poo. He corrects me anytime I am wrong without fear of wether I will get angry or quit. With him,I cant turn d table to my favour. If I had my way with things,within me I will just know he deliberately allowed me to shine. The truth is,he is always ahead.

crackhaus:

Your fiance is the kind of man I would share a drink with - love your woman wholeheartedly but never take shiit from her unless there is a reason to.

You should be happy because what this means is that he may also be the kind of person that cannot be easily manipulated or dictated to by random women, don't you like that?

coogar:


obviously, she doesn't want that
she desires a mumu partner.

Stillfire:


I don't get it either.

crackhaus:

Yeah, right until he grows back his balls and she is left out in the cold wondering what happened.

crackhaus:

Your fiance is the kind of man I would share a drink with - love your woman wholeheartedly but never take shiit from her unless there is a reason to.

You should be happy because what this means is that he may also be the kind of person that cannot be easily manipulated or dictated to by random women, don't you like that?

freecocoa:
Hian! What kinda reasoning is this one?

prissyluv:

Is it bad or not? Do you sometimes feel like having ur way with issues in ur relationship or marriage?

prissyluv:
I was just thinking...
With my first boyfriend, I was always the one that call d piper and dictates the tune. He dare not shout at me then cos whatever he says will be used against him . If we had issues,he always end up begging me. It feels good and I thought that was how things are.
There was this guy too who bites words when talking or correcting my wrongs. He do end up saying he doesnt know which one he will say now and I will get upset.
Infact in my past relationships,I can say I do have my way with many things.

But with my fiance now,it is so so different. He loves me to a fault ooo but dont eat poo. He corrects me anytime I am wrong without fear of wether I will get angry or quit. With him,I cant turn d table to my favour. If I had my way with things,within me I will just know he deliberately allowed me to shine. The truth is,he is always ahead.

alutacontinua:
Sounds like my high school relationship!
Chaiiiiiiiiii!!! That boy suffer for my hand sha ooooo
but the thing sweet small sha
op, 2 words for you-GROW UP!

undercat:
If you keep chipping away, you will wear him down eventually. Persevere. All the best!

freecocoa:
No, I don't feel like having my way, rather I feel like we should be able to always make the right decisions together.
Of course there are and will be disagreements, instead of wanting to have my way regardless of how my partner feels, I try to make him see reasons with me, or at most we reach a compromise.

I get you dear. Thanks. Thats how things suppose to be sha

mutter:
You appear to be toying with men and testing your boundaries.
You certainly had the pants on in you other relationships.
So now you are playing the docile girl and your claws have been drawn in but what happens when you get married. The honeymoon is over and then you want your own way and he refuses. He also does not come begging.
Will you still accept that he is having his way.

Ma pls I am not toying with any man. Well,my man is not the type that like having his way. He accepts his wrongs and apologize when need be, so do I.
Just that the gra gra some ladies do is not in his book.

jnrbayano:
In your previous relationships, you had your way almost all the time and you enjoyed it.

Now you are engaged to marry, you made a thread to narrate your previous "upper hand" experiences and how you have lost it in your current relationship.

One of your rejoinders/question reads, "I asked if it is bad for a lady wishing to have a man he can SOMETIMES have her way with"

This finally conveys the thoughts behind this thread which is; you miss your upper hand days somehow

To answer your question, I wish to remind you that a relationship isn't a one way thing but a union of two consenting individuals.

Being a union doesn't mean you guys are in a competition, you are not, rather you compliment each other.

Someone said you should grow up, I believe she meant you should learn the word "compromise" and to realise it is key to a successful marriage. (I believe marriage is now very close in the horizon)

My people will say, "a nu m di na nwunye a bughi egwu achi utaba n'aka agba" translated to, "marriage isn't a child's play" thing

prissyluv:

Thanks dear. I appreciate this. You are right when you said 'I miss my upper hand days'.lol

cococandy:
Sounds like you want someone you can control easily and who will let you get away with all sorts of stuff.
That's not healthy.

I dont want someone I can control easily dear. I know it is not healthy. I just miss my upper hand days as said by jnrbayano. I simply miss my gra gra days.

In a relationship both partners should always be ready to consider the other person's opinions but you want to be having your way all the time.

I dont want to be having my way all the time. I wont feel good either if my partner wish so.




Even if you find such a man that will always want things to be done your way, It is still not good for you because one day you will be making a grave mistake and even if he sees it, he won't want to correct you because you won't even give his opinion a chance then it might be too late before you realize he was right.

Exactly what he do tell me. Thanks

Why be in a relationship made up of two people if it must always be about you?
I dont really know. Lol

LordReed:


You are heading for trouble if you judge the success of your relationship by how much you can subdue your man. Be too sure that your attitude will backfire on you especially if you carry it into marriage.

coogar:

you are asking if it's right for a lady to marry a doormat man? of course, what's not to like about it? you call the shots. even when he's right, he must apologise to you to satisfy his queen.
your mates often do juju to achieve this feat. i think that's the way you should go about it too so you can be absolute sure of his servitude towards you. make sure he washes your undies too while you are at it. this is the 21at century - when you want something so badly, just go for it.

prissyluv:
I was just thinking...
With my first boyfriend,I was always the one that call d piper and dictates the tune. He dare not shout at me then cos whatever he says will be used against him. If we had issues,he always end up begging me. It feels good and I thought that was how things are.

There was this guy too who bites words when talking or correcting my wrongs. He do end up saying he doesnt know which one he will say now and I will get upset. Infact in my past relationships,I can say I do have my way with many things.

But with my fiance now,it is so so different. He loves me to a fault ooo but dont eat poo. He corrects me anytime I am wrong without fear of wether I will get angry or quit. With him,I cant turn d table to my favour. If I had my way with things,within me I will just know he deliberately allowed me to shine. The truth is,he is always ahead.

prissyluv:

Lol. I like it sha.