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Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by bukatyne(f): 9:57pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
dre11: The bolded was your remix? Which of the others are her problem (s) |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by dre11(m): 10:04pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
mutter: How I do wish she will see it that way The bolded part is one major reasons its better for the man to do the bulk purchases and leave the rest to the woman.... Because I still remember my uncles doing the bulk purchases but the petty things he will leave it to the wife so he won't be told he missed out on what he is suppose to buy Because I do know of some men buying vegetables oils in the nylon bag and buying some essential for stew at night when their wives could have done that since she comes home earlier than the men 1 Like |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by anthoniaz(f): 10:04pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
dre11:Let her just forget about it and make herself happy no matter how uncomfortable she is.It is well. |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by dre11(m): 10:09pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: The stingy aspect by the man, and believing that the woman doesn't have the bargain powers he possess like the woman But he does buy something cheap and on the other hand he buys it expensive Also, she doesn't have control over the meal and time because sometimes she would have to wait for her husband to buy the ingredients before she cooks |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by mutter(f): 10:19pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Just wondering because the man was the hunter and brought home the food /animal to be cooked. Maybe this man is being really traditional |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by dre11(m): 10:22pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
anthoniaz: Okay..... |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by estheremma(f): 10:26pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Dis is what i would do if in her shoe,ill get a good job,make mony,buy what i want or need,ill ignore what he buys if i dont need it,let him use it himself or it sits in d'refigerator until it gets spoilt,next time u would not buy what i dont/need,it will only make d'woman unhappy if she is a housewife,if its rice beans n'provisions no prob,but not things lyk spices and so on,my own opinion o,ayat me do! |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by mutter(f): 10:28pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
dre11: That is what being submissive is all about. You leave doing it your way. Yes it is harder and more time consuming but everything in life is not only about efficiency. Reminds me of the story the elders tell of a young girl that was to be married and was sent to her future husbands home for observation. One day the goat escaped into the bush. Before the men could get their knives and sticks and run into the bush, the young girl ran into the bush and came out with the goat. She had slit the throat of the goat. I don`t need to tell you how the story ended. She was sent home! Yes she was smarter and faster than all the men but then she was too fast. This lady has to learn to manage and cook what is in the house. There was a day my husband came home late with the shopping. I really did not know what to cook. I boiled yam and made a stew with sardine, sliced onions, paprika and tomatoes into it. I actually wanted to "punish " him for coming late with the shopping. He really enjoyed the meal and asked me to make it more often. It reminded him of the good old days. |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by Islie: 10:33pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
mutter: being traditional....... but do ladies love their man to be traditional. but the man is just trying to play by the rules of the animal kingdom mutter: being traditional....... but do ladies love their man to be traditional. but the man is just trying to play by the rules of the animal kingdom 1 Like |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by Mynd44: 6:15am On Feb 05, 2015 |
slimyem:Hello. Long time |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by LordReed(m): 6:56am On Feb 05, 2015 |
Like some people will pray Lord may I wake up and my biggest problem is which of my cars and drivers I should use today. dre11 the woman has no problem as it were what she needs is how to adjust. Culturally it may seem strange but morally there is no big deal in what the husband is doing. |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by mutter(f): 7:06am On Feb 05, 2015 |
estheremma: Then the man will refuse to eat your food and then what... Chain of events that lead to a break up of the marriage. This is also the reason the woman is having this problem. If she would thank her husband for going shopping and show joy over the things he would certainly buy the few other things she requests for or give her the money to buy them. Most men are like children. When you praise them they love it and try to please you the more. When you criticize they will go out of their way to even accelerate what they are doing to prove to you that you are wrong and that they are right. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by AfricanApple(f): 7:07am On Feb 05, 2015 |
dre11: |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by dre11(m): 8:59am On Feb 05, 2015 |
mutter: Thanks for your kind response and example...... I just hope she would stop complaining and embrace the new ideology of the man and move on with their life. Sometimes I do ask her if he was like this during courtship and she says he wasn't like that but just changed during marriage Thanks again |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by dre11(m): 9:03am On Feb 05, 2015 |
LordReed: Noted sir Am sure the lady must have being looking it from the cultural aspect because she has never being used to it That's the best things about humans...... The ability to adjust and adapt quickly |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by dre11(m): 9:03am On Feb 05, 2015 |
AfricanApple: Who sealed your mouth |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by AfricanApple(f): 9:09am On Feb 05, 2015 |
dre11: |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by dre11(m): 9:13am On Feb 05, 2015 |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by Nobody: 10:44am On Feb 05, 2015 |
All of you saying she should ''adjust'', hmmmmm Does the man get to change to Onga if he has been buying Knorr What if she is used to Cocoyam as a soup thickener while the man is hooked on ''Achi'' Nothing justifies his buying even spices constantly and having to decide what to to cook, biko. If she has a job, prepare his food for him and do yours as you want it, he doesn't have to force his will down your throat . I'm sure he prefers tinned tomatoes to fresh tomatoes and won't hear of mixing the two to please the wife 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by hayorbaami: 3:25pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
My husband does the shopping. I got so use to it that I dont like shopping for foodstuffs. Sometimes he will ask that we go together but I feel lazy doing that now. I guess he spoilt me. I just remind him of what we need in the house and the brand he should get. Maybe you should join him in doing the shopping rather than he doing it alone. You can get the opportunity to make decisions when shopping together. |
Re: Is This Morally And Culturally Right by AfricanApple(f): 12:48am On Feb 08, 2015 |
dre11:tani o n demo fun? |
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