carefreewannabe:




The couch is of great value to them, you have to understand it. This is what happens when you live on welfare in the West.

One lady from hubby's hometown came to our home in tears one morning after her husband left the home
This is a man who had been cooking his own food and putting on his side of the fridge for over a year
I said nne wipe your tears o,go and get a lawyer before you leave empty handed
My husband gave me this evil look
I said yes nau( in my mind o)
So she should just fold her hands and soap will enter her eyes
Guess what
My husband was the one who eventually found her an attorney when the thing come set

Nonso23:


Menopause and midlife crisis has settled in already. You are already going delusional so fast you cannot notice it.
What has 2013 got to do with the fact that some primary school pupils display more maturity than you who is supposed to be almost half a decade old or thereabout.

Ok,I even thanked the post,the first thank you there is from me
Happy now
Moving on


Persin wey big pass persin big pass am well well

Nonso23:


What makes it different? The fact that there is now a man to milk dry in the event of a failed marriage.
Then by all means all women should go to sperm banks and get their children. Surrogacy is not an entirely bad idea either.

The difference is that in one of the scenarios there is a father who is available and in the other not.

The difference is that in one of the scenarios the woman did not decide to take care of the kids all by herself but the the decision has been made by TWO people.

You are slowly losing it, seriously.

soulglo:


Mutter, you are being hypocritical. You really need to stop. You want rapists to go free because society is harsh? That's essentially what you are saying. I told you I was a victim of sexual assault and that I never felt shame about it. So I was very shocked when I read that the same thing happened to you and yet you still insist that rapist should go free and keep raping. Do you even see why people are frustrated with you. You do not use your experiences to help others but to further victimize them. You will be the type to advice another woman not to report her baby's rape because of what people will say. They'll send that housemaid out of the house and unto another innocent family who will have a child experience the same horror that you and I endured. I know someone in Nigeria who's children all have herpes. They caught a maid doing inappropriate things with one of the kids. I'm willing to bet that those kids got exposed to herpes from her or one of the maids who have full access to the children. Maybe if someone else had reported it before when this maid was inappropriate that she would not have been allowed near kids. Why not use the energy you use to vehemently defend rapists and murderers to fight for a sexual predator registry in Nigeria. You are going about this the wrong way. I personally do not see your sharing as "dirty laundry" and I'll beg the person who said that to apologize. I'm sure she did not mean it. Sometimes it is good for us to share experiences. Someone else might read through this thread and decide that they must report on follow up on any cases of rape they hear about. It takes a lot for an adult to overcome the after effects of rape. Imagine what a child would go through.

My dear if someone did that to my child, please call the police to save him because I am ready to die with the person.

As long as one abuser is out there justice can never be done.

But I know the other darker side too.

You sited an instance of the mother that stood up for her daughter. I can site an instance of the mother putting pepper in the Childs privates and accusing her of asking for it. I can site you examples of mothers giving their daughters into prostitution after such an incident because there was nothing left to save. I can give you instances of girls that where raped being victims of rape over and over again from different groups when they found out.

So just try and understand. The victim has been hurt already and in the course of seeking justice get hurt over over again. The feel like being raped all over again.
I don`t support abuse not physical and also not verbal.

babyosisi:


I have not read the story of a single nigerian man in the USA murdered by his wife
Not one
Women are generally good
The few women in Nigeria and here who kill their husbands are usually abused Women who have endured years of physical or sexual and emotional torture until they snapped
Women are not built to kill
We are built to nurture,that's why we have wombs and carry babies and also nurse them

I thought all the Nigerian husbands in the US are good?

babyosisi:



One lady from hubby's hometown came to our home in tears one morning after her husband left the home
This is a man who had been cooking his own food and putting on his side of the fridge for over a year
I said nne wipe your tears o,go and get a lawyer before you leave empty handed
My husband gave me this evil look
I said yes nau( in my mind o)
So she should just fold her hands and soap will enter her eyes
Guess what
My husband was the one who eventually found her an attorney when the thing come set

You should have gotten her a kalashnikov.

bukatyne:


I thought all the Nigerian husbands in the US are good?

Very good
Infact fantastic
Who is like unto them

babyosisi:


I actually loved mamaput FYI
going through your posts,you sounded like here in places

Well that is nice to hear. I actually know her since we were kid`s as I said I know allot of people that fit that description.

tpiah99:



crap






why are you people pretending you are straight?

lord have mercy o.

Every woman is a bytch

Except their moms of course

Amusing is when married men hold This same view.

carefreewannabe:


You should have gotten her a kalashnikov.

Abi o
The stupid man had the nerve to ask for a lump sum payment because his lawyer argued that his standard of living had fallen since he left
She earned more
Some men are pathetic

Most of these cases of murders ,the women were the main breadwinners
Let that be a warning to women
Poor underachieving men are potential killers

moca:
Coogar,
Tell us d the truth,which naija babe did this to u?
Let me look for her and give her a devilish blow

Only chillisauce and byvan fits u
Will go and look for them

cheiiiiii, i miss byvan.
don't bring her here, biko. she is my kryptonite. her presence alone makes me shiver. there's no doubt about it, she fought in the biafran war.

soulglo:


Yes, really. I want to see it. Where anybody mocked her. It is very important to me

Hahahaha!

Abeg

mutter:




Well that is nice to hear. I actually know her since we were kid`s as I said I know allot of people that fit that description.

Seriously
You know mamaput?
How is she?
Tell her I miss her posts

coogar:


perhaps, mutter was decent enough not to commit marital infidelity or paternity fraud like the deceased women. there would be no need for any husband to shoot a virtuous wife.

All women killed by their husbands commit martial infidelity or paternity fraud?

Are these two offences worth killing a spouse for?

I am seriously wondering why abused Nigerian wives don't snap

It must be something in the water they are drinking

I repeat
Any woman going through a divorce especially if you are in the West and the man has some means
Hire a good attorney and get all that is due you within the confines of the law
You deserve it
Marriage is a partnership and when it breaks down ,nobody should get the shorter end of the stick

Nonso23:


If that option is available and the women opting for it have the same one head other women have, then what is stopping them from going down the same less dramatic route.
The only difference i see is one woman who is willing to leech off an unsuspecting man and another who is responsible for her self and her decisions.'
Everybody has to give up something for someone they love. If you would request payment for taking care of YOUR own child then you might have as well sold them off to slavery the instant they were born for troubling your body at all.
I'll choose to ignore the latter part of that post..

Most people don't marry to get divorced.

Chillisauce:


Everything is all about money to these folks. See them shouting my money, my money. Some of them the wives dont even know their bank or property details in and out of the country.
when they die sudden death, the bank takes all, extended family takes the rest.
Fish brains, they only think of the immediate, not the future.

Butcher your wife and end up picking soap in jail. Children end up in welfare. Penny wise, pound foolish and you think these are the people answering "head of the family". With these kind of reasoning.
Twah!!!

There is no justification for killing anybody over a dispute.
As per money, it's always about money iin most marriages and divorces .. Matter of fact, it's likely about money in the beginning, but they don't want to say it.
Ignore money to your own peril!!

edwife:


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The poor woman snapped

Who knows the hubby might have cheated on her

babyosisi:


Abi o
The stupid man had the nerve to ask for a lump sum payment because his lawyer argued that his standard of living had fallen since he left
She earned more
Some men are pathetic

Most of these cases of murders ,the women were the main breadwinners
Let that be a warning to women
Poor underachieving men are potential killers

Then there are a lot of potential killers on this forum here.

babyosisi:


Seriously
You know mamaput?
How is she?
Tell her I miss her posts

Not yet a grandmother but I think the wedding bells will soon start ringing madly!
I will send the message accross to her. It would be nice to have her here she can be very blunt and is also a "feminist". I fear we will get into each others hair. She also can`t stand some of my views The only problem is that she will attack me for them in real life

carefreewannabe:


Then there are a lot of potential killers on this forum here.

And they are taking out their frustrations on innocent posters
Let them go out there and hustle

carefreewannabe:


What if the woman can't work because the children are still too young?

And who will compensate her for having given up on her job and career?
When she was staying at home, you had the opportunity to be promoted and to make more money.

What sacrifice have you made? Why is it that she has to give up on her career, miss opportunities and the chance to make more money and not you?

If children are too young then take them to baby sitter and both parents pay for it.

She take maternity and was getting paid during maternity moreover it comes with the desire to be a mother, You cant desire to be a mother and later turn around to say you should be compensated for motherly duties

WHat sacrifice? The money the child was spending who got it? the house the wife was living someone is paying for it, the food everyone is eating is not free.

The man makes money and spends it on the family. Money he could have used on himself or even work less hours if he ditn have that many mouth to feed.

But he is not complaining to be compensated for choosing to marry and have a kid its the other partner wanting to be compensated for achieving what she has desired for years

carefreewannabe:


You should have gotten her a kalashnikov.

Abi ooo, since that is what is in vogue now.
BTW, if it is okay to kill the goose, then it should also be okay to kill the gander.

babyosisi:


Exactly
Even without kids,my companionship on the bed is worth half the bank account and retirement savings

ANd what do you pay him for the same time he spends with you on the bed?

Fhemmmy:


Totally agree . . .

So where is the disagreement. ?

From posts that follow, you now see that most women actually want more, Not only to take care of the child but enter marriage to profit financially

raumdeuter:


If children are too young then take them to baby sitter and both parents pay for it.

She take maternity and was getting paid during maternity moreover it comes with the desire to be a mother, You cant desire to be a mother and later turn around to say you should be compensated for motherly duties

WHat sacrifice? The money the child was spending who got it? the house the wife was living someone is paying for it, the food everyone is eating is not free.

The man makes money and spends it on the family. Money he could have used on himself or even work less hours if he ditn have that many mouth to feed.

But he is not complaining to be compensated for choosing to marry and have a kid its the other partner wanting to be compensated for achieving what she has desired for years

This is the same archaic mentality that gave a woman pittance in Nigeria after over 40 years of marriage and a UK court heard the appeal and granted her over a third of his assets in the UK.
The man a lawyer went to Nigeria and filed for divorce because he knew his fellow Stone Age men will give the woman next to nothing and they did.
Thank God for lands that recognize the place of a woman and her role in marriage

bukatyne:


I thought all the Nigerian husbands in the US are good?

Thats why almost all Nigerian girls in the US still want to marry the Nigerian men.

And few of them actually marry non Nigerians

raumdeuter:


ANd what do you pay him for the same time he spends with you on the bed?

Half of the assets in the marriage
He gets half, I get half
Why isn't that a fair deal
We share the assets and the liabilities